How do I talk my girlfriend into her first time anal?

How did you talk your girfried into anal? 😃

I`ve been barking up that tree for a while now. She has hd anal a couple times, but isnt really sure how she felt about it. The couple times she had it, it was rough and she was kinda not aroused by it, and I would have to agree to some degree. I want to now be so aggressive about it, and want her to enjoy it. Also she was kinda interested in the fact that to some degree I might not have to use a condom, but most likely still would, just heavily lubricated. Still working on it, if someone has some better ideas let me know!!

I have found that just asking if she would like to try it works. I have even had women ask me to do it to them. If it's the first time for her, just make sure to go slow and use plenty of lube.

I just ask, some say yes, other no....some nos became yes.....some yes repeats others were jus one time wonders...

I use to ask all the time, and got no everytime. Now I wait for the realy horny time of the month to even have a chance. If I time it right, I get a well ok almost every time.

My wife left me do it several years ago and she said it hurt her really bad. So guess what she says no now every time. I just wish i had gone slower the first time and used more lube. Maybe it would have felt better and we would now be doing it. Maybe one of these days?

dr62bob

I can get the wife into ass play any time. Toys yep...Actual anal sex...no chance

The first contact happened when we were both a little drunk. We were playing around a little bit and I teased her a little bit with my finger. Once she was really relaxed I slowly inserted my finger. At first she didn't realize what happened, and once she realized she wanted me to pull out. The next day we talked about it when we were sober. She decided that she wants to try it, but only when she is sober. That same evening we went to bed early. This time she new what was going to happen and after the foreplay I again slowly inserted my finger. She actually really liked it. It was a great evening. We continued playing for the next few weeks before we tried anal sex. Once she could relax and stretch enough so it wouldn't hurt we tried it and she liked it 😃

Atbj I like your technique and approach.

This is one method I've used that has worked with a few ladies that have graced me with the pleasures of intimacy. I am "not" claiming to be a sexologist, doctor, or such. This is not meant to be "absolutely" correct method, but it has worked for me in the past.

I would say first you should do all the things you know she likes. Make sure you've got her good, hot, and horny. (NOTE: She most likely would want to have had some "really hot" intercourse before you ever attempt to enter her anally.)

After intercourse, eat her out some more til she's smokin' hot with lust, while she's laying on her side or on all fours. Next, wet her anus with her own juices that you gathered up with your hand or use your tongue. Make soft, small wet circles around her anus with your finger or tongue. If she moans with pleasure and doesn't say, "Get the f#@k out of there right now!!!", you may be on your way to a very pleasurable experience, provided you don't rush her. (Warning: You may "not" get it that night!) Just let her give you the signals. Ask her if she likes what you are doing? Think about "her" pleasure. Try to get her even more aroused, if so far she's liking it.

Regardless, if she wants to try something else, then give her what she wants. She may be more open to anally explore further the next time you have sex with her. Shows her that you respect her limits and are not just after your own sexual gratification.

Okay. After the finger/tongue session, let's say she still feels like exploring anal sensations that evening with you. Maybe it's time for some real lubricant after that. Gently work a finger up there with plenty of lube. Does she like it? Yes? Good. Take your time (at least 15 more minutes or more. She's a virgin back there possibly.)

Above all, try to keep her clit stimulated throughout your session. If all is still good with her, try to get your lubed-up thumb up her anus very slowly and rhythmically after you have gently removed your finger from the area. Maybe she'd prefer a very small, well-lubed smooth-shaped toy up her anus. Above all, keep stimulation enjoyable, especially on her clitoris. Maybe initiate intercourse with her while you have a very small toy in her anus or your thumb. Again, make sure she is well lubed! Make sure she is still finding the experience pleasurable.

Next, make sure your erection is "extremely" hard. Position yourselves into the spooning position or have her lay flat on her tummy. Remove your thumb or toy from her anus gently. Add more lube to her anus! Gently, but firmly press the head of your cock against the entrance of her anus without entering. Just press the head of your cock against her anus firmly enough for her to know you are there. Make sure you aim right!

Now, wait a couple of minutes while still applying a small amount of pressure. Next, make small in/out motions against her anus "without" penetrating her anus. Watch her body language. Listen to her moans. If she's enjoying this motion, then firmly, in a single motion fully push the head of you cock into her anus.

Now wait! Keep a firm pressure against her anus with your cock head inside of her without moving in deeper yet. Let her get used to the sensation for a few minutes. When she appears to be somewhat accepting of it, make a few slow insertions of only about an inch deep. Again, watch her body language and listen to her moans. After her anus starts to relax, make your cock jabs a little faster going into her "no deeper" than an inch. Keep a steady pace. Her anus should open up a little more from this motion.

Next, when her anus opens up a little more yet again, push your cock up into her another whole inch further. And again, slow down your jabs till you feel her ass muscles open up further. After she relaxes her ass a bit more, you can jab a little faster, making sure you are only going two inches deep in/out of her anus. Once she's relaxed enough at this interval, it's time put it in considerably deeper. Maybe about half of your cock's length in one slow firm steady movement. Stop and wait for her to relax before going back into motion.

Once inside to that point, go slow again till she is good with it like that. Afterwards, you can go at a medium steady pace with your cock half way home. When her ass opens up a little more again, you can push it home! Then stop again, while keeping your cock firmly and fully planted inside her for a minute or more depending on the lady's preference. Then go slow, deep, and all the way at a steady pace.

Once she is rocking rhythmically with pleasure to the sensation of your cock, go a bit faster. Watch her body language and listen to her moans to gauge from there if you should still go faster and/or harder.

I used to hear "exit only" whenever I tried to bring it up...over time I've taken every opportunity to rub, lick, or touch...but only when she is extremely aroused. Lately, just prior to her orgasm, I have been able to slip a finger in (not far, but penetration is penetration). It has seemed to take her orgasm to new levels so I'm not going to give up just yet...

Start with some gentle finger play and see how she reacts

My girl and I were having sex and I was on top...her legs on my shoulders...we were both incredibly turned on and I was giving her nice long thrusts...my cock came out of her sloshing pussy and rested on her anus...she pulled me closer and I asked if I could she said yes...I slowly entered her and before you knew it we both had mind blowing orgasms...

So I'm gonna give a girls viwe on this. I used to tell my boyfriend no anytime he brought it up. Neither of us had done it and he really wanted to try. He attempted to slip it in a few times but always failed. Well one time we were doing doggie and he managed to successfully slip it in.=, even though it was an accident. It hurt at first, but then felt AMAZING!!! Now it's one of my favorite things to do. I'm so glad he "acidently" did it.

I tried it once with my wife and she hates it. Had an ex gf who loved it so in summary if she wants to she wants to if not your out of luck

If your penis is 6 inches or longer,or 1.25 inches or thicker your girlfriend is going to be in for some pain her first time. Tell her you love her and you want to do something special.Say that you know anal is slightly painful, but you wil be very careful, and you will stop if it gets too painful,and you will enter her very slowly. Say that slight sexual pain can feel sweet when done with love,and you want to make her feel like she never has before.If your smaller than above described, still go slow at first(savor it),If you ram her when she has never had it before, she might not ever let you do it again

Make sure to lick it beforehand to get her relaxed. Use plenty of lube. Start slow and gently. If you're big or she's extra tight definitely start with a small toy or finger.

Every girl likes anal....it just depends on how it's done

The way it was done with me in the past ( I like it, but never been asked to go for it) is he got me really horny. Extra hot and bothered, almost to the point where I can't stand how much I need to) cum. He then ran his hand up and down my leg, my thigh, moving up to my butt, but very casually, not making a bid deal out of it. He'd move on to playing with my pussy, while we kissed or he'd be kissing my neck ( a huge turn on for me) and slipping his finger in and out, lubing it , if you will. then he ever so gradually moved towards my anus, it was so gradual and his other hand was busy and we were kissing so i really didn't notice it. anyway long story short, he took his time, at first touching it just a tad to gauge my reaction ( I liked anal, he didn't know it though) then when I didn't protest he applied more pressure, and more and more until eventually his finger was inside. then he slipped inside me (not anal) and as I orgasmed he used that moment to slide himself inside me, but I was feeling so good and him being inside just intensified the orgasm. Sorry for the long post, but something to try 😃

My gf has let me a couple of times bu hasnt let me since and she liked it one time she said it was good but since then I have tried to slowly work my way in and just get shutdown!

Be loving and gentle and go slow with her! Also, talk to her while doing it, works for my girl!

I think that my wife would like to try it but has been afraid. We have come very cose to having anal sex and I feel that it might happen soon. We don't really discuss it, but I can tell that she would like to experience it.

Just keep asking. With my first wife her ex forced it on her so i was never able to touch her ass. The only thing that i was able to do was give her a enema. Now with my current wife she loves it. So depending on her prior experience or what she has learned from her girlfriends depends on whether you get it or not.

My gf doesn't like it at all. ive tried so many times very slowly and gently but she just refuses. i'm not totally sure why. i wish she would just try it once. i would fell better if she would at least try it.

Being patient, very gentle and talking about it with the gf has worked for me. It took a while before I actually got to penetrate her but it was well worth the time put into it.

I've talked my wife into trying it a several times. She never really found it enjoyable, but for some reason I really enjoy it with he. I appreciate that shes at least attempted. I occasionally still bark up that tree but usually never get very far. Shes made the comment about it being for gay men. I think her feelings about the act plays a larger part into her dislike for it than than whether or not she would actually like it.

Karma to JohnnyCee. gents if you want to try it the first time with her, follow his advice - it is 120% on target accurate. It's a LOT of work the first time but if you screw it up you're going to hurt her and she's never going to want to try it again. DO THE WORK!

To offer a female perspective, anal sex for women does not feel good. As far as I know (or at least in my case) I have no pleasure nerves in my anus and at the very best it just feels annoying, at the worst it hurts. Sometimes wives might be willing to do it just for the pleasure of their man, but it offers no pleasurable benefits for us (at least for ME). Go easy on your wives guys, is it really THAT enjoyable that its worth making your wife go through an unpleasant experience?

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To offer a female perspective, anal sex for women does not feel good. As far as I know (or at least in my case) I have no pleasure nerves in my anus and at the very best it just feels annoying, at the worst it hurts. Sometimes wives might be willing to do it just for the pleasure of their man, but it offers no pleasurable benefits for us (at least for ME). Go easy on your wives guys, is it really THAT enjoyable that its worth making your wife go through an unpleasant experience?

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Sorry Peaches I think that you are one of many women who have decided that anal is not for them, but I don't you can speak for all women, as there are other women who do like anal, as testified to by the many positive messages on this board.

I agree though that learning to like anal is a slow process. It took me several years of unhappy experiences before I met somebody who did make it nice for me.

To the original poster and to any man wanting to persuade his partner into anal, I would suggest trying it for yourself first. Only then will you really appreciate what is involved.

Everybody has lots of nerve endings around the anus, which is partly what makes it painful, but there again is the reason why people can learn to find it supremely pleasurable.

Let's face it, you know if your girl is going to give it to you or not right at the begining of your relationship. If you don't, you don't have very good communication skills.

Really? Do the ladies in Australia wear a placard on their first date that says "I like anal, fuck me now"? I'm the first girl to encourage direct communication, but that's a little over the top. For me at least, that time of exploration and "getting to know you" at the start of a relationship is like one gigantic session of foreplay, with most of your clothes on.

I think I can speak for many women in the US when I say that we would prefer the kindler, gentler approach. I recently entered a physical relationship with a man I've known for two years, but not "that way". We've talked openly and honestly about our likes and dislikes, especially where kink is concerned. He asked me if I was anal erotic and we talked bout that for a while, then he asked me if I had ever indulged in anal penetration. I was honest and said yes but only a few times. One was very pleasant, the other not so much. He asked if I was game to try it again, some day. I said I would like to, as long as he would allow me to return the favor with some strap on play. That perked him up considerable, so he's not kidding when he says he's anal erotic as well.

We figure we have lots of time, we're both in our fifties so there are no small children to interrupt us. I envision many a long, lazy afternoon in the naughty room, doing pretty much anything we please.

Guys it,s all in the way you go about it!.. Just make the first time mind Blowing and she will love it!...