I was spanked as a child but never got anything near arousal from them, hated them.
As a adult, however, I realized that some of my lady friends got arousal from a moderate tanning, nothing to cause harsh pain or bruising but being bared with panties pulled down while lying across my lap.
I had one lady friend who was a fuck buddy. We’d talk on the phone and she would get turned on and say, I’m coming over.
I knew that meant she wanted some play and sex. I would get naked and wait the few minutes it would take her to arrive.
As she entered my house seeing me nude, she would immediately strip off and was ready for whatever agenda.
I varied our activities. One time it was a thorough, full body massage with massage oils and erotic photos of her lady parts, which she helped fully expose with her changing positions and poses.
Another time it was erotic enemas that she quickly agreed to and masturbated while the warm soapy water flowed in while she was in the diaper position.
The only game she was hesitant to participate in was the night I wanted to spank her, but I promised I would not cause pain that I just wanted to see her bottom reddened.
So she agreed. Lying across my lap as I sat on my couch, her white bottom easily turned red and she started to quietly moan. Then she reached under herself to find her clitoris.
Of course I noticed that she had relaxed her soft bottom so my gentle pats were having the desired affect.
I reached down between her rosy cheeks and found a very wet pussy. She felt my fingers and immediately spread her legs to give me better access.
Another evening I wanted to shave her full bush pubic hair. She was all smiles saying, Take your time. I love your fingers on my pussy.
I guess the shaving took more than a half hour and her labia and clit were fully engorged by the time I finished.
Each of these little games were culminated with great vaginal and anal sex.
Eventually light spankings and erotic enemas became our most often repeated game and she got into administering enemas to me.
We eventually parted ways without anger or any heated words and I still enjoy the photo archive of our time together.