Enema and Anal Intercourse

^^^^ As a self proclaimed (well probably not only self proclaimed) master fister, 😁 😁 😁 😁 I have to whole-heartedly agree with Owen.

It takes time, measured on a calendar--not a watch, to teach your body to accept a fist anally. That goes for vaginally too. I still can't accept my husband's fist in my vagina (or anus) despite having had two children because his hands are just too big for me. Only women with smaller hands have been fully inside my orifices.

I agree with some who have stated here about anal sex being considered slutty.

My X thought there was something wrong with me because I loved anal sex more than vaginal.

I dated a man for quite sometime. We eventually "ended" up going to that place, he too made a comment about it. Like there was something wrong with me because I liked it so much.

Thing is, they derived as much pleasure from it as I, why was it alright for them to like it, but not me? I'll tell you why.........because it's slutty for a woman to like it, but he's king stud if the likes it.

Double standards suck.

Happens a lot.

I agree teacher 121. I've been on the reverse side of that coin. A former girlfriend loved for me to play with her back there, and to locate my penis therein, however, she would not touch my anus.

Go figure; I never really understood, and she could not (or, would not) explain it...

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I agree with the double standard you mentioned-I'm not saying that all men feel this way but you did or do get a reputation from some for being "slutty" if you partake of this activity.It's ok to do it from their standpoint but then you lose your reputation afterwards.You're the girl who'll do anything but not respected after.In this day and age it may not be as prevalent but it does still happen.I'm guessing that has always been the stopping point for me to this day but from reading other posts here I guess it's not thought of as slutty as I originally thought.It also depends on the attitude of the guy you are with and if he has any respect for you.That to me is a big issue.

*****Yes, and that's why you have to be so careful. It's also what I don't get. You get to know someone, you feel you can trust them, open up, let them in, share something you enjoy, then YOU are considered the slut when BOTH of you enjoy it. I think it's more because some folks just don't understand that it is something a woman can enjoy a lot. If you do like it then there is something wrong with you so you must just be a slut. My X husband told me time again there was something wrong with the fact I liked anal sex, more than vaginal. He stated it wasn't "natural" therefore I had the problem, not him. I understand now that there really isn't something wrong with me and I'm not a slut, I'm really very normal, just derive a lot of pleasure from anal sex.

Also, after what I went through with the X and the abuse, it has been difficult to "go there" with someone else. So, when you do get to the point of trusting someone and they burn you too, well..............enough said.

Maybe there really is something wrong with me?

Double standards are frustrating. Let's just enjoy the taste of forbidden fruit. I'll tongue your bum anytime and still kiss your upper lips as well. And we'll wink at our little secret bliss while no one in public is the wiser.

Play nice!

Teacher, I read your posts, and I must say, you have had incredibly bad luck with men. It is perfectly normal to enjoy anal sex and anal play. In fact, you are the more normal one. Other women who don’t seem to like this are really missing out on an incredible pleasure. Perhaps, someone has hurt them, or ridiculed them before, and now they have become afraid of anal sex. The nerve endings are there, waiting to receive pleasure. You are clearly one of the women who are receptive to that pleasure. As far as double standards go, you are really associating with inexperienced men, who don’t understand the pleasures of anal play. Most guys just do plain old vaginal sex, in the missionary position, probably with the lights off. So, when you come along, with your anal requests, perhaps you seem more experienced than they are, and that threatens them. What you are hearing is the complaints of insecure men, who try to make you feel bad about your sexuality. From your posts, it seems that you met someone here, and that didn’t work out either. I’m sorry to hear that. Unfortunately, many women don’t get the great sex that they really want, or deserve. They settle for whatever their man does, and they usually keep their mouth shut, even if they aren’t very happy with it. Of course, the man is getting the sex that he wants, so he has no reason to complain. But, as a woman, it’s hard to get someone who will take the time and effort to please you. So, if you are getting lousy sex, you certainly aren’t alone there. Plenty of women know how it feels, to be stuck in that situation. My advice to you is this. The next time that someone fails to show concern for your needs, or heaven forbid, calls you degrading names for your desires, do what any smart woman needs to do in that situation. Get up, walk out, and never look back! Hold you head high, and demand that all men treat you with respect, and consider your needs and pleasures. And, if any man refuses to do that, leave him immediately. It’s much better to be alone, rather than put up with abuse. Besides, when you are available again, someone will soon come along, who will treat you much better. I guarantee it!

Teacher, when you are ready you will find a man who will respect you and enjoy anal play and enemas just as much as you do. There are many here, but do be careful. Luvabag

Hey teach 121 if get that attitude from anyone i know you realize yoiu've wasted your time and thats not the way it should go but if anyone you meet cant appreciate you it is too bad so sad for them all the way around and you're right that is the way it plays out and thats the shame of it

I don't think my partner would ever enjoy fisting in either orifice... But she does sometimes really get hot if I give her a soapsuds enema on all 4's while we have regular intercourse at the same time. Or she'll after the enema is finished she hold it while we have sex. But it has to be slow sex with all that water inside. In general she can get very close to orgasm from that. But she won't continue further for fear of release of water...

Teacher121

I am in total agreement with your statements. I too have experienced what you mentioned. It takes a lot of trust for me to open up and let a woman penetrate me rectally in a manner other that with enemas and like-in-kind play. there 'was' (emphasis on the past tense) a woman a number of years ago that thoroughly enjoyed using a dildo and vibrator on me, especially when she saw the erection that I developed as a result of anal stimulation from enemas and penetration. At the time, we had known each other for several years and I was under the impression that her reticence to do anything anal other than enemas with and without sex along with mild rectal stimulation was just her being cautiously slow.

Then one night when I was deep in the throes of quivering/shaking passion with her sinking a vibrator deep into me, I gently suggested that I penetrate her anally with myself with the vibrator still in me and one in her vaginally. Her response was one of pure and complete disgusted disdain eschewing it as a perversion. Even as profoundly aroused as I was at the moment, I looked around behind me at her face and saw a very unpleasant person enjoying raping another unknowingly looking back at me, definitely 'not' the individual I thought I was involved with. I reached back, pulled out the vibrator, got up completely naked, told her to get dressed and leave....period... I removed her from my home. For me, that was a deal breaker, no matter how long we had known each other.

Like many other individuals, I consider my anal eroticism to be very special and privileged, showing complete trust/tenderness/respect, when I offer my rosebud to another, it is not to be abused or otherwise violated. To me, it is a very intimate representation of mutual trust not to dealt with lightly. It took some time for me to process that, but not as long as I anticipated, I was not about to let one individuals double standards and problems cheat me out of something so enjoyable. 😃

With regard to the initial question. Pure & simple for me, enemas are 'must' for any anal oriented sexual activities.

G.N.

I had a lady I would meet to share enemas. One night she wanted to try anal sex. She didn't want to take an enema first. We both enjoy it very much. She wanted me to believe it was her first time. I don't think it was.

When it comes to anal sex, i love any position!

If I was younger, I think I could handle anal intercourse while holding my enema. But as I've grown older, I don't think I would be as successful.... Still it sounds like an interesting combo!

I always do enemas before anal intercourse. The enemas are good for foreplay and I love receiving them and it helps me feel 'safer' when I am penetrated. I love anal. 😃

My dom lady friend likes to give a series before and makes me try to hold while she uses strapon. kinda fun stuff.

Enema is a terrific weapon to use in a dom/sub situation to prepare bottom for anal intersourse, especially male role playing.

My g/f and I do enemas all the time for pleasure and to cleanouy for analplay. One time she brought her g/f to one of our sessions and we all G/R enemas what a night that was. i found it hard to sit that night. Both of them used a strapon on me that night. Worked out good have been a 3some since.

Enemas and anal sex seem to go hand in hand, so to speak, but does any have advice about the best lubricant to use. Seems like KY is popular but it's water soluble, vaseline won't dissolve but is bad for anything made of rubber and some say it's bad for health reasons.

Anal sex is very enjoyable. I love it.

This is an arousing thread. Great Post. One of my favorite things to do. I have enjoyed this practice with many female partners. Mess issue is no problem.

I am not overly fond of anal sex, I don't mind a nice finger inserted as stimulation, before that finger is inserted or before indulge a lover's desire for anal, I definitely want to be clean back there,

I have done anal sex with the SO while she has been retaining an enema and it is an interesting sensation for both of us. Lots of leakage and not for daily use unless you really wanna be running the washer and dryer all the time. We may go there sometime again, it was good, but I am not sure it was worth the clean up good. I have to admit that I do think about it a lot though.

We have tried enemas before anal sex, but generally if I help her with an enema, I get so excited and she gets so excited that we never actually get to the anal sex. Heh. We have been trying to plan that one for years. It is very much akin to wanting to see the aftermath of a creampie with a speculum. It seems that once you pop, what sounded like such a great idea 15 seconds ago, not sounds like a hell of a lot of work. That too has been on the agenda for years. Perhaps some day (smile) So for now we do anal bareback and I clean up after the fact, and I enjoy thinking about looking after I blast a load into her, but just never get around to actually doing it.

I am also surprised at the double standard listed in this thread. We both think anal is kind of slutty, but that is not that a negative reflection on either one of us. She is a very very dirty girl, and I am a very very dirty boy. As has been said before, it takes two to play. Some guys just seem really downright scared of their own sexuality. I really just don't get it. They will enjoy something but feel that it is wrong admitting it. So your a perv, get over it (smile)

My SO is not into enemas unfortunately but I will try to give myself an enema if there might be some anal play for me later in the day. Being able to insert a toy to its full depth reap the pleasure and then pull it out with no residue makes for a very successful session.

We both feel that enemas and anal play go hand in hand. I clean her out before i load her up with a good sperm enema. She cleans me out before using her 10" strap-on in me. Of course, anal/pegging hust qouldnt be the same without another cleaning afterwards. Of course after the second cleansing, a good hearty spanking session for both if us fits perfect.

I enjoy a lot anal sex, but the butt has to be clean out well and in depth. I always check if my partner enjoys the anal form of sex, so we can both be pleased.

My ex-wife and I had anal sex for a while without an enema, and it worked out fine. I would lie on my back and she would straddle me and lower herself onto my penis. I could see it going in, which I really liked, and could also see and touch and play with her vulva and all its cute little parts. Later we did it with her on her back with her legs raised and me lying crossways and entering her. Again, I could see everything going on, which was great. She later began to have misgivings about health implications, and stopped wanting to do it. She said it was sad because it was one of her favorite things. Alas, it was also one of mine. Sic transit venustas.

If you ARE planning to let him go the back way, you owe it to him to take at least one enema first.

My husband, when he was my boyfriend never brought up the subject of anal intercourse.

I had heard all the horror stories of how people change when you marry them because they know you are leaving yourself vulnerable.

As a result I did have a fleet enema in my duffel bag on that first night together just in case the subject came up. It didn't . Better safe than sorry!

Now having been married a while I'm more convinced than ever that he has no interest in anal sex, and I'm good with that!!

he has no interest in anal sex, and I'm good with that!!

Good for you two to be on the same wavelength! I, for one, know I wouldn't be good with that 😉