Movie "The Secretary"

AnneB, I wouldn't say that being a cutter classifies you as a nutjob, but it definitely is a mental condition, usually related to depression, most often found in teenagers. It also can be classified as attention seeking behavior, also usually associated with depression. All of which are mental conditions and need to be treated.

I was a cutter too the fact im completely mental has NO correlation with that. But i enjoyed the movie and had a few laughs.

Mash, I have to disagree about cutting being indicative of a psychological condition that needs treatment. When I used to cut, I would usually do so when I was upset about something, for sure. But I would not classify it as being depressed. Cutting can be a coping technique, and there are lots of coping techniques. It's not as mainstream as a hot bubble bath, but it's healthier than say, alcohol and pills.

There are some cultures in which scarification is a common practice. Some people in this culture find it erotic.

Do mentally disturbed people cut themselves? Sure. Are all cutters mentally disturbed (or depressed, or whatever?)? Definitely not.

I thought the movie "The Secretary" was probably THE BEST representation of a "real" lifestyle relationship made for general public viewing. It was a voyouristic peek at a lifestyle most people have never experienced or understood.

Michelle NYC

Great movie, not often you find a mainstream movie dealing with dom and subs. Didn't James Spader also do a movie "Crash" about car wreck fetishes?

The spankings are real. She was left black and blue after filming those scenes. It was a low-budget movie and quite torturous for her. I have never watched it from start to finish. I catch it on every now and then and watch a scene or two but it's kind of dark for my taste.

And the James Spader movie about car wreck fetishists also stars Holly Hunter. I tried to watch it because I love Holly Hunter but I found the movie weird and boring. Just not my thing.

I eventually saw it and loved it. I'm still waiting to play it out though...

Maggie Gyllenhall is so hot and the chemistry between her and James Spader is excellent. I agree with egirlky that it's a little dark in places, not all of it is erotic, but some parts are incredibly so...

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I saw it and loved it - Mainly because James Spader is so sexy in it - that brooding voice of his, so calm yet authoritative. I'd obey his commands any day 😃 One thing I really didn't get - what was up with the mailing of the worms??

I have seen the Movie, and i think is a good movie.

You are right. Cutting is not always associated with depression; it also appears with certain personality disorders. Some people may cut for a time and stop, particularly if whatever stressor taxed their coping mechanisms fades, but what happens if those coping skills have not increased when stress levels rise again? There will always be people who are exceptions, but they are not the ones that end up in my office after a hospitalization.

I loved the movie also

Maggie got Exactly what she wanted. 😄

I liked the scene where she is bent over the desk reading her letter

Maggie got Exactly what she wanted. 😄

And he too 😉

It's warming my heart seeing them finding each other!

That's what makes the wourld and this forum go round 😘

Spanking is good and fun. Movies which employ the act are far too rare. I'd like to see more mainstream movies which employ this real life adventure.

I liked it. I would watch it each time it came on tv. Same with L.A. Confidential (not sm at all, just saying).

Well, when I first saw it I thought it was a little "soft core." But, a I thought about the theme, I like the movie better. I'm not going to rehash some of the good insights that have already been expressed here (and I havent read them all the posts, by the way), but what I ultimately took away from the movie is that acceptance of our fetishes can be liberating.

What was ironic is that this liberation led the characters into a surprisingly vanilla life on the outside:

His law practice apparently boomed, economically. New clients, different clients. Nice car, nice house, right in the middle of suburbia. He no longer kow-towed to his ex-wife. It was certainly suggested that she became a stay-at-home wife, who now had the courage and self-esteem to attempt bottom-up control: in the last scene, she purposely dropped a bug on the floor, in an apparent violation of "cleanliness rules." The last statement that the movie made TO ME was : "These people could live next door to you." lol. Great movie.

I really enjoyed the movie as well. I saw growth and self realization in both characters. She found another outlet for her emotions other than cutting and found self control in being controlled. You could tell her evolution and the growth of confidence and feminine empowerment as the story progressed. He found someone to nurture and help develope who accepted him and let him let go of his own shame and confusion, to embrace a 24/7 relationship instead of little snippets of forbidden play. The attraction was pretty instantaneous from the get go. There was some really nice imagery created. I loved it when he tended his orchids as it seemed to be a metaphor to their relationship. And it was a joy to watch her come into her own...and her ingenious ways of asking for spankings 😉

I've seen it and really like it. Different sort of movie, not for everyone.

I really liked the movie as well. There is something about Maggie that I really like. I can't really put my finger on it, but I think she was great in the movie.

This movie is still one of my favorites. I am a huge James Spader fan.

Mashie

I only saw this fairly recently but I love it. The way they covered the subject matter is fantastic and it had me riveted from start to end.

In my earlier exploration of spanking videos I happened upon the spanking scene and OH MY did I wank to that video. It was soo erotic and sensual in some ways. I have not seen the whole video but I really want to.

The thought and comment that Catholic girls make great submissives is utter nonsense. Being raised as Catholic and being around many Catholic women tells me that this comment comes from someone who really does not have a clue. If anything, I find them to be the opposite.

The thought and comment that Catholic girls make great submissives is utter nonsense. Being raised as Catholic and being around many Catholic women tells me that this comment comes from someone who really does not have a clue. If anything, I find them to be the opposite.

I don’t know I think this (ex) Parochial School Catholic girl makes a great sub. I can supply references if you need them.

The scene where she masturbates in the ladies room is super hot and I don’t even like her.

I remember seeing the movie awhile ago, and the spanking scenes were erotic. Like many things erotic, when something is good, instead of being satisfied, it only makes me want to see more, more... I see the movie is rent-able on Amazon Prime...

Not seen it in many a year. Actually I think it saw it shortly after it came out. Only saw it once. Must watch it again.

Enjoyed the film. It wasn't too over the top, and not as glitzy as the 50 Shades franchise. The film I most like in this genre is Maitresse. Saw it in London for it's first UK showing after it had been allowed by the censors. Stars Gérard Depardieu in one of his earliest films.

I thought the masturbation scene was super hot but the spanking scene just didn't go far enough.

I thought it was a pretty good movie.