Alone or Not for your Physical Exam?

I’m a nurse and no I have never gone to my husband’s yearly and him to mine and I hope it stays that way! I did have to take my husband to the ER he had trouble all week trying to pee! He was going every 5 minutes ! He waited until Saturday afternoon and was pacing the floors and I told hI’m let’s go! He didn’t argue! After we got to a room in the ER here comes a little nurse with a catheter kit! She explained she was going to put a catheter in! She tried to put it in and it wouldn’t go! I never let on I’m a nurse! She went to get help! Here she comes back with another young girl and they finally get it in! The ER doctor came in and said sounds like your prostate is swollen! He said you mind standing up and let me check! I was sitting on side he got up and bent over the food cart! He told him to hold on because it probably wasn’t going to feel good with a swollen prostate! He greased a finger up and spread his cheeks and started going in and he got a little piece and my husband said shit that hurts! The doctor said I’m almost finished! They admitted him for antibiotics and a urologist came and said we keeping you another night but the next day I happen to be there when he came in with his nurse and ask him to get up again and she was helping hold a cheek back and he was still swollen he had to stay another night and before we left the urologist came again and checked him! I told him when he went to the doctor I was going to watch! I didn’t! I didn’t want anyone in my room when I was in labor! It was like grand central! At the hospital if a wife was in the room they usually sit through it!

I have had several. Of course it starts with your parents being present.

I have had my husband, daughters and friends with me some of the time. I found it essential when the news might have been bad.

As an adult I've always been exmained alone. As a kid, at school I would be exmained in my underwear with my classmates there and I also had exams at the doctors with one of my parents plus my big brother there seeing me stripped down to my undies until I was 13.

As I'm single, I want to do it alone (not even a nurse, thank you). If I had a boyfriend or husband, however, he would be free to watch.

Until 18 always with mom.

When I was married, we always attended each other's exams. She said it was funny watching me get scoped while splayed out in stirrups.

When I was younger my mom came with me, but now I prefer going alone.

It depends on the type of appointment/reason I'm there. But I always prefer to be alone (at least in the room) one on one with my doctor for my physical exams. I would be fine with nurses or multiple doctors but preferably not family members for anything routine.

Until 18 always with mom.

My mom came to all of my yearly checkups at the pediatrician until after I turned 16, so when at 17 I got to go to a GP, I was happy I no longer would be treated like a baby by the doctor. But since the genital exams at the pediatrician always had been done while I was lying on the table, with the doctor pulling down my undies for me, and the GP was the first one to examine me standing, asking me to pull down my own undies, it felt a little bit weird, and I did wonder whether one or both of us was doing something wrong. Since my mom was just down the hall in my younger brother's exam room, it probably would have been more confortable if they had brought her in as chaperone for my first standing genital exam. When the doctor asked me to pull down my undies, I'd probably have looked at her and gotten a nod that it was okay, and I'd have been fine with it. Then after that, I would have preferred to be alone.

I'd rather be alone, no family or friends in the room. Only the doctor and maybe a nurse or medical students.

The last time I was not alone was when I was 16, a very long time ago. My mother was with me and I was very embarrassed, even though I was able to keep my underwear on.

For the longest time in my life I always had my mother, and then my father, come with me for my physical exams.

I like having someone in there with me. Had some great physicals from my grandfather's doctor, with my grandfather there.

My last physical before Covid I brought a friend with me because we were going to spend the day together, out to lunch and then a movie. I told him he could come back with me and he did.

My preference is alone. However at the dermatologist there will always be an assistant capturing notes. In my past there have been group exams and when really young having a parent with But that was before puberty. I don’t think I would ever willingly ask to have someone else in the room. Though I suppose as a fantasy it would be fun to simply observe others exams… the fly in the wall.

No never alone, my girlfriend or her mom company me an I also acompany my girlfriend

I have been alone for all but a few of my examinations. The ones I can remember included a sudden illness, two pre and one post-surgical visits, and one where I had a pinched nerve in my neck. My orthopedic surgeon always has a PA with him and it feels weird to have someone there just taking notes.

Alone. At all costs. Especially for family members. I don't even want them to know that I have an appointment, let alone be present at it.

I have always been alone. I would like to try with a girlfriend staying in the room.

As an adult I've always been alone. I kinda miss having a parent (usually mom) present. Having someone who knows you in the room to speak for you can be helpful when white coat syndrome kicks in and you've suddenly forgotten every issue you've had in the past year.

I must be bored today so I’m posting a lot.

For myself in real life I absolutely want to be alone.

In my head though… I love the scenario of Mom going to the exam with someone hen they are wayyyyyyyy to old to be there. I had a friend that had her mom go with her until she was like 26? It’s fricking weird. But that used to be my favorite thing to think about. I even Facebook stalked her mom so I could get a better idea of how the room looked. I also love the idea of sisters and friends going together.

As far as being in the exam room with someone? I went to two exams with my husband. The first time I felt guilty getting off on what was happening to him. Almost sick to my stomach. It took a few weeks for me to work through those feelings. In the end I do enjoy thinking back on it.

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I went to two exams with my husband. The first time I felt guilty getting off on what was happening to him.

What was happening to him?

Amanda O, your writing is so wonderful and so in the moment that it is easy to relate to and appreciate from the standpoint of a patient. Nice work. Keep contributing.

Alone. Definitely.

Play exam: I'd be up for a Doctor and an Intern both being on hand.

My wife comes to my physical exams and I to her‘s. our female physician is extremely thorough and includes a full skin exam. So both totally nude every inch of skin looked at. My wife feels that the male anal exam is much more intrusive e then her vaginal exam since she HATES a finger in her butt. So we both like he other person in our exam

I always go alone for a physical and prefer it that way. Just me and the doc. If its regarding a specialty for example orthopedic surgery then my wife will accompany me. That way she gets her questions answered too, and I don't get the “you shoulda asked” attitude. If a doctor asks about a student being in the room to observe I am all for that. I don't care for a chaperone to be present though.

What was happening to him?

Nothing out of the ordinary. Just a regular physical. I did feel the doctor was a little more rough with his testicles than I’ve been lead to believe was appropriate. I’m always afraid of hurting him. So I’m gentle.

Also as far as the finger in the fanny portion? I thought it would be hot to see. I’ve fantasizes about it for years. In reality? I felt bad for him. He was embarrassed. It was uncomfortable.

It took me a few weeks to reconcile what I saw with my medical fetish.

I hope that clears things up.

I would definitely prefer to be alone. Don't really need any moral support for the exam.

As an adult I have always gone to my exams alone, but I would not mind if someone I knew well went with me just to help me remember what had been said during the exam. By the same token, I would do the same for others as well. That is from a practical standpoint, but there is an erotic standpoint, too, in that we like to watch exams, and some of us like to be watched as well. Ideally, another med fetter would be perfect to be in the exam room, then later we could recreate the exam ourselves.

Ever since I was 11 almost all of my exams have been just me in the room. There were a handful of times that either my mom or stepdad was in the room with me.

I would probably prefer to be alone unless it was going to be a very invasive exam and then I’d maybe want someone very close to me either in the room or in the waiting room. Like either my best friend or my mom

These days I am alone and prefer it. Growing up there was a policy of a chaperone in the room until I was 18. That chaperone had to be over 21 and was usually a parent, but not always. In my teenage years it could be very embarrassing at times.

I was 14 the first time I went in alone, it was for my yearly physical exam with the family doctor. Before that it was mom who was in the exam room with me. Since 14 and as an adult I've been alone, and that is probably my preference now thinking about it.

If I had a partner / spouse, I could possibly see that changing, but I'm not sure and would depend on the situation at the time.

From a purely fetish perspective, I think it's hot to both have someone in the exam room with me or be present at someone's exam.