Major turn-offs in the bedroom

Not being clean.

Uncleanliness.... definitely that is a HUGE turn off. I suppose if he called out another girls name, lol, that would also be a turn off (thankfully that has not happened). Feeling that I am not "enough" - that I don't provide enough as a partner.... that would also be a huge turn off for me... because I always try to be pleasing.

Cleanliness

I can't stand it when the other person insists that I do something I do not want to. Huge turn off.

Also, penis smegma. Ew.

Primary turn-off is a girl who smells like cigarettes, second is tattoos!

Talks about any religion

Turn offs are bad breath, body oder, being intoxicated, and being flabby. Being overweight is ok but rolls of floppy fat are a big turn off to r me

Assuming that what works for other women will work for me without asking or taking into account what I actually like.

Here are my turn offs

When the guy stinks (in general and/or "down there") (major BARF!!!)

When a guy doesnt know how to make me (or a woman in general) cum

When a guy doesn't know how to eat me out and eats it like a nasty sloppy dog that slobbers all over the place (another BARF)

When a guy fucks like a horny little 16 year old high school boy who just pounds away from start to finish til he cums

My biggest turn off is bad breath. I find it very hard to kiss someone who needs to brush their teeth and use some mouthwash. French kissing is real fun while you are on top pumping away- what a turn on it can be. But if the kiss isn't pleasant then it really kind of kills the whole moment.

My wife used to be a smoker and that was real tough kissing her if she had not brushed her teeth. She was very aware of it and really did try to keep her breath clean and fresh before sex. But there were those times when spontaneity kicks in and kissing was not fun for me.

Thankfully she has quite smoking and kissing is nice all the time now.

I never wanted anything to do with a smoker. I don't go around licking ashtrays, so no desire to kiss a smoker.

On occasion my wife would be concerned about her own freshness. I never found it to be a problem or even a concern for me. Parts should taste like what they are. I don't mean dirty, just natural.

My major turnoffs are: not being clean and bad breath. We nearly always start a sex session with a shower together. I wash her hair, we wash each others bodies - paying special attention to the pubic/anal areas. We towel off, brush our teeth and head for bed. If anal is on the agenda, then we give each other a couple enemas. Clean is fun !!!

I think that bye bye said it best for me but I will add to that.

1) Bad breath.

2) Going down on a girl that isn't clean; and if she farts while I'm "down there" that just about finishes it off for me.

3) She wants me to hurry up so she can catch something on TV --- why bother?.

4) Quiet as a mouse.

5) Lays there like a fish.

6) Doesn't like "variety".

7) your in it hot and heavy and she says no or stop.

😎 she starts to talk about all the things she needs to do for the next day.

9) being intoxicated.

And the biggest one of all for me is ....................

10) she shit's in bed as she is cumming !

Bad breath, general uncleanliness. I agree with the other commenters who like things to have a natural smell. Sometimes I'll meet up with guys after a day of work and I think it's understood that neither of us are going to be fresh as a daisy and that's fine, but showering within 12-24 hours is a nice courtesy, ditto brushing teeth.

Poor communication. The one time Vanilla Ex and I tried handcuffs he ended up teabagging my head into the wall. Like, dude. I'll suck your balls all you want, but you don't even normally want me to go down on you, so what the hell is this about? It was never mentioned again. He was also a fan of the jackhammer/drilling for oil/he cums and I'm just sore for an hour sex.

There IS something to be said about spontaneity, like on a hall table, or in the garage. A little grunge is acceptable under those conditions, and both my wife and I accepted that. Now the bedroom is a different story. We always planned our couplings and enjoyed our plans. Being clean and smelling fresh was and is a common courtesy. Being repulsed by the person you are about to make love to, takes the ardor right out of the equation.

My biggest turn off is when my wife interrupts foreplay and gets out of bed to fetch a towel, lubricate herself, and hands me a condom. At that point she lays back down on her back and expects me to "get on with it".

I know many will ask, "why not have these things prepared in advance"? - But that would imply that I was confident about getting lucky and almost guarantee that i wouldn't.

Blessed are the times that my wife actually gets horny and allows things to take their natural course, worrying about the cleanup later.

Our dog deciding to help us have fun.

I was just reminded of another one. Ragged fingernails/hangnails with the intention of fingering me. That's a bad ouch!

Ego. I had a partner who KNEW how to suck dick and give a handjob, just not the way it worked for me.

You have to communicate - that includes listening - to find out how your partner likes it. Any it.

Definitely a huge turn-off: lousy acting... lol

1) Hairy Guys "down there" and too much body hair!

2) Guys who ask after every move "Hey sweety you like that huh "

3) Who stop pushing after every three strokes catch breath and then three strokes Arrguh( only had one of this kind )

4) Some boys like to keep that one fingernail Long! Uggghh

5)Bad breath!

~Cookie

. . . .3) Who stop pushing after every three strokes catch breath and then three strokes Arrguh( only had one of this kind ). . . .

Someone who only does a few strokes to catch his breath must be pretty out of shape.

GET IN SHAPE GUYS!

My husband and I have been married for over 30 years. When I was dating I always thought of it as a selection process so a guy had to be attractive, have a personality that I could relate to, have good hygiene, and respect my wishes. My husband has NEVER gotten into bed with me, for sex or no sex, when he was dirty or smelly. He has taken the effort to know what I like and is respectful of my wishes. That said, I am also respectful of his. Our bedroom is always clean, fresh linen on the bed, no smelly clothes lying about, I am clean with shaved legs as well as other places, and I am wearing nice, but not always the most sexy, bed clothes--flannel PJs are a lot less sexy than lace, but they're always clean--besides they will come off anyway.

My husband is a football nut. But I hate sharing his attention with the TV.

Posts like sharbrian's and emom's paint quite a contrast and serve that not all males are men. Many are called "old boys" for a reason. Maturity, more so than age makes a difference. What sharbrian describes is not making love, it is masturbation in a vagina.

My husband is a football nut. But I hate sharing his attention with the TV.

Turn off the damn TV.

The only TV show you were allowed to watch while you have sex was the Johnny Carson Tonight Show.

Emom, you could not say it any better! One addition would be trying not to go to bed angry. My husband and are pretty good at resolving in the living room or den and making up in the bedroom. 😃)

VickiV, Bravo for you. I agree fully. Tomorrow will mark thirty years for us, and we have never gone to bed mad. That took a little work at first, as we were both in our thirties and somewhat set in our ways.

MAJOR TURN-OFFS:

Like Quincy said: Masturbation in a vagina.

When I suggest what I would like, hearing him say, "Don't tell me what to do!"

When he focuses on what makes him feel good.

When I have to undress myself if I want sex.

When he shows no response whatsoever to my new pretty lingerie.

When his idea of a good time is skipping all foreplay and seeing how quickly he can ejaculate.

When his reason for wanting sex is because: "It relaxes me and I can fall asleep quicker."

Lack of imagination and resistance to anything experimental or exploratory or time-consuming.

Never ever asking what I would like or what it would take to help me reach a climax.

Being content with always reaching an orgasm without any concern that I never do.

Everything has to be his idea: when to have sex, where, and how.

And he wonders why I sometimes "have a headache" or am "too tired"?

MAJOR TURN-OFFS:

Like Quincy said: Masturbation in a vagina.

When I suggest what I would like, hearing him say, "Don't tell me what to do!"

When he focuses on what makes him feel good.

When I have to undress myself if I want sex.

When he shows no response whatsoever to my new pretty lingerie.

When his idea of a good time is skipping all foreplay and seeing how quickly he can ejaculate.

When his reason for wanting sex is because: "It relaxes me and I can fall asleep quicker."

Lack of imagination and resistance to anything experimental or exploratory or time-consuming.

Never ever asking what I would like or what it would take to help me reach a climax.

Being content with always reaching an orgasm without any concern that I never do.

Everything has to be his idea: when to have sex, where, and how.

And he wonders why I sometimes "have a headache" or am "too tired"?

Plesse tell me this person does NOT REALLY EXIST! That he is only a conglomeration of past offences.