Your age the last time a parent was with you for an exam

I remember when I was younger (before I turned 12 and was allowed in go in alone) that my mom was always with me. It was embarrassing to be up on that big table in just my briefs in front of her waiting for the Dr.

One time I remember that I was due for a shot...which I HATED as a kid and always threw a little fit when I had to get them. I was, I think, around 8 or 9. The Doc must have remembered that I was difficult before because he asked me to lie across my mom's lap. I was already in my briefs and when in position, he pulled them down and I got the shot. Humiliating to say the least!

Hi Skin and any Mothers out there. I'm a nurse in a pediatricians office here in South Florida. Anyone needing inspections of there Sons or speak about there development, just let me know!

My mom always came into the exam room with me up until I was about 18. I remember when I was 13 or 14 getting a full exam and the doctor pulling down my underwear while I was lying on the exam table. Knowing my mom was sitting right there next to me, and could see everything, while embarrassing, was kind of a turn on. What made matters worse was when the doctor mentioned that the slit in my penis looked a little small and asked if I was having any trouble urinating. He told my mom if it didn't get any bigger as I grew "down there", they could do an operation. I was embarrassed. Then, as he was examining my testicles, he couldn't find the one on the right, and asked me if I had felt it. I was embarrassed to say yes or no with my mom in the room, basically admitting to her that I played with myself, so I said, "I don't know." He told my mom to check me at home after I got out of the shower, because this is when testicles hang the lowest. He said if she couldn't feel it, we would have to go to a endocrinologist. She was able to feel it in the shower so I was OK. I guess because I was lying down during the exam, it had gone up and wasn't in the scrotum. It was kind of undescended. While this was all pretty embarrassing then, it was kind of a turn on, and definitely is now. Skin, would love to know if you took mboyd77 up on her offer and how it was. Yoanna_mother, love hearing from you too.

I cannot imagine my son(s) letting their mum touch their genitals. They might let her look but then again I can imagine boys being more comfortable with their mum doing such things and not in any sexual sense.

My eldest once thought he had an issue with his scrotum and he was agonising for ages about letting me see it.

My boys were always more at ease showing their mum their first publc hairs, etc, and my youngest is quite open about the fact he masturbates and he will sit in his shorts or PJ's and touch himself while clothed to the point of erection, much to his mum's annoyance and if he has an erection at any time he does not get embarrassed (there is nothing to be embarrassed about) and he does not try to hide it.

I think Moms, overall, are fascinated with there Son's development. I know growing up in my household, it was common to walk around in our underwear. At the time, white brief undies (tighty whities) was common. My Mom would always check my bulge out..I would now this because I would notice her eyes always checking me out.

As for going to the docs, my Mom started going into the exam room when I started puberty up until I turned 18. My doc at the time told my Mom its okay to inspect me and gave her booklets about boys and puberty and literature like that...I think this is why I have a medical kink/fetish as an adult today and was a nurse for a while in a peditricians office for many years.

During my exams as a pre-teen or a teen mother was never present in exam room. All these exams were done at the school nurse's office by nurse herself or a doctor. In country where I live the health care system is so effective at school that teenagers usually doesn't need any other physical exams. Mothers are almost never present.

As kids or teenagers, in many cases, we don't have a choice. Although I didn't want my Mom in the examroom, my choice and my opinion was overuled by the Doc and my Mom.

Before I reach puberty, I was in the exam room alone, once I turned 12 years old the doc spoke privetly to my Mom and that is when she was in the examroom and she was there throughout puberty up to my teenage years, Mom was in the room and watched with open eyes everything the doc did.

The Doctor would touch me inapproperiatly before my Mom was in the examroom and I don't know what he told my Mom or what the deal was behind my back...but when Mom was in the examroom starting at 12, he continued to touch me and masturbate me while Mom was in the room. One time, he gave my Mom brochures about boys and masturbation, going through puberty and such and I overheard him tell my Mom its okay to inspect my genitals for growth at home.

This goes back to my original theory that Moms are very curious about there Son's development. As a family, we weren't nudist but we all seem to walk around the house in underwear...this was common in my home growing up...as I was growing up...Mom would always look at my "bulge" or make comments about my underarm hair is going, "I'm turning into a man", so there were many sexual overtones as I was growing up...by going to the doctor and havng my mom see my development was a perfect excuse to see my genitals and growth for herself.

Skin, what was the issue with your son's scrotum and did he eventually show it to you? If so, how did you get him to show you?

"I cannot imagine my son(s) letting their mum touch their genitals"

Now I have said that I remembered today a (true) story, albeit off-topic.

While on a short break away with my wife and my boys who were then 10 and 14 the boys were sharing a bedroom and getting changed for bed. My eldest, being pubescent was in the habit of getting frequent involuntary erections and he was lying on his bed naked and examining his penis when he declared quite loudly that he had a spot, maybe a blackhead on his shaft. I did not fancy the job so I asked him if he was happy for his mum to have a look and within minutes his mum was prodding and poking her son's erect penis trying to pop his spot.

I find it interesting that a mother in a boys exam is normal but a father in a girls exam is almost unehard of.

Yoanna_mother

Acceptable or not, double standards exist and is widespread at most large part of the world. Which is why I said hypocritical.

There is no way on earth I would have been able to take a pee whole being watched unless I was about to wet my pants. If a guy is at the urinal next to me I cannot perform.

I wonder why that is?

This is a fetish board room and I understand that but this is not the 1942 outlook on teenage males?

If both testicles have descend they have dropped pretty much an open and closed case. Most likely a doctor will be able to tell a patient and a parent early on if it looks like a problem, once nature takes its course if all is well from the get-go all is usually well. I think it is absolute bullshit what the person is saying by having an right to destroy the dignity of a male teenager. If the office requires a wittiness the doctor should ask the young male in private would you prefer your mother or the nurse? The parents can meet with doctors afterwards. I had cancer as a teenager my mother did not need to physically see the cancer to understand I had cancer. Sometimes doctors that you chose needs to be trusted and most doctors will respect a patients privacy if the parents speak up. If a young male is immature pediatricians know how to deal with younger people that is there speciality The doctor male or female should be teaching the young male how to communicate with caregivers by asking questions and getting a direct answer from the patient. If a young male has tight foreskin, he is not going to volunteer that it hurts when he masterbates or gets and erection. The doctor most likely is not going to ask personal sexual questions with a mother present. So is your child really getting the true assessment of his physical development? NO. Let the young male develop with dignity that is the best thing a mother ever could do for there development.

"he is not going to volunteer that it hurts when he masterbates or gets and erection"

It depends on the individual.

I would not have suffered in silence but probably confided in my mum, without confessing to the masturbation bit but if the doctor had asked me in front of my mum I would have told him, embarrassing though it might be.

You are right it depends on the individual and that goes both ways. Every single person in the world is different. Every single household has a different modesty level. Every single parents relationship is different with there opposite sex children. Some parents can have an open and honest relationship with there children. Some can talk about sex, some can not. If a parent and child do not have an open relationship and clothing rules are pretty strict around the house, a mother present at a once a year male teenagers physical will just be awkward. For all parties involved no one should assume all is well even if the male does not complain, that does not mean he was not embarrassed.

I do think it is vital that a child uses the opportunity to ask the doctor any questions that spring to mind, however potentially embarrassing. I have only recently noticed 'issues' with my genitals which I have since discovered are normal but had I spotted them as a boy I would not have hesitated to raise with my parents, or at least my mother and also a doctor.

The only reason I would have been embarrassed about nudity with my mum or anybody for that matter is that like a lot of boys I had a low self image physically (still do), being very skinny.

Had I had a decent physique I don't think I would have cared who saw me naked.

Mother's presence in an exam room during teenager's physical is not necessary. If mother wants to take care of her adolescents' health and physical development it's enough that she comes to the room after the son's or daughter's exam has been performed. The doctor can tell then if the physical development is on the right track.

You are right, I think also that a mother can find an other mean to be informed by a doctot about the health of her son than to be present in the exam room.

At least, she can leave the exam room when it is time to the the most intimate part of the exam generally at the end of the physicals or she can turn her head away.

the doctor has also a responsability in protecting the privacy of the teenagers that he is examining, he can have set a curtain in the exam room behind it he performed the most intimate part of the exam.

Anyway, there cannot be a general rule for all persons and cases, some teenagers may prefer to have a parent in the exam room, particularly their mother who cares very well about their health because they are anxious if they are really sick, it is not the same situations as for a routine annual physical.

it may depend also of the age, under 12, it is not too much embarrassing to have a mother in the exam room, between 12 and 14 age, it may depend on the character of the boy, if he is already enough mature.

after 14 age, it would be more seldom.

but we cannot forget that the boys are generally less mature than the girls, so the parents must care much about their son than a daughter and it is still the mother in most of the families who cares about the health of the children whatever is their age.

the good solution is a question of good sense, everybody can understand when a mother must not be present or what must be her behaviour, a discreet one, in the exam room.

My mom was never around

Like I said...my mom was always present even through puberty until I was 18 years old...my Mom was in the examroom. I didn't have any choices...it was a matter of fact that she was in the room.

Of course you are right but don't forget that at least in the past,(I am not sure that it is now really different but may be it is), the doctors did not pay much attention to the modesty of children and even teenagers, particularly that of boys because a boy was supposed to be less modest than a girl if he wanted to become a real man so I think that the doctors did not leave always the choice to a boy for the presence of his mother in the exam room,most of the time, certainly, the doctor did not ask at him what he preferred, and if the mother had accompagnied the boy until the waiting room, she was invited to come also with the boy in the exam room.

if she was discreet and turned the head during the exam, it was fine but if she decided to watch the exam, it was fine also.

"I cannot imagine my son(s) letting their mum touch their genitals."

I have had to do it several times on my sons. Basically groin injuries while rough housing resulting in pain. A couple times due to painful urination. And once when one of them got poison ivy there. He finally admitted that he was sneaking out at night in the back yard to masturbate under the stars. LOL

I guess I have always just been so open so they know if I think there is a problem then they will need to "drop 'em" so I can check.

My mother saw my medical visits until the age of 14 years

The embarrassment may be very different in function of the doctors, it depends on the way in which the exam is performed, if the doctor requires nudity for a long time and not just the underwear pulling down for a quick lllok at genitals.

In the first case, the doctor should understood that the presence of the mother is really embarrassing for a teenager after 15 age or 14 age, in the second case, it is not an issue, except if he wants to question the boy about his sexual life and masturbation but all the doctors don't ask questions about that, only a few one's.

It is obvious that if the doctor requires the nudity of the boy since the start of the exam, even for weigh and heigh and blood pressure or pulse, the presence of the mother is an issue more over if she is not enough discreet!

Esaterman

It is obvious that if the doctor requires the nudity of the boy since the start of the exam, even for weigh and heigh and blood pressure or pulse, the presence of the mother is an issue more over if she is not enough discreet!

I agree with you. I even think so that if the doctor performs a thorough genital exam to a boy for example 15 years of age, mother should not be present in an exam room during this part of an exam.

Emma_play, you sound like a really caring & open mom. Did you have to take your sons to the doctor after their problems and were you present while they were being examined? If so, what was their reaction and were you uncomfortable at all being in there?

Thankfully my Dad was rarely the one taking me for appts. I never minded my mom so much tho I'm a fem. Somehow though the more people in the room the worse it is. It's bad enough just the doctor. :

Doctors would always ask my mother to leave after I started puberty. Still before then she would always be present and in view of me.

Until I as 13. My mom and sister,10, were always in the examine room with me. Usually I would get examined first. At the end of the examine, he would pull down my underwear in front of my mom and sister and look over my penis and testicles. It was always extremely embarrassing. When he would examine my sister she only had on panties and he always pulled them off and examine her vagina right in front of my mom and I.

I don't know if it happens today. But back in the 70's and 80's I think doctors would examine boys infront of Mothers more freely.

I know even today, my BF and I come in the exam room together and the doctor examined my dick while my BF was watching and then he examined my BF dick while I was watching. I think the Doctor allow this to happen because we have been together for over 17 years now and we are a gay couple going to a straight doctor so I don't think he put any thought into it...he just did it matter of factly.

But even when I was younger...as a child into my teen years, my Mom would see the Doctor examine my penis and she even seen me cum/ejaculated several times. Although I didn't like like it and it was VERY embarrising, it didn't seem I had a choice in the matter. The room was small I know my Mom enjoyed watching...I think all Mom's deep down inside get off on watching there Son's development.

Even growing up, we were a family that would walk around in our underwear. My sisters would were there bra's and panties and I would wear my tighty whities, Mother would were a T-shirt and panties...and my Dad would be in his underwear. When my sister got older and moved out and my Mom and Dad divorced, my Mom and I would walk around the house in underwear....I would notice she would look or gaze at my bulge in my underwear and ask me questions about my developing/puberty. Has this happen to others??