Perhaps, you are comfortable with your husband, and you no longer develop a sense of fear when you play with him.
But, I ALWAYS seek to create the EMOTIONAL components of sex during my sessions!
They make the sex SO INFINITELY MUCH more exciting!
Picture this.
A girl agrees to have sex with me. On the way to the motel, we discussed her fantasies, and she confessed her interested in being with a man who "controls" her.
That means she want to be submissive.
Now, I have to start out by assuring her that I am only playing here, because I will take her to the extreme limits, where she will be genuinely frightened. And, I don't want that.
But, once she understands that she won't be hurt, and she trusts me, we can begin.
"Come here, you slutty little fuckin' skank."
I try to tear her top off. Usually, I can just rip the fabric. If not, medical scissors will start the process, so that I can tear the fabric.
In seconds, she is stripped naked, and wide-eyed with fear.
"Yeah, these strips of sheet will tie you up good and tight!"
Now, she's scared even more, as I rip up the sheet into strips.
I grab her and lead her to the mirror, and she watches in horror as her hands are tied behind her back.
By now, she's breathing hard. I've had some women piss themselves.
Oh yeah, it's very real! Remember, this is a complete stranger doing this to them.
Whether it's an enema, or a spanking, that follows this makes no difference. The girl is genuinely afraid, and has intense feelings of humiliation and the shame of being exposed.
And, these emotions make the sex so much more exciting for her.
Embarrasment, humiliation, fear, anticipation, pain, and submission are just some of the emotions that I try to create to make a woman's orgasm the most intense that it can possibly be.
You've just grown comfortable with your husband's predictable routine, Susan.
He needs to break you out of that comfort zone that you're in, and ratchet up the excitement level a hundred-fold!
Perhaps, he should bind you tightly with leather straps, and leave you in the dark, alone and scared, as you wonder what he has in store for you.
As you feel the intense sting of the riding crop on your body, you will have a hard time feeling so comfortable.
And then, when you are blindfolded, or hooded, and you feel TWO sets of hands exploring your body, it DEFINITELY won't be the same old boring routine.
There is a way to rekindle the sense of fear and anticipation that makes you weak in the knees, and puts butterflies in your stomach!
Your husband just needs to search for the best way to do that!
I'm NOT happy unless I have a woman breathing fast and hard, and the wetness soaking her vagina, and running down the insides of her legs!
That's what I call a wild ride!