Humiliation

Humiliation or embarrassment?

My wife and I are more into embarrassment than real humiliation. Like one time she bought an enema bag and, in front of the cashier, said to me she'd me give my treatment as soon as we are in our motel room.

I 'discovered' humiliation a few years ago after many years of enjoying the occasional session of being dominated - usually by a professional woman as I only ever found a couple of partners interested in domination. I am a fairly big guy - height wise - and quite hairy so I don't really fit the stereotype perhaps...anyway those sorts of kinky scenes were never much part of relationships I have had - adventurous though some of them have been in their own ways.

A few years ago for some reason I started to find porn on-line about small penis humiliation and general verbal abuse highly erotic. I started to get a bit hooked on it to be honest and in the last couple of years I have visited a few professional ladies who know what it is about. It is pretty hard to describe to people who just find it weird - but being completely demolished and made to feel like a useless worm can be one of the most erotic things going! It is quite hard to get it right too. I visited someone just a couple of weeks ago who had a lady 'friend' with her - so there were two of them. The scene just didn't work and after fifteen minutes I said so and stopoped the session - she was OK with it.

When it works though - for me it can be orgasmically shattering!

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Humiliation can be a powerful aphrodisiac....if used with the right woman in the right circumstance. Humiliating a "lady" can inflame her sexually, just as treating a slut like a princess can turn her on. To me humiliation is having another person submit to having something done or doing something that they find embarrassing or off-putting. The typical D/s play that I enjoy usually involves some form of humiliation as the submissive is "forced" to do or withstand something that they have a "love/hate" relationship with. One woman's humiliation is another woman's erotic stimulation....but either woman can be aroused in this manner. So...you have to learn that particular woman's needs.

A friend of mine was totally dressed a girl a few times in his teens. some girls took him to a retail clothing store.Was humiliated by trying on dresses and then made him walk around in the store so everyone seen him in his dress.Then they bot him a dress and had to wear it out into the mall to go to the car.

It is fun to some, but also degrading to guys when their friends see him. But that is the punishment for some that are caught wearing girls clothes by a sister or their mother.

Http://www.atlasobscura.com/articles/the-dunce-cap-wasnt-always-so-stupid

I found this interesting article on the origin of, probably, the best known humiliation tool on the Atlas Obscura web site.

Rob

That's an interesting article about the dunce cap. I wonder how the practice of pulling someone's pants as humiliation began?

I'm reading more and more stories and fantasizing more and more about cuckold related topics. And every fantasy I come up with is humiliating for me and is definitely a huge turn on. I guess with myself and my girl both on the submissive side, those scenarios can't end any other way though

Humiliation can be quite arousing....especially during the enema process.

I am thinking about a first visit to a naturist resort. I have never appeared naked in front of strangers and think it would be very humiliating. The 'idea' of being so humiliated is, to me, an emotional 'turn on'. It may not be what I think, don't know. Has anyone experienced a visit to a nudist resort and felt embarrassed and humiliated...and enjoyed the feeling?

I love being humiliated, but I also hate it.

At the right times, it can be unbelievably arousing.

The idea of being naked or even in informal attire around any individual makes me feels so embarrassed.

It excites me to have someone seeing so much of my skin, its also terrifying.

But a little bit of fear can make it even more exciting.

I am thinking about a first visit to a naturist resort. I have never appeared naked in front of strangers and think it would be very humiliating.

This probably wouldn't be what you're thinking it is like. Remember, everyone else is going to be nude, too, and they're completely comfortable with seeing you nude. Nudity is what everyone is there for, and it's all quite natural, (hence the term, naturism.) It's not a sexual atmosphere. And, most first-timers find their inhibitions about nudity disappear pretty quickly. So, not what you're looking for, at all.

Naturist settings aren't humiliating, certainly not for being naked, unless you did something else that would cause humiliation. If people sense you are there for the wrong thing, then you might be asked to leave, and that would be humiliating, but probably not what you have in mind.

Many of my masturbation fantasies involve public humiliation and domination, especially involving a big audience, BDSM, anal sex, and a sexy dominatrix running the show. Here are some of my fantasies:

(1) Going to a large party where everyone agrees to enter a lottery and a small fraction of people, including lucky me, are selected to provide the night's entertainment by stripping and performing roles in a series of sex acts in a printed program

(2) Working as a male stripper or a nude waiter at party in a huge mansion for a few dozen elegantly dressed rich people

(3) At the end of the party, being auctioned off as a male sex slave for the night by a sexy dominatrix auctioneer who binds my hands behind my back, blindfolds me, puts a cock and ball harness on me, clips a leash to it, and leads me around the room so those bidding for me can check out the merchandise up close

(4) Being tied up naked in front of a crowd and then whipped, masturbated, pegged, dildoed, or fucked by a man

(5) Being that guy in Ayne Rice's book, Exit to Eden, (about consenting to be a sex slave for a season at a tropical sex resort for the ultra rich), in which I become the slave of a dominatrix, I have to stay naked for months, I do her bidding privately for her or for which ever rich customer she assigns me to, I work as a human pony pulling her and her customers around the grounds while hooked up to her chariot, I work as a human target with other slaves in a booth at the resort's sex arcade, I provide arcade wagering entertainment for customers as a contestant in a wrestling tournament with seven other male slaves in which I win my first two matches by overpowering and fucking my opponents, but I lose in the finals to a heavyweight

I am a strong believer in equal opportunity objectification. I'm not a huge fan of all of Ayne Rice's novels, but I have always loved how she involves elements of male submission too. As a genuine switch who happens to be a lady, it validates me.

All of my sub fantasies involve humiliation to a degree, though more in the loss of control. Enemas and the loss of that type of control too.

Love everything about it . I really like when my husband and I go to the grocery store he makes me wear a short skirt , high heels and my anal, cunt jewelry... He will knock food out of my hands in front of other men and say " pick it up you stupid cunt , " as Iam bending over or on my knees cleaning up the food he will raise my skirt just enough for the other men to see my ass and cunt. With a little slap he'll say up bitch we got to go don't be so stupid the next time ! My next favorite is when he takes me to strip clubs and compares me to the dancers .. I get so hot ..

My wife & I love when she talks to me about making me admit that I would love to have another man take me, spank me and dominate me, with me begging to be his bitch, for both oral and anal sex, while she watches & cheers both of us on!

She also loves making me cum in my mouth or lick my cum off of her breasts!

She also spanks me often, but not as often or severe enough!

Oh and my wife learned face slapping from my daughter who face slaps her boy friend, now husband.

It even more humiliating than my spankings!

I don't like it, but submissively comply!

I have found that if a woman is aroused by it, humiliation can drive her to new heights of sexual arousal, especially if one can balance her increasing humiliation factor against her arousal factor so that both things drive her way beyond normal feelings. The shame, the tears, the embarrassment all serve to make her orgasm that much harder to achieve, yet so much more fulfilling when it comes. It seems to be a love/hate type of thing for them.

Humiliation can be quite arousing....especially during the enema process.

I agree completely. That's when I feel it most as well. The whole process but especially when you feel that liquid inside you filling you, I get this creepy feeling on my back and it just makes me humiliated a bit. A proper Dom/Domme can really capitalize on this and make it oh so much more humilating and enjoyable at the same time. Not to mention holding the enema and eliminating it. The Dom could act like they've never seen such a mess before and go on and on blah blah. Devilishly perfect.

Humiliation was intensely arousing alone with my domme-playing wife or GF. This is almost always with me in some combination of bondage, rubber and sneakers with an enema filling me or about to start. I'm usually complaining and begging for leniency with her commenting about how much fun she's having forcing me to be obedient. It also usually involves her denying me orgasms still dressed in kink clothes until I've satisfied her libido with whatever she requires that night. After we're both satisfied, we'd pillowtalk about how much we both enjoyed the sex and our roles before going back into our normal equal personas. Immense fun.

Eric

Humiliation was intensely arousing alone with my domme-playing wife or GF. This is almost always with me in some combination of bondage, rubber and sneakers with an enema filling me or about to start. I'm usually complaining and begging for leniency with her commenting about how much fun she's having forcing me to be obedient. It also usually involves her denying me orgasms still dressed in kink clothes until I've satisfied her libido with whatever she requires that night. After we're both satisfied, we'd pillowtalk about how much we both enjoyed the sex and our roles before going back into our normal equal personas. Immense fun.

Eric

Aaaawww that sounds so sweet, Eric! So glad you experienced that.

Pillow,

Thanks, me too. Nice of you to comment. Just wish I had someone to repeat it with over and over these days.

Eric

Pillow,

Thanks, me too. Nice of you to comment. Just wish I had someone to repeat it with over and over these days.

Eric

You don't still play like that with your wife?

If I had one I certainly would. I'm divorced several years ago with no current girlfriend, but looking. I play solo with a lot of kink, fantasy and memories employed to help things along. I have ED from meds and possibly aging (65), so when I'm looking for an orgasm every 2-3 days I employ as much kink and fantasy as I need to get my motor running nicely. An hour or two ago I just finished a 3 quart saline enema which I'm just about finished evacuating. This also involved wearing a neoprene rubber sweatsuit, gloves and hood and heavy Converse sneakers while taking the enema. During most of it, I had a nice combination of real memories like I described in the other post plus similar fantasy about my kinky domme exGF dominating me into taking the enema wearing heavy kink clothes until I satisfied whatever she wanted from me. My kinks are rubber, sneakers, anal, enemas, restraint/ bondage and D/s (I'm a lifelong switch but do love being submissive to the right woman partner). I wound up with a satisfying enema and a great orgasm at the end after holding the 3 q for a little while. Mission accomplished today. I'd just like a real woman to love and play with. Thanks for asking.

Eric

I like being made to show my panties and my privates, as well as being made to play with myself in front of males or females.

I like being teased about my panties, and light small penis humiliation.

I like humiliation! It arouses me.

Rectal temps before or after a spanking is embarrassing and I like it. It can be more embarrassing if I'm told to spread my cheeks by myself.

I also like being told to spread my legs during a spanking. Once a spanker asked me to spread my legs and inspected my pussy to see if it's wet. Of course it's really wet so I got more smacks.

In my opinion, spanking is like the food and humiliation is like the salt. The food tastes much better when you add salt.

⁄(⁄ ⁄ ⁄ω⁄ ⁄ ⁄)⁄ How can I have an orgasm without humiliation! Lol

For me, it really has to do with being made vulnerable. There is something about the vulnerability that I find very exciting. It's hard to put in words, but it's a real turn on for me. Everything has to be right for it to go off with a hit, though. I have to feel safe, yet controlled. The demeanor has to be serious and not jolly. A doctor with the right attitude, one where he is very nonchalant but direct, is very important to me.

There is something about the vulnerability that I find very exciting.

The vulnerability is what sets the scene for a meaningful physical examination for me. Ideally, it includes such features as a significant period of time in the waiting room which is occupied by enough other male patients to help fuel my anxiety. As I attempt to maintain a cool and calm demeanor, it helps to add to my sense of insecurity and vulnerability if most of the other patients are younger men who appear totally relaxed and self confident. I hope the receptionist verbally confirms that I am there for a physical in a tone that is loud enough for the others in the waiting room to hear and an demeanor that indicates an "I know what you are getting ready to go through" attitude.

When you are called from the waiting room, you never know exactly what the sequence of events will be, especially if it is your first visit to this office. I always wonder about weighing, vital signs, EKG, and blood and urine collection. The uncertainty adds to the sense of vulnerability. Then there is the uncertainty about who will tell you to strip, how will you be told to strip, how long will you have to wait while stripped, will the room be cold. You get to the exam room and you look around for gloves and KY. I also look at the exam room layout and try to figure out where I will stand for the hernia exam and rectal. After you prepare yourself as instructed, you wonder how long the wait for the exam to begin. Then when the exam starts, you are never certain whether genital and rectal will be included. The doctor knows before he enters the room but you have to wait for the instruction to expose yourself.

"..............I have to feel safe, yet controlled. The demeanor has to be serious and not jolly. A doctor with the right attitude, one where he is very nonchalant but direct, is very important to me."

Amen. You've described the perfect medfet encounter.

I want to feel vulnerable, exposed and embarrassed, yet still know I'm in a safe, discreet environment.

You guys and gal really hit it on the head for enjoying sexual humiliation, virtually the same for me. My last partner/ex-wife was very good at it, with brilliant commentary as she was Domme-ing me enmeshed in all my kinks with me moaning and pleading for leniency. It was utterly safe yet simultaneously making me feel that I had no choice but to do every submissive and humiliating thing she demanded I do.

There were always variations, but not infrequently she'd "force" me to wear a complete snug rubber catsuit outfit with gloves, hood, gag and heavy sneakers, making me sweat profusely under it all (very erotic). Meanwhile I'd be bound somehow so she could plug me and give me enemas which I'd be forced to hold sometimes for over an hour. Orgasms would be edged but denied with more and more severe threats of what I'd be doing including giving her orgasms still wearing all my sweaty kink/submissive rubber gear. Eventually I'd be allowed to climax and undress but only after she'd had whatever orgasms she required that night. I'll never forget those nights.

Eric

I just thought of another nice bit of humiliation I haven't had before. As a longtime switch, for years I've had fantasies of my Domme exes (or fantasy Domme now) forcing me into my full-body snug latex catsuit and heavy rubber sneakers (two intense kinks/fetishes) at home before going out. Then before going out in public to dinner or more she'd put me into a regular vanilla hooded sweatsuit over the rubber so all anyone would see is me in sweats and sneakers, and she'd dress the same except without any rubber. We'd go out to eat looking like we just came from the gym, but we'd also be the only ones knowing I was zipped into snug rubber underneath. Another variation I've had with this is her making me wear a butt plug under my rubber at various times during the evening.

It probably seems minor, but the new wrinkle I just now dreamed up was her also dressing me in a thin disposable adult diaper over the rubber, which would largely be hidden by the vanilla sweatsuit. IRL I recently started experimenting with diapers during enemas last year. They add a nice additional humiliation thrill while I'm being filled and retaining. I've not thought about wearing one under sweats out in public till now, but it would make for more submissive humiliation fun. Wearing all that, I'd just hope she'd take me to a relatively cool restaurant or wherever she had in mind to play with me.

Eric

In my opinion, this is a relative topic. What is humiliating to one person may not be to another.

For example, a cuckold may be "forced" to fluff and clean his wife and/or her bull. Many would find this humiliating, where I personally find it super hot and sexy!