Mashie,
Your idea of how things went was all fine and wonderful. However, that's not quite how things happened. My Ob later lost her license for reasons of 'neglect' and endangering the unborn child when the last 7+ children born under her care were born with preventable birth defects had they been born on time instead of 2 weeks to 4 weeks late. My daughter actually went to daycare with one of those children who has permanent deafness from being born so late and it causing complications. I still see his mother once in a while.
All around care in this situation, at the ripe old age of 18, and all alone, was very disturbing. After delivery, they almost gave me the one antibiotic that could have killed me, and I just happened to over hear them mention it and I had to yell to get them to stop attaching to my IV. Then, I developed a fever in my room, I had unvoluntary muscle spasams in my abdomen and from a dead sleep, I would sit straight up with no control of it, and of course, after having your guts cut wide open to deliver a 10 lb baby, it hurt and I screamed in pain. They thought I was making it up. I'm not lying here. It was an extrememly traumatic experience. Because my family couldn't be at the hospital because of work, no one brought my daughter to see me for 5 days (I wasn't allowed out of bed either... not for 5 days). I finally had a visitor (a surgical nurse friend of the family)on the second to last day (of 7 total) who went and raised hell for me, because all I kept being told was, since my child was 10 lbs and I wasn't allowed to lift over 6 lbs, I couldn't have my child by myself and no one had time to sit with me. I understood, but it made me very sad. I think it really interfered with the permanent connection between my daughter and myself.
I can understand certain things being necessary, like lying flat on my back and stuff because of the epidural, but they really could have explained things better. They could have explained that the restraints were a normal occurance, and if I hadn't been having severe muscle spasms in my shoulder blades, it would not have felt so wrong, like I was being punished almost. The pain in my back was excruciating, and they didn't believe me about that either, and when my back would arch involuntarily in pain, they just pushed me down and said 'stop'. Seriously, I couldn't stop the spasms, just like the ones in my abdomen. I mean, I'm not a nurse, I was 18, I was pretty much alone... all they had to do was talk to me. This is one reason I had my tubes tied at age 25, and hysterectomy at age 32. I would never go through child birth again, ever.