I feel gay when I put things up my butt

jimmyhard said

anyway so then I got to thinking if that thing feels good and it's shaped like one why not get a real one?. so my question is is it good to get a real cock in your ass or is it bad. ? also does that make you gay or are you just bi or just curious or what?

It certainly isn't bad to get a real cock in your ass. Do it once or twice as an experiment and you're straight and bi-curious. But do it on a regular basis and that DOES make you at least Bisexual because it's with another guy and you like it enough to keep doing it..

If you have your wife or girlfriend butt fuck you with all the dildos in the world, you're still straight because you used toys playing with a woman.

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flburst58 said

I even know of hetero males who engage in gay sex (as a bottom) simply because they like the erotic stimulation of being anally penetrated. They don't consider themselves as "bi" or even "bi-curious" - they simply like butt sex.

As a mostly hetero woman who engages in occasional homosexual sex with two particular women, I can say this without prejudice:

Those guys are LYING to themselves. They are at least Bisexual.

People need to call a spade a spade and accept what they are.

I don't feel gay and I put things up my ass all the time.

I feel if it's MY butt-hole, I'll do exactly what I want to with it and enjoy it to the fullest in the process! Feeling gay about it has never entered my mind anytime I play with my anus. Maybe that's why I identify as "anal erotic".....

It makes me happy when I put things up my butt. Worse part is I do not want to stop! LOL Why would I feel gay pleasuring myself?

I enjoy anal stimulation and penetration by plugs, fingers and nozzles. I would like to experience a real cock in my ass, but have no desire to kiss or embrace another man nor fondle another man's junk. So I think my desire to try anal swx will never be fulfilled.

I enjoy anal stimulation and penetration by plugs, fingers and nozzles. I would like to experience a real cock in my ass, but have no desire to kiss or embrace another man nor fondle another man's junk. So I think my desire to try anal swx will never be fulfilled.

There is always an option to try and find a willing transgender person who hasn't fully transitioned. I have seen so many photos and vids in which if it weren't for the obviously male genitals, it is virtually impossible to see much of a physical difference in the rest of the body.

So you'd have an almost complete looking woman but with the genitals of a man. That sounds like what you are describing.

Why would it make you feel gay. I was just checking out some prostate toys earlier and the thought of me being gay never even entered my mind. I always have loved playing with my ass or having my ass played with. Since I am not gay aside from myself only females have ever played with me in this way. It has never made me feel gay. If it is a girl you are playing with no matter what you are doing is not gay. Being attracted to other men is the only thing that makes someone gay in my opinion.

Does it matter? Not any more, not in this day and age. In fact, the words "gay", "straight", and "bisexual" are words soon to disappear from our vocabulary, replaced by more modern words such as "gender specific". With most states now allowing "same sex" (new words) marriages, it doesn't really matter any more what people's preferences are. 30 years ago if you were "gay" you were the scorn of society; now nobody even bats an eye.

I met a guy who told me he was "85% hetero and 15% gay". Wha...??? Now you want to put a percentage on it?? No such thing!

Some guys like anal play with other guys but prefer marriage and "normal" sex (another obsolete word out the window) with a female. Today, more and more people "mix and match" their sexual preferences and desires, some things with same sex, some things with opposite sex, some things with both sex at the same time. The new rule is: If it makes you feel good, go for it...and stop labeling it gay, straight or whatever! Let's do away with the labels; they don't apply any more.

My two cents...

Alex

Luvmawater- Thank you, I could not agree more. It's time to eliminate the labels, except maybe - Human. We can all love whomever we want, without some one first labelling, and then judging. The first horribly homophobic word to get rid of is 'pegging'. You can't admit your getting fucked? Then we have to get rid of bisexual- the most misunderstood word in the language.

The first horribly homophobic word to get rid of is 'pegging'. You can't admit your getting fucked? T

Pegging is a very specific term that denotes anal penetration (or if you must: fucking) of a male by a female by a mechanical means.

I don't see anything homophobic in the word, more the reverse actually, since it implies that what men can do to each other out of fun/love, now a woman can do to a man for the same reasons. In other words it denotes a way in which both genders and sexual orientations can become more congruent to each other.

After all, it makes little sense to talk about men pegging each other, as they will normally be using their own natural penises instead of a solid object that approximates the shape of a penis.

Previously people might have used the term 'dildo-ing' someone, but that is a bit confusing since two women can dildo each other both vaginally and anally and both with a hand-held device or a strap-on device. So, as terms go, it's imprecise and wide-ranging.

'Pegging' in contrast reduces all the necessary information - woman fucks man anally with device - into one word. Very good economy of use with no misunderstanding possible. What more can one ask of a word?

But, if you can give a good argument - not a statement, but a reasoned analysis - why pegging is a homophobic term, please do. We are all open to hearing different points of view and learning something new. Or we should be at least ... 😃

@Buttwoman said

It's time to eliminate the labels, except maybe - Human. We can all love whomever we want, without some one first labelling, and then judging.

I'm sorry to disagree, but there do need to be words to convey sexual preferences. To say you are straight, gay, bisexual, heteroflexible or whatever, should inform others of those preferences. To deny that basic fact is to take political correctness to an absolute extreme. These are words just like any others. I don't think it helps anyone to try to blur the lines.

As a straight man, I can also state I'm heterosexual. It is perfectly clear what I am saying. The alternative would to state that I'm attracted to women only, but why say that when a single, commonly understood word will do just fine?

.... we have to get rid of bisexual- the most misunderstood word in the language.

It is a simple enough word. Its meaning is perfectly clear - sexual attraction to both genders.

@luvmawater said

Does it matter? Not any more, not in this day and age. In fact, the words "gay", "straight", and "bisexual" are words soon to disappear from our vocabulary, replaced by more modern words such as "gender specific".

Wishful thinking.

We can all love whomever we want, without some one first labelling, and then judging.

Who says that assigning someone a label - or a description or a category - necessarily implies that a judgement must follow?

When scientists collect raw data by observation, for it to make any sense, that data must be collated/categorized and put into some kind of order. There is no value judgement necessarily implied by creating categories, unless of course that is the specific purpose. But most people, being of good will, still need categories in order to distinguish things.

It is non-judgemental to categorize things by color for instance (unless you are a rabid politico who opposes anything being 'red' on principle ...ha ha). So, categorizing people by their sexual preferences, as long as polite and agreed upon words are used, should not be any more inherently judgemental ...

luvmawater said:

Does it matter? Not any more, not in this day and age. In fact, the words "gay", "straight", and "bisexual" are words soon to disappear from our vocabulary, replaced by more modern words such as "gender specific". With most states now allowing "same sex" (new words) marriages, it doesn't really matter any more what people's preferences are. 30 years ago if you were "gay" you were the scorn of society; now nobody even bats an eye.

I met a guy who told me he was "85% hetero and 15% gay". Wha...??? Now you want to put a percentage on it?? No such thing!

Some guys like anal play with other guys but prefer marriage and "normal" sex (another obsolete word out the window) with a female. Today, more and more people "mix and match" their sexual preferences and desires, some things with same sex, some things with opposite sex, some things with both sex at the same time. The new rule is: If it makes you feel good, go for it...and stop labeling it gay, straight or whatever! Let's do away with the labels; they don't apply any more.

My two cents...

Alex

Let's go point by point:

YES, it does matter. Gay, straight and bisexual are NOT going to be replaced by the politically correct snowflake social justice warrior terms like "gender specific." "He" and "she" are NOT going to be replaced by a so-called "singular gender neutral," "they." THEY is plural.

You don't like gay? Why don't we use what genuinely IS the correct term: HOMOSEXUAL.

"Same sex" is NOT a new word, it is simply a description of two people of the same sex getting married. Nothing new there.

Putting a percentage on the HOMO-HETERO continuum is perfectly OK. I am 98% HETERO and 2% HOMO. (You want me to say 98% of my sex is heterosexual and 2% is homosexual--FINE WITH ME!) You see, even "straight" is a politically correct term. They created the politcally correct, less sexual sounding "gay"and "lesbian" from homosexual so they needed something non-sexual sounding for heterosexual, so they created "straight." I classify myself as heteroflexible, which means basically HETERO, but will on rare occasion engage in HOMO if there is a wonderful opportunity with a spectacular woman who turns me on. If you want to call me BISEXUAL, that perfectly OK with me. I know what I am and I am not afraid to call a spade a spade. (Sorry if you think that's a black slur--IT ISN'T.)

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if it makes you feel good, do it but don't label it?

That's NOT going to happen. People LOVE labels. It keeps all the ducks in a row and everything neatly pigeon-holed.

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Regardless of the body openings and appendages you play with, if you play with them by yourself, there is no connection with being homo or hetero. That's masturbatory play. If you play with another person of your same sex, you are HOMO. If you play with them with members of your opposite sex, you are HETERO. If you play with both sexes, you're BI. It's really quite simple.

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The first horribly homophobic word to get rid of is 'pegging'.

There is NOTHING wrong with the term "pegging."

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You can't admit your getting fucked?

EXACTLY, pegging means you are getting fucked IN THE ASS.

People should be able to admit that to themselves.

The truth can be hard.

Go ahead. Sock it to me. I know what I am, I know where I stand.

@SwitchableSusie I just love your subtle, gentle replies and comments

Thanks.

Me too.

So do my parents, husband and daughters.

MOST of the time, anyway. 😁 😁 😁

I agree the labels are not going to go away.

Responses I get to the label bisexual

- you can't make up your mind?

- so you are really gay, but won't admit it.

- so you'll essentially fuck anything.

I get asked who I prefer all the time- humans.

Swichable susie- don't replace the labels with more 'politically correct' labels. Just use a single label.

-who are you attracted to?- humans.

- who do you have sex with?- humans.

- who are you going to marry?- a human

I agree the labels are not going to go away.

Responses I get to the label bisexual

- you can't make up your mind?

- so you are really gay, but won't admit it.

- so you'll essentially fuck anything.

That's a fault related to the stupidity of the people to whom you are talking, not the language.

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I get asked who I prefer all the time- humans.

I would name a different species, Canis familliaris probably. (Just to be clear, that's for friendship, not sex.)

Homo sapiens aren't all they're cracked up to be.

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don't replace the labels with more 'politically correct' labels. Just use a single label.

One label doesn't do it. MANY are needed for specificity.

don't replace the labels with more 'politically correct' labels. Just use a single label.

Here is something that often bugs me: Americans using the term 'politically correct' whenever something displeases them. There is seldom any reason to bring actual politics into personal likes or dislikes. Personal likes and dislikes usually stem from upbringing or values and customs learned from family, friends, schools or work environments.

Maybe it might be better to talk about 'polite' or neutral labels.

Since the words used as labels to describe something or a specific category are so subject to change, even over a short period of time, I wonder if people who moan and bitch about 'political correctness' are just looking for an excuse to resist social change.

We don't use the term when something displeases us, we use it when a word is used to sanitize something. Kind of like being at a waste water treatment facility, one would talk about feces clearance from the effluent, not shit clearance. It's the same thing, but it sounds better.

As you said, it isn't really politics, rather making something more palatable or placating someone when they don't like the raw truth.

Here is something that often bugs me: Americans using the term 'politically correct' whenever something displeases them. There is seldom any reason to bring actual politics into personal likes or dislikes.

We some times complain about political correctness in Britain too @agracier. It is not to do with politics though, it is about ideas for making people think they can only use words and attitudes that avoid offence. You know, telling people what they can say and do without being offensive. It is saying something without really saying it.

We some times complain about political correctness in Britain too @agracier. It is not to do with politics though, it is about ideas for making people think they can only use words and attitudes that avoid offence. You know, telling people what they can say and do without being offensive. It is saying something without really saying it.

People who can't handle the truth need to be placated that way.

[regarding the term bisexual]

DrZ said:

It is a simple enough word. Its meaning is perfectly clear - sexual attraction to both genders.

Actually NOT.

It means attraction to both SEXES.

I am attracted to men and a few women, but they have to be the genuine goods of male and female. That means biological chromosomal sex. I am not sexually attracted to transsexuals no matter how gorgeous they are or how scintillating they are in conversation. If I am going to bed with someone, they MUST have the expected sex organs and not be someone with gender dysphoria who decides to parade around or live their life as something else.

As you said, it isn't really politics, rather making something more palatable or polite or placating someone when they don't like the raw truth.

I'm certain it's just as easy to be polite and use neutral terms when describing the raw truth. Why be offensive or use in-your-face language? There is nothing wrong with using the correct and agreed upon words and phrases.

It seems to me that people complaining about 'political correctness' often don't wish to adapt their language to new evolving trends and usage, or don't like how social customs and mores and laws change.

It has nothing to do with politeness really.

There are very few people who are complaining but they complain loudly and gleefully to annoy the majority that the world won't conform to their very tiny minute relatively infinitesimal minority.

They are the fringe, they are the outsiders.

THEY need to adapt. THEY need to change.

@SwitchableSusie said (regarding the definition of bisexual)

It means attraction to both SEXES.

Yes, that is correct. The attraction must be to both biological sexes. The word 'gender' is more concerned with social identity and custom, not which sex a person is biologically. It was an error to use the word 'gender' to define bisexuality.

I wonder how to classify own sexuality. I've long enjoyed every kind of anal stimulation except for anal e-stim and anal sex with a man. I'm sure I would love these too if I tried them. However, I'm only partially attracted to men. Only women excite me visually. I have no desire to hug and kiss another man, but I would love to have a man fuck me in the ass. So what is my sexuality then? 'Almost bisexual'?

Labels, too many labels, I hate labels. Up to recently I have been exclusively interested in the female form. But now I have been entertaining the thought of being screwed by and blowing a man. I enjoy loving sexual relationships with women and now want to try sex (only) with a man.

To further complicate which pigeonhole to put my mindset into I enjoy being (butt) plugged 21/7/365!

So what label do I put on my kink resume? Do I care? No. Am I curious? Sure, what the hell.

Yes, too many labels. I heard Facebook now has more than 50 sexual labels to choose from to describe yourself.

One thing that helped me understand my own sexuality is understanding the distinction between orientation and identification. My orientation is maybe 85% toward females and 15% toward males, (as measured by what sex I enjoy looking at). My identification is more like 60% male and 40% female.

I wish there was a temporary way to fully experience being a sexually attractive woman, and a way to pick, say on the first day of each month, what sex I wanted to be for that month. After trying a month being a woman, I have no idea what I'd pick for the next month, but I'm pretty sure I'd go back to being a man at least half of the time.

Nothing gay about anal play. If you are using an inanimate object, how is that related to whom you are attracted?

If you want to try it with a penis, preferably still connected to a man, does that make you bi-curious?...no...it makes you curious.

If you try gay sex once, or many, many times, and decided it wasn't for you, does that make you bi-sexual? No. Your sexuality did not change.

If you fall into a deep emotional, and sexual relationship with a man, are you gay? Only you can answer that.

Yes, too many labels. I heard Facebook now has more than 50 sexual labels to choose from to describe yourself.

Wow. I never heard of the Facebook sexual orientation listing. I went to take a look and while I thought I was more or less up to date on this sort of thing, I have to admit that even if I studied it and prepared for an exam, I'd probably fail ... ha ha.

Tnx for bringing it to our attention ...