Sexual happenings during exams

If you're a play doctor, do you like sex during exams with your patients or are you purely professional?

I like to examine women I have sex with as part of sex play now and again but that it is different with a woman who wants only a play exam and I can examine her without any sexual activity ie my trousers stay on.These rare events give me lots to wank about later even if I give impression of being totally professional at the time.Smith

I've done both. It's not always about sex although examining a woman can be very sexual.

I think the idea of sex at the end or during an exam is quite a turn on. (:

As a playdoc its great if i get sex after or during exam but i always let the patient ask the question that way it doesent put pressure on patient

Yeah definatley. or if boundaries were discussed at the start so patient and doctor both decided if sex was going to be involved.. then the doctor just does it as part of the exam or after as a little treat 😉

I always like to ask my patient before we start what she likes and wants done. I have put sexual stuff in, it is a big turn on for me as well. I can be professional as well. I do as my patient wants and needs. 😃

If you agree with the patient beforehand what is expected, then I see no problem in having sex.

I don't include sex when I'm putting together an exam unless the patient wishes to make it part of her exam. Everything is discussed before her exam and then I tailor the exam based on her interests and desires. After all it is all about her. I thoroughly enjoy being able to satisfy her needs as a patient. That really does it for me. Sex is not a necessary part of an exam but I don't turn it down either.

Okay, let's face facts here; the definition of fetish is;

an object or bodily part whose real or fantasied presence is psychologically necessary for sexual gratification and that is an object of fixation to the extent that it may interfere with complete sexual expression (thanks kindly to MerriamWebster.com).

Now, it may be that not all of us carry our medical likes to the point where we can't achieve sexual satisfaction without them. I know I have no trouble with "normal" sexual relations, and I imagine most of you are in the same boat.

Having said that, I think it's time to admit that one of the reasons we play is that it's a turn-on, bigtime! I like to say that medical play is the spice of my life, but it's just that, it's not the main course. So whether a play exam involves sex or not is up to the participants. It is not a requirement, nor should it be looked down upon by those who play for a "clinical experience" and who would never dream of incorporating sex in an exam.

When partnersub and I play, our exams always end in orgasm. They may or may not end in sexual intercourse. In other situations, I can easily envision myself maintaining an appropriate amount of clinical detachment. It all depends on the players, the situation, and the agreement that exists beforehand.

Just my humble opinion,

LadyDoc

Another karma for LadyDocIsIn, what a good answer. My medical play with people, other than my regular partner, has always been determinded in advance and we have firm lines that we are all comfortable with. So, it would depend upon your meaning of "sex". The exams always include an O (or many!), but sex may or may not happen, depending upon the situation.

Lady Teddy, Pacific Northwest, USA

Using the term "Sex" could have broad interpretations. I prefer to be more explicit and define it as "Sexual Intercourse". Each of us has a different moral standard and for some people the mere mention of arousal is enough to suggest "Sex".

Although I have played doctor with girls I have dated, I have never had sexual intercourse with a "Patient". Above all, when I play, I do so as realistically as possible. The only person who gets undressed or gets touched is the patient, without exception. Both my patient and myself do expect to be aroused, after all that is the objective. However I must maintain my composure and not allow myself to become distracted as I concentrate on providing the patient with arousal. For me, that is part of the game and my excitement, to perform as professionally as possible without allowing my arousal to show. And that is part of the game for my patients as well, they are able to be as sexy as they wish to tease me, knowing that I am not allowed to respond in anything other than a professional manner.

Most of my patients are aroused by the discomfort and invasive nature of my exams. They all desire a trip to the edge, and that is where we always go to the maximum. We may also perform sexual response testing using E-Stim, which is obviously intended to determine how far they may be stimulated. The ultimate finish is ALWAYS Orgasms for the patient.

Personally I prefer to relate intercourse not as sex, but rather as making love. 🌹

Romantic evenings are built around a prelude like a quiet dinner, followed by a bottle of wine in front of the fireplace, before withdrawing to the bedroom. I've had sex in the stirrups a few times and I was definitely aroused by the physical moment, but since I have always kept myself in context mentally as a doctor, I must admit I personally did not find it to be warm and sensuous, which is what I enjoy with love making. I have no trouble at all with performing a sensuous exam, but sexual intercourse in the cold exam room just doesn't do it for me.

Different strokes for different folks perhaps, I prefer to think that sex and MedFet are two different worlds.

As I've mentioned before a play exam should not be viewed as a sexual liason, and as the lovely Lady Teddy rightly says everything should be agreed before hand, that way there are no misunderstandings. And it is the 'patients' call on the day and they are very entitled to change their mind about any aspect of it if they so wish.

I always have lengthy discussions by email with a new 'patient' so I can determine her interests and needs, and importantly her limits.

And yes the meaning of 'sex'...In my experience virtually 100% of the women that I have met through this process want orgasm(s)or at least want to try for one during the appointment. The experience is of course sexually arousing for the woman and it allows her to experience sexual pleasure without having to reciprocate if she doesn't want to. One of my 'patients' described her experience with me as 'safe sex'

But as for the 'doctor' a man in this case...yes it is sexually arousing of course but for men of a certain age and experience perhaps more easily controlled. And focusing on the woman's pleasure tends to concentrate the mind...

But yes let's be honest some women do offer sexual favours during a play exam that is part of the enjoyment for them, but that decision is entirely their own free choice...

Dr Philip - The UK Play Doctor.

Depends on how much a relationship you have with your patient.... just patient and doc, probably keep it professional. If you were dating... well when the moment hits... : )

Our medical fetish world contains many different kinds of people, and is all the richer for it. There are those who find sex an integral part (indeed the high point) of the exam experience. For others like myself, sex is optional and usually a secondary consideration. The charge for me comes from the intimate interaction between doctor and patient, no matter which of those two roles I am playing. Some might call that charge erotic - I have no idea whether or not it is, and don't much care.

Dr Mckenzie, DrJ58 and Dr Philip all speak volumes here about what a good playdoc/patient relationship is based upon.

Dr Mckenzie refers to the differences between patient and doctor as being the criteria. If its an otherwise unrelated meeting then it should be along reasonably professional lines. If its an element within an already sexual relationship then 'all's fair in love and war'.

DrJ58 defines 'sex' in an examination or a meeting as almost anything resulting in arousal and orgasm and Sexual Intercourse as that sex which occurs in a loving relationship. He does not, usually, have sexual intercourse with a patient.

Dr Philip goes a little further in stating, as do I, that intercourse, either vaginal, anal or oral is not a requirement of any meeting. He refers though to sexual favours being offered by some patients and I think his implication is that provided they understand there is no obligation and it seems the right thing to do, that indulging is fine.

What all three admit to though is that there is inevitably 'sex' within the very context of every meeting, ranging from anticipation and procedural arousal, through to the quite deliberate sexualisation of the meeting should the patient wish to be taken to orgasm(s).

For my part I have always said that I do not have penetrative sex with any patient. OK - I have with two out of the very many but I excuse myself on the grounds that I built something of a 'loving' relationship with them. Oh, I know it's a cop out on my part but for the rest of my patient list the stricture applies.

Equally though I have always said that anything up to, but not including penetrative sex is an option, limited only by the patients own wishes.

We turn now to the knotty question of the patient 'rewarding' the doctor in some way. Well, it is a frequent offer which is made and discussions with other playdocs reveal that its not related solely to my (less than) perfect and appealing physique, lol, but more a genuine desire to thank the playdoc in some tangible way for the pleasure he has given them. But should we say 'No - this is a professional kind of relationship?'

Frankly I used to have the highest values in this direction and would always refuse. Now I'm much more relaxed about it. I still hold to my 'no penetrative sex', at least in the main. I very likely will not accept a 'reward' at the first meeting and certainly not if it seemed too much like the lady was merely 'rewarding' me rather than that she wanted to do it for her own pleasure.

What to do about some offers though is a little more perplexing. Many are the ladies who, before we ever meet for the first time, vow to perform some form of sexual act on me - though the matter has certainly not been raised - before maybe we've fixed the appointment.

Should I grasp the opportunity eagerly? Should I suspect that this lady isn't into medfet but wants a quick tumble? Should I think that she feels obligated maybe after seeing another playdoc? Should I feel I'm the hunted instead of the prey? Big lol!

Well dear reader I'm going to do what I very much always have done when arranging a meeting. That is firstly to satisfy myself that the lady understands the step she's about to take. Secondly that she knows she will be safe and her wishes scrupulously observed. Thirdly that she knows she can say STOP at any time and finally that whatever she's agreed to or promised in the run up to a meeting means nothing if her views change at any time whatsoever.

Isn't it pleasing though when a thread along such potentially contentious lines results in such wise contributions from everyone who has posted, including our esteemed and very welcome ladies!

My examinations always end with an orgasm, both as a doctor and a patient.

That would depend on a variety of things. First of all, what the patient wants and expects and, of course, whether or not we know one another well enough for actual sex to be a safe addition. With a complete stranger, not a good idea, as neither party is familiar with the other's sexual history. Also, some patients (usually those I know well) prefer to undergo a very realistic exam, then afterwards if sex is in the cards, they like to discuss the exam as a sort of foreplay, as if they're confessing to their mate and the doctor was a third party. This part, from my experience, can be as rewarding as the actual play exam. Another important factor is whether or not the two parties are attracted to one another, not necessarily just in the physical sense, but on a mental/chemistry level.

Sex is not a part of providing play exams for me. But the "patient" always leaves with a smile 😃 Orgasms, the more the better are an important part of the play, its like the icing on the cake.

For us realism and the resulting enjoyment of the play experience, there is no sex as part of the play exam. The doctor remains dressed, I am the one to get undressed. Its an intimate experience but the orgasms are on one side of the doctor patient relationship. Its that edge of things, almost entirely professional that just barely goes over the line which is so erotic.

The few intimate experiences beyond the play exam are outside the exam room and based on another context.

I think you can have both! If my wife is due for her quarterly physical… then that's what is done. If we play with our table in-between scheduled visits, anything goes!

PJ&G

As you say, it is above all a game. The examination situation must require everyone to remain in their role, one as a doctor, the other as a patient.

However, I believe that when we embark on the adventure we are not totally disinterested and everyone plans to conclude with a sexual act.

It is natural and human but I recommend to respect the rules of the game. Each thing in its time, first the consultation as professional as possible and possibly the part of sexual relation which will conclude (if the practitioner has well prepared the ground)

Never had sex during one of my visits, but as someone already said my patient always get an orgasm at the end of the visit… nor of them complained!! :-)

I think if I met a male that I trusted enough to give me a play exam, i'd expect him to offer afterwards to put his penis in my lesbian virgin vagina so I can see how it feels if I wanted to.

I think if I met a male that I trusted enough to give me a play exam, i'd expect him to offer afterwards to put his penis in my lesbian virgin vagina so I can see how it feels if I wanted to.

My exams are ALL about feeling, and raising my patient's awareness of her senses - including the myriad sensations of the Vulva and the mouth. While I don't arbitrarily include sexual contact, I do encourage my patient to respond to her feelings and instincts, and permit herself to become aroused during the exam. I foster and nurture this because it is beneficial.

As Annie 204 suggested, if I was asked, I would - clinically - penetrate her, that she might know the experience of feeling the warmth, shape and sensation of a human penis within her Vagina. My aim would be purely experiential not sexual. To serve the emotional, snesual and physical is the oblication of a caregiver/physician.

It should be noted in addition that that having a penis in the vagina, has the additional effect of displacing other internal organs. which also have an effect on sensation,

When my gf is examined, it is as realistic as possible, so no sexual intercourse during the exam. I do find her exams very arousing, so as soon as the exam is over, we do have intercourse, but that is always separate from the exam.