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I agree with taking the time to acquaint each other first beforehand. I recently politely declined an offer to examine a patient. Over the course of 45 minutes she sent me two messages, the second one being "what time?" meaning what time today and where at. Somethings just don't feel right, and this was one of them. I explained "I was busy today." Now, if we get to know each other a little better, discuss expectations and schedule a meeting first in a public place, I'd be more inclined to meet.
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Absolutely user264. A meeting with me will not take place until and unless I am satisfied that the woman knows what she is doing, what is proposed, that she will be safe and above all that she will be respected.
The only vehicle to be used to achieve that is COMMUNICATION, be it extensive chat (preferred), emails or PM's. I have considerable documentation which I send, starting with a typical examination checklist and ending with 'Information about your forthcoming examination'. I insist that a patient asks enough questions about these so that I can be sure she has read them. It cannot be achieved in an interview, followed by an examination.
Your mention of hurried arrangements is worthy of comment too. I've had people say very much the same things and more. It's not infrequent that in the first few minutes of a chat I've been promised as much sex as I want, that I can tie the lady up, beat her till she bleeds and even a request that I trim her clitoral hood! Yes, really! Needless to say those approaches never result in a meeting, even if the promises/requests are moderated.
Playdocs - listen to me. Don't ever fall for the hurried arrangements, however randy you're feeling. It's a recipe for a complaint to be made against you if it turns out its what I call 'keyboard bravery'
adinaz - listen to all these wise words below - don't even contemplate it!