Fisted

I have had a life long fantasy about being fisted by someone, only have been able to take dildo and a few fingers though, was wondering if anyone had it done to them was it the ultimate fufillment and did your asshole hurt for a long time after.also what is the best lube to use . anyone it new england area interested in being the first to do it to me?

Try it, you'll like it! Yes you need to use good lube and lots of it!

Done right and carefully while taking one's time in getting there makes it all worthwhile. The main thing is to go slow and easy with lots of lube and also to relax and let yourself go with the flow.

Fisting is most pleasureble

Once you relax and allow yourself to relax there is no pain at least not for me but just take it very slow. Start with 1 finger and work your way up and use a lot of lube. After I was sore a little the first time but I got really worked by my partner. Now it doesn't hurt at all!

Relaxation is a must when fisting. And not just relaxing the anus. The conditions must be absolutely perfect and comfortable for your partner. The pillows nice and fluffy, the blankets warm, the room temperature to their liking, their favorite music playing in the background, candles lit... Everything must be to their optimal pleasure. You want them to be as comfortable and relaxed as possible from head to toe and in mind, body and spirit.

Your partner should get into a position that is most comfortable to him (or her). It should be all about your partner. You are taking them on an exquisite journey and you are just along for the ride; remember that. You can make it heaven or hell for them so be careful in everything you do. Trust is of maximum important in a fisting environment so your partner needs to know that you are not going to do anything to hurt him and that you are going to take things slowly.

It is important to respect any resistance you may feel. It doesn't mean that you have to stop. It just means you need to back off a little and reassure him that you'll go gently and not cause any harm or take him further than he is ready to go at that moment. When he is ready for more, you can continue. But pay attention to any physical resistance you encounter, whether internally or in the form of him tensing his body in preparation or reaction to pain and respect his need for patience and delicacy. And lube. Lots of lube. Just when you think you have enough lube, add more and then some more on top of that. There is no such thing as too much lube.

Plan on spending an hour or longer on gently and slowly massaging your partner's anus and relaxing him, starting with your fingers lightly caressing his anus and massaging lubricating him externally before penetrating him with your finger. When you do penetrate him, go slowly. I can't emphasize this enough. It is not a race but a journey. Take your time. I like to massage his anus with my index finger inside and my thumb on the outside, rubbing in gentle circles all the way around the anus then move my finger in a little deeper and do the same massage as before. When he is ready, I insert another finger and continue massaging the muscles around his anus with the two fingers side by side and the thumb on the outside of his anus. When two fingers are comfortably inside him, I usually stroke his prostate gland to relax him further. Paying attention to his breathing, moaning and body language, I insert my third finger and eventually a fourth while continuing to massage the muscles around his anus with four fingers in his rectum and my thumb outside his anus. I will gently move my fingers deeper into him and fuck him with them in a curving motion, stroking the prostate gently with my fingertips or my knuckles.

When he is breathing heavily, moaning and arching his back, I know that he is ready for more and I tuck my thumb beneath my fingers while only my fingertips are inside him and will gently work my fingers and thumb back inside him. This usually causes him to moan even more. I continue fucking him with my fingers up to the knuckles of my hand but no further until I feel him relax into me. I will gently press my knuckles forward maybe a quarter of an inch and if there is no complaint will continue to fuck him with my fingers leading all the way to that spot on my knuckles. When he relaxes further and accepts my fingers easily, I will gently press my knuckles another quarter of an inch inside him. I continue pressing gently, while my hand is in a "duckbill" position until he is at the hilt of taking the largest part of my knuckles. It's kind of like being at the top of a roller coaster just before the fall. When it's almost too much to take but when you crave that sweet release. I ask him if he is ready for more and if he says yes, I guide my hand gently inside him. It is important to stay still at this point to let him get accustomed to the stretch and the sensations. His mind is whirling at this point so he needs a little break to accept the intensity of touch and emotion.

Following his lead, I will press forward another inch of so, whatever he is ready to accept at the time. Often there is a vacuum effect and his rectum will pull my hand forward deeper inside. So deep that I feel his anus grip my wrist. I have to tell you, that's an incredible sensation. When our two bodies become one and we share that deep connection of trust and intimacy.

Sometimes, just having my hand inside him that way is all he wants. He doesn't want me to move it. He just wants to feel me filling him up. Sometimes he enjoys when I lightly caress his delicate tissue with my fingertips. Sometimes he likes when I curve my fingers and sort of do a wave with them (kind of like the dance called the worm.) Sometimes he wants me to curl my hand into a fist. Sometimes he likes it when I fuck him with my hand straight. Sometimes curled into a fist. The last time we were together, I fucked him with my fist, gently thrusting it into him, impaling him in the middle of my forearm.

He doesn't usually like to cum when I fist him. He prefers to cum from masturbation or oral, anal or vaginal sex and I'm always happy to please him. I get an incredible rush from fisting him, both physically and psychologically. There is an intensity and you can't help but to live in the moment. It's an amazing experience and I cherish him for allowing me to share it with him and am honored to have his trust.

Once, when we played, he wanted me to take photos of our encounter and I've shared them here on Zity in my gallery of pics. You are welcome to see them if you like.

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~ Dianne

Dianne,

I'm a bit surprised that you're not wearing a glove in the photos. Hygiene issues for yourself aside (broken skin on your hand, a deep hangnail, etc., although aggressive hand washing might be enough), your uncovered fingernails can do serious, accidental damage, even if you keep 'em trimmed short. Besides, lube is "lube-ier" on a glove than on skin.

You may be monogamous and insanely careful about clean hands, but . . . just sayin'.

Bob

Hi, Bob. Way to put a damper on such a sexy post. :😃

I tried it with gloves but the gloves were uncomfortable for him. He prefers my naked hand. He and I are fluid bound and trust each other. He has no other lover than me and isn't the type to go out and fuck anything that moves. He has been with me only for two to three years now. I have two other lovers. One who has slept with only me for 22 years, God love him - the poor man. And one who I rarely see but only have oral sex with due to his erectile dysfunction. He "sleeps" with only his girlfriend, who is faithful to him. I know the sexual and emotional histories of these men and know that between us all, we're safe. No one is adding anything to the pool that isn't already there.

My lover either takes a series of enemas at home or I give them to him here so he's damn near spotless when we play. I do, however, keep a stack of towels or underpads, paper towels, tissues and Purell handy in case there are any accidents. If there is any liquid or solid matter deep inside, I'll wipe off whatever is exposed and send him into the bathroom to do what he needs to do to get rid of it and we start back when he's all clean again.

I trim my nails and file them down practically to nubs and use a cuticle softener and hand lotion daily to keep them nice and soft. I am very careful to buff them to where there is no edge that could tear his delicate tissue.

I have never had a hangnail. I rarely have damage to my hands so I don't have to worry about broken skin. Also, when I was an EMT, I had all my immunizations, including Hepatitis-B vaccine so I'm not greatly worried about exposure. I only sleep with men I trust, love and respect. Anyone even slightly questionable is weeded out long before the topic of sex arises. I can smell a potential risk a mile away.

So, I leave the decision to glove or not to him and he prefers I don't wear one. And I'm fine with that. I want whatever is best for him. I always use a ton of lube so there is never any problem of texture. Besides, it's more intimate and less clinical that way. I love the way he feels. I want it to be intimate like that.

~ Dianne

Dianne,

I'm not surprised that you've thought about this thoroughly or that you are as careful as you've described. This is and isn't an esthetic issue and I certainly understand and respect the intimacy factor; he's much more "naked" than your bare hand.

Since there are folks here with many levels of experience and clinical awareness, I just thought that I should say what I said in case they decided to emulate your approach (pun intended!).

You're both lucky to have each other!

;o)

Bob

Dianne, I really enjoy your description of how you and your partner enjoy the waves of pleasure it is definatley a special thing when you have someone like that who is so willing to open themselves up to that kind of pleasure and I completely agree with the description. That is exactly how it is for my partner and I as well!

Thanks, Bob. I shouldn't have taken it so personally. You did a great service on pointing out how fisting without gloves and proper hygiene can be a safety issue. So anyone who plays with more casual lovers should heed your warning and wear gloves and take proper precaution to avoid injuring their partner and in contracting or exposing a partner to disease. Hopefully the steps I lined out in my reply will benefit someone else who is newer to fisting or who has played carelessly in the past and didn't know what to to do to play more safely. Thanks for your input, Bob. I appreciate it.

The funny thing is that I didn't really have an interest in fisting. I'd heard about it before but only when I volunteered at an organization that provided housing and hospital care to patients who were homeless and had HIV/AIDS. But back then, the leaflets were about gay men and BDSM play. I never thought fisting was something I would do. I didn't think it was even possible. But my lover really wanted to try it and since I love men who enjoy anal play, I was willing to give it a try. The first few times were not perfect. I let him guide me and tell me what to do and when and how. He wanted me to push faster before he felt ready to me. I think he expected it to hurt and instead of a slow torture, he thought it best to get it over in one quick thrust. I felt resistance but he wanted me to go ahead so I did. There was some light bleeding and pain the first few times.

But I finally decided to do things my way, not his, and to take things slowly, very slowly. Once I spent several hours slowly stretching him and massaging him and giving him nothing but pure pleasure. When I guided my hand inside him, his muscles were relaxed and welcoming and I eased my hand into him gently, never pushing even when he asked me to. I did everything according to his body language and not his verbal instructions. Sometimes, the body truly knows more about what we want than we do. That night was amazing. Afterward he hugged and kissed me and thanked me for showing him how sensual sex could be. That's the benefit of sleeping with an older woman. He's 26 and I'm 42. Both of us get a rush from it and I don't know which of us enjoys it more. I gain pleasure for giving pleasure so it's kind of an endless cycle with us. It is so wonderful to give him what he wants and to make it special for him every time.

I'm happy to hear that you and your lady enjoy the same kind of experience and level of intensity and intimacy. It's a very beautiful thing.

Fisting is an often misunderstood activity. I do agree that for many of us, wearing gloves takes a lot out of it. As long as you have good hand and nail hygiene, it should be safe.

I think it's also important to point out that some people (women in my experience) cannot be fisted due to anatomical problems.

Otherwise, play safe and fist away!

I've attempted getting fisted several times, but had to back out of it because the gloves seem to cause problems. Not sure how to describe it, but it seems that they pull or drag on the flesh and cause to much discomfort. Maybe we didn't use enough lube or the wrong kind of gloves?

I agree with your finding on the gloves.

I have always done my husband bare handed.

I was playing with analtoys for many years before I was able to take a fist.

I was playing with bigger and bigger toys during the time, and after a couple of years after I have reached 3,5" Ace of spades plug, after that I was able to take a fist.

And every fisting sessions is begginging with a good cleaning first with showerhood.

And then start to play with a small toy first and work you up slowly to bigger toys and streach and then I can take a fist.

And it is worth the waiting, so take it slow, and have fun.

One toy that is very usefull in the streaching is to have a plug or dildo that can be pumped up.

And remember use alot alot of lube.

We use one called "Anal lube".

I've seen pictures of guys (and gals) that routinely insert large objects in their rectums and as such look like it's all stretched out of shape and deformed. What's the deal with that anyway? I sure want to avoid that situation.

Been fisted now often for about 5 mths,its a tottaly different experience,dont even come for hours sometimes,just the feeling of a fist inside is extreme pleasure enough.

Have not managed more than a couple of fingers inside me yet, but have taken quite large vibrator etc and would love to experience full hand exploring inside me.

I've been looking for so many years for a fisting buddy that I'm beginning to believe it's just not meant to happen. I've been fisted exactly three times by three different guys, and their hands would slide inside me so easily and felt fantastic. It's so frustrating to never get fisted when it's so easy for me to relax and enjoy a fist inside me. Where are you guys hiding?

It took a long while for me. Lots of practice, patience, & lube. Most satisfying lovemaking ever!

Does anal fisting cause involuntary wetting? I have never been fisted but do wonder about it a lot. Wetting is not a bad thing as far as I am concerned. It seems there would be a lot of internal pressure against the prostate and the bladder.

Hi

I have been fisted several times and love it. However, it takes a long time to be able to recieve a hand inside you. I would recommend you train your ass, before you play with it for real. Remember to use lost of lube and have a partner that takes things slowly. Why not experiment with larger dildos etc. before moving to anal fisting? I would surely recommend that you start that way.

Ive always been intrigued by fisting, id love to be vaginally fisted and to fist a guys ass.. a f-budi tried to fist me once but he cudnt get me to stretch more than 4 fingers but even that blew my mind. I absolutely loved the pull and stretch and full feeling...

This is a long time fantasy for me too and I hope to make it a reality one day soon. Good luck on your quest.

Giving my fist anal virginity for the first time some monthes ago, at 69 years old, it was wonderfull, huge, I can't describe how good, lovely and hot it was. Doing now regulary, it is so . . . to be at her disposal, she make me cum when she decide, she make me screem my pleasures and feels and she love it so much as me.

Alas I can't fist her, my hands are to large, I write alas because I can't let her enjoy this so hot and specific feels, I propose her to be fisted by a small hand women, but she refuse this proposal.

Aside from toys, I lost my anal "fist" virginity to my ex-wife at age 51 and was both shocked and hooked at the same time. Once she figured out how easy it was to wriggle her entire hand up into me, she seemed to enjoy doing it. Once after a night of sex when I was sound asleep, I woke up to her working her lubed fingers then hand up inside me again for a second helping of fun. 😜

It was a shame things fell apart anyways.

We experienced the same, I will propose her to fist me when falled asleep, like she sometimes is giving me a headjob.

I've never been fisted but I've been the fister.Course you have to practice yourself with some dildos expand your asshole and then I would do more fingers and more fingers till I could eventually get them all in there

Not going to make a long story about it you just have to relax and let the person that is the fister know that when you cant take it any longer to stop then on your next get together let him do you you some more. it wont happen over night but sooner or later it will. then your hooked. nothing like it….hope it happens for you.

Certainly a fantasy!