Too sore after an enema for anal sex

I gather from reading the threads on this board that many of you use enemas before anal sex. I also understand there should not be any irritation/swelling/hemorriods after the enema, but for me, sometimes there is, and I'm too sore for further anal play. And that just sucks. A few things about that:

1. Don't suggest that I need more lube. We already use enough to drown a horse.

2. I usually wait for the sex until about 8 hours afterwards, and I'm still sore.

3. We use the standard douche nozzle.

4. I almost always add lemon juice to the enema, not soap.

Does anyone else experience this sometimes,and have you found an effective way of preventing it/getting rid of it?

Is it possible that you're hyper-sensitive - or even allergic - to lemon juice? The high acid content of bottled lemon juice could be a problem, although fresh juice can sometimes be highly acidic, particularly for not-so-fresh lemons that have concentrated in the refrigerator. Assuming you rinse a few times, that ought to resolve the problem, but if you're allergic or hpyer-sensitive, maybe not.

Try plain (or saline) water only next time and see if there's a positive difference. If not, perhaps you have internal hemorroids and just don't know it.

Anne B:

Leave out the lemon juice; just use water or saline for cleaning. Neither one will cause you to strain, which can be hell on the 'rhoids (straining engorges the little bastards with blood and produces swelling). Hope this helps.

Yes, for starters leave out the lemon juice. Not sure where you heard that putting lemon juice in your solution was a good idea, it isn't. Not that it's going to harm you, it won't, but it will aggravate it to some degree.

Often times when a person evacuates, the stool is a tad harder than it should be, and when this happens it causes little micro-cuts. Sometimes when we pass hard stool you see blood, this is partly the reason. Now, I don't know about you, but I have gotten lemon juice in an open cut before and it hurts. Same thing is going to happen down there as well.

I often am bound up and require enemas for medical reasons. I am usually also in a constant state of dehydration as well which also causes harder stool than I would like. So, when I would take an enema, it would force me to evacuate quicker than I normally would causing these micro-cuts. Then I would have the same problem as you.

So let me see if I can explain a little better here. You have these micro-cuts already due to your earlier evacuation. Then later you have anal sex. Now, the cuts are already there, so when you have anal sex you just irritate and make the cuts larger than they already are. It's sort of like re-opening a wound, and because the tissue is already weak, it's going to tear more and irritate more quickly.

So, long story short here, a few things you can do.

1) Drink more

2) Take enemas more often

3) Leave out the lemon juice, just use plain warm water

4) Try a little anal massage prior to your enema to help loosen and relax you backside. That will make your evacuation a little easier.

Hope this helps some.

It could be the lemon juice. I know I tried a coffee enema once and it was not a good thing for me. I believe it was the acidity of the coffee that flared tissues. Luckily it was the last fill after a day or two of many fills and fun, so Prep H Suppos came in handy after that.

Mmmm, Mashie, "anal massage" sounds very nice.

I wish you lots of luck, Anne. I hope you find the right fill, fit, mix, etc., to be able to play till deliciously exhausted.

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I would recommend a 1-2 quart warm tap water or mild (castile/Ivory) soapsuds enema. In other words, I would not try to get too exotic with it and stick to the old tried and true enemas.

I'm better off without using enemas before anal sex. I find that enemas "desensatize" me most times. Weird but true. I eat healthy and my BF finds me clean even without the enemas. So we just use enemas for a relaxing afternoon of water play and not before anal sex. He, on the other hand, becomes more sensative after the enemas. So, after HIS series, I just get out the strapon and we have some fun!

Kitten {=^,^=}

Sub is not a fan of lemon juice in his enemas. I can't quite remember the why of it, but maybe the others are onto something about not using it. Just a thought Anne.

I'd stick with plain water, or mild saline. I have a small hemorrhoid from my last childbirth, and it is usually OK even after several enemas. If it gets to be too much though, there's always plain old vanilla sex, and a trip to find some OTC or Rx cream or whatever to shrink the swollen veins.

For just tender areas, after a thorough very gentle cleansing with something nice like Dove soap on the outer areas and folds, try some tea tree oil. I found it at WM in the hair aisle, ethnic hair products, I think. It is natural disinfectant AND it's simply great for healing almost anything. I have used it on my vulva after rough sex, and had nothing to notice the next morning.

Drinking more water throughout the day really is the best way to not have to strain so the hemis are able to unswell and heal.

Lemon juice added to an enema is an established "punishment enema" technique as they can induce severe cramps. I guess if you do them all the time you might not notice as much, but I have found them to be so uncomfortable to the sub that I very rarely use them at all. Like ever. And it does cause extreme anal sensitivity afterwards for quite a while. So...unless you've been an extraordinarily "bad girl" and its justified I'd stay completely away from the lemon juice.

As a precursor to anal sex just use tap water, or use a little Dr. Bronner's in the first bag to get a good cleanse going, then follow it with full bag rinse to get all the soap out, possibly two. I think with tap water only especially you should be in great shape for some gentle anal sex. If you still have pain, make sure you're not passing blood and might have a microcut or possibly a fissure that needs attention. Hope this helps.

After you expel, BLOT DON'T WIPE. Wiping and rubbing yourself clean can be irritating. Just blot yourself and finish off with a wet wash cloth in a blotting motion. Don't rub.

I also concur, leave out the lemon juice.

I like lemon juice because it 's nice and crampy, and doesn't have to be rinsed out like soap. But what you all said makes sense, I'll try giving it a rest. Thanks everyone.

To reduce pain associated with anal sex you might try some dildos. Start with small ones and gradually stretch the anal sphincter. That may be pleasurable in and of itself! Going slowly is key, the muscle has to be allowed to relax as it stretches

My ass hole will actually protrude when there has been too much play and need something to sooth it other than vitamin E oil. Any other ideas?

Roxxy, try a using alovera jel. It is very soothing.

Diaper rash "ointment" not cream is very effective at preventing and helping to resolve an irritated anus. If possible, apply the ointment to your "perianal" area and into the anus before starting a series of enemas and repeat the application after each exlpulsion. If you already have irritation the ointment also helps but why not try these preventive measures: Prep H ointment or better yet suppositories, alovera jel (thanks inflatable,) or just plain vasoline around and into the anus.

Hey Anne,

If you're doing enemas to prepare for anal sex then I HIGHLY recommend steering away from enemas and trying out the STREEM MASTER. It's a great douching solution that does a pretty good job of cleaning you out in a stress free way that in no way should leave you too sore to do anal. AND - it only takes half the time!

Check out this link and try it out. You'll be glad you did 😃

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Baking soda added to the enema along with (or instead of) the salt makes the water more "slippery" (a general characteristic of basic solutions); I find it significantly reduces irritation on expulsion.

Besides the active ingredients, the main difference between an ointment and a similar "creme" is that ointments are petrolatum based, and cremes are water based. Choose between them, based on whether or not you want the oil in the mix. Ointments generally persist longer, because they are not washed out as completely with the water.

Like others have said in this post aloe vera gel is great for any pain in the anal region. I use a children's nasal syringe filled with the aloe gel and shoot some inside me, as well as liberally applying it to the outside, it is very soothing. I have just started doing it this way the last few weeks. Works much better for me that prep-h, very quick relief.

My partner has never complained about discomfort. we use plenty of lube which helps it stay comfortable

Hallo Anne,

try 10 mg Bisacodyl suppos, probably 1 per quart for the desired "cramping" results.

Have fun,

onlicki

A and D is very soothing and protective, and it has a petrolatum base. Get it OTC in the drugstore. Your ass will thank you. It does smell like strained carrots baby food, but that has its own charm if you can catch the attitude. My husband uses it daily and swears by it to keep his ass in top condition.

I am not following you waterbaby, honest, lol. Just to add in another 2 of my cents to this topic here, but.........

I happen to highly agree with waterbaby. A and D ointment is a fantastic product. I have used it since I was a kid, and I personally love the smell of it. I think it has a light sort of clean smell.

By law, we have to wash our hands between every patient or every third and use hand sanitizer in between. Well, being half Irish, fair skinned, with Ohio's harsh winters, (usually, apparently not this year, thank goodness), washing your hands that much eats them up, and using hand sanitizer makes them raw twice as fast as soap does. It would feel better if I just poured strait alcohol on them instead sometimes I think. Grrrr.

Anyway, they now sell A and D in little tubes that you can carry in your purse, or in my case my lab coat pocked, it also comes in jars too. I can't even begin to tell you how good it feels on my hands after washing them between each person. It's so soothing. It's also pretty cheap and will last forever. I don't even think it really has a valid expiration date on it, meaning the FDA probably requires one, but I have had one of the larger tubs for over 15 years and it still works as good as the day I opened it. A little dab will do ya, so it will last you a fairly long time. It's well worth the few bucks that's for sure.

Thanks for the idea waterbaby.

Mashie

I have taken very many enemas. My advice is to use canola oil for lube. It has amazing lasting ability.Gentle cleaning with cocoa butter lotion works great.

I haven't encountered this in my many years of giving enemas, that is a puzzle. I am wondering if it's the lemon juice.

Second the motion on the baking soda, it does make the water softer/"slicker". We use Prep H ointment as the lubricant for the nozzle, for it's staying power and soothing quality.

Straining when you expel is never a good idea. Always best to relax and let it happen in it's own time.

You can always make your procedure for erotic enemas and those meant for anal sex prep differ to best serve the desired result.

Anne B--As someone else has already beat me to the draw, I will add that I too have mile hemorrhoids and have found the use of Preparation H as an enema lubricant to be very effective. Of course as you usually do, you have to wait a while before enjoying your sex session. What I suggest is planning your session in the morning and using the Prep H the night before (inside and out). I have had relief overnight. Above all, skip the lemon juice. Bottoms up and have fun.

Anne B hasn't been on for 4 years.

It does not matter that AnneB has not been here four four years.

Other members may have the same valid question.

DITCH THE LEMON JUICE. That's part of the problem. You may also be wiping too hard after the enema.

BLOT, DON'T WIPE.

You overdid the enema!!