Wife and I have been having threesomes for the last 25 years. They began with long-term female partners, finally evolving to, in recent years, two males with whom we've experienced incredible adventures . Several years ago we decided that we wanted it "all" (meaning enema play along with the sex), and that made the task of finding suitable partners far more challenging, but not insurmountable. I've been so fortunate to have a partner who has eagerly followed my lead in terms of the enema 'fetish' from the time we were married.
There's no doubt that in the beginning, the fetish was mine, but she was an enthusiastic learner. I can now say that without question, enema play, or "enemasex" as we refer to it, is every bit as much her fetish as mine. I observe in her those aspects that truly turn her on, she has become more conversational and expressive in those terms, and we've both learned to maximize the experience for one another.
An enema threesome, no matter the combination of gender, is the most purely erotic experience imaginable. My wife opines that there is nothing that "bares us more naked" than sharing enemas with another person. Once a level of trust has been established, the sexual energy in the room multiplies exponentially with the addition of a third. Inhibition dissolves and we revel in what we all find so incredibly erotic...
Our early bisexual threesomes were experimental, with varying levels of success, but learning experiences, all. We now find ourselves 39 years into marriage, enjoying the most sexually open and playful time of our lives. I truly believe that our love of enemasex has opened us to fully enjoy the other aspects of sex that our conservative Midwest upbringing may have prevented in our youth, and the jettison of homophobia tops that list. Such a revelation to understand that 'it's all just sex', and as a species, we're all bisexual. The degree to which one resists those impulses being the determining factor to how we choose to identify...
Bisexual threesomes have also laid jealousies to waste for us. My wife is incredible at administering sensual enemas, and an intensely erotic aspect of the threesomes for me is watching her provide the pleasure to our partner that she has gifted me all of my life. It's become my preference to focus on our third, initially... a wonderful form of foreplay for me. This is absolutely ruined porn for me, lol. I've never seen porn that replicates our scenarios. (We need to take more pictures and video, but the continual flow of water and orgasm has been distracting, to say the least.) I think my wife is very pleased to know that I masturbate to *her*pictures when I don't have the advantage of her presence.
We only have experience with two male partners. Both of these gentlemen (accurate descriptors, both are very respectful and intuitive as it comes to interaction with a married couple.) I'd met over a decade ago on either the old Nozzleville or one of the Yahoo enema groups. My wife depends on me to arrange a comfortable and safe scenario, and I take that responsibility very seriously. Our experience with bisexual female partners had evolved to two of them being "polyamorous".
My wife and I both hold a progressive world view, and this seemed a natural evolution at the outset. In practice, however, we found it fraught with pitfalls and far more complex than anticpated, finally deciding that any future sexual liaisons would have a more focused on purely sexual intent. This has proven to be the right path for many personal reasons, but, we've both agreed that avoiding personal entanglements has a positive affect on the sex. When we plan to meet a partner, we're highly aroused from the moment we begin to pack our (substantial number) of toys and drive to our neutral meeting place. There is only one focus, and our anticipation is extremely high.
My wife had a few requests of me in facilitating her comfort level for these trysts. She expressed that she could not immediately "transition" in this scenario, but thought small talk would only add to any anxiety. So, it was agreed that we would all bring robes, change in the privacy of the bathroom, then sit and have light and sexy conversation as we shared a bottle of champagne or two. We always bring our portable massage table, an IV pole from which we'll hang several 4-quart bags with a variety of nozzles, and a light-weight dressing mirror for strategic placement so no one might miss a great viewing angle of the proceeds.
This 'decoration' certainly helps to set a mood... My wife has encouraged me to select her bedroom attire, and my preference has always been for "as little as possible". She's beautifully voluptuous, so, some variant of black stocking and garter, and either nothing on top or something cupless is my consistent go-to. Both of our male partners have been outwardly enthusiasticin my choices, and I love making her feel sexy and confident.
Before our first meeting, I told our friend that I would know when my wife was sufficiently comfortable, and that my slipping her robe from her shoulders would be invitation for him to join me in caressing her. As you might imagine, our partners have been most agreeable, and this has proven such a seamless way to begin that it's become one of the only constants we maintain. From that point, the transition has been natural and spontaneous.
There is no doubt that a notable contribution to the level of eroticism for both my wife and I is watching and participating as one of us pleasures/takes pleasure from our 'guest'. She is incredibly adept at administering sensual enemas, and one of the most incredible forms of foreplay for me is to watch her administer. A night of enemasex is, by necessity, lengthy, given the time taken to fill, hold, and expel each enema, along with all of the sexual activity to accompany them, so once we've all participated in some very intense three-way oral, I encourage that the first enemas begin.
My preference is for our focus to begin with our guest. Over the years, my wife and I developed our own approach to incorporating enemas with sex, and our partners have certainly never complained about our methods 😉 We begin with her filling the bag, the three of us together in the bathroom, fondling one another playfully. Given that our partners are, like us, very experienced, they also share the heightened feeling of anticipation with this ritual. The supple feel of the big red bag, the aroma of the rubber, the look of the bag as it's bulging sides promise intense experience... and this task being performed by such a beautiful and playfully erotic partner... we stand at full attention.
The exchange of sexual pleasures ebbs and flows naturally, but there is no doubt that we are most often focused on the three of us being simultaneously interconnected. For his first enema, my wife will generally lay our partner on his back, taking her time as she lubricates him while simultaneously attending his cock with her mouth or free hand. I will move from stimulating her by sucking her breasts, rubbing her clit, to feeding him my hard cock to rub or suck. If she plans to focus on him orally while administering his enema, she generally positions him close enough to the end of the bed that she can kneel as she sucks him. I'll position the mirror so that I can see her taking him deep in her mouth as I penetrate her from behind.
This is such an erotic scene that I have to be mindful of my enthusiasm that I don't propel her into the headboard 😉. This particular scenario is often repeated when I change positions with our partner, and I find either to be equally incredible. I jokingly refer to my wife's "special".. she loves to ride the cock of the man receiving the enema. Once again, I generally save this for me until later, preferring to watch her so commandingly apply this wonderful skill to the other man. She most often takes the "reverse-cowgirl" position, as this limits the pressure on what will become a very full belly.
She's always been wildly orgasmic, and there is no sound in the world I love more than that of her orgasms. While she slowly fills him and artfully takes the full length of his cock, I will simultaneously rub her clit, suck her tits, kiss her, or anything else I can do ensure that she orgasm as long and hard as possible. Nothing more erotic for me than to aid her in a continuous flow of orgasm as her body quakes through one after the other. We're all very open to suggestion when we release our inhibitions... Just telling her to "go slow.... now... feel that big mushroom head throb inside you... squeeze it" has made her explode into orgasm so intense it takes her breath away. Meanwhile, our partner moans in ecstasy as I do the same. The sounds, sights, and smell of sex fill the room and fuel us far beyond our wildest fantasies. Indeed, this is not something I've ever seen in a XXX movie.
My wife is incredibly turned on by the M2M aspect as well, and can be as much a facilitator as I've described myself with she and our partner. She's become more assertive at vocalizing her desires over the years, and encourages us to put on a show for her. When that is her choice, it isn't long before she transitions from observer to jumping hungrily back into the fray.
A wonderful aspect of this kind of experience is that it's liberating for us in so many ways. No jealousies... I want her to be pleasured by him and he by both of us. We enter into this *together*; our partners are having sex with *us*. As a couples hobby, I can't recommend it more enthusiastically. 😉
I could certainly go on. (recounting this stuff is arousing. Ahem...) Difficult to include every experience we've shared with our partners in this space, but I hope I've conveyed the potential. If you're a couple who has considered this, I would encourage you to thoughtfully and carefully proceed. Life is too short to leave your desires unfulfilled. If you are a single woman or man who has had the same desires, I'd encourage you in the same manner. I've noticed that the classified section on forums such as this one go oddly under- populated, and often wonder why. Take a chance, you never know until you try...