Oral Sex and Odor Question

Ok, I have a slightly embarrasing question. My Sub, and GF enjoys being orally pleasured, and I do want or try to perform oral on her. However she is very "Natural" and I cant seem to get over the taste, and scent of her. When I approached the subject of using a dam, or other device so I could please her in this way, she didnt not like the idea stating that she performs oral on me without the use of any device or barrier. The question I bring to the group, is there something or a way that I could do this for her without making her feel awkward, and upset? I was thinking about numbing gel or something like that so I cannot taste?

Embarrased over here 😳 I am!

LZ - No reason to feel embarrassed, yours is a perfectly normal question to ask. When you say that she's a "natural" kind of girl, are you referring to hygiene or to hair? Either way, there has to be a meeting of the minds. My partner is a squeaky clean kind of guy but he never uses any kind of fragrance, cologne, etc. His grooming routine consists of a late night shower, deodorant, a shave, and he's done. He trims, but does not shave "down there". After a day of wearing clothes, moving around, natural bodily secretions, etc., he can present with something of a musky, salty scent but I have never found it offensive in any way. If I did, all I would have to do is mention a shower and he'd be off like a shot to remedy the situation. In a similar fashion, my routine is a morning shower, deodorant and a smudge of powder in a few spots where chafing is likely to be a problem. I don't generally wear fragrance either because it tends to annoy my partner's sinuses. I do shave my pubic area because we both prefer it that way and it eliminates the hair issue. If he ever found my personal taste or odor offensive, I'd be in the shower in a heartbeat. Then I'd probably be off to the doctor to find out if there were an underlying medical problem. As a diabetic, he says I taste very sweet, i don't know if that's true or not but I do know that I love it when he kisses me after he's performed.oral sex.

But back to your question. Is it possible that you could suggest a shared bath or shower beforehand? There's nothing quite like a warm bath and slippery soap accompanied by some candles and wine to get the party started. Could you suggest a mild vinegar and water, or baking soda and water douche beforehand, as part of your play? If it's a hair issue, would she consent to a very limited shave or trim? That way, she could keep her natural look and feel, but it wouldn't be such a problem for you. I suppose you could use some type of numbing preparation, but if you can't feel your tongue, how do you know you're actually doing what your mind's eye is envisioning? Also, something that deadens your tongue may also decrease her sensitivity, and that's certainly not what you want.

Just some thoughts!

LadyDoc

I agree with Lady Doc. One other thing I have heard is if a woman has a fishy smell, whatever causes that, generally comes from the man. Have you ever heard that Lady? At any rate both of you might want to see a Doc a “natural” odor does not sound like something you might want to try to ignore.

irme

The fishy odor may be from a bacterial problem as amines are being released. This problem is from the vulvar sweat glands and not the vagina. It could be caused by certain foods - liver, soy - or nutritional supplements.

Try sleeping without underwear and do not wear jeans that are tight in the crotch during the day.

In any event, do ask your doctor.

I'm going to go with LadyDoc on this one! Shared shower before oral sex would definitely help things out a bit. It could also heat things up a bit before you both go at it 😉 When and if I hear the words "Eat cha" in this house, it is usually a mad dash to the bathtub for me to prep up for this glorious rare occasion! I've had no complaints on the way I smell or taste...so I guess that means I've been doing something right!

I also saw mentioned - diet. Remember, what you put in your body is going to change the way you taste down there. That goes for both men and women.

Also the taste and texture of her juices will also depend on where she is at in her cycle.

And that's that!

I definitely agree with the idea that if she is willing to do it for you, you should reciprocate. However, I think it is perfectly reasonable that you should want her to be clean. Being "natural" doesn't have to equal smelling badly. Taking a shower immediately before engaging in sex is a good idea, and one way to do this nicely and without telling her that she smells or tastes bad is by suggesting that you guys showering together and cleaning each other. Or you could bathe her. That way you can choose what soap to use, so you are guaranteed to like the scent. Ultimately, I think it's rude for someone to expect another person to put their mouth somewhere that isn't fresh.

The "fishy" smell is from old semen in the vagina. Smell a day old used condom if you don't believe it.

Other smells are bacterial in origin, either infection or B.O. arising in the vagina or pubic area.

The solution: wash wash wash.

When I'm in the shower, I wash thoroughly with soap and water. I also insert one or two fingers into my vagina and swirl them around under the running water of the shower. My husband and I do not use condoms, so I always have "old semen" in my vagina that I mentioned above, but the thorough washing and swirling fingers inside cleans everything very well. My husband and other men I've had 😎 will tell you that my pubes smell the same as my face, which is essentially odorless.

The funny part is I have given her oral in the shower, and it didnt bother me. Problem is, she tends not to like having me in the shower with her. Shes kinda weird like that. I love her to death! 😄 I am gonna pose this issue and what you guys have suggested to her at some point soon. She kinda makes me feel bad when she gives me the I give you oral and you dont give me oral look lol. The only time I gave her oral without being in the shower was when I had mistakenly used orabase as toothpaste LOL, I waas phnumb. She loved it lol!

You might want to be careful how you approach this issue; I would be just a tad pissed if I thought my husband had asked a question like that about me in an open forum. You might not ever get oral again assuming you had anything left to perform oral on!

Just a thought

irme

She doesnt have an account on here, she looks with me sometimes.

Never be afraid to ask ANYTHING! One should not worry about asking questions on our forum. We are all here to help.

I agree with ladydocisin , I take a shower before and that is that. The wife and I both shave . She has no odor or bad taste, oral is something that I have to give her because I love it. I think a shower is a must before . You have to do what is right for the both of you. Good luck.

I will approach the matter in the coming days. She does special things for me so I want to return the favor sometimes. Irme no disrespect to you, but stay a while I appreciate your thoughts, I have thick skin, takes a lot to get under it!

"Just a shower" may be insufficient - especially if you don't have a hand shower that can be directed in to all the lovely nooks and crannies for a good rinse. Just like an uncircumcised guy - you need to open things up a bit and rinse. I agree with Switchablesusie with the finger swishing.

Have you considered adding a hand shower to your current shower? They're relatively cheap (around $20 US) and just screw in between the current head and the pipe coming out of the wall. Very easy! And the pulsing water feels pretty good too. 😉

What about bidettes?

It is BIDET.

They are great after sex, especially quickies in the middle of the day when there isn't time for a full shower.

When we did some house remodeling several years ago before our older daughter entered puberty, we added a bidet to the bathroom the two girls share because it is also good for a cleaning during the day when they are having their periods.

I recommend the American Standard bidets because they have a valve switch that lets you have water flow through the rim so when you sit on it, the porcelain isn't cold. The Kohler (at least at the time) didn't have that feature.

Each woman has her own unique sex scent and no matter how much you shower or douche before it can still become evident during sexual arousal, and it varies in strength from woman to woman. Normally localised in the genital region but with some women the same smell can even come through the breasts. Obviously if the woman doesn't wash for a week then she will smell fishy from urine and semen but that's a different issue.

So it might just be your partner's natural scent and personally I would get on with it and return the favour, your partner's pleasure is much more important than any worries you have. And I think you will find that the smell is less intense while you are in direct contact with her during oral sex, you probably won't even notice it then.

What the hells a dam? I don't think we have them over here...Is it something to do with them Oregon beavers again??

Dr Philip - The UK Play Doctor.

Hi Dr. Philip and Others,

I believe that the orginal poster asked if he could use a dam in order to help with his partner's odor issue. I think that he is referring to using a dental dam, which is a small piece of flexible material that dentists use when they are doing a cavity filling or a crown, etc. My dentist always uses one when performing dental work on me.

They are availble in several flavors, such as strawberry, mint or unflavored as well.

Lady Teddy in Oregon, home of the Beaver state, who knows all about beavers and their dams 😉

Well we tried the fresh from the shower idea and it worked. with the help of another substance I will keep secret for the moment, I gave her one of the most intense orgasms she ever has had with me. She was literally pushing deeper into me as I went on with her, and when she came the orgasm was so intense she just laid there panting. I never knew my tounge could do such things 😜 LOL. She came three times in a row, one oral, one by my magic hands, and go ole fashion missionary sex. She was exhausted!!!

Well, how 'bout that! We're just dying to know what the mystery substance is, but you can keep your secret a little longer before we torture it out of you. Mwahahahah! >😄

LordZeromimous said:

. . . . . with the help of another substance I will keep secret for the moment, . . . . .

Ladydocisin said:

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Well, how 'bout that! We're just dying to know what the mystery substance is, but you can keep your secret a little longer before we torture it out of you. Mwahahahah! >😄

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Arginine and menthol on the clit??

That and a few similar compounds have several trademarked names.

Lord Zeromous you are being an awful awful tease withholding this "magic substance". I'll just have to watch this thread to find out what may give this Miss a "WOW"!!

I know what the mystery substance is.. bwahahahaha

I`m still working on this just FYI, my skills are improving, now that I have a Sub that takes better care of that area! I hate sanding my face off on stuble...........!

I can tell you what I do. I get a warm, mildly soapy dish of water and a warmed towel or cloth, actually two. One is for the feet, I use reflexology on the feet first while I clean the feet. The with the other cloth as I move up the legs, I then wash the area with gentle stimulation and then proceed to oral. I can't say that it gets rid of all the odor, but it does temper it. Just a suggestion. Enjoyable for both.

Yeah things are a lot better with my new sub, over the previous! She actually as I said takes better care of the area!

I know that a lot of you will jump on my case for saying this, but I bought my wife some flavored douche concentrate at an adult shop. I got her the raspberry one and all I can say is that it tastes great. Don't get me wrong because I love the natural woman flavor, too, but this adds some spice to our sex life every now and then.

We are starting to plan a house renovation and I have a bidet on my wish list. A couple of years ago we went to one of those kinky hotels with the heart shaped beds and bathtubs in the Poconos for a long weekend. Our suite had a bidet and I fell in love with it.

Get an American Standard, not a Kohler.

The American Standard has a valve to divert the water from the spray head to the rim to warm it up so the porcelain isn't cold when you sit on it. It also helps clear out the bowl better.

The Kohlers didn't have that option when we were in the market but they may have this feature now, so don't entirely discount that option.

There is something called "WaterWorks" that can be purchased on line for only $29. It's a douche apparatus with a stainless nozzle. It absolutely works like a miracle with just plain tap water. Look it up and read the testimonials. It's amazing.