Male observer?

Has anyone ever had a male doctor use a male observer during an annual exam if you didn't specify you wanted a female? My wife has.

No, never happened to me. In fact, I can't really think of a time when I had a male doctor with any kind of chaperone/observer. The only time I've had someone else in the room has been with a female doctor or NP.

It used to be common practice for male doctors examining women to have a "stand by" or observer. Usually, it was a female, but, in a pinch (like in the Navy) a male would be used. (Although, women sailors, like their male counterparts, tend to loose all sense of modesty. If a Corpsman or doctor of either sex want them to drop trow, they do it without a second thought, standby or not.)

The purpose of having the standby was two fold:

1. To protect the patient from any form of sexual abuse. (Hardly ever happens) and

2. (The main reason) to protect the Health care Provider from the patient later coming back accusing them of sexual abuse or some other form of malpractice and suing them. (Again, hardly ever happens, but is slightly more frequent than the other)

I'm not sure, but I think the standby requirement has gone by the boards.

Personally, the only time that I remember having any sort of observer were Nursing and med Students of both sexes.

I always wondered why a MALE doctor had to have a standby when examining FEMALE patients, but a Female doctor did not require a standby when examining MALE patients.

Cant say that I have had a doctor use one.. but I have had a male friend go with me durring blood tests to the exam room. cause sometimes i pass out durring blood tests..

I haven't had any type of observer, male or female, since early childhood when my parents would go with me into the exam room.

Yes in the family planning clinic here i was asked if i minded having a male doctor see what was going on .

it was really embarressing but i wanted more .

im easie when it comes to people viewing my exams due to how would they learn otherwise

A few times during my annuals, when I used to go to the Planned Parenthood clinics as an economy measure in my twenties, I was occasionally asked if I would allow a male resident to observe my exams. Body shy that I am, I always said, "No." Now, in my fourties, I might answer differently.

Lady Teddy

I never had any kind of observer. The nurse would come in and do the height/weight check, tell me to take off my clothes, and that the doctor would be right in. Then it would just be the doctor and I.

I once had a young male doctor do exam, so had to have a female nurse present.

I have had a male doctor use his female nurse in the room during a complete physical.

A long time ago, I had an appointment with an older male physician who had a younger male assistant. The assistant stayed in the exam room when I was asked to get undressed, standing in a corner working on paperwork. He may have assisted somehow in the exam but I can't remember how although he moved from working on paperwork to paying attention to what the physician was doing.

I have been asked by my play doc if i would mind having a male observer there .

1 to watch and 2 to help take photo's .

mmm im a little nervy and am not sure but it could be exciting and make me double as wet .

who knows .

i may not enjoy it at all only time will tell .

but im looking forwards to the next play time

I have had a male medical student in with me before. The doc spent twice as long doing the exam so he could explain everything to him!

My first wife was pregnant and high risk, I can think of a couple of times were there was one or more male observers who saw her nude below the waist getting an exam. On one exam they even left her exposed while talking stuff over with us.

I’ve never had a male doctor have a male witness. In fact, I’ve never had a male doctor have any type of witness other than at the dermatologist for a full skin exam. In that case, he had a female assistant across the room documenting on an iPad while I stood in my boxer briefs and I moved around as he requested. I was not very happy that she was in the room. She did initially call me from the waiting room and took me to the exam room. Then, she said I could “have a paper gown for modesty but it would just come off…” so I declined not thinking I had an option honestly. The young male dermatologist was incredibly kind and patient. I wasn’t the slightest bit nervous around him. Luckily, he positioned himself and had me spin around on exam chair so my back was to the woman the entire time. I only had to look at her when I was asked to stand up while he was examining my back and the back of my legs. He then quickly said, “and a quick check of your bum…” while I was still facing her but he only pulled down my boxers in the back. He later took a look down the front of my boxers but that was upon my request regarding a small spot and it was while sitting and facing him directly.

Regardless, no. I’ve never had a male observer. I tend to only see male providers but if I ever have to have an observer, or if one of my physicians ever requires one, I would much prefer it to be a male! I come from a long line of healthcare practitioners but I’m still personally most comfortable with a man. Always.

I've never had anyone but the doctor with either my male GP or now female GP or the ARNP at the VA. At the VA she had a female trainee once and during 30 years with my male GP his female receptionist often times came in the room with something for the doctor.

No but once as a teen a student of my pediatrican came in and observed as my doctor examined me. I was already erect prior to her entering the room. He took my underwear off and showed all the spots I was growing hair in my groin my arm pits and he took my underwear off for my butt. He also said that my penis was erect because it showed my body maturing, and my balls hanging lower.

I have not had an observer in the room during any exam by a male.

I took my teen son in to see a Urologist because he was having hesitancy. He had a female scribe who, I think, also served as a chaperone (he was a pediatric Urologist). I was sitting down below bed level. He only had my son open up his jeans and he just pulled them down enough to see what he needed to, so I didn't see anything. The scribe/chaperone turned her back during the exam.

I was getting an annual physical at a clinic for a commercial driver's license renewal. (My health plan does not do them). The female NP had to go find a male chaperone before she did the hernia check. She was new and I don't think she had done many of them. She barely put her finger my scrotum. I thought that if I did have a hernia, she wouldn't feel it. But at least she tried. In retrospect I should have shown her how it's done correctly. Most of the clinics I went to did not do the check. They just check the box on the federal form stating that they did.

I have never had a male chaperone or scribe. I think they hire almost all females or use female staff so women aren’t uncomfortable. The only time it tends to make me self conscious is when they just stand there and gawk at you.

The closest to this scenario I experienced was during a knee surgery. I opted for an epidural without sedation. My Orthopaedic surgeon had a man who stood away from the table and walked the surgeon through the procedure. It was fun to watch. The procedure involved removing a damaged portion of bone and cartilage on the femur head and replacing/ exchanging it with a piece from the notch of the femur.

The surgeon said the procedure would only fix my knee for about 5 years and then I would need a replacement knee joint. That was 17 years ago.

No one introduced the guy and he stood away from the operating table the whole time. But he had a bird’s eye view otherwise he couldn’t have helped the surgeon.

@Srgfgahs Sometime prothesis salesmen/tech experts attend surgeries to observe and advise the surgeons - esp when new devices are being used. I think surgeons sometimes practice first on cadavers before using new devices on a live patient. The guy that replaced my ankle said he did.

https://www.npr.org/sections/health-shots/2018/11/23/659816082/sales-reps-may-be-wearing-out-their-welcome-in-the-operating-room

Speaking of the male observer … There's a classic Zity thread called ‘The Pinworm Test - Male Interest’ which someone has reminded me about lately. As a doctor examines a teenage lad, his assistant, Mr Sperry, seems to take an almost prurient interest. The original post in that thread is classic not least because it merges 3 povs into an engaging composite, or whole.

- Ken

@Srgfgahs Sometime prothesis salesmen/tech experts attend surgeries to observe and advise the surgeons - esp when new devices are being used. I think surgeons sometimes practice first on cadavers before using new devices on a live patient. The guy that replaced my ankle said he did.

https://www.npr.org/sections/health-shots/2018/11/23/659816082/sales-reps-may-be-wearing-out-their-welcome-in-the-operating-room

I was awake and not sedated. They let me watch since I showed an interest in the procedure too (no drape to block my vision). My surgeon is/was very good to begin with, however, the guy in the background guided him through the process. He told him things like exactly where to harvest the good cartilage and how deep to drill it out.

I used crutches and wore an unloader brace for 12 weeks then just on crutches for another month or two. It took almost a year for it to heal. After that my knee has been pain free ever since. He could have invited anyone in to watch with an outcome like that! The PT I am seeing for my neck says there is a high failure rate for this procedure. Yet it worked for me.

The closest I've come to this was last year. I had a regular follow-up visit, when my doctor asked me to stay so the clinic director could show a new doctor how they did the abdominal exam. I had just my shirt off while the male doc watched.

Yes, one of my visits to the urologist, he had a young student doctor very good looking observing. We went through all questions and then it came time I had to drop my pants. My doctor positioned himself so my back was at the end of exam table so other Dr. Could see everything. He examined my penis and testicles. Then told me to turn around and put my elbows on table. He put some lube on his gloved finger and slid into me for prostate exam it seemed a little longer. I was handed some tissues and I could feel him looking at me while I wiped myself. I wish he would have let the student doctor examine me as well.

In real exams I have had both male and females in the room besides the doc.

As other have said, at my dermatologist there is regularly a female assistant documenting the findings during the exam. The doctor was usually positioned between us so she had a limited view, especially when I lowered my boxers for a quick inspection of the skin in my genital and anal area. On one of my visits there was a male assistant documenting. The doctor was definitely less concerned about shielding me and the assistant got a full look when I dropped my shorts. I guess since we were all guys the doctor did not feel the need for all the modesty and I had no issues with it.