Women & Enemas - Why are most women put off by enemas?

I can't really say I have ever been “put off” by enemas. An enema was a rarity around our house and was seen as a last resort. A laxative and a teaspoon was far easier than messing with an enema syringe or bag. So, my exposure to enemas was limited in those formative years. Fast forward to late puberty and the beginning of “that time of the month”. I suffered cramps that could bend steel and my mother's remedy was a heating pad. After I got to college my roommate suffered the the dreaded cramps, too. Except she didn't immediately resort to the heating pad. She grabbed her enema bag….and thus introduced me to enemas. And as they say, the rest is history!

After the first enema, I remarked, “that was interesting”! Then came subsequent enemas and then it was game on! I've never looked back and from that point have never really been put off by enemas. That said, I'm not into fecal play or any such thing, which I do find off putting. However, an enema for the sheer enjoyment of it is something I truly savor…and when I can involve hubby in the process…so much the better!

Have fun and play safe!

Deb

After the first enema, I remarked, “that was interesting”! Then came subsequent enemas and then it was game on! I've never looked back and from that point have never really been put off by enemas. That said, I'm not into fecal play or any such thing, which I do find off putting. However, an enema for the sheer enjoyment of it is something I truly savor…and when I can involve hubby in the process…so much the better!

@debgurl : Our experiences are exact parallels. But each month 30 minutes with some warm soapy water is far better than what can seem like an eternity with monthly cramps. Truly “game on!” And from that day I have always said “No home should be without an enema bag.” And, yes, play safe.

My wife is this way too she got some growing up but we don't go there today.

I’m a VERY anally oriented GUY and enemas never did do much for me. To put it “short and sweet”, enemas are usually messy and overly time consuming whereas a plug or dildo up my hiney will do me “just fine” without the mess!

Why are most women put off by enemas?

Perhaps there are fewer who are into fetishes and bizarre things, and those that are keep it to themselves. Luckily, here we have some really lovely gals who are open about being into all sorts of things.

I have yet to meet a woman who has any interest in enemas. From the few times the topic was ever raised with the few I have had close relationships with they have associated it with childbirth as being the only time they ever received one so probably not a situation in which to have had any favourable enema experience. There are qiute a few references to enemas in the BBC TV series call the midwife usually implying that it is not a pleasurable experience.

Gee, ladies and gentlemen, I’m not sure there is only an exposure as a child or a hate relationship as an adult who never had an enema.

I dated a lady in her 30's, after her divorce. I introduced her to erotic enemas. Initially, we were getting ready to bathe together when I pulled an enema bulb from under my bathroom sink.

She asked, “What’s that?”

I explained that my ex wife had used it for douches but I used it to give myself an enema.

She volunteered that she had had one as a child but her mother used a much smaller bulb and nozzle. I told her that was exactly right for a small child but this larger bulb and nozzle were great for adults. Then I told her I wanted her to give me an enema.

I filled the sink with Ivory soap and warm water. Then I pulled out a jar of Vaseline and lubed my anus, took the bulb and showed her how to fill the bulb and then squeeze it to administer the enema. Then I greased the nozzle, filled it with soapy water and handed it to her before getting down on my hands and knees.

She asked what to do so I took the nozzle back, inserted it in my butt and give it a squeeze. I gave it back to her and said, “Now, you do it.”

I twisted around so I could see her face and watched as she refilled the bulb and gently inserted it in my rectum and used both hands to squeeze the bulb.

When she pulled it out, she asked if I wanted another one. I told her to just keep doing it until I told her I was full.

She worked slowly but surely and I got a huge erection as I watched her movements and was fascinated my her nudity, her pubic hair and her nipples that became larger, hard and erect.

After a half dozen bulbs, I told her that was enough and stood and sat on the toilet. I had pooped earlier that day so only water came out without a foul odor. As I cleaned myself, I told her it was her turn. She asked if I was sure and I said that she had seen how easy it was and she would be fine.

With that she assumed the position on her knees with her butt high in the air. I pried her hips apart and smeared Vaseline on her anus and told her to take a deep breath and exhale as I pushed my finger into her rectum to lube it.

Without hesitation, I filled the bulb and gently inserted it into her bowel. She said the nozzle tickled and i began to squeeze the bulb. She said the warm water felt good. I removed the nozzle, refilled the bulb and gave her another shot of soapy water. As I removed the nozzle again she asked how many I was going to give her. I told her one more. So I filled the bulb a third time and enjoyed the insertion and squeezed as I looked closely at her anus and labia that appeared to be swollen and moist.

She made me leave the bathroom and close the door so she could expel in private. So I took the bulb to my other bedroom and Started cleaning it up before putting it away. As I was finishing, she appeared in my bedroom, climbed up on the king size bed and started masturbating. As I glanced at her she said her tummy felt great and the enema made her horny.

Picking up on what she said and watching her openly masturbating, I opened another jar of Vaseline, fished out another glob on my finger and headed to the bed. I told her to lie back and lift and spread her legs, as she did I had full access to her anus. I gently inserted my finger and started thrusting it in and out while quietly talking dirty to her, telling her I was fucking her ass while she was fucking her pussy.

I told her how wet she was, how I was going to eat her pussy and fuck her in the butt. In no time she was squirting and orgasming. When she came back to earth, she asked if I really wanted to fuck her in her hiney. I told her yes but I would need to get my tube of KY and a condom.

She said Ok so I washed my hands of the Vaseline, opened the KY and condom and went back to the bed. I gave her the thrill of rolling the rubber on my rock hard dick before I lubed it generously with the KY. I instructed her to lie on her back, to bend her legs up to her breasts and let her legs fall wide open. As she did, I took another generous amount of KY and lubed her anus and rectum for several minutes.

I talked quietly telling her to let her rectal muscles relax. When I could move two fingers in and out with no pain on her part, I knew she was ready. I put the head of my penis against her anus and pushed gently. Obviously she liked it because she started pushing back. Soon she started opening up and my head disappeared. She was panting loudly and said, “Wait a minute.”... I was very still until she said Ok so I gently started pushing again.

Soon my dick was balls deep and her eyes were closed. I asked if she was okay, she said she was and asked me to go slow. I started a slow gentle thrust without any complaints from her. After about eight or 10 thrusts she uttered a breathless “Faster.” I obeyed and began a moderate thrusting. She reacted by pushing her hips higher and began rubbing her engorged clit and labia again. Within a few minutes she began to grunt from deep within her throat which was followed by a loud squirting orgasm. She moved so violently that by dick came out of her ass. As the grip of her orgasm subsided, she told me to put my dick back in her ass. I did as told and began a steady thrust while she encouraged me to cum.

Her ass was tight and I was approaching the point of no return when she reached around and put a finger in my ass. That did it and I shot my load as deeply as my dick would reach. My breathing was heavy and I practically fell on top of her.

As I was recovering, she told me how much she liked her first ass fucking and admitted she never thought she’d get someone to do that. She also admitted the enema made her horny and she wanted enemas to become a regular part of our sexual activities.

Of course they did and I introduced her to bags, colon tubes and enemas in series. To this day she’s a huge enema user and giver.

@Beth82 I liked your comment about how common enema was for you and your cousins and uncles. Sorry to indiscricao but by your nick you seem to be around 40 years, i got it right?

@Real_Screamer nice history

A couple of things- a friend of my mother spoke openly about giving her young daughters enemas and then giving herself one. I was 12-13 and listening to the very attractive woman speak of enemas. She caused my fetish. I couldn’t get the image of her giving me enemas out of my head.

Also I see a mistress from time to time. She has shared that she enjoys giving enemas.

I think this thread is misguided. I don't think women dislike them anymore than the general population, in fact I suspect many women are more open to them than many men, but things have changed.

First, I'm not an enema fan. I've had them yes. I have colitis. It's a life long thing. Since I was 14 it's ranged from IBS to ulcerative colitis. I suppose if you look at the bright side, the restrictions I've had to impose on my diet throughout my life because of it are what kept me pretty thin right up to menopause. I'm in a break-through phase right now so my diet is very restricted. I had to give up wine, and if you knew me, you would know what a sacrifice THAT is. But I digress.

‘Back in the day’, what a lot of you call the ‘golden age’, people ate like shit. High fat, lots of meat, minimal veg. A diet pretty much guaranteed to bind your colon. Women also get the joy of periods. Those of you who don't have them may not know but they affect how well your colon is working. A lot of the women I know get bound up during their periods. Me, it always did the opposite.

Additionally, back then people fully believed a BM a day kept the doctor away. I remember my mother being obsessed and my father-in-law as well (I never met my mother-in-law as she died before hubby and I got together but I helped care for his dad when he was older and he was completely poop obsessed and used laxatives). We now know that not everyone poops on the same schedule and a day or two without a poo isn't the end of the world, so our generation (X and beyond) grew up with parents who were less freaked about BMs so we never got the home enemas unless we were really sick. I had a few fleets when my IBS went the other way and stopped me up for a few days and they were unpleasant - mostly because I, like someone else who posted, don't like shitting. I have 0 problem with people sticking things in my bum, I like it, always have.

So, how do I get to the idea that ‘women DO like enemas’? - have you ever seen the ads for colon clinics? Who do you think the majority of patrons for them are? Women. I live in an upscale development in Texas. Firmly upper middle class. I'm one of the older residents, most are young X-ers or Millennials. I've made friends with a few of the older Millennials and have been asked to go on a girls weekend to a colon clinic. Ah, no. The last thing my colon needs is MORE stimulation right now but you girls go and have fun.

My point, and I do have one, is women aren't opposed to them anymore than men are and possibly less, it's a generational thing. They're just less likely to do it at home and more likely to go to a clinic.

The more appropriate question might be “why don't more women sexualize enemas?" Well, for one, they don't have a prostate gland. They also don't have a mother-son relationship dynamic to inform their sexuality.

That being said, about 25 years ago I had a female enema playmate. She was about my age and a true klismo. She enjoyed everything about enemas and combined them with masturbation. She decided she wanted to find a male friend that liked enemas too and would combine it with sex and she found me. I asked her the origin of her love for enemas and she said when she was a little girl she was hospitalized (I think several times) and received enemas as part of her treatment. Those were powerful and evocative memories for her. She would recreate them and adding a sexual component was pleasant or comforting.

I'm thinking that Nurse Phillips' millennial neighbor gals going for a weekend to a colonic clinic are not doing it because they sexualize enemas. Or maybe they are and I am just not hep to these things. Based on some of my other experiences, there is no telling what you little scamps are up to. But probably its just some new-agey health thing.

@Nurse_Phillips Your remark about parents insisting on bowel movements every day is interesting. There is a French movie called La Baule Les Pins, set in the 1950s, where a bourgeois woman makes her daughter take a glycerin suppository every evening to ensure a bowel movement. At some point, when the maid gives the suppositories to the girls (who thought they would avoid them due to being on vacation without their mother), one girl objects “I've already ‘been’ this morning" and the maid answers “it's twice a day".

I grew up in the 1970s and my parents were still afraid of constipation, with the possibility of bowel obstruction and possible rectal injuries with straining. Mom had mild laxatives and glycerin suppositories on hand.

The more appropriate question might be “why don't more women sexualize enemas?" Well, for one, they don't have a prostate gland. They also don't have a mother-son relationship dynamic to inform their sexuality.

That being said, about 25 years ago I had a female enema playmate. She was about my age and a true klismo. She enjoyed everything about enemas and combined them with masturbation. She decided she wanted to find a male friend that liked enemas too and would combine it with sex and she found me. I asked her the origin of her love for enemas and she said when she was a little girl she was hospitalized (I think several times) and received enemas as part of her treatment. Those were powerful and evocative memories for her. She would recreate them and adding a sexual component was pleasant or comforting.

I'm thinking that Nurse Phillips' millennial neighbor gals going for a weekend to a colonic clinic are not doing it because they sexualize enemas. Or maybe they are and I am just not hep to these things. Based on some of my other experiences, there is no telling what you little scamps are up to. But probably its just some new-agey health thing.

You know the internal parts of the clitoris extend all the way to just above the anus, right? I may not have a prostate but anal stimulation sends me to the moon and if you chatted with some of the women I know you would change your mind on the sexualization of them. They may not find them overtly sexual but they wax rhapsodic over ‘how good it feels’.

That’s true Nurse Phillips. All of the women I’ve given more than one enema have told me something in their asses feels good. Many have orgasmed from anal fingering or masturbating while receiving an enema.

I've never been to a colon clinic, but from what some of my GFs have said trying to sell me on the idea, they've completely sanitized the process. They suck the poop right out of you so there's no mess or smell. That may be a big part of why younger women who are into it prefer the clinic route to the home grown way.

Women always outnumbered the men at the colonic clinics I patronized. It seemed the majority of those women would have lived during the golden age of enemas.

@Nurse_Phillips Oh, I completely agree there are female anal erotics. My klysma friend was definitely one of them. I just think boys' g-spot is right there for enema nozzles and the flow to stimulate from their earliest experiences onwards.

I have a sneaking suspicion (but no proof) that women give themselves enemas more frequently than men do. I also suspect that not all--maybe not even a majority--of those enemas are truly for health reasons.

@Nurse_Phillips

Can you fill us in on the reasons the young colonic girls went for a colonics weekend as a group?

I have to think they enjoyed them and compared their treatment experiences.

A ‘detox cleanse‘ for health and to lose weight. I am sure they enjoyed them, for some of them go fairly often.

In general, women are more interested than men in preventive measures of wellbeing and in “soft medicine” or “natural medicine”. It would not be surprising that women would be the majority in those using enemas for “medical” purposes. See what @Nurse_Phillips says about detox.

This by the way not in contradiction to enjoying the enemas sexually. My impression is that for a long while now many sexually stimulating procedures and devices have been made socially acceptable by pushing a health or wellbeing motive. Thus, vibrators were sold as relaxation devices; douche bulbs with very thick nozzles were sold for “hygiene” (why such a thick nozzle if not for vaginal stimulation), etc.

It would not be socially acceptable today to say you took an enema for sexual kicks, but it's acceptable to say you're detoxing. And that's not only a question of others. It's also a question of self-image: people don't want to see themselves as weirdos.

@CP_and_Enemas I have a sneaking suspicion (but no proof) that women give themselves enemas more frequently than men do. I also suspect that not all--maybe not even a majority--of those enemas are truly for health reasons.

I also think women are more conscious at maintaining her own health and that of her family. This is been proven time again through the ages.

I’m not saying that men aren’t concerned about their health, but I’m willing to bet where there is an enema bag hanging to dry in a shower today, there's a good chance a woman has used it — and I hope she’s feeling better! 🌹

I've met a few that have admitted to taking enemas for the health reasons. I haven't had the courage to ask if they also have orgasms with them, or anything like that. I know I turn beet red, struggling not to ask them.

If we are looking at numbers, most people are put off by enemas, both women and men. We are a special breed in here! I only do solo enemas. I love them and they feel great. I’ve broached the subject once with my wife. She was totally perplexed and we’ve never discussed it again. So I’m on my own and totally fine with that. Sometimes i orgasm. Enema orgasms are spectacular! Other times I’m just relaxing and pampering myself.

If we are looking at numbers, most people are put off by enemas, both women and men. We are a special breed in here!

True. Since Zity.biz started out with an enema site -- enemas4fun -- the numbers and opinions stated here is not the general public. Many people, found here, like and enjoy enemas.

I'm not saying there are not women found out in the general public that use enemas. There probably is. They may not find a sexual connection with their enema taking. I never have. Despite trying to keep an open kind. Having to poop is just not sexy.

I've never had an enema or given one, but I would imagine the answer is found in the original poster's comment.

"My thoughts on why women do not like to give and receive enemas. Women are Romantics. Enemas = S***, poo, poop, yuk."

I've never asked anyone but that's my guess too.

@MissStress I’m not saying there are not women found out in the general public that use enemas. There probably is.

I believe more women from the “general public” are using enemas than we may think, although I agree, “poo” is not a subject most women are not comfortable talking about or dealing with.

On the other hand, digestive-related conditions such as IBS and colitis among women stressed to balance career, home and family represent a good percentage of today’s female healthcare needs. From personal experience of women I know, they don’t enjoy taking medication up their behind or enemas if they are constipated, but they are doing them.

It appears that a growing number of women are trying alternative forms of healthcare, including probiotic enemas for intestinal inflammation and coffee enemas for liver detox. So far, pharmacies are staying away from the sales of enema bags, but I can’t imagine with so many websites with so many choices, that there aren’t a growing number of “happy bums” out there!

Conversation reminds me of when I was listening to my local college radio station and two gals hosting show started talking about their parents and one mentioned her parents were Italian and then mentioned they were big on giving her enemas! I couldn't believe my ears and oh if I could have recorded the discussion that followed.

Questions involving sexual gratification aside for the present, enemas serve two other purposes -- relief of acute constipation and general hygiene / cleanliness. The first involves that substance all of us produce, but seek to flush away at the first opportunity; the second usually contributes to a feeling of cleanliness and general health, so a lot of us, male and female alike, might incorporate it into the ritual, often as the first act, when we find the time for some serious personal hygiene and grooming -- nothing wrong with that, and I suspect that more women are drawn to this than is usually admitted.