The difference between taking and being given an enema

I agree with SD -- much more fun when someone gives them to me

I will always choose sharing the enema experience with a partner. For me, I am only comfortable receiving an enema from a woman. To me, getting an enema is a “feminine” thing, and having a strong, but gentle woman take control of my body this way brings out my feminine side. Having a partner tend to the details allows me to relax and focus on the bittersweet pleasure of having my bowels cleansed!

As far as giving enemas, I enjoy giving to either sex. In both cases the pleasure I get is seeing my partner’s reaction to what’s happening. Having verbal communication enhances the pleasure for both of us. I love to “coach” my partners through any discomfort and praise them completing the challenge of taking a full bag! Their job is to relax and not stress out over anything.

I agree that taking vs being given an enema are quite different.

In terms of taking enemas, I can relate to @tallslenderguy. I'm also gay, and going solo gives us some variety. Sometimes if I'm already horny, the enema makes me tingle more. Other times, the rectal nozzle is simply akin to a Q-tip in the ears (now ain't that sexy!!) as a daily maintenance task. Sexual affinity for my solo enemas is not always a factor.

But I also like @Lance29 's aviation analogy: the professionals throttle up, and you're the passenger who they are responsible for, so go enjoy the ride. I've got good memories of some leisurely solo enemas where everything was just right -- on my back relaxing with a gut full of warm water & suds. What I wish they also had was some teamwork: a skilled & comfortable guy planning and doing my procedure, us keeping each other entertained (guy talk, etc), and me helping him clean up & put away the equipment when I'm done.

My orientation helps make me more comfortable with receiving from a male. And the only expectation I'd have going in is coming back out feeling great from being given a damn good enema!

I enjoy taking enemas but I would prefer for someone to give them to me. That lets one concentrate on just taking and holding the enema. It also lets one surrender the control of how fast the enema is given and how much warm, soapy water you are being given. It's hard to do it all by yourself and also try to concentrate on all of the enjoyable feelings of getting an enema, the lubrication of your anus, the insertion of the enema or douche nozzle, the initial rush of the warm, soapy water into your rectum followed by the enema pushing it's way deeper into your colon, that full feeling as the last of it runs into you and you try to hold it --- and still be able to enjoy it fully. That said, I have no one who will give me an enema which explains my member name.

There is definitely a difference in being given an enema and giving one to yourself. I enjoy both, pretty much I would always choose being given an enema but sometimes a solo experience can be great if you have the time to slow down and take your time to relax and enjoy it.

The difference to me is strictly masturbation vs sex. Doing it myself is just a type of self pleasure, and a woman giving to me is part of sex play between partners. It’s not really emotional at all, as there’s no d/s dynamic when I receive. It’s just 2 people playing and pleasing each other.

Although most times when I am ‘given’ one, we’re usually doing other things too, like sex or anal sex or her taking one too... or all of those!

There are so many psychological / sexual aspects to enemas I don't think you could really boil it down to one type of difference between giver and taker. In many ways, we bring our own desires and needs to the bathroom when doing enemas. Yes there is common ground, but it gets expressed in each person's unique way whether receiving or giving. And of course the dynamic between two people can be extension of their relationship before the bag is filled and emptied.

That's why enemas can be so much fun- we make them into what we want them to be.

To be given an enema you have to submit to the person giving it and bare your most intimate places for penetration. I think giving an enema is more intimate than sex. The giver is in a very dominant position and needs to recognize that and not exceed boundaries. This could be quantity or type of solution or even number of enemas. Doms will use them as punishment sometimes for this reason.

I enjoy the desiring, anticipation and the total giving of my body to the man that will give me my enemas. By being given an enema I'm accepting with all my love what my husband will lovingly give me. I know he worships and loves me in all ways and to me receiving and being given an enema by his loving hands (And Body Because I Can See What It Does To Him) is an ultimate turn on! I might lay there and say, "Take Me Baby, I'm All Yours" I've never felt like I'm taking an enema. I do feel like I'm being worshiped!

I enjoy the desiring, anticipation and the total giving of my body to the man that will give me my enemas. By being given an enema I'm accepting with all my love what my husband will lovingly give me. I know he worships and loves me in all ways and to me receiving and being given an enema by his loving hands (And Body Because I Can See What It Does To Him) is an ultimate turn on! I might lay there and say, "Take Me Baby, I'm All Yours" I've never felt like I'm taking an enema. I do feel like I'm being worshiped!

I'm not sure I've thought of it this way before, but, yes, I do also feel loved and worshipped while my Domme partner is giving me an enema, especially with me as sub and her loving watching me submit to her humiliating ministrations. She gets a lot of encouraging feedback especially as I'm very vocal about what she's doing to me. I may be complaining and begging for leniency, but in reality, like GyneDoll, I'm really telling her "take me, baby, I'm all yours." Extremely satisfying. And I'm happy to switch with her, too.

Eric

@ericmacson,

Thanks for mentioning the vocal part. I forgot about that. I do my share of gyrating and soft squirming but I also talk about how I'm feeling and whats going on. I'm not the type that uses any bad language or profanity. I can take charge by just looking at him! I "Dress" for my enema sessions and put some "Come And Get Me" make up on. I'll do some oo-ing and ah-ing and have some great fun.

Normally our enema days are on Sunday. My husband is re-habbing from two spinal surgeries so we have to wait a while yet. I'm sitting here thinking, "I Can't Wait" but I must.

GyneDoll,

Nice to hear from you. I do some "come and get me" dressing for enemas too, but in my own kink style, whether for my real or fantasy Domme I'm submitting to an enema for. I'm a serious rubber and sneakers (i.e., thick rubber) enthusiast, both extremely erotic for me and with the right woman, for her too. So, for all enemas I put on what I enjoy as very sexy clean sneakers, usually Converses, and usually either a thin black latex suit or neoprene wetsuit plus hood, boots and gloves, frequently with a second mask available. The clothing both says "come get me in my kink outfit" as well as "do your dominant best and make me submit to your sexual enemas tonight." We enjoy me doing a lot of squirming around and moaning and groaning asking for leniency which she enjoys completely ignoring! We don't need any foul language either, just a lot of submissive begging and whining! With a few frequent "Oh, God, oh my God, not that please, not another enema!" thrown in. So I wind up begging her to make deals with me and not do what she plans to do to me, but then she laughs and ignores that too, enjoying telling me exactly what I'm in for! I make sure she understands that I love what she does to me and of course love giving her pleasure. Occasionally she'll even make me hold a multiple segment large enema overnight so she can enjoy watching me squirm and groan as I service her with whatever orgasms she requires during the night, so everyone wins! Climbing on top dressed in rubber and sneakers and giving her PIV while still filled up is quite an enema adventure, but we love it. I hope your husband recovers soon and you two can go back to enjoying your mutual enemas again soon. Thanks for the reply.

Eric

Since I have enemas on my mind I was looking around the internet and found this web site this evening.

I saw this movie and it hit home. The girl dresses similar to me, we wear high heels and we both have some sexy make up on and our hair looks nice. Her leg position is like mine but I'm in my exam table with my high heels in the stirrups. The fella, gives her an enema similar to the way I take my enema. Legs wide open, looking and feeling like a hot princess. Watching her pretty eyes as her fella lubricates her sexy butt hole had me desiring I was in her position. I can relate to her expelling! I do mine in a bed pan. I not only pass water but I also empty and clean my bowels. I love this and my anticipation to be and do what they are doing is overwhelming! She is beautiful and the young fella treats her like the princess she is.

This is so similar to what my husband and I do! Have a look!

http://tubeenema.com/video/vintage-enema-cleaning-4444711.html

I Forgot The Black Nylons, I Always Wear Black Nylons!

I'll be doing this in a few weeks! I'm so frigging hot right now! I'll have my husband finger my butt hole until I explode. I think that's safe enough! Until tomorrow!

Nice simple video. I really enjoy watching a lady who obviously enjoys savoring an enema both going in and out. Delightful. I'm glad you enjoy yours so much.

Eric

@ericmacson,

Thank you Eric! You know what is really nice? It's having a place like Zity to be able to share this special part of our lives. What a shame it would be to keep our passions to ourselves.

That sweet German girl is a fox! (Hot Lady)

When I'm taking an enema solo, my mind is consumed with all the preparation, getting into position; proper lubing of my anus and the nozzle; inserting the nozzle; opening the clamp; watching the bag; rubbing my tummy and timing my retention, playing with myself....then expelling the enema.

When I'm being given an enema, it's all about the enema and the sensations that come with it. My mind is totally engaged with my body. I feel the warmth of hubby's hands as he parts my butt cheeks to lube my anus; the delightful pressure as the nozzle enters me; the exquisite rush as the warm enema solution invades my bowels; the sensual feelings of hubby's baby oil drenched hands gently massaging my tummy; the growing wetness between my legs; the developing tingle in my most private spot; the unmistakable feeling of fullness as my bowels expand and lastly the total nervous release of an enema enhanced orgasm.

That's my brief synopsis of the difference between taking an enema...and being given one.

Have fun and play safe!

Deb

Receiving an enema from another person is a thrilling event; you are giving control to another person who (hopefully) is intent on pleasuring you. The role reversal when administering is also thrilling. Some of us are fortunate to have a partner to indulge us in our wonderful fetish but, in most cases, that person is not a Klismo her/himself. The ultimate thrilling scenario is a shared enema session with another Klismo.

Taking an enema for me means, it will be solo. To break it down a little more, a solo enema is physical. I take it for pure self enjoyment. I am giving my mind what it is asking for. Taking an enema can be emotional, for there are times I take one to relieve stress,anxiety, or sexual tension. When taking, it is all about me.

Being given an enema is all about embracing everything physical, mental and emotional that takes place between two loving partners. It is a connection between two people like no other. The giver is doing so with one purpose in mind, to bring euphoria to their partner. In return for this wonderful euphoria, the receiver shares with the giver, every single part of themselves. Their heart, their mind, their soul and their body.

I think receiving enemas has a submissive association with allowing someone to see you most intimate private area. As a woman the anus and vagina is usually totally exposed to the giver, also open to some degree. For myself the feeling if a male is giving, changes the scene completely knowing what he is seeing and what he is going to do inserting the nozzle. Realizing he has complete control of one of my most private functions.

I know talking with givers here, this arouses them sexually to a very high level. Simply stated a erect penis and hoping I get sexually stimulated. After the cleansing process is over they hope it will lead to sexual satisfaction for me and the giver. I have received enemas solo, mother, female nurse and female colonic therapists.

These are basically for good health and hygiene. I'm learning everyday from everyone here and one other chat site, never stop listening with a open mind. We are all here for relaxation and enjoyment, hopefully with some

sexual tensions released.

Janie

Since I have enemas on my mind I was looking around the internet and found this web site this evening.

http://tubeenema.com/video/vintage-enema-cleaning-4444711.html

The girl is gorgeous but where's the nozzle? An enema with just the hose would be uncomfortable.

Can both be sexually stimulating depending on the person.

For me its receiving and having no choice, this would get me going emotionally.

@beebe: THAT was so well put!!

So do you believe the act between two consenting people, of course, can form a sort of soul tie?

Can both be sexually stimulating depending on the person.

For me its receiving and having no choice, this would get me going emotionally.

Same here. Acting in a sub role, being "forced" to submit to an enema and retention and whatever she required I do during the administration (walking around, chores, exercise, giving her PIV/orgasms, etc.) would be an enormous arousal and turn on, even more than the basic excitement and satisfaction of giving myself an enema. I have a very strong enjoyment of sexual submission and humiliation by a trusted Domme (like my exes) and submitting to an enema is very intensely humiliating if done right, so I love having it done to me. Even better is when she dresses me in rubber and sneakers (feet rubber) and ties me up before the enema, making it even more restrictive and humiliating. It makes the satisfaction and sexual intensity even greater. There is much moaning and groaning and begging for leniency which she delightfully exasperatingly ignores. Gagging or gas masking is known to occur sometimes. It's all delightfully intense.

Eric

Hello,

Receiving is a submissive experience and giving is more a dominant and controlling experience.

Janie

@Janie39 said: Hello,

Receiving is a submissive experience and giving is more a dominant and controlling experience.

Janie

NOT NECESSARILY

see this

https://www.zity.biz/index.php?mx=forum;ox=display;msg=518371

The difference between takinging and being given an enema to me is linked to the state of mind. If I am in a day that I feel more like a sick person and I feel more submissive, I like to receive it, if I am in a day that I have the pleasure to heal, treat and dominate, I like to give the enema!I have days when I feel totally submissive and when it is so I prefer to receive, but if the doctor who lives inside me is very alive, I prefer to give the enema and I feel domineering! A tender and tender domineering!In all kinds of games of medfet I like delicacy and tenderness!

I stand corrected, there are exceptions, nothing is absolute in emotions.

Janie

Depends the degree and implement used will make a big difference on training.

Bottom hurts if receiving and hand hurts if the hand is the implement, if a paddle is used the receiver get the complete punishment.

The spanker is in complete control, hence dominant and the receiver is the submissive, leading to what every the giver has in mind to see and do thru out the episode. Most likly ends in more training and desires.

@janie39, some of us have hands that are pretty firm and when applied will bring one to tears. There is a technique of using the hand so as the hand doesn't get hurt if done correctly unless you are dealing with a real leather butt. And I have also seen a spanker's hand bruised too.

In my view, taking an enema would be self administered. It can be in a sexual intimate setting. But by experience, a solo enema is not as fun or interesting as if someone "administered" an enema. When you are in the company of a Dominant lady (or man if you are female) or with your Dominant partner, it puts you in a totally different mindset. As far as enemas go, I have both administered them and have been given them. I do prefer to receive though. Lets say, you are in for a nice evening of play. You are in the company of a Dominant lady and she says "When We Get Home You Are Going To Get A Few Soapy Enemas". That would make me think what does she have in mind? What kind of scenario would she follow? What position will be in? etc. She is controlling you and the scene. If you are solo, there is no surprise as YOU are controlling YOUR OWN scene.

Not being in control, you wonder will she give it with a high bag or extra soapy....or will she make you hold it while making you perform oral worship and you cant release until she climaxes?. Besides SHE will be viewing an intimate part of your body that you yourself cant see without the use of a mirror. She will control when the nozzle will be inserted and how deep. She will control when she will open the clamp and keep it open until she wants to close it. See where I am going with this. It is the control and all the unknowns. That is a BIG TURN ON to me.