Am I gay?

I have never been penetrated by a man and I wondered if the thought of this happenning to me makes me gay. I am married and I love sex but recently as I was giving myself an enema I found myself dripping from the tip prefusely and the nozzle gave me a very intense and erotic feeling . As I pushed it into it's position , it gave me a jolt and I started to swell immediately. When I expel the water the feeling of the water as it rushes past my anus is also an intense feeling.

It seems the first few inches or so of penetration are the most sensitive. So because of this I thought it might be something I would like to try to have some man have anal sex with me. To feel him sliding in and out and to give me that nice surge as he nears completion and then finsh with a nice " shot". I don't know if I could cum with this happenning or that I would ever do it but I have thought about it.

I have used the Aneros toy many times and that feels great to me as well. I don;t think having my wife use a strap on is the same as the real thing and she is not into that and would never do that. Having an enema is as close to getting this as I have done. Even though I have never done this , just the thought of it may mean I am gay? I love women , their bodies , curves , smell and their softness but I have this thought I shoud try it to see if it is something I might be missing. Should I or shouldn't I?

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Just because you're anal-erotic doesn't mean you're gay. It only means you like the sensations provided by all those nerves around the anus.

Even when young, I enjoyed anal play, sex wasn't even a factor then. As I grew older I found myself drawn to guys, not girls. I think the attraction is the key. Just liking or even wanting to try getting it up the bum isn't really what makes one gay in my opinion.

Bigsquirt - I think you might be what we fondly call "bi-curious". I know a lot of men have the same thoughts you are having and aren't ashamed to say so. It's a shame that your wife isn't into strap-on play because although it's not the same as a penis, I understand it's pretty darned close. My partner and I enjoy strap-on play a great deal. I don't know if he's ever been curious about being with another man, but if it ever happens, I want to be a fly on that wall!

Big Squirt if you never went through your "experimental" phase when you were a teen, (having anal sex) that is why you are realizing finally that you're enjoying increased sexual pleasure because the pressure of the enema nozzle & the water pressure squirting into your rectum is massaging your prostate gland & getting you 2 produce pre-cum & gettin you hard.. you sound normal 2 me & good luck in your quest 😉

I don't think your gay if you like penetrated anally. I think you might need to talk to your wife, and tell her your going though a change in life. Sometimes, you can get a stimulated prostate from having enemas and that can cause wild hormonal swings (hence the feeling your gay when your obviously more attracted to women).You need the feeling of submissiveness that women feel when guys have sex with them. Get a anal strap-on kit and tell her you want to know how she would give you sex to you if she were the guy. You will love giving yourself to her.

I have the exact same thoughts. I love just about anything in my ass. Enemas are on the top of the list tho. I have not done it with another man because I would have to know the person very good and know there is no chance of disease. So just meeting someone on this site gives me no guaranty of that. But it sure seems like it would be fun, then there is the scenario of a woman and a strap on. That is a whole different story.......

It's good to know others feel this way... I am more and more convinced that enjoying anal sex (from a toy or real cock) and even sucking cock does NOT make you gay. It just means you are open sexually which is a good thing!!

So no you are NOT gay!

This topic keeps coming up. Who cares what others think. If it feels good and you aren't hurting anyone GO FOR IT. [I love butts}

I've liked cocks since jr. high and I don't care what it makes me.

That being said, it's not something I tell the neighbors or grand kids and there are no rainbow stickers on my vehicles.

Bigsquirt... Are you Gay, Hardly ... sexual pref as a life long life style are in your head not in your bum. The sensation you found is normal. You are bi-curious, just means you are open to experience things beyound the norm Hetrosexual world. Have fun with it.

I dont think you are gay if you play with your ass. when i analy masturbate i fantasize about getting fucked in the ass by a very sexy transvestite woman with a very big cock. But after i finish and ejaculate from jacking off I forget about it. I think it's a spur of the monent thing if you know what i mean. I think you are only gay if you are atracted to the same gender as you.

I wonder why ass play is thought of as inherently gay? Your sexual orientation is about WHO you are attracted to, not what you want DONE to you.

That's why I like the term 'Heteroflexible'. While I'm attracted to women, I'll play with other males for the sexual feelings, such as a penis in the backside.

Gay to me, means wanting to be with a man on an emotional level. Wanting a guy to fuck you does not mean you're gay. Wanting to experiment with same sex, SEX does not make you gay.... In my book.

I like that distinction, owen20342.

I wonder myself where I fall in the sexuality spectrum. I'm happily married but has a pretty lousy sex life with my wife these days. I find myself attracted to women primarily.

But I've always been obsessed with anal sex and so naturally I started checking out a lot of gay porn. These days I head straight for the gay vids.

I love to sit on dildos and have been working up the courage to try anal with a guy (recieving). So I guess we'll see then. I do think the word "gay" is just a silly label.

Part of the male attraction for me is the feeling of being open and free. I feel like I could ask another man to lick my asshole or I ask to lick his but I could never picture myself asking a women to do this to me. Maybe I'm scared of being open with women - who knows?

I think you thoughts and desires probably fall exactly in line with those of many men.

I had the same desire and finally it happened. The friend likes fucking, he is of a reasonable size and gentle. It was a turn on, and I have gone back for more. Only problem, he cums so quickly.

Sarrab,

I could definitely see myself falling in love with a fully passable sexy shemale. To me she's all woman with the added bonus of being able to play with my ass anytime we'd want. 😃

The person I choose to spend my life with is a man. We have great sex together and love each other very much. He happens to be the same sex as me. Does that make me gay…yes, if you feel better with a label. Personally, I do not care what you label or call me. We are two human beings who love, care and make a life together. We do not endanger your married life with whom ever you choose and do not want too. This is our life NOT YOURS.

This is what is known as "life experience".

If this is something you want to try...you had better find a way to try it. Once you see it's something you enjoy (or you don't) and need it to make your life complete then you better find a way to incorporate into living your life. You do know this is not a dress rehersal?

There is nothing wrong with having your needs satisfied.

How come, when two men are exploring anal sex together it's gay, but when it's two women it's just hot?? Reverse sexism?

This is a great thread.... And Sarrab I agree with you 100%

Spend a few hours on this, or any number of fetish sites, and you will be forced to conclude that the range of conduct which comprises human sexuality is most poorly described by the bilateral terms of homosexual or heterosexual. I'm rather limited by comparison to others on this site, but even so ... women have asked me to arrange gang play-rapes for them (not gang "bangs"), and k9 encounters, and Howard Stern has informed the world that men as well are prone to shove sink traps and tool boxes up their asses. Some have enjoyed the sensation of wet concrete in the rectum. The Internet abounds with video clips involving snakes and horses in use by both genders for sex. Various yellow, brown, and roman showers round out the conduct.

Unlike so many others, you appear to limit your potential partners to "human males." And because of that self-limitation you wonder if you are homo?

Personally, sir, I DO NOT regard you as homo. But then, I do not regard our species as either hetro or homo. Are you hetero or homo because you use a pipewrench? A cucumber? Because you insert metal shafts into your urethra? Then electrify or vibrate them? Because you enjoy being milked without orgasm? Or having your orgasm ruined? Being kicked in the genitals? Such activities defy classification, but we still regard them as "Sexual".

There is a phrase "He'd fuck a woodpile if he thought there was a snake in it." To me, the phrase is not humorous, but reflects the insight and wisdom of a careful observer.

Go find a male partner, you'll fit right in with the rest of us. Square it with your wife first.

Embrace your eroticism and forget labels. Enjoy what feels good. Love is what counts.

Don't be shy. If you like it , do it. you are not gay.

How come, when two men are exploring anal sex together it's gay, but when it's two women it's just hot?? Reverse sexism?

Of course not ... there are many terms to describe all manner of sexual gender preferences ... that´s probably why the acronym/term LGBT is much used nowadays. It´s more all-inclusive

And besides, even when I was young, two women having sex was called Lesbianism ... nothing new about that ...

You sound closer to 'Bi'. I love things in my butt, but don't find men attractive. I've seen a few feminine cross dressers I liked the looks of, though!