Major turn-offs in the bedroom

Noticing that she's watching the clock, since she wants it all to end in time to catch last train etc.

For me, a woman who is only interested in having sex for her pleasure and will lay there assuming the guy must do all of the work. I was in a relationship with a girl who literally would have me turn her and place her into different positions, she wouldn't want to do a thing, no gyrating, no grinding, no motions whatsoever, Nor would she make any noise, just lay there and take it. It bothered me to no end because I absolutely love bringing pleasure to my partner, it's what I live for, but when it becomes an expectation to make 100% of the effort, it gets tiring after a while.

Also, someone who refuses to let me perform oral on them. I was with a woman once who outright refused to let me go down on her, I was being very gentle and slowly kissing around her hips and thighs when she squeezed her legs together locking them shut and outright refused to met me in between her thighs. After asking her a couple of questions about it, it came down to, "nope, I don't want you to, because I said so." Perhaps I should have been open-minded and understanding but it pretty much destroyed the moment for me in the way she was so shut down about it.

Smoking. I wouldn't kiss & lick an ashtray. I'm not turned on by a partner that smells or tastes like one either.

Nor am I turned on by a "dead fish" partner who simply lies there, not making a sound or moving a muscle. I like some feedback to know she's enjoying herself too.

My absolute quickest turnoff though is a loud, angry, verbally abusive partner. I've been in abusive relationships and being treated that way in the bedroom is a sure way to shut down any excitement I may have.

Major BUZZKILLS: Married Men, Smokers, Liars, Selfish or Arrogant Men, Lazy or Thoughtless, Sloppy, Rude or No Manners, BAD KISSING, Abusive, Lack Of Creativity, LOW SEX DRIVE, Vanilla Mindset, Lack of Communication, NO KINKS, Doesn't manscape or shave, Boring, Ignorant, Racist,

Polyamorous, only wants SEX as in a warm body to fuck (no thanks), Isn't Into Giving a Woman Oral Pleasure, a MALE WHORE, Cheap or Petty, Makes Phony Promises, LACK OF EYE CONTACT, Silent, Too Sarcastic, Still Hung Up On His Ex, WANTS UNSAFE SEX.....

It's a given that any man that I enjoy having sex with is sexy, smart, clean and showered, smells great, funny, playful, creative, a fantastic kisser, sincere and romantic, a very generous lover, enjoys various mutual kinks, very passionate and enthusiastic, loves to laugh, makes eye contact, takes his time, loves to please me in many different ways, loves mutual oral, enjoys erotic seduction, has strong hands, has stamina, is completely into me, is open minded and creative in bed, enjoys having sex in every room possible, spontaneous and adventurous, aggressive in bed yet can be tender, is open to suggestions, affectionate, enjoys using toys and other props, enjoys raw wild animalistic crazy sex and love making, gets completely lost in me, lets me know how to please him, loves to spoon, loves to have fun, enjoys being loud and silly at times, makes me feel like I'm the only woman he ever wants, driven by lust and erotic dark desire, is open to try new kinks, considerate, MORE AMAZING KISSING, whispers sweet or very naughty things in my ear, pays attention to my needs, wants to pleasure me in every way possible, caresses my face and stares into my eyes, likes to try every sexual position possible and then some, makes me feel special, adores and cherishes our time together, never rushes, makes me feel beautiful, works really hard at making me cum repeatedly, trully cares for me, loves to make me happy, full of surprises, is never fake or mean, and doesn't ever want to let me go.

I don't like hookups, I am not into one night stands, I don't like a "hit and run guy"...

So I always take my time in choosing the right partner by getting to know him well. I'm worth the wait !!!

Both of you should take a shower before sex, even take it together, a smelly body is a right off for me, also smoke breath makes me gag, I can understand if a women is a bit shy in the early days and don't explore much but when the shyness goes and she just lays there expecting everything done to her, that is a big bore, I want her to suggest things too, " Hey, lets do it hanging from the chandelier with a dildo up your ass", mmmmmm.

I understand for having some sight standards in the person you are looking for and he might fit a lot of them but he might not. Some of them can be worked on and changed. But you have to be realistic too or you will never find real happiness. Good luck with your search! You are going to need it, and yes you deserve it, but try to be a bit more realistic and you will find the other small stuff comes in imes.

Mashie

Anything gross and filthy. Bad smells be it breath, feces, urine or just general uncleanliness. This also includes large untended smelly bushes under the arms or down there. My ex boyfriend insisted it was manly and normal for guys so we had more than a few arguments over it till I just had enough and told him to shave hes armpits or no sex. It wasn't the reason we broke up of course.

B.O. is aweful. And those who don't make any noise. Moan loud, say my name, something!

I am a Gay "Doctor" and whether it is in the bedroom or in examining a Young Guy, the biggest turn off for me is SMEGMA..

One patient was so bad recently that I sarcasticly asked if he had been masturbating using a tub of cottage cheese.

Ratbreath and undeodorised armpits rank as second and third pet hates.

Penis piercings, are a turn off for me. and bad body smells

Men not shaving "down there" a turn off for some women? This is a new dynamic I wasn't aware of. I knew that feminine waxing was becoming the done thing these days and not all women are happy about it, at least in the UK. I can understand why, when even in lifestyle columns there are articles on how to broach the subject with your daughters. The increased visibility of pornography is cited as the cause, that it's what boys now come to expect. Fair play I suppose, if boys start to be expected to do the same.

I do not think parents need to broach the subject of shaving the genital area with their daughters or their sons for that matter. As teen-agers, they will figure that out with their peers in gym class or by talking to each other. There is no need to teach them to do that. The girls figure out shaving their legs and under arm shaving, they will also figure out if they want to shave their vulvas.

I agree with Susie, shaving was not a major life lesson I shared with my daughter. When she started developing body hair, I bought her an electric shaver and gave her a standard razor and a can of shave gel. I told her it was her choice whether to shave or not. She figured it out all by herself. I have no idea whether or not she shaves her pubic area, it's so not my business.

Bad breath and general uncleanliness especially BO and an unpleasant pussy. While it can't always be helped, farting and the smell.

Poor hygiene, smegma, body odor, bad breath and getting way too sweaty during play. Weird noises emanating from a lover can make me cringe, laugh or wish I was someplace else. A closed-mind and unwillingness to explore and play and having no passion are huge turnoffs. A man who doesn't go down, will never share my bed. If a man doesn't eat pussy well and will not take direction or if he gives up, he's not welcome in my bed. A man is who depressed, negative or angry doesn't bode well with me. A man who uses derogatory or childish words or expressions for body parts or sexual acts creeps me out and is unlikely to be asked back. The biggest turn off is a man who doesn't make sure that I have orgasmed and am satisfied. If that happens, I will pretty much demand an orgasm before he leaves. If he doesn't comply and especially if he complains about the "task" at hand, I boot him out of my life and my bed forever.

A bad attitude is an instant turn off for me in bed. Like for instance, sometimes when my man wants to have anal and I'm just not feeling able to on those nights, he acts frustrated with me and then I'm instantly un-aroused. I can't be turned on unless my partner is having a great time as well.

This topic reminded me an anecdote:

Late evening, gentleman says goodbye to lady by her front door after nice stroll.

Maybe drop in for a coffee, lady asks.

What, are you crazy, coffee in late hour is unhealthy,gentleman exclaims.

But please, please, I didn't got any coffee for almost half year ! a lady still hopes.

For me, like for my wife, the critical turn off is 18 years of our marriage, that we know each other's weak points too well and are too tired to pretend any interest in mutual sex.

For me the biggest turn off factor is childishness and naivity in woman. Opposite to lady's point of view about shower. I find it nice to feel the hot and sweaty body of a women.

Poor hygiene is a deal breaker.

Attitude is another.

Sores or other evidence of communicable disease, too.

Here are a couple of major turns offs to me, bad breath tops the list, bad smells below.

Sweaty, smelly pubic hair on guys. Keep it clean or trim it or shave it. Remember, if you like her shaved, then maybe you should try it too.

Sorry. I realize that we are all human, but farting during or prior to sex is non starter. ESP if it stinks. Gross.

^^^^ As long as the person doesn't purposely fart in your face it isn't a big deal. In case you haven't checked a biology book lately, humans are members of the animal kingdom and animals fart. No big deal.

I highly recommend you stay out of anyone's asshole. What you might find there could cause you to have a nervous breakdown. 😁 😁

Farting; if you've eaten something that you know is giving you particularly nasty gas, use the bathroom before sexual activities. Fart away, clean up and go for it!

I do not like to be spooned up behind sub and have him "rip one off". I'll just turn over and pull away. He can speak up and I or he can move so I am not in the direct line of fire. It is similar to taking a cold shower. Turns off all good thoughts in me.

Lilfirecracker..

But I like sweaty pubic hair on a female.

Umm just the essence of sex.

Hairy nasty sweaty stinky aaaccckkkk

Turn offs? Hummm... :-\\ let's see.

1) Bad breath.

2) Going down on a girl that isn't clean; and if she farts while I'm "down there" that just about finishes it off for me.

3) She wants me to hurry up so she can catch something on TV --- why bother?.

4) Quiet as a mouse.

5) Lays there like a fish.

6) Doesn't like "variety".

If I'm going to take the time to wash up to smell nice and clean for a woman; I think it would show a little consideration on her part to also be nicely bathed, shaved and very slightly scented. (Lord knows we are going to get sweaty enough in the end.) I love the smell of a woman's musk and don't want it covered up by heavy perfumes.

Has anybody else noticed that different women smell differently, each causing different hormonal reactions within you?

Hey, I think I'll start a topic on this.

This subject is too sicking to write about. If I wrote about all the things that turn me off I could not get it up for a month.

When the person is drunk, or has beer breath. The smell of beer kills all sexual moods for me. I shiver even thinking about it!

When women get some sort of a deer in the headlights look of fear on their face and freeze up for the littlest things, like kissing. Whenever this happens I have to stop and see if they want to just leave!

When the man gets tooooo clingy and won't stop smothering me with hugs, kisses, and following me around the house.

If he tells me he wants to use my back door.