Intimate and naughty. Why are enemas so erotic?

Vicki said: "I feel that the enema bag is more of a woman's domain than men" I agree. I think more women and girls got enemas growing up because we sort of tend to become constipated more often than men do, so I think it is more likely to find an enema bag in a girls/woman's bathroom than in a man's. And some of us girls who got enemas learned to like them for more than just a medical device

I think while it probably was the moms job generally to give enemas I don't think girls got constipated more than guys. It's TRUE that in some cases they got them at period time. I recently saw the ratio of guys to girls was 60 40 so I think there are just as many guys that do enemas as girls. I'm not a girl but I am pretty darn good with a bag myself!

Certainly true in our house that the enema bag was mom's domain and she used it on us frequently and expertly. Even when we were old enough to self-administer, we were not allowed to use it without asking. She would prepare everything and later clean it thoroughly and hang it to dry.

As far as girls being constipated more than guys, I don't know because it was all boys in our house. For quite awhile back in those golden years the enema bag was out much more than it was put away.

I admit I have limited experience compared to many of you here, but I think men are more "squeamish" when it comes to enemas and things like that. For example, I think men are quick to like giving us an enema if we ask them to do it, but are more reluctant to have us do the same to them. Am I right? Is it because they don't want to give us total control? That's what they think anyway, but we all know that since we have the pussy, we already have control.

I'm not "squeamish" about enemas at all. I'll give ANY woman total control over me if she wants to give me a few enemas. 😉

It is hard to tell who gets the most pleasure out of an enema, guys or girls. I loved my girlfriend to give me a nice warm 2-liter enema while she sucked my cock and sat on my face. I would tell her to watch the bag and when it was close to empty she would make me cum in her mouth and I was sure the back of her head was going to come off~! Yes, it was that good. Then it was her turn. She liked to be rimmed first, boy that was sooo fun~! Then we reversed positions she got the 2-liter enema while I took very good care licking, her erect wet clit. She liked a small vibrator in her pussy while it was flowing into her rectum. Sometimes she would suck my cock just to have something to do with her mouth, not to make me cum. When she came it was like an explosion in her pussy once she came so hard she squirted a little enema water out of her pulsing little pooper. She loved it. What's not to love~1

Another of my lady friends suffered from severe migraine headaches. She claimed that a 2-liter warm enema helped relieve the pain from the headaches. I do not remember if she ever came while she was getting the enema but she was certainly enjoying the erotic feelings that were going on in her rectum and the surrounding "lady parts" areas. BTW whoever remarked that the receiver of the enema or and sexual activity anal, vaginal or clitoral must give their full control to their partner or the absolutely will not have an orgasm. I know that whenever a girl/lady says, I have trouble reaching orgasm. I say You have to give up your control. A few moments of thought and 100% will agree with you. That doesn't mean they will do it that instant but eventually they see the merit of the advice and they surrender.

I admit I have limited experience compared to many of you here, but I think men are more "squeamish" when it comes to enemas and things like that. For example, I think men are quick to like giving us an enema if we ask them to do it, but are more reluctant to have us do the same to them.

As preteens, once our grandmother taught my brother, sister, an I personal hygiene, were expected to take care of ourselves in the constipation department. Some months later, one afternoon, when my sister an I got home from school, we each needed the bathroom for the same reason, we were both constipated. As we entered the house, I happened to say something first about needing the bathroom and why. She respond, “I needed the bathroom for the same thing.” Then, before I had a chance to say anything, she said, “tell you what, if you’ll let me give you a couple of enemas, I’ll let you give me a couple.” I replied, “sure, lets go.” At that, we both got undressed, went to the bathroom and gave each other a couple of enemas. Starting something that didn’t end till we went our separate ways after High School.

Having always had to take enemas solo, I would disagree with being squeamish. Since childhood, I have always enjoyed the feeling of warm soapy water creeping slowly into my intestines. I only wish that I had had a partner who felt the same way.

Why are enemas so erotic? You answered your own question. They are INTIMATE and NAUGHTY.

They deal with a process most people are ashamed to discuss and with an area of the body most people might describe as their most private.

To submit yourself at least partially naked to another person, friend or stranger, to present your bare bottom to him or her, possibly in a head down / ass up position, to allow them to spread your cheeks and view your exposed anal area, to have your anus penetrated by their lubricated finger and then by a nozzle, to be patient as the liquid fills your bowels, to wait and be compliant until told you may expel, and then to release your insides into then toilet which they may or may not observe, hear, or smell. And possibly have to repeat the procedure, or to discuss it in detail, or to allow your bottom to be cleaned and cared for afterwards.

That’s a very intimate and naughty scenario to me.

I cannot fully relate to Helga’s initial question in this discussion thread about women getting more enjoyment out of an enema than I would as a man. I would think that the enjoyment factor would lie in whether Helga also enjoyed self-pleasuring while receiving the enema, or whether she just enjoyed the feeling of the warm soapy water entering her body. As a man, I have experienced both. I have taken enemas where self-pleasure was a part of the enema experience, and I have taken enemas just because I wanted to feel the warm soapy water enter my body. Such was the case this morning when I took a 3-quart soapy enema, followed by a rinse enema and coffee enema. Each one produced a stir that was pleasing.

When I take an enema and partake of self-pleasuring, the sensation of climax as the soapy water invades my intestines can be exquisite. Likewise, when taking an enema for the sake of feeling the thrill of warmth spread through my belly, I can revel in the senses that enema’s feelings bring to me.

So, to answer Helga’s initial question in this discussion thread, No, I would not agree that women get more enjoyment out of an enema than a man would.

I am not sure if women enjoy more, but I would love to meet a woman that enjoys enemas.

Some of the million sensations I get in me during a hot enema are hot. I drop cum as soon as the water runs. It is better than sex sometimes. My ass is my vehicle to take me to far away places. Men enjoy them too

I think it's individual. Many of the women to whom I've given enemas have only taken them because they knew they had no choice (part of their “examination," & I love the “no choice” aspect), but a few have really gotten off on them. It could be that the experience was new to them, since quite a few never had an enema before. I actually like them a lot, but I would far rather give than receive. I've always been surprised at the fact that every woman to whom I've given has taken a full bag (one or two much more), most of them at least twice.

Great comments and certainly thought provoking. I know that guys tend to be much more regular in their habits and for example, I will get up in the morning, shower, shave, get dressed, have breakfast, and as my grandfather used to say “see a man about a horse.” This occurs every morning whether home, on the road, or on vacation. My wife on the other hand is far less regimented and when thinking about growing up neither were my two sisters. Those women would maybe make time in the morning, maybe another day after lunch, and then it might be some evening. In other words much more random so it would not be a stretch to say that maybe they got busy and forgot to have a BM. A couple of days like that and it would be time to get the enema bag out.

If I need an enema it is because I'm not feeling well or my wife has some plans to have some fun. For any of the women I've known well, each has had many times more enemas than I ever have although a statistician would call my observations a convenience sample. On the other hand I'm not sure that I want to stand on a street corner and interview women passing by about their bowel habits as interesting as that might really be.

Why are enemas so erotic? Richard is right: you answered your own question! It 's because they are naughty, and very intimate when we submit to…

What should we wish more?!

I've only done the to an ex who I was with many years. She loved them and we did them often

Based on some of the screaming orgasms i have observed women experience, I would suggest they get more pleasure than we men do.

Most men are afraid of being honest about their anal stimulation. I love it, and it does not mean I am gay.

From my youth onward, the enema as given to me in the home by my mother was as I matured a true ‘juxtaposition‘ of our ’sex rolls‘. Mom, obviously a lady, assumed the ’inserter role' which is the purview of the male in sex. I as a young male, assumed the ’penetrated‘ role which is that of the woman in the sex act. My mother and I were both ’heterosexual' only, and I still am, but the possible ’eroticism‘ which grew over time possibly had it’s genesis in the above referenced ‘role reversal’ of male - female at enema time.

My ‘eroticism’ was physically evidenced even as a very young kid by my strong, turgid, high/tight erections at enema times well before I began to know of any connection between the ‘erotic’ and the ‘enema’ being administered by my mom. I early on embraced the whole of the enema scene and the initial ‘good feelings’ generated by the procedure.

Anyway...intimate/naughty/ ‘erotic’ (as per thread subject title)…I came to strongly desire our respective enema roles and the resultant strong bowel cleansing that ensued.

“Mom, do you like taking enemas?” I must admit that for a few moments, my daughter’s question had me without words. She was 17 at the time. It was about 3:30 in the morning. Long story short, she was constipated without telling me and having gas pains. She had awakened me, and we were sitting in the kitchen, and I was heating water for mint tea to try to settle her stomach.

For the first time, posed with this question from my oldest daughter, I answered it flat out. Actually, I do, I told her. She asked me if it made me feel good, and I was honest with her. Yes, I told her, when I take an enema, I do it to feel better physically when I’m having intestinal problems, and sometimes it helps me emotionally. Then the bomb dropped. Does it make me have sexual feelings? she asked. Yes, it does sometimes, I admitted. But I remember telling her that if she needs to have an enema, and if those feelings happen, they are perfectly normal and she shouldn’t feel otherwise.

Looking back, I think it was the right thing to say at the right time in her life. Today is Jen’s 32nd birthday. She is a healthy, vibrant young woman, and she has an enema bag.

ladies get more enjoyment out of an enema that men do…

I think women are more secret about it… except for the gals whom we are lucky to have here and post openly about their enema enjoyment.

Not being a woman, I am not sure about the pleasure side. I do wonder why it seems so many more men are open about liking and taking enemas. I hear so many men wish their wives and girlfriends would participate more in their enemas. I would think women would love the control aspect of making the husband and boyfriends begging for relief while giving the lady control of their sexual relief. I would love to give a woman an enema whenever they desire. I regret my wife does not enjoy my anal passion.

@reddevil I think women are more secret about it…

Hmm…Respectfully, I'm not so sure. I cannot imagine my husband telling his football fantasy buddies – or anyone else – about the last time I gave him an enema. Among my most inner circle of girlfriends, we do talk with one another regarding our female health issues and “irregularities.”

Hmm…Respectfully, I'm not so sure. I cannot imagine my husband telling his football fantasy buddies – or anyone else – about the last time I gave him an enema. Among my most inner circle of girlfriends, we do talk with one another regarding our female health issues and “irregularities.”

Actually I agree with that 100%. I talk about a lot of different things with my buddies but constipation and enemas are never one of them.

@Vicki_V Hmm…Respectfully, I'm not so sure. I cannot imagine my husband telling his football fantasy buddies –

Yes, I see your point and don't know what I was thinking…. you are right.

Hmm…Respectfully, I'm not so sure. I cannot imagine my husband telling his football fantasy buddies – or anyone else – about the last time I gave him an enema. Among my most inner circle of girlfriends, we do talk with one another regarding our female health issues and “irregularities.”

Bowel management can become a hot topic for both men and women once they are relegated to an old folks home or assisted care facility. Talked to a retired nurse who worked at an assisted living home and she said guys bragged about the size of their BMs! “Got one out that was a big as my forearm!!!”

Something we all might have to look forward to?

I think men enjoy enemas as much as women do. I enjoy them because they make me feel alive.

Mother nature has equipped all our body orifices with highly-evolved sensory organs, which are critical for survival... for example, the tongue to determine if food is nourishing or toxic. I've poked myself in the eye and ear, so I know how sensitive those openings are. Pleasurable sensations from our genitals compel us to seek out sexual mates, exchange body fluids through our genital openings and reproduce, ensuring the propagation of the species. And the highly-innervated anus gives a powerful signal to poo, which is the critical body function of waste removal.

Put simply, ass play is stimulating, just like cleaning my ears with a cotton stick is. Anal play has the added advantage of creating cross-talk with neural signals from the genitals. Which is why many of us find anal play creates sexual pleasure even when accompanied by the urge to defecate. Men and women have the same hardware to enjoy anal play, so perhaps straight men are turned off by enemas or are shy to talk about it because of the association of anal play with gay activity.