Boys getting spankings

In high school we were marched to the hall and paddled. The worst part about that was having to go back to class where everyone was smiling and smirking

Boys and spanking were made for each other. I'm not so sure about girls. Women earn the privilege.

Boys certainly got almost all of the spankings that I saw or heard about when I was growing up. I grew up with two brothers and no sisters so not sure what happened in families that had more girls than boys. I heard from some girl cousins that one of them had gotten one spanking while my brothers and I were spanked routinely. Getting paddled at school almost always resulted in a hard spanking at home if our parents found out. Never saw or heard of a girl getting paddled at school. If I got paddled at school, I worried the rest of the day about whether my parents would find out and what would happen when I got home.

I grew up in the 50's and 60's. My experience is that boys were spanked much more often than girls. I know of only one girl who was paddled in any of the schools I attended. Yet, boys were paddled with regularity by teachers, principals, and coaches. At home, I was spanked or paddled numerous times. While my female cousins got an occasional spanking, they got very few compared to the number I received.

Boys definitely got spanked more when I was growing up in the 70s and I think it is still true today. My wife has mentioned that moms in her church group often talk about spanking their sons, but rarely are daughters brought up.

I am guessing that boys today may not get spanked into their teens as we were in the 70s. Plenty of boys including me got paddled at school or spanked at home into our mid-teens when I was growing up. Maybe today spankings stop at a much earlier age. Any idea about what is happening today?

I am guessing that boys today may not get spanked into their teens as we were in the 70s. Plenty of boys including me got paddled at school o

I was in schools in both the US and in Belgium in the 1950's and 60's, in both public schools and Catholic schools and I can categorically state that I have never once known of, let alone seen an instance of a pupil getting a spanking, caning or being struck as a matter of punishment in any of these schools. Not even a rapping over the hand with a rule. Nor was there any expectation of getting such kind of physical punishments either. There were enough other ways of making you pay for missteps, making your young life miserable.

Now, I am not saying that all teachers were always able to contain their domineering and often foul tempered character. I was once on the receiving end of a slap in the face from a mean charactered nun who went way beyond the appropriate allowances. But that was not part of an approved method of punishment at all ... it was never part of school policies of any schools I attended that I know about.

I attended Catholic school in the 50s and 60s, one that was run by Jesuit fathers, I believe parents had to have a signed agreement authorizing their sons to receive spankings when required and in any case I believe that if parents refused the child was simply not accepted. In any case. Spankings were rarely given in class but for "serious offenses" we were sent to Father Joseph who was in charge of coporal punishment, the spankings were always administered on the bare butt with a martinet (this was in Switzerland). I received my share of spankings while at that school over a four-year period, but got a lot more at home, always bare butt or completely nude, hand, martinet, and occasionally the switch, but that was in the 1950s and 1960s and basically the norm in most homes. As my parents divorced when I was just five and my sister eight, my mother was the disciplinarian in our home, was very strict and never hesitated spanking when she felt we deserved it.

I agree that boys got most of the spankings (at school, anyway) back in the 50s and 60s. If the girls got it at all, it was usually at home. It was very seldom that a girl was sent to the Principal's office back in my day, although there were a couple of cases when girls were remanded to the girls' gym teacher (alleged to use the paddle on bare bottoms, but we could never confirm this for a fact). The boys got the wooden paddle, over trousers while bending over with hand on ankles. It was bad form to let the swats move you from "the position."

John,

What is a martinet? How is one used? Always bare bottom?

Yes miked, the martinet was always administered on bare bottom, at the Jesuit school as well as at home.

Is the martinet used bare bottom because it cannot be felt through clothing?

Most implements, such as a belt or paddle, used for discipline work effectively through jeans and underwear. I read somewhere that the birch was also used on the bare but don't know if that was always done.

Did anyone have an experience of getting spanked where the implement was ineffective through clothes?

Yes miked, the martinet was always administered on bare bottom, at the Jesuit school as well as at home.

I went to a Jesuit school as well, in Belgium for 7 (very long) years. But never once did I hear anything, let alone experience anything in the way of physical punishments. Punishments were given as writing assignments, nothing physical at all. Your hand would certainly cramp and your brain frizzle from the boredom, but that's something quite different from being whacked on a bare behind.

What years are you talking about? For me it was from 1963-1970 ... so quite long enough ago when in some countries physical punishments were still thought to be a normal part of the educational system. However, even back then, I never heard of it being done in any of the schools I attended. Not even with the Jesuits, who were actually quite enlightened about many things.

Agracier, the Jesuit school I attended in Switzerland was from 1956 to 1960 and corporal punishment there was common and widely accepted.

I am completely unbiased when it comes to the gender of the child or teenager being spanked. Both boys and girls need discipline, and that includes spanking.

I am completely unbiased when it comes to the gender of the child or teenager being spanked. Both boys and girls need discipline, and that includes spanking.

Children learn by example. If you start off by spanking them, then you are teaching and showing them that physical violence is an acceptable course of action in some situations. Children do of course need to become socialized - learn the governing rules and norms and acceptable manner of doing all sorts of things - and that requires many years of saint-like patience at the hands of parents, teachers and others ...

Discipline can be applied in many ways. Ostracizing, exclusion, limiting of privileges, rebukes, mimicry, ridicule at unacceptable behavior etc. works more fundamentally in teaching what is acceptable and not. Applying physical strength will simply teach that might makes right and that an eye for an eye is the way to settle differences or deter unwarranted behavior. Luckily, many societies and countries have become aware of this basic principle and are taking appropriate measures ...

In the 1960's my boys school gave the strap on the hands. But the ultimate threat was six on the bare bottom, given with a heavy strap in a storeroom. That punishment was feared most of all I think because of the embarrassment of the teacher seeing your penis. Not many kids got it.

It didn't matter what gender the spankee or the spankor was. If you had it comming my mom or dad would give the spanking. Age or gender was never a factor. The fact that they administered spankings with your pants down in my family made no difference either.

I think its always been a matter of boys getting it more because they're more outwardly mean to each other, rather than the typical female gossiping and the like. It seems like violence has been met with violence, while the girls behavior is harder to prove and often goes unpunished.

Regardless, most of the kids I grew up with knew that if they acted like this in school (girls and boys), they could look forward to a memorable OTK spanking at the hands of they parent. Usually the dad, then any girls who still got them past puberty (more than a few got them until 15-16) got them from their mom or another female family member. For the guys, dad's belt or a paddle on the bare proved threatening enough.

Not many parents spanked other parent's kids, but I was at a birthday party once where all the girls were being nasty to each other and all got a quick 2-3 swat spanking from the birthday girl's mom while we boys were in another room (we could hear it all very well though).

I grew up in the late 50's and 60's. I never got a formal spanking from my parents, just an occasional swat on the butt. I did know other kids that got spanked by their parents - most were boys. In the first couple of years of elementary school I remember the teacher would sometimes administer a spanking to both boys and girls. It was always laying across their lap. In the later grades it was mostly boys who got spankings, always from the principal in the office. I never got one in school until by the gym teacher in junior high. I think boys just tended to do get into more serious trouble than girls-things like fist fighting, throwing rocks at someone, etc. The exception I vividly remember was in the 6th grade. We lived in a rural area and a new elementary school opened in our neighborhood. The first week of school the principal, who was a woman, came around to all of the classrooms and talked about the new school and about how lucky we were to have a brand-new school with all of the modern amenities, and told us to proudly take care of our classroom and the other facilities.

About two weeks later someone wrote graffiti with lipstick on the walls of the girls bathroom that was situated closest to our classroom. After some investigation by a couple of teachers and the principal, two girls from my class admitted to committing the crime. The principal, whom you could tell was extremely upset, brought them to the front of the class and made them apologize to everyone. Then she announced it was time for their punishment, and that we were going to see what happens when someone writes on walls. We had an upright piano in the front corner of the classroom. She moved it away from the wall and grabbed on of the girls by the hand and led her behind the piano. The teacher also went behind the piano. Then she instructed her to bend over and place her elbows on the piano stool. Then surprisingly she asked our teacher to lift up the girls skirt and hold it up (girls weren't allowed to wear pants to school). Then, although we couldn't see what she was doing, the principal stooped down and lowered her underwear. She then proceeded to give her 4 or 5 very hard swats with the paddle. Then she told her to pull up her panties and stand to the side, facing away from the class. This same procedure was then repeated on the second girl. Then they were both sent to the bathroom to compose themselves. The principal then warned us all that now we knew the punishment for damaging school's property. I don't think there was any more writing on walls that year.

It was back 45+ yrs ago and my dad paddled boys in the family--never my sisters---we got it bare in the boys bedroom--It happened less in high school yrs but it still happened---My butt hurt plenty but it was never abusive---We only had to wait a few minutes---bare assed kneeling on the ottoman--but those minutes seemed endless--- Dad was a good dad and spanking paddling was the norm---We turned out fine so i guess it was not the worst thing for that era-----I was the oldest but always the worst at taking a paddling which embarrassed me more!

My brothers and I were 'boys' who got paddled on our bare butt from dad thru high school---It had to be something serious---and it did not happen often but it did happen to each of us til out of high school---It was bare and it hurt but it was a different era and we just figured we had it coming and it was part of dad's job to discipline us----so while it hurt our bare butts--when we got it---it was not ever considered bad or 'too much' He had a job to do--is I guess how we saw it----

My experience as re: boys/spankings today comes from being a confirmation teacher in a rural church. My experience may not be typical of urban areas---One guy age 15 was doing wheelies in the parking lot until he hit a snow bank----He had to call his dad as there was a dent--His dad was very angry and told him he would whip his butt at home----So other boys (age16) began to tease each other about guys who still got paddled/ switched----and I was surprised how many guys still got paddled or switched and clearly their friends knew about it----so it still happens at least in rural USA

My mother seemed to apply the same regime to my sister and myself. We both were spanked for the same kind of misdeeds, both on the bare, same method. My sister was however more vocal and apt at protesting than me.

My younger brother seemed to get more paddlings than my cousin- Tara, or me. i think he just got caught more often doing bad things than we did. instead of just taking his pants down and usually getting twice his age with mom's paddle (like we did), he would sometimes try to run away. he always got extras for that- sometimes double. Not only extras, but we were allowed to witness his spankings with his pants taken down1

I would say as a kid in the 50s and early 60s boys got spanked more often than girls. This might be that I hung around much more with boys than girls, but I don't think so. Spankings were certainly not a secret in the small town I grew up in, so I was aware of many girls getting spanked, but not as often as boys. It was mostly parents, of course, but teachers, parents of friends if you were over, or people like scout masters would spank. In fact I'd say they felt it was almost their obligation. I don't recall permission being sought. The only time I can recall anything about permissions was with babysitters being told.

I was in a small town high school in the early 60's--it was just accepted by everyone that our football coach had the right almost the duty--to paddled guys on the team. He paddled in the locker room so anyone in the locker room saw the guy(s) getting their naked butts paddled I hated it when younger guys were in the locker room when I got paddled---also I hated it cause it hurt my naked butt big time! I was a big guy and cioach a little guy but he sure had more arm than I had ass!

As many others have described, I too was a product of the 60's. I grew up in a structured, traditional home with a European mother that ran the show. Spankings were not something that were given quickly and accompanied by anger, yelling or scoldings. It was far more of a routine in which discussion and calm were utilized. The dynamic of accepting discipline from my mother well into my teens made me a caring, compassionate, humble person. I know this experience may be quite different from others that post here, but I suppose that's why there's 31 flavors.

Growing up 70s & 80s I got bare butt spankings from my father or care givers. I was in trouble often. However about aged 10 modesty kicked in; housekeeper punishing me noticed I was covering my front after she pulled down pants/shorts. I don't know why she needed to humiliate and embarrass me further by making me expose myself, take off my shirt, then even shoes and socks. After the OTK spanking she made me stand in front of her, scolded me more, calling my attention to being exposed. Then she touched me. While at first it was scary, by and by I became aroused. After I was confused having experienced the humiliation, pain, and my first sexual experience. I was ashamed to tell my parents. Almost a year later after a fight with my sister--I punched her hard--the housekeeper punished me again in a similar fashion. This time my sister having furtively peeked through the door to my bedroom, had seen much of my ordeal, told my parents. The housekeeper was fired.

It doesn't require a PhD in psychology to figure out why I have a spanking fetish.

Growing up with two Southern parents, two brothers, and two sisters, spankings were common in our home. As I recall, i asked mom to continue to paddle me after age 14, instead of grounding. But, I clearly remember both of my brothers not being given a choice between paddling or grounding until 16 or 17. Whether, or not, that was because of the choice that i had made, i do not know.