Feel any jealousy in having her examined?

My ex was always very upset when I had to make a visit to as he said "that kind of a doctor". He couldn't even bring him self to say the word Gynecologist. I have also gone out with a guy who told me he wouldn't let his wife ever go to a male doctor.

I am jealous of my wife being examined by a male doctor because I wish it were me. I find it extremely exciting to watch during an examination. I find myself envious, not jealous. It leads to a lot of fun afterward.

As a female doctor with an attraction to female patients I have always wondered about the guys who are bothered by a male doctor examining their wives or girlfriends.

So is it purely the fact that they may be enjoying themselves, or the fact that they are male? There is little difference in a clinical sense from myself or a male doctor performing an exam procedure.

But guys would it also bother you in the same way if you knew I was enjoying examining your wife or girlfriend ?

As you will have seen, Sarahgyn, there's a variety of different views on this. Some men and women get turned on by their partner being examined - fair enough, if it's what they both enjoy I wish them well. The thread's title speaks of jealousy. Personally, I've never seen it as having anything to do with jealousy, I just don't like the idea of ANY other man looking at my partner's 'private' areas for any reason. Let's just leave aside the 'it's sometimes necessary for a doctor to do that' thing - I know it is. As I said earlier on here, I prefer to be examined by a female. This forum and this fetish, like life, is replete with paradoxes, contradictions, and yes, sometimes, hypocrisy. I plead guilty.

You ask if it would make a difference if they were enjoying themselves: well, yes, it would make me feel even worse - but how would anyone know (unless there were outward 'giveaway' signs) that was the case?

You have been honest enough to admit that you feel an attraction to your female patients, you will no doubt find yourself being criticised for that, but, as you are no more capable of switching your innermost feelings on and off at will than anyone else, what should you do - give up practising medicine?

Your final question is a fascinating one. I've had girlfriends who've preferred having intimate exams done by male doctors, and some who would rather be examined by a female; the reasons I've been given for these preferences would take up a lot of room, and I haven't always been given a definitive reason. One I have suspected (as I said in my post above) is that some women (and men) feel it's unnatural to have someone of the same sex looking at and touching their intimate areas. No, I wouldn't like to think you were enjoying yourself examining my partner, and I have to assume she wouldn't, either - and that's the more important point. Whilst I may not like it, you would be enjoying yourself at HER expense. But before I, or anyone else, throws up their hands in horror, consider this: anyone who enjoys being examined by a doctor in real life (and not all on here do) is actually enjoying themselves at the doctor's expense (assuming the doctor isn't of the same persuasion). It's possible to be an unwitting pawn on either side of the game.

It doesn't do to make sweeping assumptions, human nature makes us all different. I don't believe all doctors are rampant sex fiends exploiting their patients any more than I think the moon's made of green cheese, but I do accept the possibility that some may enjoy their work in a way that mainstream opinion would regard as inappropriate.

I once read a question on a (general) forum asking women if they enjoyed having internal examinations. The replies ran the gamut of opinion, but the first one was along the lines of: "Oh yes, I'm naked from the waist down lying on a bench with my bum hanging over the edge and some guy I don't know is sticking his fingers inside me - trust me, no woman's going to enjoy that." Really?

OK, that was how she felt, and she was entitled to speak for herself, but not to make such a sweeping statement about all womankind. We know she was wrong to do so, and people who posted after her told her that.

Let's face it, we sometimes have a hard time figuring what's in our own minds, all we know of what's in other people's is what they choose to tell us.

Sarah that is an interesting thought. I just posted another thread about the fact that my gf and I have made a number of appointments with new docs simply to experience different exam styles and so on.

While she does not jump for joy with all the procedures, she does enjoy me watching and this has helped our playtime. Most of our appointments have been with male docs...and I have noticed at least in one occasion that the doc realized I was watching...and shall we say...accomodated. I think I'd enjoy this same effect from a female doc at least as much, heck maybe more

So do you pick up on the fact that a male partner in the room may be watching a bit more than half hearted?

Greg

Greg, you might like my most recent story:

http://www.zity.biz/index.php?action=forum;topic=38516.0

It's told from the perspective of my wife who is watching me undergo a very extensive insurance physical. I hope you like it. Let me know.

Hi Greg,

Well there are a few scenarios in the exam room that come up - and for the most part it shows if there is something more than a casual presence in the room - so here are a couple variations-

The husband is there, prenatal exam is very common, and terribly nervous about being in the room. Maybe interested in the heartbeat but looking anywhere but at the table otherwise

Then there is the guy who pretends to not notice, but he positions any way possible to get the best view

Then we have the "cameraman", happens a lot at prenatal, and this fellow unlike the nervous husband lets the camera roll for the entire exam, usually trying not to be obvious.

Finally few and far between, but it does occur, I get a guy and girl in where he is blatantly watching, and she is well aware

sarah

My wife was home to the hospital for a hernia operation, I was not jealous of the hernia but everything around it

Question Sarahgyn, are they or do your patients become aware of your interest in performing an exam? I would think it is very difficult to be completely detached and clinical while having "an interest" in performing the exam. I'm not judging just curious.

Absolotely not, to aroused to feel jealous

Not at all jealous if it was a sort of (I almost hesistate to use the word, not sure what the posting rules are) sl*t fantasy where my wife or gf is enjoying being made a sexual spectacle of, and telling me about it aftewards as she has an orgasm while recounting it, or embellishing on it with her fantasies. Generally the best situation is when impersonal things are done to her and she described how it turned her on being manipulated and exposed.

On the other hand, if it was her telling me how she was romantically attracted to some dashing young doctor, what would be the point for me, lol. Hey, not saying I'd not get excited from jealousy (as did happen when she cheated on me...did wonders for our sex life) but it's two different modes for me mentally.

Both very potent modes and pretty exciting, but jealousy of the doctor doesn't seem to factor in as fantasy, where as jealousy of a lover can be a real turn on if you're at the right point in a relationship and up for the challenge. Mostly one needs to ignore it and turn it into fantasy in which case the lover ends up imposing more restrictions on the husband's access to his wife, becomes a bore, and so wife invests again in husband emotionally, and reduced investment in lover.

No jealousy whatsoever. In fact I wish medical insurance would pay for at least four pelvic exams a year, I'd have my girlfriend make appointments for every one that the insurance would pay for! And I'd make sure to be there for each one, too. That reminds me, she's due in a couple months for her annual physical and pap/pelvic, I'll have to remind her to make an appointment and I'll have to put in for that day off from work!

I usually get to be there and watch...so no jealousy at all. Always really good sex after, too. 😃

I have no jealousy about my wife going to see the doctor in any case.

In our play life I have taken her to see several play docs while we've traveled. It really adds an exciting element to our vacations...for us both.

When I was in my early twenties I may have been a little jealous, but then shortly thereafter I became very interested and wanted to know every detail of the exam. I tried to get her to let me go with her, but that sadly never happened except during the birth process and the checks during labor.

I would say I am envious, not jealous, that stranger would have that kind of power over my wife. She is an RN and has always gone to male gyns through the years. Has gone to two practices over the years seeing five different male doctors. There are now four women docs in the practice but she sticks with her regular doc.

When I was a young married man, I was jealous (not too harsh a word for what I felt). But as I have gotten older it is not so much jealousy any longer, but a great desire to be there and see her gyn exam so I know what goes on, what the doctor says to her and what she tells him, what the exam room looks like, etc. Now I am also definitely envious since he is the only one who has seen her and touched her "down there" since about 1992.

My wife always gets examined by a female nurse, and as soon as she gets home we have a really good session. I would much prefer a male doctor to examine her, I find the thought of her spreading her legs wide for him, and his fingers probing inside her, very exciting.

Nothing turns me on more then hearing her tell me about how a man touched her inside and out!

Yes, and totally aroused at the same time. My wife has never allowed me to go in to the exam room with her. I have been in the hall to the exam rooms she has been in. I have watched the female nurse show my wife to the exam room, and I have seen the table and two different style gyno chairs in the room before the door shut. Then after a few minutes the nurse would come out and I could see my wife in the room still fully clothed, but there was a gown and sheet on the chair.

After a few minutes (it seemed like an hour) the Doctor (male) always older greying 50's, would pick her chart out of the rack on the door, look at it for a minute, knock once on the door and open it up. my wife was sitting on the chair, wearing the gown and sheet oaver her legs. talk about mixed emotions. WOW

I am ore turned on by the thought than jealous. My wife tells me all of the details. I have been to a couple of her exams and there were exciting to watch.

My Ex-wife of 26 years had a med-fet that was very strong. She did orgasm with one of her Gyn’s finger insertion. The time she was fitted for our diaphragm we had intercourse in our spare practice time. Jealous? Heck no, in over 50 R/T exams she only went without me one time. She was so turned on that we ended up building an exam room at home as you cans see in my gallery.

No jealousy at all. Basically I enjoy it.

Perhaps a little twinge of jealousy is a healthy thing that adds to the excitement of those of us who have leanings toward medical fetishism. But it should just be a small portion of the mixture of emotions which make it work, and it should be something you control, as opposed to it's controlling you.

I was slightly jealous when I was comparatively young but after some years I became happy with my med fetishes and started to enjoy GF's stories about exams 😎 .

Long ago my with first baby I had a male doctor and my husband never went in with me. He thought I needed my privacy. When waiting for the baby to come out the doctor came into check me. my husband went to get up to give me privacy but before he could move the doctor lifted my gown and checked my cervix to see how far along I was.My husband said while checking me the doctor looked at him with a strange look that bothered him because he couldn't figure out why the doctor would be looking at him while he had his fingers in me.After that he only wanted me to have a female doctor.He said it made him feel jealous and that the doctor seemed like he was showing he could do whatever he wanted to me in front my husband. It was also the same doctor who did my first exam who was very demanding and did not seem to sympathize that I never had this done before and very nervous. We became distrusting of male doctors for along time. Now we know he was just a doctor with very bad bed side manner.One of the kind that says spread your legs wider and move down more. Female doctors do nothing for my husband when I see them. But now I have a male family doctor who is really nice and my husband feels more secure knowing he is nice and enjoyed it when I had my surprise exam with him.

I used to feel jealous of my wife going to the gyno, but I have long gotten over that. It is more an excitement to hear the details and to realize the Dr. has complete control over the situation. In fact, when my wife changed to a female gyno, I was disappointed. I have tried to talk her into seeing a male, but she is not comfortable with that now. So, I just listen to the stories and fantasize a little.

I've never been with her to an exam, but I might one day. We'll see.

I have never been to or have desired to be examined by a male doctor. I found out at a young age that many male doctors working as gynecologists have problems dealing with their female patients and how they react to them. There are special groups for help and recovery for troubled doctors. I want no other man other than my husband touching me in any intimate way. Way to much bad ju-ju surrounding troubled male doctors. I have always used a female and I'll stick to that. My husband would go with me especially during the times I was pregnant. The female doctors work best for me. Don't want no male doctor peeking under my hood, never!

gynedoll

I have no jealousy about it. Most Gyno's are in and out in five minutes and really are way too busy to take any real time or interest just like most other Dr.s. I however get to spend as much time as I like down there with her opened up for as long as I want.

Interesting comment gynedoll... and of course you are welcome to your own opinions.

There are those however who would say that male doctors, gyne in particular, are more caring, sensitive, gentle and understanding. Of course there are those that are not as well.

Obviously it is up to each woman to make her own decision,.. and choose her own doctor.

As to the base question, I feel no jealousy.