Enemas - Emotional vs: Physical

The other day I and 2 friends were discussing why we liked enemas and felt that for us it was more of an emotional experience than a physical one. We also agreed that for men we thought it was more physical than emotional. We were looking at this from the point of receiving the enema (not being the giver). This was just the conclusion of 3 girls. We have not asked any men about this so would like opinions form both sexes. Does anyone have a different point of view on this topic? We are not saying that giving isn't also an emotional experience.

I would say mine as a receiver is about 75 percent emotional/sensual and 25 percent physical.

Both are important to me. I don't think this would have become an interest had my first experience, done for medical reasons, not been physically arousing and pleasant. But I can get as much enjoyment from imagination as from actually doing, which certainly isn't physical.

May I ask you women what your emotional pleasure is? Domination? Intimacy?

I think a lot has to do with emotional state. Since I've been widowed, some of it - for sure - is just missing the touch of a woman. Then some is pure physical with wanting to keep the bowel system clean and running well. Then there is the true intimacy of the erotic, doing something for - or having someone do something for you that requires soooo much trust. Yes even more intimate than intercourse. Percentages for me would differ on different days or times. Even just thinking about a wonderful slo, warm enema brings pleasure to my mind.

Just my humble thoughts

I don't feel that I can separate my emotions from my physical state; maybe that's why I've never been good at casual relationships.

From the moment he says he's going to give me an enema, I am aroused to the point of distraction. I am vulnerable, but at the same time I trust him. I am humiliated, but excited. I know he is doing this for my own good. Yes, I want to be dominated. I want him to control me. I want the intimacy that goes with giving him control over my most private of functions.

He orders me to get into position. Exposing myself is another reminder of my defenselessness and of my trust.

The insertion of the nozzle is pure pleasure, but it is also an invasion, as is the water that follows it.

He controls the flow, and therefore my physical comfort level.

He tells me how long I have to retain the enema, controlling not only my physical comfort now, but my emotional comfort as well.

Like the insertion, the expulsion is pure physical pleasure, but emotionally taxing as he may choose to watch or even play with me during this normally very private act.

I can't uncouple the physical and the emotional.

Hey there....you two ladies have captured erotic, and emotional aspect of our favorite fetish. All so very, very true. Well done.

the boxcar

Oh my Anne B.

You have given voice to my feelings exactly---- the surrender, the trust, the physical intimacy. I also interpret my own feeling receiving, as of being protected. It's erotic to me knowing that my lover is taking such intense care not to cause me pain. I have only once had a lover hold and play with me as I evacuated. Talk about intense! I describe the whole experience of receiving as a cathartic experience, being in touch with deep (pun unavoidable)feelings and then letting go- emotionally and physically.

Its a physical thing mostly. What i'd like to know is how traumatic enemas as a kid converts to a erotic fetish in the mind

I find that it is such a submissive feeling.... it is so personal and such an intimate thing for a man to do to me.

Wow, I believe it to be 60% emotional to 40% physical giving and receiving enemas!

Since I'm solo all of the time, I consider it to be physical and totally unemotional. I would love to have some emotion in it but my life mate isn't into enemas at all.

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Its a physical thing mostly. What i'd like to know is how traumatic enemas as a kid converts to a erotic fetish in the mind

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I have a theory about this, but I have nothing to back it up other than my own experience.

I think that my first sexual feelings came from being given an enema. So I imprinted on that, as well the feelings of humiliation and powerlessness. Now these feelings are hopelessly intertwined with sexual arousal for me, not to mention extreme anal eroticism as well.

I also think that deliberately giving the power to humiliate and control me over to the person of my choosing is a way to take back that power that was taken from me as a child.

The result is a powerful fetish and fixation on enemas as an adult and all the pyschological aspects of power exchange.

So that's my theory, for what it's worth.

Anne's "theory" strikes a strong cord in me and captures many of my own thoughts and feelings about the powerlessness of childhood in the 50's and the role the enema experience played in forming my adult sexual preferences. I am a hopelessly anal erotic and enjoy every minute of it. Nice post Anne.

For me I would have to say it is about 50/50. When I am getting full it is sort as if I have a "flashback" to the days of vulnerability I always felt when getting an enema and the total feeling of helplessness that went along with being tethered to big red rubber enema bag full of hot soapsuds. In other words, when I am getting an enema, my mind is one big cornucopia of thoughts of enemas past.

I don't think there will ever be the one, definitive statement that explains the feelings of giving or receiving an enema which completely explains why each of us love them.

I have a 50/50 thought also.

the emotion that has always been there and then the feeling of being full just set everything into a frinzy.

If you ask me I love it all!

I'm very relaxed when it comes to enemas, so I have to say they are 99% physical and 1% emotional for me, even when I am being submissive.

When she gives me an enema 75% physical 25% emotional

When I give her an enema 10% physical 90% emotional

Let the flow with You

Arthur

Human sexuality is equal parts mental and physical.

That includes ALL sex, enema or not!

It is hard for me to separate the physical and emotional; I'd just say that emotional must be in place before the physical is enjoyable for me, either as a giver or receiver.

For me enemas are all part of my sexual gratification and knowing I am helping my body to keep clean and healthy!

Anne B, As usual my response is late. However, I agee with you totally. Being out of control in an intimate setting such as receiving an enema leaves a deep mark emotionally on both young and older folks and, I feel, triggers anal eroticsm. Thank you for putting the concepts together. edsienna

What i'd like to know is how traumatic enemas as a kid converts to a erotic fetish in the mind

This is only a problem if childhood enemas were "Traumatic" in the first place.

Mine sure weren't.

Its split 50 50 for me

I think it is both, as the giver and the reciever. That's what makes them so adicting. If I had to choose one over the other, I would say emotional though. Being there, so exposed, so intimate, and being able to take to whole thing, or hold it, takes some mental prep.

If I have to separate the 2 its 60% emotional/ 40% physical whether giving or receiving. Hope this does not diverge from the thread too much - but somehow I find that the visual communication that can be so a part of giving/receiving an enema is an essential link between the physical and emotional and a vivid force for the mind replaying the scenario.

I think for me it's mostly physical, since I give them to myself. But, if I had someone to fill the bag and get everything ready while I wait, I think the emotional factor would have a lot more weight to it.

I was just reviewing my anatomy and physiology. It is amazing how much you forget in 40 years, but I review. Was watching a series of three lectures on the human reproductive system, facinating. Here was something I found intersting. I always thought enemas were like kissing, both deviations from normal, making the lips or the anus a site of sexual stimulaton when they were designed for other purposes. In America we think of kissing as sexual, and get aroused. Other cultures don't and don't get aroused by kissing. Not everyone gets aroused by an enema, most people don't. But how much is learned, and how much innate?

The lips aren't innervated by the same nerves that run the sex organs. The anus, and even more intersting during development in the womb the sex organs and the skin around the anus, that hairless part that is more like the complexion of your sex organs than the rest of your skin, doesn't come from embroinic ectoderm, it comes from the same source as your sex organs, so it not only has a close nerve supply, it has the same nerve supply and source, so it would be logical to feel stimulation from stimulation of the skin around the anus as well as the g spot between the sex organs and anus.

So there is a physical link, to the anus and sex organs, however, how you interpret that stimulation is variable, and with the human brain pain can read as pleasure and vise versa.

If you have an hiccough, to stop it just enter a finger softly with lube in your ass when hiccup occurs, the vagus nerve will block the reaction.

I have heard of a lot of cures for Hiccups but inserting a finger in the anus is a new one. Does it work? I don't think many people will ever find out as it is not practical to do at most times when the Hiccups occur.