Would anybody want to be a virgin again?

Would anybody here want to be a virgin again ? .

i am not sure if i would . but id like to read your comments about this

thanks sherrie

I'm thinking I would not want to be. I might change the circumstances that I had lost it in. But I lost it to a really great guy who is still by my side. 😉 Interesting question gynoslave.

Why WOULD I want to be a virgin again? Since I was a child, I enjoyed masturbating and fondling myself. I loved my body and being naked and also loved the attention I got from boys. I enjoyed being with boys, even as a child when we were dressed. I spent several of my teen years wanting NOT to be a virgin any longer, which was ultimately met with success!

Not so much. I do wish I'd known then a few things that I know now. Such as:

He ain't all that.

There are plenty of fish in the sea.

Just because he took your cherry doesn't mean he can run your life.

Just because he took your cherry doesn't mean you two will end up getting married and live happily ever after.

Yes, your parents will still dislike him.

And yes, 35 years later, your sister will still run into him at the grocery store!

LadyDoc

Interesting. I agree, good question Gyno.

I have thought about this a lot actually. I actually wish I could have given the only man I have ever really loved that gift.

I have discussed it with him on multiple occasions and he always says that I am the only woman he has slept with who hasn't been a virgin, and he's so glad I wasn't. (That's his penis talking I'm sure, lol.) He says it's really not fun to take a womans virginity if you really care about them because usually it's painful for them and sex is suppose to be fun for both parties involved.

He told me that I gave him the best gift anyone has ever given him, the one he holds most dear, the one he cherishes most of all, and that's my heart. His words, not mine. Is it any wonder why I love that man so much? Oy.

Mixed feelings there from you ladies, if you don't mind a mere cherry picking (once only) male butting in.

No one believes me when I say that we were both virgin when we married. I knew nothing (or at least I wasn't entirely sure - AT 19!!!!! - in an all boy strict religious family) and we had, for religious reasons at the time, never touched anywhere 'private'.

Wow, what a first night that was. I guess she'd been reading a book or two because it was the first of 53 years (so far) of mainly mutual orgasms. We're totally atheist now but if there was a God I'd likely thank Him 'cos I don't think it did us any harm to wait. Oh, and no it didn't hurt and if KY was around we didn't know about it.

Now these are different times and my how they have changed! I certainly don't decry anyone who takes the plunge, so to speak, outside of marriage. But I do think that taking or losing one's virginity is quite a step to take and not one to be taken lightly. By that I mean that this old fashioned codger (old man) thinks there should be a stable relationship before one does the deed. OK, not all seemingly stable relationships stay the course and that is maybe to be regretted but at the time it should be a step taken with love.

Maybe these are words which seem strange from a playdoc of my experience, in terms of years, in the scene. I make no apologies!

Oh there you go again Mashie, two trains on the same track! I've often thought the same about me and partnersub, but even more where children are concerned. How I wish that we could have shared that most wonderful experience together. .

Your guy is right, a freely given heart is the greatest gift anyone can receive.

Play On!

LadyDoc

PS BigK, you're right too. If I had to do it all over again, I would have waited longer.

I can not speak for the Great Ladies in this World of mine, but the loss of my male virginity opened my eyes to a new great World of discovery. It made my futile self gratification all mean so much more and built a lot of the hungers that developed my Adult Sex Life. I still dream every so often about the older young lady that took me around the world that night and she will always dwell in a very special place in my heart. Lynn I still remember you 🌹 , and will always love you for the gift of my life.

A little short reply i thought i should add to this topic .

i waited till i was 17 to loose my virginity to the man i married a year later . i am just saying that i think girls loose it to early due to peer's and what their friends are doing . i had no idea what sex was or how to do it . i didn't know anything about sex to tell the truth but i used to get a tingle feeling in my vaginal area so i used to play with my clit till i cum but i was not taught anything about sex at school due to being hard of hearing I'm almost deaf by the way so i was always in and out of hospitals. until i was 15 .

i also worked it out the other day i started my period on the 1st of august 2002 . i cant for get this date as it was my sisters birthday and i thought i was going to die . cos my sister and mum never told me i was going to bleed once a month . i still can not answer if id like to be a virgin again. except my husband often says to me he wished he didn't wear a condom when he took my virginity .

I'm lucky i have a very devoted partner . i am very please i have found a fetish i enjoy and a site with some great people too who share the same feelings . its nice to know I'm not alone so to speak . much respect for big K .

Great replies Ladies, Big K. Thanks, and NO, I would not want to go back to my "virgin" days. My nurse wife and I dated for 5 years prior to marriage, so we "learned and experimented" together. Since we were the "first" for each other, we have enjoyed the times. This year will be 49! It gets better with age, believe me.

Congratulations red2qt. What a great life you've had together.

Just saw a program on things in china . if a girl has been married and get a divorce when they meet another guy they sometimes get their virginity repaired so when they go to bed with the new husband they get to take the virginity .

I'm sure that's a legitimate custom in some cultures, and in a way I guess it makes sense. I think some men harbor a secret fantasy that every girl they go to bed with is a virgin. But in reality, surely they must know that if there was a marriage before, chances are good that the fruit is long off the vine.

A nip here, a tuck there. If only it was that easy!

Play On!

LadyDoc

Yes I would ... but I was a virgin when I got married, and so was my hubby (I was 22, he 23) .... our honeymoon was a disaster because all we knew about consumating the act was what we had read in magazines and what we had seen in R-rated movies. In other words, we were "sexual idiots" ... urges yes, knowledge no.

When I showed this quesiton to my husband, he concurred ... we would both love to be virgins again, but with all the knowledge we now have about the realistic expectations of how we were to do things.

But to update everyone ... we have a tremendously successful romantice life now (it took us about a year to free ourselves of all our misconceptions (no pun intended) and fully enjoy each other.

Now, after some ten years, our sexual satisfactions have branched out into so many different areas ... I think that's what keeps out sexual vitality fresh. Even after 10 years, we continue to not be afraid to try something new.

I remember when I was young thinking it was the most important thing in the world do lose my virginity at the time it seemed it was something to be deathly ashamed of,would I want to be a virgin again,Probably not.That being said though I really REALLY dislike when girls have had many partners and even if they only had a few I cant stand hearing about their previous relationships.Its like "yes,I know he got there before me but please dont tell me all about it".I have been with 2 girls that were virgins when we dated and I can honestly say I wish I would have married either one of them.I actually went through a period of time where I would not date someone who was not a virgin,seeing as most girls over about 12 are not anymore these days and not feeling like going to jail I have given up on ever finding one really and know to be practical I must give this up and settle for someone who just has not been all around the proverbial block like an ice cream truck and hope she doesnt brag about her exploits to me and cause me to lose respect for her,its actually a giant part of the reason I choose to be single today.

Even at the seemingly tamest places you can put up a dating profile there has emerged the (EXTREMELY disgusting/disturbing)to me trend of polyamory/open relationships,wanting it to be ok with both of you sleeping with other people.Why have a relationship at all,if you can make love without love,I see this as seriously wrong and I run from these people like they have the plague(They probably do have something lol)I am a loyal one girl guy and I expect my partner to have the same respect for herself and for me and treat me in turn

Understand I am not exactly a prude by any means,actually quite a perv really but I have an old time way of thinking that anything regardless of how "Abnormal or kinky" to others should not be judged when in an exclusive relationship I think that is where such acts belong.There are WAY 2 many people both male and female that run around being with just anyone.I have only been with one person I have not had strong loving feelings for and I look at that as a big mistake but it was at a very messed up time in my life.I am not trying to justify it,just saying it was a mistake and I regret it anytime it comes to mind.I am a long term relationship type of guy and have spent my life in long term relationships and am extremely loyal,not being a cheater makes me myself not have a giant list of people I have been with and I am proud of this and I actually can not be with someone I dont love.I think that has allot to do with why I place so much value on this in others.Its not the old double standard I speak of.I have less respect for anyone with many partners.I do not care if they are male or female.

I wish I could go back in time when it was frowned upon to be so experienced before marriage,I have so much more respect for a girl who makes me wait and can honestly say that I am repulsed by a girl who "Knows what she is doing already" in bed.I think nearly every girl that has told me of her 1st time looks back at the experience as a bad one due to the simple fact that the majority of guys do not care and just want to get between your legs,not me.I made a giant effort and invested a giant amount of time to make sure the 2 virgins I was with were ready for the experience and to make it as pleasurable as possible.

I sometimes get flack for this attitude as if im some kind of elitist and looking down upon the people who behave in a manner that I dont approve of and in a small way I suppose this may come across that way even though I dont mean it to.In fairness to me I practice what I preach and feel strongly on this on everyone including myself,its the reason I only relly have one male friend cause he is the only guy I know besides me that is a scumbag that encourages this type of lifestyle.All my other friends are female,mostly cause I met them on date sites and they made themselves undateable in my eyes but my standards for who I will date and who I will be friends with are drastically different I have many friends who are self proclaimed "Sluts" and even use the term to describe them self openly,whenever I ask them why they would want to be a slut the answer is simple.. "Do get sex duh" is the typical answer.I can maintain a friendship with people like that but not a relationship,if your body means nothing to you and who you share it with,I cant understand you.I view it as one of the most important gifts you were born with and I think its just a downright shame and a mistake to waste it on anyone that doesnt love you on a tremendous level if you are young when you waste it you probably will not realise it till later but you will come to regret it its a near certainly.I still talk on occasion with both of the virgins I was with and I am glad to say I took my small part in taking the time to be a good and caring and loyal lover and I am extremely proud of it and always will be.Also please do understand this comes formm no thinking of a religon as I practice none to speak of I view it as a matter of self respect.

I wish I could transport my self into another era where you may not have actually waited but at least you were expected to/ashamed to have been sexually active before marriage.As I said I spent my life in long term relationships so I have done many things that many people would consider strange and my focus is not on what someone has done but with who and how many people they have done them with.I can honestly say that if I find another virgin I may do my best to never let her get away and keep our relationship perfect as I can forever if the rest of our relationship is worth continuing with and if not forever at least as long as possible.Trying to find one of datable age I gave up upon,nicknaming it "Unicorn hunting" cause I feel like im looking for something that simply does not exist,they may not be completely extinct but certainly are on the endangered list.Finding one and loving her and having her love me in turn would be one of the best things in life that could happen to me,they are treasure and what they have is something I respect way more often they they often do in this day and age,sorry for rambling,I could go on forever,its just a topic that I have given so much thought to over he years that I have allot to say on the subject.

I was a virgin until I was 21 and emotionally and sexually it was about the saddest time of my life I think. I was desperate, almost hopelessly so in trying to find a girlfriend or even just a sex-partner.

I can't ever imagine wishing to be like that again. There was nothing innocent or pure about being a virgin, it was much more a feeling of being left out and inept.

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I was a virgin until I was 21 and emotionally and sexually it was about the saddest time of my life I think. I was desperate, almost hopelessly so in trying to find a girlfriend or even just a sex-partner. I can't ever imagine wishing to be like that again. There was nothing innocent or pure about being a virgin, it was much more a feeling of being left out and inept.

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Boy do I ever know that feeling well...21 and yet I've only had 1 relationship and it never even made it as far as the "let's hold hands" phase. And yet and at the same time, as much as I am desperate, I still don't think I'd get into a sexual relationship without a committed relationship first. It's every bit as much the emotional and relational experience as the physical one I'm after. Or maybe this is just the hopeless romantic in me. 😉

Why would anyone wish to be a virgin again? Naw, give me a good slutty girl that knows what feels good! >😄

Skybear

GaijinTarento said

Boy do I ever know that feeling well...21 and yet I've only had 1 relationship and it never even made it as far as the "let's hold hands" phase. And yet and at the same time, as much as I am desperate, I still don't think I'd get into a sexual relationship without a committed relationship first. It's every bit as much the emotional and relational experience as the physical one I'm after. Or maybe this is just the hopeless romantic in me. 😉

Find a nice girl, have a few drinks, take your pants off, you'll get over it. 😁 😁 😁 😁

I still am a partial virgin at 28 years old and it really really sucks. I wish everyday that I wasn't. I have given and received oral before a couple of times but have never had intercourse. I was 23 the first time I was kissed and got a blowjob and did 69. I want to loose my virginity more than anything. But I don't want to do it with someone who might give me a disease or that I am not attracted to. I want someone that I find attractive that I know is clean to do it with. I wish that I had lost my virginity at 16 or maybe even 13 or 14. I was very very shy when It came to girls back then but I wish that a girl (someone i liked) would have just forced herself on me and gotten it over with. I really wish that a beautiful woman would ask me out on a date and then invite me back to her house and have her way with me and do everything with me.

Yes I would. I have thought about it many times. The hymen can be repaired. My first time sucked. I mean I waited until I was 17. I tried a tampon once and it hurt so bad. That was the only time anything went in me until I had sex the first time. I did it with the boy I had dated all through Junior High and High school. It hurt bad until I broke and once that happened it felt great. Only one problem. He came as soon as I broke and went soft. I remember asking myself if this was all? What was the big deal? I mean it was all over in like two minutes. I was scared to death because we didn't use protection. Then I went and got on the pill. The next time I had sex was with a girl. Much different. Then I always wondered what it would have been like to lose it to another girl.

I wouldn't want to be a virgin, especially having to go through getting my hymen torn again. That hurts so much, or at least for me the experience was painful. I kind of bled a lot, and that part was scary because I thought I was really hurt down there. I'm just glad I ended up marrying the guy who took my virginity. You hear so much about underage girls getting pregnant "that first time", and sometimes ruined for life.

Oh hell no - there's no way I would want to unring that bell. 😄

No! Sex is fun, sex is meaningful, sex emotional, I could go on and on. Over the years tastes change, sometimes are better than others. But being a virgin again....never.

I would love to be a virgin again and then lose it under circumstances where I knew as much about sex as I do now. I would know what pleases me and under what conditions. When I lost mine I really did not know what we were doing, it happened really fast, and it was not an especially enjoyable event. Afterwards when I thought about I guess I was disappointed because there was no "wow" factor, but rather a feeling like OK we have had sex. I suppose it is like wanting it both ways.

At age 59, this question is kind of hard to relate to. If there were a time machine and I could go back to when I was in my teens (horny and a virgin) and try to loose my virginity at an earlier age then yes I would do that. But overall my feeling was that loosing my virginity was something I wanted to get rid of as quickly as possible.

So no, I would not want to be a virgin again.

Not in your life! I would not wish to go through the ineptness, inconsideration (on my part) and lack of knowledge that being a virgin entails. Now, if I could keep the knowledge and wisdom I have gained over these many years, then that would be a different story!

Be a virgin again? You must be crazy. I was such an idiot when I was one. The ineptness and lack of concern for my partner was appalling. It's like would I be young again with all the naïveté? I don't think so. Life is a one way street and I wouldn't have it otherwise.

FANTASY: Would not it be kind of neat if in the first two years of high school, there could be a "boys" health class on the "taking of a virginity". Oh so wishful thinking.

No way. It took until I was 32. I'm 62 now. If I were a virgin again, I'd probably be dead before I lost it. And if I were dead, I probably wouldn't enjoy it.