First appointment tomorrow

We are doing an interview and then an exam? i am nervous. i don't know what to expect and that partially turns me on.

If you're going to a play exam and you haven't discussed what you do and don't want with the person doing the exam, I wouldn't even be going there. This is not an experience where you want to be "surprised". It's kind of like when the dentist or tattoo artists says "Oooops" during a procedure, not a good thing.

That's just my opinion and others may think the element of surprise is a good thing. From a safety standpoint, I'd say you're not quite ready.

I agree with taking the time to acquaint each other first beforehand.

I recently politely declined an offer to examine a patient. Over the course of 45 minutes she sent me two messages, the second one being "what time?" meaning what time today and where at. Somethings just don't feel right, and this was one of them. I explained "I was busy today."

Now, if we get to know each other a little better, discuss expectations and schedule a meeting first in a public place, I'd be more inclined to meet.

In my experience and practice there are all ways several previous chats, phone calls and in my case rare previous meetings at public places ( sometimes only at the day of the exam shortly before it will happen).

The majority of patients want to know everything they are going to get and we even discuss their own private tastes and preferences and also what they do not wanted to be done at all!

There are all ways special details and frequently several special requests. That's qhat I call to Tailor the exam to patient's tastes if that does not affect my own routine, realism and professionalism doing it.

It had happen a patient or two asking "Ok, now I don't want to know more details please surprise me - I trust you!"

I agree completely with what ladydoc and others have said on this post. I am big on building a relationship with my playdoc before meeting them. Before I had my first play exam, I had corresponded with my playdoc for months, mainly via email. We talked about exactly what we both wanted in an examination and what our fears, concerns, etc... were. So when the big day finally came we both got what we wanted and it was a wonderful experience. Since then I've chatted with a few other playdocs, some of which I've gotten along with well and some which I haven't. I have done a few online exams as well, as a means of getting to know what a playdoc's style and demeanor are. One thing that I prefer to do, even before online exams is discuss if I'm going to exhibit any symptoms and have any complaints that will need to be addressed and what we will do about it. As someone who doesn't have a lot of real medical knowledge, I appreciate a playdoc letting me know what kind of symptoms a patient might present and what treatment they may get. I've found this enhances the experience greatly.

I would also be very wary of any doc who wanted to meet right away. It takes time to build trust and you can never be too careful!

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I agree with taking the time to acquaint each other first beforehand. I recently politely declined an offer to examine a patient. Over the course of 45 minutes she sent me two messages, the second one being "what time?" meaning what time today and where at. Somethings just don't feel right, and this was one of them. I explained "I was busy today." Now, if we get to know each other a little better, discuss expectations and schedule a meeting first in a public place, I'd be more inclined to meet.

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Absolutely user264. A meeting with me will not take place until and unless I am satisfied that the woman knows what she is doing, what is proposed, that she will be safe and above all that she will be respected.

The only vehicle to be used to achieve that is COMMUNICATION, be it extensive chat (preferred), emails or PM's. I have considerable documentation which I send, starting with a typical examination checklist and ending with 'Information about your forthcoming examination'. I insist that a patient asks enough questions about these so that I can be sure she has read them. It cannot be achieved in an interview, followed by an examination.

Your mention of hurried arrangements is worthy of comment too. I've had people say very much the same things and more. It's not infrequent that in the first few minutes of a chat I've been promised as much sex as I want, that I can tie the lady up, beat her till she bleeds and even a request that I trim her clitoral hood! Yes, really! Needless to say those approaches never result in a meeting, even if the promises/requests are moderated.

Playdocs - listen to me. Don't ever fall for the hurried arrangements, however randy you're feeling. It's a recipe for a complaint to be made against you if it turns out its what I call 'keyboard bravery'

adinaz - listen to all these wise words below - don't even contemplate it!

I wouldn't go if I were you? What did you ultimately decide to do?