Pleasant or strict?

More strict for me, gender doesn't matter.

Now to me Mr.SJ, you do everything that I happen to find every hot and exciting, and not to mention somewhat necessary for me as a play patient and as a real one.

Not sure if it's a woman thing, or if it's a real medical professional thing, or if it's an OCD gotta be in control all the time thing, or a little of all of the above thing but, In a play situation I like my doctor to tell me everything he is doing to me as he is doing it to me and why because it's a huge turn on for me. Now when I am a real patient I not only want, but need the doctor to tell me everything he is doing to me as he does it because I have a rip roaring case of white coat syndrome. So when the doctor explains things to me as he is doing it it helps to calm me down and somewhat calms my fears a little as well. Then when he talks to me and tells me what he is doing I can better visualize what he is doing even though I can't always see what he is doing. Now there are times in play situations when I don't necessarily have to know everything all the time. I do quite enjoy being surprised once in a while too. And, the last reason in a real doctors visit that I like for the doctor to tell me everything he is doing to me as he is doing it is so that I can keep track of what he has done and what he hasn't done, that way I know if he's missed anything or not. See, I told you I had OCD, lol.

I also like both my real doctor and my play doctors to be always nice and professional. As a nurse myself I am always nice and professional as well, unless the situation calls for me to act differently and there have been some over the years. But, for the most part my doctors need to be both nice and professsional. For me, when I am being a patient, whether it's for real or for play, it is the one time when I usually will allow someone else to somewhat control me, to take the upper hand with me, to be in charge of me for a change instead of me being in charge all the time. And in order for the doctor to even get the chance to move fo-ward he just has to be both nice and professional.

I had forgotten about this incident completely until just a few minutes ago, no one knows this story, not even Doc because as I said, I had completely forgotten about it until just now. Way back when I first started venturing out and playing with others I had met this guy through UKGyn. We talked for a few months and decided to meet. If I remember correctly I met with hiim shortly after, meaning a few weeks after, my very first med fet play date with PlayDoctor. He was an older guy, mostly into enema play I believe. He was very nice, highly educated, articulated well, it was cool. He made two huge mistakes with me which caused our playdate to be over before it even started. He answered the hotel room door in scrubs which was okay, but he didn't have any shoes or socks on. While I absolutely hate feet with a passion, no shoes and no socks just totally blew the "professionalism" thing way out of the water for me, lol. Again, yes, I have some OCD issues, but even back 6 years ago when I was first starting out I knew exactly what I wanted and nothing less was going to do. I decided to try to look past that, meaning the no shoes or socks thing by telling myself that maybe he had just gottten out of the shower and just didn't have time to put his shoes and socks on yet. He was showing me around the place, was a very upscale hotel if I do say so myself. He wanted to show me all of his equipment he brought. Again, this med fet thing was still very brand spanking new to me so I was very interested in his play things. We were sitting there on the bed with his bag between us and he was pulling out each item and explaining to me what they were, what they were for, and how they were used. About half way through him pulling out all these things he pulls out a box of condoms. Then he said something to the effect of "I'll bet you know what these are?" And I said yes I did, but then I asked him "what do you use these exactly for"?

See, back in those days I never wanted to mix med fet and sex together. They were two totally different things in my mind and often still are today, or were when Doc and I used to play. If we were seriously playing med fet games, sex never entered the picture. So I explained to this guy that I wasn't there to have sex, I was there so that he could be my doctor, and so that I could be his nurse and while if he wanted to do some self gratification I was good with that, there was not going to be any sex between us because that's not how I played my med fet games. He was still somewhat cordial, but was also being curt at well. So not only wasn't he professional because he wasn't wearing any shoes or socks, now because he wasn't going to get his dick wet he became not so nice either and pretty dang quickly might I add, lol. Needless to say, I gathered my things and left.

Now after giving this some thought for a few minutes I just came to another odd realization about how I want my play doctor vs. my real doctor to be as far as professionalism is concerned. I almost have them backwards in a sense.

John is my real doctor, he is funny, likes to laugh and joke around. Hes laid back and relaxed but always dresses well and is well kempt which I wouldn't respect him if he wasn't to be honest with you. John has stepped over the line with me a few times here and there. Once when I was having him remove the stitches out of my fanny, he removed the last one and then was telling me how to care for my wound. So jokingly back at him I said something like, "geeze john, I've only been a nurse for 10 years now, I think I know what to do.....then he lightly spanked my tush on the left side and told me I was a bad nurse and needed to listen to her doctor. Then I said, "funny, that's what Doc tells me all the time too." Then he swatted my tush again and then told me I was a naughty naughty girl, lol.

Then there was another time and I was sitting up on his exam table and he was listening to my heart and lungs. John and I are pretty open and candid with each other as far as doctors and patients go, but I was talking along about something sexual concerning my health. Oh, I remember what it was now. I had a rash on my fanny that I wanted him to look at. He was asking me to describe it and what not. Then I told him I needed him to make the cream extra strong because I was going to go and see Doc in a few weeks, and then I made some sort of naughty comment back to him, something along the lines of, well "we do like to play back there and do various "other" things back in that direction. I want to make sure he's looking at a smooth and sexy bahind, not one with a rash." Then I said something else on a totally different non sexual medical topic and John started laughing and threw his hands up in the air and said, "you can't go from serious medical talk to naughty medical sex talk and then back to serious medical talk again. I'm a guy, I'm still stuck on the previous topic". LOL. And I am pretty sure he was too, lol.

Now the point I am trying to make here is that John is my real doctor and I don't mind him joking and being somewhat naughty with me during my appointments. Maybe it's because it helps to relieve some of my white coat syndrome fears and allows me to relax a bit. Maybe it's because I am allowing him to be in charge/control of me somewhat while I am there. After all, given Doc and I's circumstances, I wasn't given a choice really.

However, when Doc and I used to play our med fet games, if he would have joked around with me as John does and has done, that wouldn't make me very happy at all and probably would have ruined my part of being the patient during that protion of the game. When at play, I not only want Doc, but I need Doc to be insistant, to take the upper hand, to absolutely without a shadow of a doubt take my control from me. And he used to do one hell of a job when we did play together, he got better and better each time we played. I needed that. Hell, who am I kidding, I still need that and I will probably always need that from someone at some point. Thats for another day though I guess, lol.

Mashie

I prefer strict, but professional, male doc and possibly assisted by a strict and nosy nurse.

Strict, no doubt.

A little of both. Only strict to an extent.

I agree with a modicum of strict. I'm not looking for a D/s exam, but the examiner needs to exert positive control.

Never had an exam but if I had to chose, a little of both would be awesome. Strict throughout and pleasant in the end

I am looking for realism in play exams, so the examiner needs to capture the same personal qualities I associate with the doctors who have done physicals on me in real life. This is to be very straight-laced, nerdy, little or no personality, no warmth or charm whatsoever. I do not want the examiner to be mean or dominating but somewhat demanding and matter of fact. It works best if the examiner is middle aged or older and has very little sense of humor. I want a strictly business approach to the exam with a lot of instructions delivered in a forceful manner. I also want the examiner to have no concern for my modesty.

I would like that the doctor was very strict, but no sadistic. So I prefer a D/s relationship, but no sadistic practice. I would like to feel a lot of embarrassment, shame and humiliation, but only little of pain and discomfort.

Much more on the pleasant side for me, but still not afraid to push. What i mean is, I want my play doc to be sweet and reassuring, explain what he's going to do before he does it, even occasionally ask for permission, but if I say no, gently reassure me and try to talk me into it. There would be a safe word, and if I really mean no I would use it, but I like being gently coaxed into things that might scare me a little bit. Or... I might just be pretending to be scared. 😉

As a playdoc, I consider myself somewhere between a controlling and a nurturing/supportive play doctor (leaning towards the latter). I have found that I best get along with open minded patients who are willing to explore, but at the same time trust the doctor's judgment. This sure helps in pushing the boundaries of the patient, while at the same time making them comfortable and trusting my judgment that there will not be any procedure that will be uncomfortable beyond what they are prepared to handle.

I have had pleasant exams, but would be interested in a little more rough exam as well, although not much into bdsm per se. Restraints could be fun though!

I am just the opposite to femaleneedexam---

I must have an older doc with a very poor bedside manner

I want him to take his time but be gruff about it

Very proper to begin and drifting into a little pervy as things

progress (introducing the bdsm element if his patient is resistant

which she will most likely be)

I always establish the preferred approach with the potential patient beforehand, and can be whatever she prefers. If it's left up to me, my preferred approach is polite and professional, but at the same time direct and focused. Doctors are like anyone else, they can be very nice or they can be absolute a$$holes.

My personal experience is that most patients want a blend of the two extremes. (And most, by far, prefer a little bondage be included.)

I prefer a strict doctor who will humiliate me during my exam. Little things like "This thermometer is filthy. Haven't you been taking care of yourself?" I also need someone gruff enough to spank me during my exam.

I prefer both in a combination

Definately the latter, a very strict lady doctor, the stricter the better. Someone who would take no nonsense from me and would slap me across the face for not obeying her commands quick enough. If I cried after being slapped, she would simply slap my face again only much harder whilst yelling at me, "be quiet, at once, do you hear me" Petrified of getting a third even harder slap, I would try to cry silently while she continued to listen to my heart, chest and lungs with her stethoscope, saying very sternly as she placed the stethoscope in her ears, "right then young man, shall we try again" and silence, do you understand? Well? Yes Doctor, I would have to say, very loud and clear ( not easy to do when you really are crying ) before I was safe from getting another burning stinging slap, on yet again the same side of my face as the previous ones.

I prefer a combination of sensual(on the less clinical side) & b/d. For me, I had a few enemas & my temperature taken rectally many of times when I was growing up. So even though it really is a MEDICAL fetish... I don't really view it that way per say.... To me it's not really a lab coat or cold table spread with paper... But that could be fun too. I did not go to the doctor's office that often. & these things always happened right at home... For me it's just like old time memories flipped into a naughty more adult type erotic scenario. Then add a dash of b/d to it & I soar to new heights! Do I find a female to be very attractive in a nurses outfit? Hell yeah! But is it a big part of my fantasy? Not as often as one would think... But that's just me. Would I welcome the "nurse" scenario? Answer: yes... Would I play the doctor if my female partner wanted me to? Answer: yes... For me, I more often think of a scenario that takes place in the home rather than at a hospital. That's just my whims or such... But I am generally up for more experimentation of other such scenarios such as hospital fun etc...

Depends mostly on what my patient asks for although I do like to change my demeanor if I am feeling inclined.

A little of both as appropriate

Procedures should be as realistic as possible

And if they are the painful kind, so be it

Injections - there should be many of those - should certainly painful!

A combination, a realistic exam is boring and clinical, not at all sexual. Strict, with some light bondage, a bit uncomfortable 'for your own good' comments. Unnecessary procedures that are not medical, but appear so, nipple clamps for one example.

I am definitely a caring and gentle doc. I don't enjoy pain and I have no desire to have my patients experience it either.

I don't think they need to be mutually exclusive. I like a bit of cat and mouse. Is that really necessary? And you have to come up with a good reason that it is, but you can always fall back on the old I am the doctor answer..

I can go either way; I enjoy it either pleasant or strict.

I definitely have a preference for a strict no-nonsense doctor, yet, depending on the practitioner, I can also enjoy a softer, gentler approach to the dominance/ submission involved.

Either way though I would prefer the doctor/ nurse to have a controlling manner and expect submission.

Having a strict Doctor is definitely an instant turn on for me. Just the commands and stern requests would make me so wet. But I wouldn't necessarily want the playDoc too strict- not quite BDSM.

I like strict. My husband sometimes brings in a little bondage, especially if I squirm around during my exam.

I like a Dr. and nurse to be pleasant to me almost treat me like I'm again a little girl.

Mashie, from your post back in 2013, regarding your "white coat syndrome" I' d like to see your BP at the beginning and ending of a real exam. Mine is always about 10-15 points higher at the first reading. After I have spent time with and talked with my FP doc, he always takes my pressure again and it is always lower. (Maybe I'm hoping I'll get an "A" during my physicals.) Kinda takes me back to college days and finals.

Very strict with the male dr. In control of all painful procedures and any pleasure able experiences if he deems necessary