How do I talk my girlfriend into her first time anal?

If they aren't into it sometimes it just won't happen. I tried for years and finally gave up. Bribery didn't even work.

Maybe watch a movie where there is a scene related to anal sex? (there are non porn movies that make such references. Example: Kingsman [2015] https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2--K85dTZxU ) & gage her response to the scene in the movie. Or you could tell her that it got YOU a little hot from that moment in the movie. & gage how she responds. I think asking your GF directly might be PUT-OFF'ish or be seen as an ULTIMATUM to some… Personally, I think most people just naturally fall into the sack & do what they think is natural or acceptable (according to their own personal viewpoint, which may or may NOT be the same as yours)… IF it was my personal situation (Which it is not. It's really your call), I'd massage her anus with an index finger (Wet your finger 1rst); making SOFT & SLOW circular motions ON her anus (NOT in her anus) ‘during’ regular intercourse (while on your sides or maybe cowgirl style)… If she doesn't SIGNAL (such as flinching or moving away from your finger) for you to STOP, maybe (judgement call?) massage a little deeper. -Like up to ‘one knuckle depth’ at the most. Do NOT push further on as if you are ‘going in’. Unless she appears to be WRITHING from your finger motions. -Do NOT get this confused with the fact that she may simply be enjoying the intercourse at the moment. If you can not ‘truly' tell, gracefully STOP with the finger…. Slide your finger AWAY from her anus. Wait for her to respond while still continuing with intercourse… Don't stop the intercourse, or you'll break the mood. Did she give you any body language? Such as pushing her ass back against your finger? Or did she grab your hand & gesture you to put it back where it was last? If she did, have the lube close by. And casually add some lube to your finger & massage it in nice and slow… Work very slow. Take 15 to 20 mins of lubing & gentle anal massage ‘IF’ the light appears to be green. Above all, do NOT rush. Maybe she only wants to feel your finger back there as of yet… Let her make the choice.

@Moppys_jalopy

Bribery works on me just sayin 😎🐾

From a woman’s point of view, if she does not want or is not into it, give it up. Some woman love anal but it is something that should not be forced on anyone.

If you catch up with Big Jane in chat ask her about her young female friends who have decided to be “AO” … anal only!

I do agree with @Moppys_jalopy and @Tillie on this matter @Wolfgirl66 , sorry…… Wife hates anything anal, she didnt even like to feel my cock near it….. if she could barb wire around her ass to prevent trespassing I think she would!

Be safe

Za

@zaboots maybe a barbed wire tattoo around her ass would be adequate protection?

She needs the cage around her ass with a small door just big enough for your snake to get through. Stay safe

I knew when I was a kid that I like the sensation in the anal area. Either you like it or you don't. Your girlfriend is probably not into it. Not every woman is into anal play.

Best advice based upon real life experience with different girlfriends is during sex, when your gal is really excited, I would reaching around and touch her anus. Some will tell you not to do that - so you can forget about anal. Others will enjoy it, and if they let you insert your finger up inside them, you can then try talking about doing more anally - though, in my case, fingering was as far as I ever got.

Some men and women, due to upbringing, religion or whatever never entertained anal as a potential erotic playground. Gentle (repeat that three times) introduction of anal stimulation may (or may not) awaken a whole new world of pleasure for them.

Tie her to the bed naked, spread eagle and face down.

Spend about an hour teasing her and playing with her ass but don't let her cum.

Then tell her if she wants to be fucked, it has to be in the ass. 😈

Having been through it, I would suggest talking with her about it, either when you're under the covers, or beforehand. If she's o.k. with having a lubricated finger, or thermometer shoved up there, slowly and gently, then you can hopefully move forward. I've had girlfriends who loved anal sex, and a few others who wouldn't even allow me to touch their ass. Without any exceptions, I've always found that if you can't play with their ass, then you're going to have a boring relationship, both in and out of the bedroom.

By volunteering to let her peg you first. It's called quid pro quo, what's good for the goose is good for the gander.

Tie her to the bed naked, spread eagle and face down.

Spend about an hour teasing her and playing with her ass but don't let her cum.

Then tell her if she wants to be fucked, it has to be in the ass. 😈

If that would have happened to me…there would be no sex ever again!

To connect anal sex, a new experience, with something negative like this would only reinforce it as a negative experience…not a positive. You want the first time to go smoothly and willingly. I do not see this scenario as that.

Maybe if anal has been a part of your regular sexual experiences it would work. But not as an introduction to anal sex.

I was dating a co-worker some years ago for a month or so. I took her home one night and we started to have sex. I did not have a condum so I was cautious and withdrew. Then I entered her back door. She did not protest but did not want to see me again. I find most women do not like anal sex, not even a finger

Tie her to the bed naked, spread eagle and face down.

Spend about an hour teasing her and playing with her ass but don't let her cum.

Then tell her if she wants to be fucked, it has to be in the ass. 😈

@SirKinky Great approach, I assume the gal is submissive and adventurous by allowing you to tie her to the bed. You need to add a lashing with a deer skinned flogger and make her beg you to take her in the ass!!! 😈😈😈😈. I bet she'd love the whole scenario!!!! 😄

Have you tried just eating her ass and go from there?

Get a strap-on about the size of your dick, and get her to do you first. Might even get her to help with the clean-out enema before hand. And, of course, the fingering to relax things. Then, when she sees how much you enjoy it, she'll probably be more open to trying it herself. And, if not, look at all the enjoyment you got.

If that would have happened to me…there would be no sex ever again!

To connect anal sex, a new experience, with something negative like this would only reinforce it as a negative experience…not a positive. You want the first time to go smoothly and willingly. I do not see this scenario as that.

Maybe if anal has been a part of your regular sexual experiences it would work. But not as an introduction to anal sex.

@MissStress Methinks thou dost assume too much. 😉 There is nothing negative in what I suggested except the way you took it. 😧

@SirKinky Great approach, I assume the gal is submissive and adventurous by allowing you to tie her to the bed. You need to add a lashing with a deer skinned flogger and make her beg you to take her in the ass!!! 😈😈😈😈. I bet she'd love the whole scenario!!!! 😄

Maybe not necessarily submissive, but definitely adventurous enough to let you tie her up and also play with her ass. After an hour of teasing one would hope she would be practically begging and her ass would be sufficiently loosened that it wouldn't be painful. I would hope she loved it, that is the point after all.

. After an hour of teasing one would hope she would be practically begging and her ass would be sufficiently loosened that it wouldn't be painful. I would hope she loved it, that is the point after all.

I’ll bet she would love it. Gateway to many more wonderful butt play scenes.

Maybe not necessarily submissive, but definitely adventurous enough to let you tie her up and also play with her ass. After an hour of teasing one would hope she would be practically begging and her ass would be sufficiently loosened that it wouldn't be painful. I would hope she loved it, that is the point after all.

There was no mention of consent.

No mention of any warm up to the idea of anal.

I can't be the only one not reading no mention of positive reinforcement to even try doing anal.

No means NO. Move on.

This may sound like the sisterhood ganging up but some girls like anal and some don't. Some like vanilla sex and some like it spicy.

Therefore should a woman is not warming towards anal, then let it go. It is her decision and it has to be consensual.

The same for when the roles are in reverse as that intimacy requires both along the same line.

There was no mention of consent.

No mention of any warm up to the idea of anal.

I can't be the only one not reading no mention of positive reinforcement to even try doing anal.

Seriously?! Consent is ALWAYS a given! It's a fair bet that 90% of what is written here on zity makes no mention of consent but I don't see comments saying where's the consent. “No” or “Stop” (vanilla) or a safe word (kinky) should ALWAYS stop what ever is going on. As to warming up and positive reinforcement, we have all at one time or another tried something new without discussing it first, you start slow, proceed slow and pay attention to how your partner is responding. I think the hour long tease and play takes care of that. I also said IF she wants to be fucked, not she WILL be fucked. You read more into it than was there applying your own bias.

Also for the record, I did this with one woman. The only difference was she was on her back instead of her belly. It was her second time. Her first time was horrific for her, her then boyfriend had tried the “oops it slipped" and he ripped her. She still has a scar. To say she was apprehensive would be an understatement.

I spent over an hour teasing and caressing her with lips, tongue, fingers, toys and a soft fur. Probably took me over 20 minutes just to get the first finger in starting with just the pad of the finger and gradually working in further. Long story short, she soaked the sheets and asked for more.

@SirKinky you didn't mention this in your previous post…

I spent over an hour teasing and caressing her with lips, tongue, fingers, toys and a soft fur. Probably took me over 20 minutes just to get the first finger in starting with just the pad of the finger and gradually working in further. Long story short, she soaked the sheets and asked for more.

which I read much differently than you may have intended. But I am reading it as a female and as such giving my reaction to being put in such a situation. Take it as you like, but the question in this topic is “How do I talk my girlfriend into her first time anal?”. To understand how to approach or act on possibly getting anal action with a female. You might want to listen to how a female sees things. Not just disregarding those thoughts on technicalities or just personal disgust with those opinions.

No means NO. Move on.

I tried to get my wife into anything anal decades ago. She couldn't even tolerate a finger and hated anything back there especially enemas. It was apparent no did mean no and it never happened. Lots of girls do like anal and you never know until you try. If they say stop though, that's the end of it.

@SirKinky you didn't mention this in your previous post…which I read much differently than you may have intended. But I am reading it as a female and as such giving my reaction to being put in such a situation. Take it as you like, but the question in this topic is “How do I talk my girlfriend into her first time anal?”. To understand how to approach or act on possibly getting anal action with a female. You might want to listen to how a female sees things. Not just disregarding those thoughts on technicalities or just personal disgust with those opinions.

@MissStress I did mention the hour long teasing, you assumed a lack of consent in a forum where that should have been the last assumption. I do listen to females opinions, my original post was liked by at least one female, apparently she didn't take it the way you did. You opinions do not disgust me and I did not dismiss it out of technicality, I simply pointed out that you took it the wrong way. Just the opposite, you are focusing on the technicality that I didn't go into specifics on the hour long teasing.

@MissStress Methinks thou dost assume too much. 😉 There is nothing negative in what I suggested except the way you took it. 😧

@Tillie: No means NO. Move on.

Yup! As I discovered with my first wife who loved sex, lots of sex, but it all had to be missionary position sex with no reaching around to her anus… Anything else was perverted and abhorrent to her.