Major turn-offs in the bedroom

Having a cold. Doesn't seem big except while I was having sex (and feeling really horny) I couldn't catch my breath. I could see my sub was getting close to an orgasm so I toughed it out. With each short breath I lost more interest in any orgasm. I just hoped that my sub came before I passed out.

Needless to say my sub was surprised when I had him get off of me. He wondered why I didn't say something so we could stop. I was feeling generous in that one of should be able to cum.

I must spring once more to the defence of pubic hair. It's not to be put in the same category as bad breath and poor hygiene. For me it's a real turn on, even though I won't turn up my nose at a clean shaven vagina.

Rogerio - It's not your defence of pubic hair I support - because you freely admit it's YOUR real turn on.

Yet I strongly support the defence of pubic hair and it is indeed wrong to categorise if with bad breath etc.

The choice of having, or not having, pubic hair is for the wearer (or non wearer) of same. It falls into the realm of what might be called 'Consensual', about such things (but not exclusively) as 'swallowing' and 'anal sex'.

NO ONE has the right to dictate his or her requirements to the other party, either within marriage or out. If your partner is reluctant (expressed or not) then it is your loss as a party to the contract.

Thank you BigK and Rogerio.

So now I must add that any amount of pubic hair can contribute to poor hygiene. My ex and another gal I know who both work/have worked in the dental profession have had the laughs of their lives when each reported seeing clients arrive for dental appointments with curly strands of pubic hair caught in their teeth. 😁

So now I must add that any amount of pubic hair can contribute to poor hygiene.

Well I think you are saying pubic hair is dirty @northernguy46 but that is just not true. I know I wash at least twice a day on average and if my husband is at home and we have a lot of sex I wash more often. If I was shaved I would still wash as much because being shaved is NOT cleaner. That is just a myth.

As someone who is a trimmer/shaver/waxer depending on my moods, I have to say shaved is NOT cleaner. If you wash, it all gets clean.

Cleanliness is a function of how often and how well you wash, NOT how much hair there is.

As @Amethyst and @Switchablesusie have said, there is no hygiene advantage in pubic hair removal. To have pubic hair (or not) is a style choice. The cleanliness argument is often promulgated by some who want others to conform to their particular preference, but there's no more truth in that than saying hair in general is unhygienic.

Wash, and you'll be fine.

I have never stated that I think pubic hair is in any way "dirty" or unclean. My initial post was meant to convey only that my personal preference is for a shaven pubic area - just as we all have our own preferences.

Years ago, I had a GF who asked me to keep her shaved. At one point, she repeatedly asked to shave me, until I finally gave in, knowing it would be a short matter of time, until it regrew. To my surprise, I actually liked it and have been clean-shaven ever since.

Additionally, I later had prostate surgery and now have less than 100% bladder control and must wear "guards" as we men call our absorbent pads. If I did have pubic hair, it would absorb urine and, in my particular case, would be less than hygienic.

Furthermore, Amethyst, you would likely consider yourself as unclean before I would. Female urine contains pheromones that to a male are an attractant and a turn-on factor . . . and, as mentioned in another thread, I've happily given oral to one former GF while she menstruated.

@northernguy46 said

I have never stated that I think pubic hair is in any way "dirty" or unclean. My initial post was meant to convey only that my personal preference is for a shaven pubic area - just as we all have our own preferences.

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Additionally, I later had prostate surgery and now have less than 100% bladder control and must wear "guards" as we men call our absorbent pads. If I did have pubic hair, it would absorb urine and, in my particular case, would be less than hygienic.

Thank you for the clarification. Your initial comment immediately following that of @DAW appeared to convey a different meaning, seeming to imply pubic hair is, for people in general, a hygiene issue categorised with bad breath and body odour.

Your personal situation is unfortunate, and I can understand that pubic hair removal might be advantageous for hygiene in your case.

Mhmmm there's a pretty common theme here. Bad breath has got to be the worst . Not showering well, I mean cleaning every crack and crevice . I cannot stand body odor. Soap is fine no need for a bunch of perfumey shit as afterwards we will most likely shower and then can smell pretty . I am not a pubic hair fan, never have been. Never will be. And the absolute biggest turn off for me is talking about disgusting things I get grossed out easily . If you mention gagging blowjobs and swallowing a gallon load it's over. Also sometimes just cuddling and closeness is the best intimacy there is. I am very sexual but there are times that just being in the presence is beautiful. I love falling asleep with cookie on the phone and waking up hours later and she's still there. It is a bond that brings us very close . Ok I got distracted by a shiny object ....

1 no nasty breath

2 clean your ass literally

3 don't tell me about fellatio gagging porn

4 keep that shit trimmed or shaved

5 and don't grunt like a tennis player!

6 and ding ding ding ding nobody has mentioned this .....clean your ears!

Carry on 😁

submissivlee

I think gagging would be a turn off for everyone

I would make myself a difference between accidental events and those occurring out of disrespect for the partner, or negligence. It is cruel to chastise somebody for an incident he or she is already ashamed of (e.g. the poop incident mentioned below).

One of the greatest aspects of some kinky playtime, is getting away from the more common and usual way of doing things. Some call it vanilla sex. While I agree that hygiene, mutual respect, & pleasure is very important, when planning to engage in some of our kinky pastimes, it seems that we sometimes need to make some concessions.

Enema play brings about a certain set of potential issues. I'm sure this is true with certain other types of kink. If one plans for some of those contingencies, a session can be quite enjoyable and get us beyond some of our usual preferences and expectations. You never know, you might just enjoy some of the most incredible orgasms ever!

It also comes to mind that some of those spontaneous moments, especially when we were younger and carefree, occurred in far less than ideal conditions or circumstances. Perhaps we had horrific garlic breath, or the chili dogs weren't sitting so well, or maybe we just happened to be on a rocky island in the middle of the lake.

The point is, if we wait until the moment and circumstances are ideal, we might just miss out on some wild and crazy times. In my case, I refer to them as "shits and giggles". I might suspect that some of us have becum just a tad bored with having everything planned out and according to our preconceived expectations. Embrace our differences and enjoy that which you desire...even if it's only once!

My wife would agree with you Daw, Pubic hair is a major turn off for her and she feels it just traps bacteria and moisture,One of the first things she required in the bedroom was total hair removal. I should note I've been a bodybuilder since my teens so it was not that big of a adjustment for me, one of her first gifts for me was a laser hair removal package with a lifetime guarantee, I've been hair free from the neck down our entire marriage and I can't help but feel from a mental standpoint that she is the leader in our relationship, She is the only woman that was able to take total control of me and reel me in, She is beautiful smart sexy and dominant, Her confidence makes her the most intoxicating woman I ever met.

@quincy have you seen the hard core porn blowjobs that cause women or men for that matter to vomit? It is a fetish for some. That is what I meant by gagging blow jobs. Yes , some people do like them.

I know what you mean Lee that is why I won't do any BJs I would rather give oral to a woman than a man. 😃

have you seen the hard core porn blowjobs that cause women or men for that matter to vomit? It is a fetish for some.

I know what you mean Lee that is why I won't do any BJs I would rather give oral to a woman than a man. 😃

You really don't need to worry about that.

The person controlling the blowjob and everything about it is the person with the TEETH.

Don't be afraid to use them.

Besides the obvious , I also dont like pubic hair , has to be either trimmed very, very short or gone completely, chest hair is ok unless its like a wholly mammoth then its a major turn off .Talking dirty can be hot but do not use derogatory names that would end right there and then , permenently .

Kid, Quincy: While I've had numerous blow jobs I've never stuffed my penis down the partner's throat, nor did I ever have to hold her head.

(And, perhaps as a consequence, my wife loves sucking me.)

I can put up with a lot of things, but not bad hygiene

I can put up with a lot if it's something he or she really likes, and I'm a little cold to it, but there's a couple things that make me nuts, most of them based on stupid stuff from porn movies.

- Why in fucks name do men want to push the back of my head, or hold my hair as a handle, and push my head down during oral? Do they think I'm going to forget what I'm doing?

- Related to the top one. Push my head down til I gag. This one will get you bitten, so look out guys!

- Coming on my face. Too many porn movies guys. In my mouth (with a little warning, thank you) or on my boobs. I didn't spend twenty minutes putting makeup on my boobs. Come in my eyes stings, and is hard to wipe off.

- Guys who pull out of my ass, and expect me to suck them. Once again, way too many porn movies guys. My butts clean...still, guys think about it...Imagine the roles reversed, and I had my thumb up your butt, then told you to suck on it!

- If you smoke, don't even try to kiss me!!

^^^^ A number of women have posted the same things you listed and I am also in agreement with your list.

@SwitchableSusie said -

The person controlling the blowjob and everything about it is the person with the TEETH.

Don't be afraid to use them.

You can also crush their balls - 😄

Lora C, I had to laugh when I saw your post!

Yup, the person with the teeth IS the one in charge.

Crushing their balls also sends a strong message.

Getting her into doggie position, and smelling her dirty butt funk.

Bad hygiene is my number one turn out in the bedroom. If your vagina or butt smells even before we get into it, I'll just put my clothes back on and walk out of the room.

Another turn off is when a woman expects me to cum quickly without much work on her part.

No facial hair of anykind, I don't like to kiss that crap on your face.

Be clean, don't come to bed with body odor.

If you want a blowjob, make sure you wash it before.

Don't expect loving if you are very tipsy or drunk.

If you want anal, let me take control, get it in and adjust to it before you start.

Turn off the television, I do not compete with the Chicago Cubs.

Show me the same respect that I show you.

No facial hair of anykind, I don't like to kiss that crap on your face.

Be clean, don't come to bed with body odor.

If you want a blowjob, make sure you wash it before.

Don't expect loving if you are very tipsy or drunk.

If you want anal, let me take control, get it in and adjust to it before you start.

Turn off the television, I do not compete with the Chicago Cubs.

Show me the same respect that I show you.

You want EVERYTHING, don't you! 😁 😁 😁 😁

Susie. My husband has said many times that you will never whip any creature that fights laying on it's back.