Afraid to ask husband to play doctor

I would have the very same problem telling my partner, im not sure how he would react.

I was afraid to share my love of playing doctor as well with my partner. A game that we play is to challenge one another to share different fantasies. The other day she asked me to share one with her that I have never shared before. I started out telling her what I would like to do to her, slowly working my way up to what I really wanted, to play doctor and give her a full exam. I was worried at first, but she was really turned on by it and thought it was a really good idea. If he loves you, he will embrace your fantasy. I would do almost anything to please my partner. Keep us posted!

Guys usually like toplay doctor, even if they ar not into medfet. Write him an email. Write one paragraph of the exam scene: you lying there nervously, legs spread wide on stirrups, etc..

Don't finish the sory. Leave the ending for imagination. He will be excited reading it.

Im a very glad you asked this question, and is very common. I am a medical professional in the military by day, however medical fetishism is an extremely healthy and visceral fantasy. For females, relinguishing all command presence and having your most intimate organ be completly nude at the mercy of your partner is a common fantasy. On the other end of the spectrum, a completly clothed "DR" examining a female at the mercy of your pleasure has its roots in most male sexual fantasies. The common denominator, is communication and safety. This is a very healthy and common fetish. First work small, buy literature, talk about role playing and exploring fantasies. Work up to the day where you both feel 100 percent comfortable exploring every fantasy and doing it safely.

Totally agree with all responces. I for one have been blessed with having a partner in my life who is into it as much as I am and enjoy it fully

As a man I am thrilled when my wife tells me what turns her on. We have discussed playing doctor but I am much more into it than she is. She has said that she would be glad to open up and let me play but when it gets to it she is never that receptive to it. Wish I could get her to just lay back and relax and enjoy it.

I wish I would dare to say this to my wife! In principle we can discuss, but going through is different!

I wish I would dare to say this to my wife! In principle we can discuss, but going through is different!

You have here a true dilemma. Once your desires are revealed you cannot put back the clock.

It's possible of course that your wife may be having similar thoughts, but you will never know unless you tell her.

The problem is she may dislike your revelation, she may even begin to think differently of you.

It took me some time to finally bring up the subject with my then wife 15 or so years ago but in my case it was worth it, we had many pleasurable medfet sessions. You have to try to weigh the odds and make that decision. Best of luck to you if you decide to give it a shot.

Any time you suggest an out of the ordinary sexual based proposal there is always the risk that your partner questions or raises a brow to it. My experience with a specialized fetish such as Medfet is that they either 'get it' or they dont. The last thing you want is to have to instruct him of every single detail throughout the play. It's nothing short of a skit hence 'role play' and you have to know your part..especially if you are the 'doctor'.

It will take some real confession on your part with some deep down feelings (no matter how embarrassing it may be) that you MUST confide in him with, hoping he can make your dream come to fruition. It takes time to learn the nuances of deep kinks.

If he thinks you're a freak then he needs to wise up to the fact that he has an undiscovered jewel!

I had never come across it until i was unceremoniously exposed to my new boyfriend by a doctor, since then I ask if a b/f can have a look "down there" because I think something is wrong and then hope they take the initiative. I have always been too shy to admit to my fetish.

Susie,

I would love to hear all of the details surrounding your experience. Had you been naked in front of your boyfriend prior to being exposed during your exam? Were you aware of the possibility of being exposed or did you assume that you would remain clothed the entire time? What were the circumstances that prompted the doctor to check you "down there?"

Sensei1980

In all honesty I'd bring it up when you are having sex and see how he reacts, see if he rises ( no pun intended! ) to the the situation or dismisses it....if he's interested then maybe think about buying an 'innocuous' doctors sex toy and see how it goes from there.....I can't imagine a man that's not interested in this area......but it may take time for him to feel secure in working something out for you both!

For a.while i didnt know how to bring it up to my husband and finally i just brought out a few ( not all of my toys lol) and he seen how much it turned me on he has been more open to the idea 😃

Hello, I would suggest for you to sit down and talk with your husband. Verbal communication is a must in a relationship. You speak first and ask your husband to remain quiet when you speak. Then when you are finished it will be time for him to share his thoughts. A good communicator knows that when speaking and the other party talks out of turn that the person who butts in is not listening. They are building a reply in their head and not listening to the speaker. So paying attention is a must. Now married couples should listen to one another's request with their souls and not just their ears and minds. To keep a life long love relationship strong it must stay green and growing. With sex trying and doing new things is a way to kindle new fires. One thing I desire to really stress here is married couples should accept their partners desires. No one should think of a partner as being odd or a freak. That is self centered behavior! Great relationships have removed the I, Me, Mine and Myself from their vocabulary. They concentrate on the Us and Ours and become a Team! No relationship grows until we put Self out of the way. We need to look at what our partners desires are and never and I mean never make fun of or ridicule them. The spouse at the receiving end of that type of attack will be harmed for life. Be so very careful with the choice of words. We are talking a love and passion relationship here. And who else but our spouse can we turn to for special love and new relationship building activity. So, try out your communication skills and talk from your soul. Let me know how things go.

Now that we have been married for a long time ,it is becoming easier to discuss Med Fet situations. A I new thrill is added

Be subtle: plant a seed that gets him thinking about it. Before your next exam, or maybe some time when the subject comes up on tv or something, ask him if he thinks that male doctors get turned on while examining a female patient. It will get him thinking about it. If he says that it does, then ask if the thought of it turns him on. Tell him that maybe if he's lucky, that you'll let him come to your next appointment. Let him think that it was his idea and that you're doing him a favor... Then you don't have to worry about jealousy or what he thinks if he's not into it.

It is difficult when you spouse or significant other does not share you interest for medfet. I have tried to get my husband into it but he wants nothing to do with it. I have showed him pictures and had him read stories, I have tried different scenarios in the bedroom, showed him my collection of toys and explained what they are used for. And still he wants no part of it, and he still prefers the "vanilla" sex. I wish there were and easy answer to this for all of us. Best of luck to you!!

As a male I love it when my wife tells me something that turns her on so I would welcome it. I also am very open minded about sex so that helps. Perhaps ask him more questions on what he likes and what his fantasies are then that opens the door for you to tell him.

I totally get the hesitation...but whenever something is that intense even asking for it can be a thrilling experience. Tell your self and him that you don't know what he is going to think but here goes. You may never get any farther than asking. To me scary honesty is very erotic. Sounds like you two love other enough to get through it!

I could not tell a person what the right answer is for how to ask your husband to play doctor. I can only speak from my own experience. Telling my husband about my medfet-related fantasies was one of the scariest things I have ever done because I was so worried he would think something was wrong with me, but it was also one of the most worthwhile things to get off of my chest. I had thought even after I got married that I would carry my secret fantasies to my grave, but what a lonely way to live! (I was a hard nut to crack; we'd been married already for two years when I finally told him.) For me, it was some time after simply telling my husband about my fantasies that I decided to start to ask him for things. At first he seemed hesitant. However, when he saw how intensely medical things turned me on ("Seeing you in that white lab coat made me instantly soaked!"), he immediately became more enthusiastic! It's been a very gradual process for us, from disclosure to discussion to action. I have been careful every step of the way to not overwhelm him with too much information at once, and while I do not know if that was necessary, it's helped me worry less that he'll be scared away from playing with me. So far, so good.

To anyone out there struggling with whether and how to ask your significant other, I wish you the very best. I wish what worked for one person would work for everybody, but only you know your relationship and your spouse/significant other and can gauge their reactions best. Even I waited until my husband and I were feeling unusually close to disclose my secrets. Maybe not every relationship is conducive to total openness or complete participation by both partners in both partners' fantasies, but I think everyone does at least deserve to be heard and accepted.

I believe making a joke about the subject and seeing how your partner reacts is the best way to determine their interests. Just don't make the same joke twice!

You might try having him learn to do your monthly breast exams. that would be a start.

Innocently have him check your back, your bottom, or the back of your thighs for what you term "an itchy spot" as in "Honey, do I have a bug bite back there?" Gets him thinking a bit about looking you over. Do a self breast exam when he's around....casually, cooly just you doing your own thing. Lie on your back in the lithotomy position when you are getting ready for sex. Ask him coyly if he likes what he's seeing. Given a positive response suggest in a sultry manner that "perhaps you should examine things a bit closer?"

Cool and calm is one way to go; it's relatively safe. At some point you may need to be more direct but easing him into it may be beneficial as well. Good luck!

Maybe you could get naughty nurse outfit and suprise him one night by giving him an examination. If he enjoys it, you could repeat the role play a time or two. You could then help him transition to examining you by suggesting he be a doctor and you be his nurse. Tell him you have a problem and wonder if he could take a look at it. When the exam is over, tell him that was fun and you'll have to do it again.

This is my biggest fantasy. My wife will not participate. Any other suggestions would be welcomed.

The best thing is to explain that sex is better when you know more about each others' bodied. it is just another form of communication.

I feel that women have it pretty easy in this department. Men are visually stimulated - much more so than men. It is easy enough for a lady to put on a nurse outfit, grab a pair of rubber gloves, and a bottle of lube and get her man naked and into the scenario. Much more so than the reverse. I tried this with the wife once with just the Dr outfit. It was not the best scenario - more awkward than anything probably because she is not turned on visually.

I agree that women have it a lot easier. I can't imagine any man saying no if his girlfriend/wife put on a gown and requested an examination...

It took awhile, but I was finally able to get my wife to at least incorporate role play of doctor into our foreplay. It's pretty simple, but it's a start. Maybe one day I will get her to do more than just pretend to examine the breasts and a couple fingers in the vagina.

I've never had the guts to tell any of my boyfriends about being into exams and stuff, even the most adventurous one. I've always been afraid they'll think it's weird.