[font=comic sans ms]When I was reading this thread some thoughts occurred to me.
First off, let me say I'm a switch. So, I've both taken and given enemas in D/s play. I've also shared enemas that were not given/taken in any relation to D/s play, they were simply enema fun for enema fun's sake.
Some people think that anytime your partner gives you an enema it's automatically a matter of submission. But I can't see how that belief holds water (pun intended). Most of us have experiences of enemas as sheer anal pleasure, so we eagerly take an enema and want them. We're simply sharing anal pleasure that involves enemas.
But, what we're talking about here, it appears to me, goes far beyond that. It's the desire for a fairly specific sort of enema pleasure. And those of you who have shared it with someone have outlined it nicely. We want to be made to take an enema on our partner's terms, and we want those terms to be demanding or taxing or forced or required of us. And we know when those elements are met. Be it by deed or word, we know our partner is in control and that what we're doing by submitting pleases us both. We employ terms and phrase like; made to, used, forced to, humiliated by, have to, and the like to show our desire.
And a good Dom/Domme know our need and desire and makes sure it's brought out and met.
It's not that I took an enema, so I'm submissive. It's not that I gave an enema, therefore I'm Dominant. That's not nearly enough. It's that I participated in the taking of an enema that met my wants and desires that marks me and it as enjoying enema submission. It's that I gave an enema that met my partner's need for submission and met his/her needs and cravings that marks me and it as enjoying enema Dominance.
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