Crying - Spanking

For me, a whipping is a level up. The strap or belt or a thin flexible rod will produce welts, and the whole humiliation is ramped up.

Even though I enjoy a good hard spanking over a girl's knee, bare bottomed of course, I also feel that it should be a punishment as well. I have done some things I feel so guilty about that I feel the need for somebody to haul my pants down, take me over her knee, and start out spanking me with her bare hand to start, about 50 or so times, then switch over to her shoe or sandal for another 100 or more, all the while repeating "I have to give you this good spanking."

I also must mention that if that spanking gets me crying, so be it. I feel so guilty about some of my actions that I feel like crying, and a good bare bottom spanking might just do it. Even when I start crying, she should continue the spanking, while she is spanking me with my butt exposed over her knee, I get the feeling her eyes are drawn to my bare butt, which makes it sexually humiliating, but as exciting as painful.

For myself, a sos king is not complete until I am brought to tears. It’s about breaking me down.

Talking about F/F, M/F i like so much the if the spankee starts cry during the punishment. It is a sort of turn on for me together with the fact that the spanke try to escape the spanking by kicking or shaking the butt. It is more rare but it is also cool when the crying is due to the embarassement, for example of a rectal temp taking or enema before after a spanking. Regarding F/M spanking i'm quite indifferent. Other things turn me on in that case.

I have never been spanked as adult, well only by myself. I would like to try and have someone spank me in the future to go through the routine of how I would react.

I always cry when my girlfriend spanks me. She is a very strict disciplinarian and makes sure that I am in tears before she stops spanking me.

That happened to me time to time. It just depends on what I did wrong and how many times I was smacked with a belt or a yard stick. I crawled under a bed a cried during those times.

Crying is a huge turn on for me.

Instead of scolding/wanting to be scolded for the act of crying itself, I would enjoy the chance to bring someone past the point of tears, into full on wailing, just to tell-and show-them that it's okay to do so.

I have never found somebody who can take me to the point where I've stopped struggling and am just a sobbing, boneless mess over their lap, and perhaps that's for the best-I do tend to resist, mightily. Would absolutely love to get somebody else to that state. The empty, hollow, washed out feeling after a struggle and a cry is half of what I'm chasing in bdsm, after all.

Besides, crying is sexy, when it's part of the fun. It'd be nice to have a squirming, sobbing, very much adult little in my lap, crying so hard that their entire face is scrunched up, their nose is running, and they're an absolute emotional wreck after a good, sound spanking. There's just so many possibilities.

Maybe they wet during the spanking and need abdl attention; maybe they need to talk through the things that motivated them to seek the thrashing in the first place. If they're emotionally and physically backed up, they may need more thorough assistance. Perhaps they didn't know what was wrong, but just needed catharsis to feel better. I adore washing faces, patting backs, and generally helping people settle down. It's a special kind of thrill, especially when the person is one of those personalities that seems invulnerable when they're out in the world. The caring comfort of helping rock, cuddle, and soothe an adult who is otherwise stable and together back into some semblance of calm after a heavy spanking scene is almost as fun as the act of turning their bottom bright red in the first place.

Crying is a huge turn on for me and the soothing the tears away after.. Letting me know that what I'm doing is having the right effect.

Many of my spankees are stoic and seem to resist crying. Like others in this thread, creating tears is a huge turn-on and sense of accomplishment that the punishment has been effective and the recipient has received the message to correct their behavior

I have yet to cry from an adult spanking.

I don’t think it would be a turn on for me but I do crave to be brought to that point. I don’t know why it would just seem more real to me.

As an adult I have never been really punished for something I did wrong.

Its pretty much been all part of play.

I think I need the psychological part of it to go along with the physical.

Every time I say I have yet to be brought to tears, I get the line, “oh, I could make you cry”.

I have been spanked long and hard, with several implements, even to the point of leaving bruises and nope, no tears.

Not sure if its possible.

I agree, Bridgette. I have been spanked with hands, a belt, floggers, and a cane and have never cried. Although, I did use my safe word a few times. To be brought to tears would be a huge emotional release.

For me, I think it has to be a combination of spanking possibly while holding an enema and the right words used by my partner. It's not just about the pain of the spanking or the pleasure-discomfort of holding a soapy enema. It's admitting that you have been naughty and need the punishment and subsequent stress relief the tears bring.

I cried a lot during enemas or spankings. I was like it was needed to let my parents know that the punishment was recieved physically and mentally i think. I dont know what others think about that?

The spanking went down when i was crying like a baby. My mom would always hold my after that.

Enemas i would have to wait until the timer went off and end my crying on the toilet.

Yup...... a female form with a pillow under her hips. Arms and legs spread wide tied, spread eagle. Blind folded a carved peice of ginger cut into a buttplug inserted into a tight butthole and a piece of ginger invades a wet urethra...gently getting spanked on a plump spankable derriere. As her vagina creams wetting the bed

When I was a kid if I cried my Dad would just hit me harder for "being a big baby about it".

Now as an adult I love being brought to tears. It's like a release I need.

I like to be spanked to tears because it's a great release! Also, if I'm crying from a spanking, it's because I'm mad I got caught and am being punished, not because the spanking is too hard! I believe they call those "crocodile tears."

A perfect spanking has to involve tears in order to be effective.

I have dreamed a lot about being spanked until I'm in real tears. I think I want this to happen becuase (for me) crying is very cleansing release of emotions. I want to feel the embarassment and humiliation that comes with getting pulled over someone's knee. I would like to struggle as someone pulls me over their knee and gives me a good spanking, pulling down my pants and underwear, and making me bare. I want to feel the very real emotions that come with getting punished and the reconciliation afterwards.

Did you know there are four elements to a good spanking? Or a bad spanking, if you're the one getting it that is.

"One, the spankee should not want to get the spanking and should do anything and everything possible to avoid getting the spanking."

"Two, the spanking should be highly embarrassing if not downright humiliating for the spankee."

"Three, the spankee loses all control to the spanker. That is, the spanker determines the length and the severity of the spanking."

"A good spanking has to hurt. Ideally, it should hurt to the point where the spankee should want the spanking to stop as soon as it starts."

The one time I received a bare bottom spanking (from a female friend, no sex btw), I didn’t cry but it hurt like hell and was very cathartic.

The spankings I’ve given to several women over the years did not end in tears. I think the main emotions were astonishment, embarrassment, shock, and erotically turned on. I recall a couple red faces and moist eyes, yes, but I can’t think of anyone of them who really cried with tears down her face.

I wish I given more spankings.

I crave for a spanking. That being said, I have never had a real spanking as an adult, so I am not sure if I will truly like it. I have just had a couple hard spanks, which were nothing to make me cry. I long to be spanked to the point of crying, then to be held, told I took my punishment like a good girl and cuddled.

Spanking to tears is the most satisfying type of spanking, I agree. I also am not a fan of erotic spankings or stoic “take it like a man” spankings. Crying can be hard to achieve, but I’ve learned how to get there as a spankee. I have to psych myself into the right mindset and allow it to happen. But it’s definitely more satisfying to have cried from a good hard spanking then to just have a sore butt. Likewise, on the other end, it’s much more satisfying to have someone trust you with that release than just to get up straight faced. But if tears don’t come, other expressions of distress and anguish are good as well—howling, yelping, pleading, kicking your feet, or squirming. Makes it much more satisfying on either end and real.

We see there are a myriad of reasons folks like spanking. For me it is a highly erotic, exciting, sensual experience. I've always wanted to be spanked to tears and have approached it a couple of times. I've been told by some tops that "I promise you I can make you cry" Perhaps that would be true.

I have no interest in punishment spankings, it is something else for me. I need to feel loved to some degree. If this is at a pickup play at a public dungeon then there is not some prior relationship, so feeling loved is just being appreciated as a person without some real connection. But if someone is going to spank you there already is some kind of connection.

It starts out with me being strapped down to a spanking horse and touched sensually, with some nice long massage like strokes. Then a very teasing paddling which slowly grows more intense. Finally I get lots of very hard whacks with a leather paddle, then a wooden paddle. The paddling becomes very hard and very fast, kind of orgasmic. It hurts a lot, but by now my endorphins have kicked in so there is a mystical mix of pleasure and pain. I really want it to stop, but maybe not just yet. Recently (before Covid prison) I have contracted to take x number of strokes, last time I took over 300 and there was no safeword, but I was playing with someone I knew well so I knew he would push me beyond where I wanted to go but would not injure me, but hurt me for sure. A goal was to be spanked to tears but it didn't happen.

This thing is very cathartic and an amazing stress relief. When the restraints are finally and I get up from the spanking bench, I can barely walk. Not because of the pain but I'm so physically and emotionally drained.

I have never been spanked as an adult. I was sparked to tears many times growing up as I was slow learner. Now I think I would like to be spanked until I was crying.

If it's long enough and hard enough I'll cry. My daddy or Dom when I was in a relationship for about three years he'd make me cry on purpose.

After that he really liked fucking me in the face while I was crying.. I like making him happy.II was happy to do it. I don't know why I got into it but I really did. I enjoyed it just as much as him. I didn't like it was happening but I really got off hard afterwards.

He beat my ass the belt tilli was kicking and screaming. Then he bought my ass right afterwards.

He started doing that every Sunday after lunch and he invite people over and sometimes he did it on Saturday night barbecues.

I've been spanked hard on a number of occasions, with the spanker intending to produce tears. It's never happened. I wish I could experience that cathartic release that others talk about, but no matter the intensity or the actions of the spanker, I remain dry eyed every time I've begged for relief from particularly intense spanking, but never through tears.

I have administered a few spankings over the years, including one female friend who really wanted to cry. Sadly, she didn't get there, either. I think it would be amazing to experience or contribute to someone else's earnest tears, though.

Hearing someone else get spanked made it a fetish for me. As much as I hated my dad for whipping my brothers I won't ever forget how they screamed and cried or the same conversation I always heard. as soon as my dad would say “pants and underwear down now” my brother was crying loudly begging him to please not whip him. Next followed the what seemed like endless smacks of leather on bare ass as my brother was hollering so loud and literally screaming at the top of his lungs so bad he couldn't even breathe. my dad never let up he'd just say “move your fucking hand" every so often or “i told you this would be an ass whipping you wouldn't forget" unforrunately as the only girl I never got whipped but always wondered what it felt like to be held down naked and made to scream and cry like that.

I don't consider a spanking successful unless I start to cry. Ideally I need my spirit broken when I roll up into a ball and cry uncontrollably for hours

@Knoxgeek I've been spanked hard on a number of occasions, with the spanker intending to produce tears. It's never happened. I wish I could experience that cathartic release that others talk about, but no matter the intensity or the actions of the spanker, I remain dry eyed every time I've begged for relief from particularly intense spanking, but never through tears.

Yup - exact same thing for me… just can't get be brought to crying. Oh to go back to being a child where I'd cry so easily. Spanking without crying is like having an enema with where you don't experience an expulsion.