I feel gay when I put things up my butt

Well, I could point out that it’s not really a gay thing at all. Some gay men enjoy anal sex, but plenty of others don’t like it at all and never do it that way. But that’s not likely to help you, because your problem’s not really amenable to rational argument of that kind.

You could just try and get used to it—the feelings of guilt and ‘gayness’ are likely to recede rather than intensify with repetition. That’s how I got over feeling guilty about taking enemas for pleasure. I used to be so anxious about it that even when living alone I would creep around the house in my socks to avoid making a sound while preparing an enema. Not any more!

Or you could just not stick things up there and avoid those guilty gay pleasures altogether. Does that sound like a good idea?

I feel the same way about it

I Have never felt gay putting objects up my butt but I have thought about gay men and if they get more fun out of it than I do. Most of the time it's me putting things up my butt and I think how I would love to have someone else Do it to me. I had one girlfriend that liked shoving things up my butt. And It would get me really hard and she would suck me off, which is what she lived and it was rely great for me. So I am still looking for that person.

Whether you are male or female, we all know ass play feels amazing, yes !!! I have had several very straight broad shouldered Lovers and a Dom, with gorgeous erections, that agreed to play with me on occasion, while I used a strap on or a plug, or a toy up their ass , even being rimmed. It's such fun play !!! Of course, ME first ;-)) tee hee..... I think it's very normal for both men and women to be curious about ALL kinds of fun anal play!!! Why feel weird or strange? Don't over think it, just relax and enjoy it!! Be yourself. Who cares anyway? Um...I have a close younger female platonic friend who had several boyfriends, then met a hot sexy young woman, and they LOVE using strap ons during sex !! I think all humans have those delightful nerve endings and sensual spots that drive us insane!! Oh yes, and the creativity to really enjoy that play!!

Enjoy exploring your sexuality and anal play, whether straight, bisexual, gay, lesbian, transsexual, male, female, "curious" ....Why Not ??? He he...

Many straight men enjoy lots of anal play...drink a beer or a glass of wine , and relax after all of the fun ;-)) Have Fun!! It's NOT gay...Um, well Unless you are a gay man,

then it's gay. So? ;-)) .... Carry on!!

Why do you feel gay if you in joy it like l but things up bum all the time my bi l in joy a cocks up me

A lot of things are better when you don't worry about how you look while doing it, like dancing. I can't make you feel completely secure just by this post, but in my mind liking it in the ass makes you a bottom, you are only gay or Bi if you want another man doing the thrusting.

"What feels good has nothing to do with who you want to do it with".

@Radioactive, I agree with you 100 percent. I have tried to explain this concept for more than a few over the years.

@Peppy, lol, I laughed at your post. It made me stop and think, "I wonder how I look when I dance? More importantly, I wonder how I look having sex for that matter?"

Makes me cringe just imagining both, lol.

Mashie

In my thinking, GAY, is when two people of the same sex, are actually a couple, in-love, and sure, have sex together. Anal Erotic, is just that, we enjoy our butt-play, and does NOT imply, being gay. "Not that, there is anything wrong with that!!" 😃 If I were to grow-up, differently than I did, I would have been comfortable with sharing butts, with another guy, just for the sake of masturbating. Circumstances don't let me do that now, but if it had, and what I now, know, it is not a gay-act!! "Not, that there is anything wrong with that!!" 😃 Have liked things in my butt, all my life, and do get sexually aroused with getting my butt spanked. Do-not, in any way, consider anything gay about that. "Not that, there is anything wrong with that!!" 😃 Play with your butt, masturbate, have a good time, an don't feel guilty!! Mike.

I like enemas and have for a long time. When I was a kid I used to stick things in my ass because I just liked the feel of it. Later in life, I would really experiment with putting things in my ass and I seemed to cum a little more when I would masturbate. Before I got here, I wasn't real sure why it felt so good with something in my ass but since then I found out it is the good ol' prostate gland that was adding that little bit of kick.

I am straight and it hasn't been too long ago that I was pegged by a lady friend and it was great! Thinking about me being gay was the furthest thing from my mind. I was just enjoying the hell out of her pegging me and everything else she was doing to me at the time.

There's nothing wrong with being gay. It just isn't my thing. There are too many labels and all of that pressure to define who you are.

If you like something in your ass, just enjoy it for what it is.

Amen to that!

P.S. I love pegging, just sayin........lol.

Mashie

When she pegged me, she used something called a "Feeldo" (not sure about the spelling, but I wasn't worried about spelling at the time.) There was a part of it that went up inside of her vagina and maybe a piece that went into her ass. There wasn't that strap the first time we tried it and it seemed to work just fine. The second time, and the other time, she did us a strap with the same "Feeldo" and it seemed to work better for us.

What did you use, Mashie? That's if I'm not being too nosy. If I am, well what are you going to do about it?

Cedar, I am pretty much an open book my friend and you can ask me almost anything you want. If I don't want to answer your questions on the main floor I will send you a PM. No worries, it's all great!

Cedar, you are one lucky man. Trust me when I tell you that. Most men can only dream and imagine what you have and have done. Remember that.

What toy do we use, well as luck would have it, a Feeldoe too. I have said over the years that a Feeldoe is our absolute favorite toy. We have tried many others, and expensive ones too, but they are never any place close to the feel and greatness as a Feeldoe.

The Feeldoe is someplace between 80 and a 100 bucks with shipping I think, but worth every single penny in my opinion. They come in 3 different colors as well if I am remembering correctly. We use the blue one which is the smallest one, but not small in my opinion by any means. The largest one is black I think and I want to say the medium one is red, but don't quote me on that.

You can get them with a vibrator in them that does hit your clit area, but in my opinion it isn't quite strong enough to do the job for me. However with that being said, I get turned on enough without it that it doesn't matter. So, it might not be worth the extra bucks to get the one with the vibe in it.

I know this is way too much information, but I want to share this because it may help someone out. I am pretty small down there in that department, but I love pegging and it's a huge turn on for me. As a result I get very wet as I should if I am turned on, but it makes me so wet that I have trouble sometimes keeping the feeldoe up inside me. So this year Doc bought me a harness to keep everything in place and it does.

If this is an issue for people, let me give you some advice. You just can't pick any harness up because of the way the Feeldoe is designed and how it fits into your body and your partners. I have noticed over the past few years or so that a lot of ads for harnesses will say something along the lines of "Feeldoe compatable", or something along those lines.

Cedar, next time take pictures, moving ones would be even better, lol because I want to watch, hehehe.

Mashie

Ive had a few things up my butt but i dont sing candle in the wind

What about Tiny Dancer, or Rocket Man, or perhaps, Can You Feel The Love Tonight? Any of those Nichty? Lol.

Mashie

Maybe ..im still standing....or jamaica jerk off lol

Yes, that's how you spell it, "Feeldoe."

She got the harness just because of what you said about getting wet. That isn't saying we didn't have a great time as it was that first time. It was the first time for both of us. Hers was purple.

When she got the harness, it was one specifically for it. I helped her shop on line for it. I think we both felt the difference with the harness and she said it was easier for her to control. Hers had a vibrator in it, too. She said she could feel it, just not that strongly and with everything else going on it was just some little added benefit.

I loved it! She loved doing it to me, too. She did admit that it was hard work. It was so worth it!

Has never been pegged being honest.....something ive never tried

You will love it!

I've never felt gay putting toys in my butt. What I feel is a sexual turn-on that I love. Straight, gay, lesbian, bi, or in any other way human, ass play is fun and a great turn-on for many people. Give ass play/stuffing a try several times, use lube as necessary, and if you find you don't enjoy it, nothing says you have to continue. I suspect many more people enjoy anal stimulation than don't; and, anyone unwilling to try it is simply preventing themselves from experiencing what may become their favorite for of sex play.

I've been in love with having toys of various kinds in my butt since at least age 14-15, now 64+, when I discovered both regular orgasms as well as my mother's enema/douche bag in her bathroom. Whether it was alone or with a woman partner over the years, I've never had a moment's concern about enjoying anal play or enemas making me gay. I've had perhaps 2-3 invitations over the years since college to sleep with a gay man, but felt almost queasy while turning them all down (no offense to any gay men including a very old dear friend, it's just not my cup of tea). I do admit to a mild curiosity about what a penis would feel like in there instead of any of my toys, but even if I fantasize about it being extremely enjoyable physically, the thought of the penis being connected to a male body immediately squelches any curiosity I may have. I suppose if you were to posit a scenario where a very attractive not-yet-operated trans woman wanted to sleep with me (now this really is fantasy), I imagine the concept of a penis still present on an attractive woman might make me think again, but not likely. In any event, I've never had any "am I gay" thoughts because of any type of anal enjoyment no matter how intense. And believe me, while not into enjoying pain, I've had an awfully nice variety of intense anorectal sensations over the years. In fact I wrote on another thread today that I've just started yesterday to use a 36" colon tube I just bought to enhance both enemas and deep anorectal play. I'm only up to about 12" out of 36" but practice makes perfect (or perhaps orgasmic). It'll be fun learning to navigate my rectum and colon. And any fantasy I have during the colon tube insertions are only with potential future women.

Eric

I was pegged with a strapon several times by old gf. Been awhile ago, but the last time she did it, she did me in 3 different positions for about 20 mins. Last position, I was on edge of bed on my back masturbating and when I cummed, shot it all over my chest and nearly hit me in the face. She said she didn't think shed ever seen me cum so much. 😜 So if you get the chance, GO FOR IT!!!

Cedar, next time take pictures, moving ones would be even better, lol because I want to watch, hehehe.

Mashie

@Mashie - I will try to get Him into that the next time. 😉 He has a cute butt - and it was a lot of fun for both of us, but He is a little camera shy!

It was the purple one - we used the Feeldoe Classic with the vibrator. The first time - we just went with it where I held it in place with my vagina, I had practiced before with it by just walking around or laying down with it in me just to get used to it. I tried the vibrator - of course, and it is ok, but mostly radiated into my vagina and not so much on my clit. It felt good - but not that wow factor.

Then came the main event I thought I was able to hold it in place pretty good - but it was a different story when I got behind Him and actually started putting it inside of Him. I had to use my hands quite a lot - to guide the tip up to His tight lil butt, and then kind of reach around behind me with one hand and guide with the other once we got it started. By the way - we used lots of lube and a condom. He was on his elbows and knees - that is the way it worked the best and it is the best position for me to lean forward and take care of business with His cock, just sayin' 😉

Once we got started - and He loosened up a little bit, sliding it back and forth with just my body wasn't too bad. It felt good for me - and I think He was having a pretty good time too. 😉 When we got Him close - then it was pretty easy to let it slide out of me, and I was able to bring Him all the way off orally, and I could also take Him vaginally.

Later - when we tried it with a harness, it was easier to move back an forth in Him. The only little drawback was - that when I wanted to roll Him over when it was time to take Him all the way home, I had to get out of the harness. That threw our timing off a little - not enough to mess up our ride 😉 but something you have to consider. That sounds like I'm an expert - but it is just something He and I talked about after we caught our breath.

Don't get me wrong - there wasn't ANY of it I didn't like, and I think He was the same way. 🌹 It was just a great time - and I like the Feeldoe.

Just sayin' - Lora C

That is Feeldoe Fantastic! lol

Mashie

So I got into playing with my ass a couple of months ago. since then I've got a couple of toys like vibrator broom handle it first-hand other different items like a Candlestick and my fingers . I had a vibrator shaped like a cock.. it felt the best out of all of my toys.

anyway so then I got to thinking if that thing feels good and it's shaped like one why not get a real one?. so my question is is it good to get a real cock in your ass or is it bad. ? also does that make you gay or are you just bi or just curious or what?

anyway so then I got to thinking if that thing feels good and it's shaped like one why not get a real one?. so my question is is it good to get a real cock in your ass or is it bad. ? also does that make you gay or are you just bi or just curious or what?

Being gay is not a question of contagion. It is not a disease nor a disability. Being gay or bi or straight is simply a question of a person's innate personality.

It is generally agreed that people are born with the urges. These can of course be nurtured or suppressed, people can (far too easily) be made to feel guilty, but whatever else, being gay is NOT something you catch like a flu or measles - notwithstanding what some utterly vile and loathsome politicians and religious leaders may preach about the question.

So, don't fret it. Just enjoy and see what makes you feel best. And if it's not what you expected, no worries either.

Playing with toys or vibrator solo or duo up my ass I feel me alive, just like I am cumming with her, for her, like she want to see and make me cum. Yes I use a plug or a dildo or a vibe up my ass when we make love, it is like a hot spice.

Finding this site, enjoying enemas,which I have done for many years, thinking about items for my butt,. I just purchased a beginners vibrating butt set. Looking forward to it. Will write about results.............

Gay is a state of the heart, not the body. Get over your phobia and just enjoy what feels good.

Being gay means being physically/sexually attracted to people of the same sex as yourself. Liking things stuck up your butt means you are anally erotic, and enjoy anal sexual stimulation. Being gay is not a prerequisite to being anally erotic. Most gays happen to be. But so are many hetero males and females. I happen to be one of them.

I even know of hetero males who engage in gay sex (as a bottom) simply because they like the erotic stimulation of being anally penetrated. They don't consider themselves as "bi" or even "bi-curious" - they simply like butt sex.

Nothing is ever black or white. We live in a complex world.