How do you feel about sex and masturbation?

Yes, I approve of both.

Healthy activities are to be pursued.

Part of life

sex in my opinion is, and should be for procreation, and nothing more, whilst i will admit a great many these days see sex as something for leisure, i do not have that experience, nor do i think it wise, in a civilised and polite society such baser urges should be striven to be resisted,

I wouldn't worry much about procreation. There is so bloody much of it going on that as a species, we seem to doing our best to ruin the world we live in. There is too much of a good thing and that certainly includes making new people.

So, even with so many people simply enjoying the activity for the pleasure it brings, creating enough new people never seems to be a problem, even though most people practice sex without intending to procreate.

As a species we'd be far better off finding other ways to procreate and leave sex and feelings out of the procreation business altogether. Leave sex for fun and relaxation and for getting people through all the nasty and ugly vicissitudes of life.

My views may be considered old fashioned, that is due to my bieng brought up as a young boy by my grandmother, I however think my more moral views better than todays amoral way of life,

It seems that ever since recorded history, there have always been people with this attitude, who for some reason or another, find present day (sexual) morals (be they in 200 BC, 300 AD or whatever other randomly chosen year/era) to be amoral and repugnant.

Nothing new there, even though at present our society is rapidly becoming more prudish and sexually disapproving by the year.

I love masturbation and I love sex with my trusted partners with whom I have no small amount of affection and want to share myself with in all possible ways. I do masturbate at least once a day and more often than not, and sometimes more and have no plans on stopping this bit of pleasure for myself and those I include.

finding certain thoughts, images or fetishes to be erotic, or even arousing is one thing, but one should ideally abstain from further action sexually.

If this were true, then those who adhere to this strict philosophy should NEVER look upon anything that might bring them thoughts of eroticism or arousing whatsoever. And if they find themselves experiencing any sort of pleasure while engaged in strictly procreation, then they should burn in hellfire for all eternity.

sex in my opinion is, and should be for procreation, and nothing more,

@YOLO said -

sex in my opinion is, and should be for procreation, and nothing more, whilst i will admit a great many these days see sex as something for leisure, i do not have that experience, nor do i think it wise, in a civilised and polite society such baser urges should be striven to be resisted,

as for masturbation, that i rather find to be a disgusting practice that makes me feel dirty and serves no purpose at all, far from bieng pleasurable, it is a distraction that should be discouraged,

finding certain thoughts, images or fetishes to be erotic, or even arousing is one thing, but one should ideally abstain from further action sexually.

If you believe any of that then may I ask why you are here? Is it to sit in judgment of everyone else?

I've seen what humans are capable of, and I can think of many things they do that are base. But consensual sex between people is certainly not one of them. It's natural, pleasurable, healthy, and strengthens the bond with a partner. It isn't reasonable or natural to expect, for example, a healthy couple in a relationship to live together like brother and sister. To promote that is to infantilise adults.

As for masturbation, how do expect people to learn anything about their own bodies' sexual responses if they do not explore themselves naturally at appropriate ages? And it certainly isn't healthy to suppress and bottle up natural urges that will only emerge anyway in unacceptable ways. It's far better to learn how to express one's sexual nature in constructive and appropriate ways.

Is it to sit in judgment of everyone else?

@DrZ … that would be my vote.

No i do not sit in judgment, i was merely expressing my own opinions as i feel everyone ought to have the right to do without fear of being lambasted for it, however it seems other people no longer respect the right of others to hold differing opinions, i thought the members of this board were tollerent, it seems i was wrong and therefore i feel it best i do not return

I love the feeling of letting inhibitions go, I find it very freeing and the feeling of being a slut turns me on hugely.

I love the journey to the orgasm as much as the orgasm.

I think orgasms can be a medication and more people that don't should have them.

Did I miss something about the purpose of this thread? Is the question whether or not we should have sex or masturbate or how we physically feel having one or the other. Although I accept (but not necessarily agree) with others who always turn sex into a religious question, this is how our bodies work and we all choose our own path how to enjoy it.

No i do not sit in judgment, i was merely expressing my own opinions as i feel everyone ought to have the right to do without fear of being lambasted for it, however it seems other people no longer respect the right of others to hold differing opinions, i thought the members of this board were tollerent

@YOLO - We are tolerant, but that does not mean that the statements of any member cannot be debated, be subject to counterargument by others, or be questioned. You claim to be respectful of others' opinions, and yet the moment you have someone challenge something you say, you then feel that you cannot return? Do you believe that it is wrong for someone to ask you to explain why you are here if you broadcast that you feel that people shouldn't act at all on their sexual impulses? You did post this on a sexual fetish forum, where discussion is a legitimate activity.

@YOLO said -If you believe any of that then may I ask why you are here? Is it to sit in judgment of everyone else?

I haven't seen any judgement of anyone on his part. In fact I'd rather see it as encouraging that someone with those professed ideas is here and perhaps trying to get a better idea of how others see things. It makes for interesting discussions and an examination of one's own beliefs on the matter which often helps in clarifying things.

YOLO said: sex in my opinion is, and should be for procreation, and nothing more, whilst i will admit a great many these days see sex as something for leisure, i do not have that experience, nor do i think it wise, in a civilised and polite society such baser urges should be striven to be resisted,

as for masturbation, that i rather find to be a disgusting practice that makes me feel dirty and serves no purpose at all, far from bieng pleasurable, it is a distraction that should be discouraged,

Yolo has been beaten up by many here, and while I agree with these criticisms I wish to add two things.

First, as to sex being only for reproduction, I would recall two things. First, human reproduction is inefficient and according to demographer Christopher Tietze, it requires an average of 16 matings to produce a recordable conception. Why are we so inefficient - cats just require 1 mating? The second thing is the reason for the inefficiency. In Robert A. Heinlein's book, “Stranger in a Strange Land,” earth visitor Valentine Smith calls sexual intercourse by the name “Growing Closer.” That is exactly why intercourse is inefficient - it is a mechanism for couples to enjoy each other, to demonstrate their love for each other, in other words, to grow closer, and stay close. Stable matings tend to produce successful offspring. So, evolution creates a situation that keeps mates - and families - together. In both sexes I believe it keeps us psychologically balanced by repeated touching by another human being - a psychological requirement (see Ashley Montagu's book, “Touching”).

Second, when intercourse is not available, masturbation keeps us sexually alive and active. This is important in women to maintain their bodies and sense of well-being (although I certainly would defer to women on this question). In men, occasionally emptying the prostate makes for a happier man as well as possibly reducing to some degree the risk of prostate cancer and other problems.

In sum, I disagree with YOLO and will continue to pursue a life of sex and masturbation until they fix the last screw in my coffin. I hope YOLO finds happiness, if not in the natural sexual activity that is a joy of our species, then in something else beyond sackcloth and ashes.

Both!!! Whatever relieves you from sexual stress at the moment! As they saw, it is not the journey, but the destination that counts.

@agracier said

I haven't seen any judgement of anyone on his part. In fact I'd rather see it as encouraging that someone with those professed ideas is here and perhaps trying to get a better idea of how others see things. It makes for interesting discussions and an examination of one's own beliefs on the matter which often helps in clarifying things.

Just to make it clear that he is of course entitled to hold whatever opinion he likes, and if he wishes to personally abstain from any form of sexual activity, that's up to him. He can make that choice for himself, but where I disagree with him is his idea that sexual activity between people is neither civilised or polite, and that masturbation is simply disgusting and serves no purpose. I thought the way he expressed his ideas about sex in society made him appear disapproving and possibly judgmental. There were several ways he could have said, “No, I'm not judging anyone at all, but this is the personal choice I make”, and perhaps said that he does have interests such as medical fetish but still elects not to act on them. And that would have been fine. Almost everyone would have disagreed with him, but he would have given his opinion, and that would have been fair enough. But if anyone is going to effectively say that no one should find any pleasure in sex and that everyone should be 'above' having sex in a civilised society, they should be prepared to explain the reasoning underpinning such a statement, and accept that others might want to debate it. Discussion and debate is perfectly fine on a forum.

Just to make it clear that he is of course entitled to hold whatever opinion he likes, and if he wishes to personally abstain from any form of sexual activity, that's up to him.

He gave his opinion and did not say it was for others to follow or do. Some just assumed his view was being judgemental of their opinions and personal sexual activity.

His view and other's views are not for me and my sub, but I'll let others do as they please. Whether it is abstaining or having sex multiple times a day with whatever number of partners they chose or have. It is whatever works for each individual person.

It's fun lol

As I was reading the posts on this thread today , I did have some questions about @YOLO first post.. They are legitimate questions as I was a bit confused, 1. If sex is just for procreation does that mean you don't have sex?, 2. As stated in your profile your gay? ,3, Do you visit Zity for sexual gratification? These are straight up legitimate questions as I'm very curious about the why your on a kink site and in no way is this a judgement, everyone is entitled to their own beliefs..

Thanks

🐾WG

One of the most natural things in the world.

The taboo is created by others.

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One of the most natural things in the world.

The taboo is created by others.

You're both right…