Telling your partner about your medical fetish

Good points @Rigel and @agracier

It might very well be such a long list that I won't have have enough time to go through them all … 😃

But at least you are cognitive of them and are trying!

That is so true! Even before you croak you may regret things you could have done while you were young but are no longer an option!

And that's the other thing!

I feel a little bad, as this is somewhat dishonest, but I started with roleplaying. She'd already brought up the idea, so we did a couple of other scenarios, and finally ended up ‘playing doctor’ at some point. Did that one a few more times until I eventually ‘confessed’ that that particular scenario really worked for me. Things just kinda snowballed from there: Speculum, enema, finally even catheter. I feel a little bad because I've always had this fetish and pretended that I discovered it in our roleplaying.

I feel a little bad, as this is somewhat dishonest, but I started with roleplaying. She'd already brought up the idea, so we did a couple of other scenarios, and finally ended up ‘playing doctor’ at some point. Did that one a few more times until I eventually ‘confessed’ that that particular scenario really worked for me. Things just kinda snowballed from there: Speculum, enema, finally even catheter. I feel a little bad because I've always had this fetish and pretended that I discovered it in our roleplaying.

@brightyellow you liked the role play…not really a lie.

You enjoyed doing it with her…not a lie.

Does it really matter how long you have had your interest if you enjoy doing it together? I think not. Many would love to be in your shoes because they may not have a partner that enjoys their interests with them.

I feel a little bad, as this is somewhat dishonest, but I started with roleplaying. She'd already brought up the idea, so we did a couple of other scenarios, and finally ended up ‘playing doctor’ at some point. Did that one a few more times until I eventually ‘confessed’ that that particular scenario really worked for me. Things just kinda snowballed from there: Speculum, enema, finally even catheter. I feel a little bad because I've always had this fetish and pretended that I discovered it in our roleplaying.

For the LIFE OF ME, I cannot understand why you would feel bad. Seems to me that is how you introduce new things into the bedroom. Whether you have always liked it or newly discovered. Also things really do snowball in real life. You want to try something new or you like something that your bring t to the table and you keep evolving.

Color yourself lucky that she was into evolving as well.

I definitely have a lot to say about this topic. I know it’s sometimes scary to share this kind of thing with someone, but goddamn has it been one of the most rewarding things for me

After I had proposed to my wife after 3 years of dating, I ended up spilling the beans on my entire medical fetish. Previously in the relationship, I always hid my laptop screen while watching porn. There was also an instance where I drove her to an exam and they had asked her if she wanted me to come back with her but she said know because she didn’t want to bother me (I’m still kicking myself over that because apparently the exam was rather thorough).

But after I told her everything we have incorporated it into our sex life and god has it been amazing. She will tell me stories about her exams while she milks my prostate as I masturbate. She will watch videos with me and ask me about why I like them (Also while milking my prostate). When we have anal we will role play as both doctor or patient. She has even recorded audio files for me talking through her exams so I can listen to them whenever i want. (I love her first exam in particular. She could only get an appointment with an old male doctor who had very long fingers. You can find a writeup of that one in a previous comment.) She has even let me attend her real exams and allowed me to record it with a hidden camera.

Suffice to say I am an incredibly lucky guy to have found someone willing to indulge in all my fantasies like that

I feel a little bad, as this is somewhat dishonest, but I started with roleplaying. … . I feel a little bad because I've always had this fetish and pretended that I discovered it in our roleplaying.

Total honesty is overrated. Why the need to disclose everything to another person, when things have worked out fine so far?

As I’ve gotten older I’m much more open about my fetish. Some of that as to do with caring less, but I’ve also been surprised at how many women are open to the idea or even realize themselves that they have a medical fetish.

@med switch Ive found that too, many women are into medical fetish

@unknownisknown how did you bring it up? I struggle a lot to. I can’t seem to find the courage.

This subject keeps popping up as people access it or add to it. Even though I have written a response before I feel compelled to add another two cents.

Now, Im going to blow a secret that most women know, or should know.

Whenever I want to get my husband to do anything, i plant a seed of knowledge in his brain. A thought an idea. Of anything.

You don't want to come at a person with a firehose of surprising sexual medfet information! You can be honest without drowning the other person.

Let them know you saw a scene in a movie, read something in a book or article or someone mentioned this to you. It's really not that difficult.surely there are movies with sexual medical inuendos. Mention that oddly it turned you on.

When I started down this road with my husband, I told him I needed more. Something in my life was missing. I didn't know what at the time, i know I didn't want to join a book club, or play shuffle board. Of course i reassured him our marriage was still stable. You men have such fragile egos.. .. That was the start.

Baby steps. Respect for the other person's feelings. If they love and respect you, and want your happiness, they will hopefully go along at least to try.

@Medluve84

Hmm, for me I really just knew my wife (then fiancee) as a person and knew that she has a kinky side to her. I know the sexual “language” that she speaks and was able to express the fetish to her in a way that she can understand and empathize with. It did take years to get to that point. I laugh thinking about turning the computer screen away from the door so she wouldn't see what I was watching. One time, she even took me to one of her appointments, and the doctor asked her if she wanted me to come back with her. She didnt mind either way but she didn't want to bother me so she just told the doctor no. If I had just told her earlier I wouldn't have missed out on what was apparently a very thorough exam, still kicking myself for that one

Overall, I don't think theres a one size fits all answer, but at the very least you can subtly drop hints to see if they pick up on them

Well said @Turkey1

A story: Someone that I had just started dating (this was several years ago now) I had wanted to try to introduce some form of play. I had left a stethoscope out half-hidden when she had come over. We had started making out and she noticed it! Clearly I had lucked out because she was very keen to use it on me while we were making out. We did switch and I began listening to her too. She proved to be quite into heartbeats; for example, she would tap my heartbeat out when ear stething/cuddling, and we certainly would periodically use stethoscopes when we were intimate. The relationship didn't work out in the end, but I do reminisce on those fun times.

Many years ago, the topic of a physical or a trip to the Gynecologist came up in conversation. I said something like “that's kind of hot." My wife responded with something along the lines of “eew, that's gross.”

So I never approached the subject again.

You have to be joking. This is a topic that would never be discussed in my house. I admire anyone who can divulge, but for me - No.

I am VERY sorry to hear this. Seriously, i find this tragic. The key is to relate it to something to both saw or heard, etc. You could even mention that a friend did this. Offer no opinion, or say you found it interesting. That is just planting the seed.

You have to be joking. This is a topic that would never be discussed in my house. I admire anyone who can divulge, but for me - No.

You have to be joking. This is a topic that would never be discussed in my house. I admire anyone who can divulge, but for me - No.

This was not possible for me either. And this despite that my wife was a medical professional. Perhaps she saw nothing arousing in medical situations what with people dying in the hospital all the time or being diagnosed with nasty and often fatal diseases.

@Turkey1 - not tragic at all. Reality. For so many of us this is how life pans out. Not an issue for me.

@agracier - A shame for you, but understand your wife's perspective.

I haven’t dared to tell my partner about my leanings towards medical fetish, BDSM and a desire to visit a dominatrix. I’m not sure how it would go over, probably not very well.

@agracier Perhaps she saw nothing arousing in medical situations what with people dying in the hospital all the time or being diagnosed with nasty and often fatal diseases.

I get that totally. I worked in carehomes all my working life, until last September.

Only know can I say I get aroused when I put on my old uniform to do a play examination. Before, anything to do with the care sector whether it is giving an enema, taking a temputure or dressing / undressing a person. Was just a privilege I had as part of my care for that person. It never entered my mind to find anything about it arousing. It was work.

@ Rolereversal: While my husband does not share my fetish he is supportive. The sad part of all of this is that I have very rarely been able to find anyone located around me to explore this fetish.

If your husband is really supportive then just ask him to help you with his fetish. That's the least he could do if he truly loves you. He should agree in my honest opinion. Then start simple to get him used to the idea and through the times go further and further.

If not, keep searching though the usual channels, ask here who knows some channels. Eventually your search will be rewarded one day. Good luck!

My wife knows I have a medical fetish we have talked about it and she doesn't understand it. Years ago I came home from the doctors after getting a physical and was very sexually aroused and told her what had happened and how it made me feel she listened but has no idea what it's like and wants nothing to do with it. This is just my thing and I am fine with it this way. She gives me my space and freedom to do what I need when it happens. as long as she is not involved.

I haven’t felt comfortable until very recently telling partners about my medical fetish. But all of my recent partners have been very supportive/into med fet too. My current partner is very willing to play with me when we are ready to add it.

I don’t know why I was so nervous before, but it’s really nice to be able to share it and talk about it with the people I care about and want to explore more with.

When I was married my husband didn’t want anything to do with my fetish. When & if I find someone new I will tell them straight up what my kink is.

@chelle300 i totally agree, no point in wasting time with another vanilla person… if they don’t accept and support what lights your fire between the sheets, cut them loose…. There’s someone out there for everyone and their not it…. life is too short for wasting time unhappy

I just try to let it happen organically. That is my first GF who was into medfet and I realized this when she told me that her aunt was her doctor and how awkward she felt sitting on the exam table while her mom talked with her sister during her physical exam,gossiping about friends and family. I decided to talk about my exams when I was a teenager and we spent the next few hours discussing our respective medfetishes, physical exams and how we felt embarrassment and how that got us off.

It happened over time for my wife and I. Our sex life was mostly vanilla but satisfying early in our relationship. Over time, I let her know about my interest and what episodes in my life triggered them. She is very perceptive and had figured out most of it! She was very open about what she was willing to participate in and what did not interest her. She does not get my interest in wearing skimpy bikini/ thong underwear and will chuckle and shake her head when she sees me wearing them or finds them in the laundry basket! We have been together for 33 years and I am lucky to have such and loving and understanding partner!

I just try to let it happen organically. That is my first GF who was into medfet and I realized this when she told me that her aunt was her doctor and how awkward she felt ... we spent the next few hours discussing our respective medfetishes, physical exams and how we felt embarrassment and how that got us off.

Lucky you, being able to discuss this with a gf or anyone in real life at all.

I've hinted at a predilection for med/sex situations with friends from time to time, even showed my collection of old medical devices, both for intimate use and more mundane medical applications. But so far no one has ever bitten the bait.

And the thing is, I would be overjoyed just to talk and discuss, maybe compare experiences without seriously expecting anything intimate to come out of such a conversation. It wouldn't be an attempt at 'seduction' even. Just talk.

But even that seems to be asking for too much. I don't know if it is a specific social factor among my circle of friends, their level of education, their nationality or whatever. But none seem to like discussing intimate matters of any kind.

Disheartening.

Maybe it's just me?

I never really thought it was a fetish, but my husband could tell whenever I needed him to give me an enema, my quiet moans began to speak louder than words. To the point that he said, “You sound like you are you enjoying this” I didn’t lie. We haven’t engaged in when I would call "medical play," but after that experience, I didn’t try to hide my feelings so much.

I met my husband when i was 16 but we didn't start dating until i was 18 (he was much older)

I'd never had any need for any type of birth control but after a few weeks of us seeing each other i told him i had made an appointment to get the pill

I had no idea of his interests at the time but he asked me a lot of questions about where i was going and who i would be seeing to get the pill. He made a point of meeting me as i came out out of the clinic, took me back to his and his fetish soon became apparent!!

I was a bit shocked to be honest and it wasn't something that i thought i'd ever be interested in - but - over the next couple of years it grew on me, especially when i became pregnant and was given a number of 'checks' during the pregnancy

Shortly after the pregnancy i started having dermatology exams & treatments - now it was my turn to tell him that i found ithem erotic, needless to say he didn't complain...x

And I thought bringing up the subject of liking enemas and showing my enema bags was tricky/difficult...

I'd never dare and try anything like that. Showing enema bags or clyster bulb syringes would get me totally ostracized I fear ... ha ha