Did childhood spankings cause a fetish?

Not at all.

Hi Shelia, I am sure you are not alone in attributing your spanking fetish to your childhood punishments! I think for many of us spankos that is where the origin of our interest lies.

I don't know! I didn't enjoy actually getting spanked as a child, but I would think about it an awful lot and it was a preoccupation of mine. I would always tense up if spankings were mentioned in a story or a cartoon. I do tend to be in the headspace of being young when I am getting spanked, so I can't say there's no connection at all. I believe the spankings I received were influential, if nothing else.

When I was a child, I had an older brother who administered - not spankings, but serious beatings, open handed and close fisted, to this day I have to deal with the emotional scares that run deep within.

So spankings are very much out of the question for me.

What could have possibly been fun was ripped away.

I wasn't spanked as a child.

I think in my case the answer is definitely yes. I was spanked from a very early age, and spankings were a huge part of everyday life at home and school, and sometimes at church. I started to get hard from watching paddlings in school in the 4th grade. I got very hard the one time I was paddled in school the same year. Spankings at home were bare bottom, and mostly took place before I hit puberty, although I remember getting hard during a spanking my mom gave me just before she stopped using spanking as punishment.

I know of many people who were not spanked growing up who are bigger spanking enthusiasts than I. I do believe that spanking in childhood can be related and in my case probably is... I never sought to be spanked from my Dad, but early as 5 yo I was dreaming of getting sensual spankings from children show hosts. Which confused the hell out of me. Over the years it grew from local kid show hosts to wompat from dukes of hazard to McRaney from Simon and Simon to far too many to remember.... but the spankings went from curiously sensual (news paper, feather duster when I was 5) to genuine paternal style. I realized early I liked boys, but thought everyone did and one day a switch was flipped and you liked girls... I had one frined of my parents who i had the hugest crush on... This was a man that I have no doubt in saying was abusive, hit his gf more than once, and the times I heard him whip his daughters with his belt sounded very over the top. I knew my parents had given permission to give me a good strapping if I ever got out of line (Dad never used anything but his hands but both parents knew that to get disciplined by him was to get his belt). It never happened although one time I should have got it as all three of us kids were guilty of not being quiet, but the one who started it did confess to it being her fault, and got taken down stairs... My fetish may have well come from a desire to have a man I am attracted to focusing on my bum... a fatherly pat or an outright spanking are the ways we know of a man touching our bums. Having a huge crush on a man who repeatedly threaten to whip my A$$, probably didn't help either. The 13 or 14 spankings my Dad gave me were in no way enjoyable nor did I find them abusive.... I never got a spanking I didn't deserve and I felt better after a good cry over Dad's knee and was a very well behave kid for weeks after a spanking. I am sure knowledge of spankings as a child contributed to my fetish, did the ones i receive contribute that I am less sure of.... From the men I know who never were spanked who are into it heavily I feel safe in saying i still likely would have had the fetish, but perhaps like one friend been upset I never got it growing up.

Yes, in my case it did. I think it probably differs depending on each person, and people are so different mentally. But as for me, I received spankings and enemas at different times growing up, and I have no doubt my receiving them made me develop fetishes for both. The thing that both had in common was that at the time I hated them and didn't think I deserved to have them, and that notwithstanding my hatred and resentment of them, I was made to get them "for my own good." At the time I was so indignant to be made to get either, and I usually fought them, but in the end I never won and was made to receive them whether I liked it or not. As time went on, I remember developing first a fetish for others getting punished and being made to be spanked and such against their will, but I still didn't like the idea of getting them myself. And then, as I was starting my teens, around the time of my last spanking, it all seemed to "click" and I came to develop a full on fetish for both spankings and enemas.

I think the experience of being made to submit to, and to receive things, such as spankings and enemas "for my own good" was a major part of the arousal. Having others be aware of my submission (and to some degree, embarrassment and humiliation) was also part of it. Around the time I was developing this fetish, I also received braces and glasses, and being made to get them (and to experience the social aspects of them) felt quite arousing to me as well.

It is curious because i have a strong rectal temperature and spanking fetish but, however, i have never been spanked during my childhood or had to be submitted to a rectal temp check. Moreover, in my entire life, my parents never beat me (i can rember it happened 3-4 times in a very light way in my entire life). Despite this my fetish are really strong for spanking, rectal temp, or other BDSM Stuff mainly involved in anal domination (such us pegging or anal punishment). I also have a big amount of other fetishes starting from the classical foot/shoes fetish to other things like age play or bondage (always in both ways because i'm Switch).

However nothing very shocking or humiliating ever happened in my life so the idea that the fetishes must have an origin into childhood Shocks or experiences is wrong.

I was only spanked a few times as a child, not overly hard but I do remember them.

I still struggle to try to figure out why I crave and love to be spanked.

Does it bring me back to my childhood or make me feel like a child again ? Absolutely not . The baby or little girl/daddy scene does nothing for me .

There are different types of spankings that really get me going ;the d/s punishment spanking even a bit harsh gets my juices flowing as does a playful sensual spanking and then an erotic spanking that slowly builds and combines pain with pleasure is absolutely yummy .

I never had much in way of spankings As a child, nor did I witness much in that vein. My interest in giving spankings is in the submission of the woman to me. That she is willing to stay still, and voluntarily submit herself to my striking her is an amazing turn on. The more she endures the more it excites me. And when I see her up close, all wet and dripping, it further enhances my pleasure!!

I'm convinced that being spanked by my dad growing up is the reason for my spanking fetish. He spanked us with his hand which of course is much milder than the paddlings etc others describe here. BUT he would often fly into a rage and spank us hard and repeatedly over very trivial things like accidentally leaving a cupboard door open. At times he was outright violent, punching and kicking. It was unpredictable and humiliating and i was very scared of him. My mother's spankings on the other hand were quite fair and normal for the time. Elements if them don't form part of my spanking fetish.

Never did with me. Always feared them as a gradeschooler, still can't fathom the erotic appeal.

Oh for sure, but not because I was ever spanked--I witnessed them after moving to the south in the late 70s/early 80s when corporal punishment was the expected form of discipline in homes, schools, on playgrounds, and sometimes from other parents. I was the perrenial good girl with progressive parents that never spanked any of us. I definitely felt that I deserved to be punished, and what I saw or heard set me on a lifelong desire to be spanked, which us kids played with and my boyfriend inacted for me as a teenager.

Now, I am in a great longterm polyamorous marriage and it is still my #1 fantasy. I like being babied then told that I need a spanking. I prefer a leather strap or paddle on my bare bottom with my legs slightly spread and it's always from a man who pulls me over his lap and spanks me to tears. I guess my parents' permissiveness growing up alongside an environment in which children were taught to be obedient and subservient was too provocative to not make me want to misbehave so I could earn spankings!

I was spanked alot growing up but now as an adult I totally hate impact play, it a hard limit of mine. Maybe i was spanked so much that i would never consider spanking as anything enjoyable.

I was only spanked a relatively few times that were all memorable and effective. While they hurt like crazy, it was the embarrassment and humiliation that was the real punishment. But to answer the questions, I do believe that it was the cause of my fetish for spanking as I would think about it quite often and when little, my teddy got his share of hard spanking adminsitered over my knee. lol

I was spanked alot growing up but now as an adult I totally hate impact play, it a hard limit of mine. Maybe i was spanked so much that i would never consider spanking as anything enjoyable.

What ages were you spanked? Do you ever think about being spanked when masturbating?

I'm wonder if getting spanked by the opposite sex parent helped create the fetish more than same sex spankings. I got a few spankings as a kid - one being pretty severe - all from my dad. I don't have a spanking fetish, but I'll do it for my partner if that's what they want.

No, it never gave me a fetish for receiving spankins but I can give them if needed.

I feel the same , was spanked very late and i m sure its part of my fétiches

Do you ever think about being spanked when masturbating? Almost all the time, by my wife, or looking at Jay Em F/M artwork, unless I am in a wet diaper, & or sucking a tit!

I am sure that frequent spankings by the women in my family influenced my spankings fetish.

I think so for me personally, but what happened to me, were not normal spankings though.

I think there is a risk of it even with perfectly normal spankings, but I am still very dubious over how often it does cause a fetish as an adult? We have a generation or two now where most were never spanked as children, and yet spanking has never been more popular as an adult fetish. Why is that?

I have an interest in psychology, so I have considered this quite seriously and I think the most likely explanation is that as we reach puberty and start to discover we have an interest in spanking, then the only experiences we have to draw upon are any childhood spankings we might have had? If so, then these are likely to become internalised and sexualised as our only "erotic" experiences that far in life. For evidence of this, consider how caning is slowly becoming less popular of a fetish. I think this is because caning in schools had been waning for many years before it was banned. As those who experienced it pass away, so it slowly becomes less popular. Instead we draw on any experiences we did have, which is now much more likely to have been home spankings. A similar thing is clear in Indians with an interest in corporal punishment, where a co-interest in murga is very common, yet is virtually unheard of in the Western world.

Effectively it is a "cart before the horse" thing. I think most of us were likely to have ended up with this interest anyway, and so we tend to like what we had personal experiences of as a child. From a psychology standpoint, much more interesting to me are those who never had any experience of corporal punishment, nor witnessed any. Yet have developed an interest in it anyway. Without any previous experience(s) to "key" onto, I would find it fascinating to see if there were any common preferences for them?

I felt it very stimulating watching my brothers get spanked on bare bottom. Ii didn't enjoy it when I got it, but maybe they did. What turned me on the most, was when any of my friends were in the house being spanked bare bottomed. Also being watched was a great turn on for me.

Absolutely for me. I was brought up by parents that both clearly had a spanking fetish. I was ritually spanked until right before my 18th birthday all in the name of "discipline." Eventually I realized what they were using me for so I basically stopped fighting it and decided I might as well enjoy it as well as messed up as that is. I hated them for it and have barely spoken to them since I left home but unfortunately what they did to me left an impression that I can't get over and think about often.

Holy fuck @Jess101978 !! That is terrible!! I really hate all these parents that force their fetishes on their kids in the name of 'health' or 'discipline!' Fuck, let your children find their OWN selves and kinks! Keep yourselves out of it!

Jess I hope you can work through it yourself, and if YOU like being spanked/punished it's because YOU enjoy it! If you can block out what your parents did that would be great... but obviously very difficult!

good luck!

Jess I hope you can work through it yourself, and if YOU like being spanked/punished it's because YOU enjoy it! If you can block out what your parents did that would be great... but obviously very difficult!

Lots and lots and lots of therapy over the years has certainly helped. I genuinely do enjoy it now even though I'm cognizant of where it came from and can't really separate it from that.

I have never ever been spanked by my parents, but spanking is one of my most favorite fetishes...... I have even tried to self spank. I guess I might be the exception.

It is a complex issue. I do not think that experiences at my Junior School (1960 - 1963) caused me to have a fetish. There were quite a lot of spankings, slipperings etc that I witnessed during that period. All of the teachers were pretty strict and they did not hesitate to use CP.

On the whole, I did not derive any pleasure from seeing boys spanked and whacked. I felt sympathy towards a lot of them. Maybe it was because there was not really a great deal of eroticism. I was punished in just the same way myself although not frequently.

It being a state school....all punishments were carried out in front of the entire class (boys and girls) and teachers were not allowed to pull down your trousers or underwear. The main feeling ( apart from pain) whilst being punished was acute embarrassment. That....and the determination not to cry in front of the class. But, some teachers were genuinely nasty. Often we were spanked / slippered / strapped for minor infarctions such as talking ( when there was supposed to be silence ) etc. But...there seemed to be no 'set number' of whacks / slaps etc. Some teachers would just keep hitting and hitting until they DID make you cry. This always seemed, to me, to be horribly unjust.

Aha...but when punishments were coupled with a state of undress....very different (?). At grammar school (1963:- 1970) we had an odious PE master who was very liberal with the slipper. Now..,I truly believe that he did simply invent excuses / reasons to whack our buttocks during PE (which we hated him for).

But the main difference was that we were almost naked (our PE kit being very flimsy white shorts - & we had to 'go commando' beneath them). So, I now confess that (although I sometimes felt guilty about it)....I did enjoy watching some of my nearly naked, slightly perspiring, athletic classmates being whacked. (Of course....it was sometimes me on the receiving end).

But...the same feared and detestable master had another dark secret. He would always keep one boy behind at the end of every lesson (& sometimes this was me too). The pretext was that you had misbehaved and so had to spend a few minutes tidying up the PE / Gym store ( a very large cupboard / store room ). The reality was very different. He would make boys strip naked (well, we were nearly naked anyway ) and then deliver 6 very hard whacks with the slipper. Then, after very brief fondling of the buttocks...it was..get your shorts back on ASAP and get out fast.

I hated / feared him (as did all of the boys in the school) and I did not enjoy the experience with him. BUT....in 1967...another, much younger and VERY popular PE master joined the staff ( I mean, he actually coached us properly!!). Bizarrely, I would have gladly let him make me strip off and beat me (because I admired / liked him??). You will, perhaps, not be a surprised to hear that it never happened (only in my fantasies).

Maybe my childhood spankings did cause my spanking fetish. My mom slapped me with her hand a lot. My dad used his belt on my butt a few times.