Diaphragm fitting by doctor

A number of years ago my girlfriend went to a male gynecologist and was fitted for a diaphragm.She told me that he spent quite a while examining her and putting the diaphragm inside her, removing it and inserting it again.She said that she became a little bit aroused during all this due to the fact that he inserted it and moved his fingers around inside her to check the position. After a time he had her insert and remove it herself several times while he watched and would feel again to check the position after each insertion. She said that having him watch her do it was embarrassing and letting him feel her that way was weird.I got her to show me how she inserted it and I felt inside her to see what it felt like.I wonder if what he did is the normal way that they fit those things or if maybe he was just enjoying feeling her up.

Have any of you ladies had an experience with a diaphragm?

Years ago, I was fitted for a diaphragm ... and my experience was very similar to your girlfriend's, only I had a female LPN fitting me. It was amazing ... probably the longest time I've ever spent in a medical situation completely undressed.

I had gone for my annual breast and pelvic exam, and a friend had gotten a diaphragm and told me what a great little tool it was for when you had your period, or forgot to take your birth control pills ... so I decided to get one.

First, I forgot to tell the nurse until I was completely undressed and she had finished the breast exam. She sighed a bit and said we could fit it as part of the pelvic. As I scooted towards the end of the table, she took away my little paper sheet - it was the first time I've ever been completely uncovered for a breast/pelvic - and she told me I was going to have to watch to learn how to use it.

She proceeded with the pelvic (didn't warm the speculum at all, so I guess she wasn't fond of doing these fittings!) ... and she was extremely thorough with the bimanual exam and even did a rectal (my first - and I was only 19).

She had me sit up (still absolutely naked), and showed me a tray with diaphragms in several sizes - and told me that she'd have to fit me, then teach me how to use it. She had me lie back again with my feet in the stirrups and she inserted two fingers inside my vagina. She moved them around quite a bit -I suppose to assess the dimensions(?) deep inside me. Then she selected one of the diaphragms and spread me wide with two fingers, and pushed it in over my cervix. I could feel her run her finger around the edge to check for gaps ...

At this point, I was very aroused .. that had been a lot of looking and feeling around inside, and there wasn't much I could do to avoid it.

She had me stand and walk around a bit, to see if I could feel any movement inside .... I was so conscious of the movement of my breasts, the stickiness between my legs ... and then she had me lie back again, with my feet in the stirrups, while she inspected the fit again. Once again, two fingers deep inside, feeling all around ....

She pronounced the fit "good" but suggested I try the next size up ... just for comparison. She had me sit up, with my feet still in the stirrups, and she showed me how to hook my finger around the outside ring to pull the diaphragm out. Then, she reinserted it, folding it in half and pushing it back until it popped open and into place.

Then she said, "Okay, you try it." I was mortified - she said, "You have to learn, and for me to teach you, I have to watch. So, go on now ..."

I spread myself wide and inserted my finger, feeling around for the ring. She moved my knees further apart as I was doing this and stood, so she could get a clearer view. As I felt deeper inside, I began to panic that I would not be able to find it or get it out ... She must have realized this and told me to relax ... she put her hand over mine and inserted her finger over my two, and guided my finger to the ring.

At this point, I was uncomfortably stretched and humiliated at having her hand inside me as well as my own ... it was only two fingers, but two fingers from two different hands ....

She said that I should try to insert the larger one, because it would be easier to handle. She placed it at the entrance to my vagina and took my hand, helping me to grasp and push it in without fisting myself ... at this point, I was seriously doubting whether this was worth it!

Again, she had my lie back so she could check the fit, then stand and walk around. As soon as I stood, I knew this one was too big - it felt like it was holding me open ...

She had me get back on the table, this time face down, with my bottom up high and my chest on the table ... she again inserted two fingers inside my vagina and agreed that this one was too big ...

Going back to the first one, she had me sit up again ... at this point, I was accustomed to having nothing at all on (well, except my socks), and we had a conversation about spermicide, and she had me practice inserting and removing the diaphragm twice more.

The last time, she had me lie back again and spread me wide ... saying that she was afraid I had some allergy to the spermicide because my labia looked so red and swollen ... the truth was that I was just so very stimulated from having her touch me repeatedly that I could not help myself.

She gave me a prescription for some cream to quell the "irritation" I had, as well as an alternative spermicide, and told me to get dressed.

So yes - this was definitely one of the longer and more "interactive" exams I've ever had.

Glad you all enjoyed it ... I'm not still using the diaphragm - it was quite some time ago, but there are some things you never forget!! I did recently get an IUD (Mirena) and it wasn't nearly as fun! The doc was quite efficient, very quick and while I enjoyed some slight discomfort, and the speculum they used was enormous, the whole process took less than ten minutes.

Just as my wife described it to me, unfortunately I could not be there o witness the process, very arousing indeed.

That does sound like it would be an awfully fun procedure to watch as a husband/boyfriend if only you could come up with an excuse...

Actually I have heard someone say that one way to get around the distraction of having to stop to insert the diaphragm (if you haven't already) just as you and your partner are getting arroused is to have the male do the inserting so maybe there is an excuse!

Never had a girlfriend who used one so can't really say.

Maybe the Doctor could be convinced that the husband is going to

My wife had a similiar experience when she was having a gyno exma, she asked the doc if he could fit her for a diaphram, and he told her that it would take a little while but he could do it while she was there. So after he finished her pelvic exam, she was able to set up, he gave her some materials to read and he was gone aobut fifteen minutes, when he came back into the room he had her lay back down put her feet back in the stirrups and proceeded to exam her with his fingers checking for sizing. and then he inserte several diffeenr sixes and had her insert, while her feet whee still in the sirrups and her watched her, she said this turned on a little

I understand from the women who have shared their gyno experiences with me that the procedure for a diaphragm fitting includes a lot of finger work. The doctors have a set of circular rings that they insert to determine size. If it is the first fitting a lot of education is required including the patient inserting the device and the doctor checking with his fingers to see that she got it in the proper position. The cervix must be completely covered. I enjoyed a relationship where lovemaking was always proceeded by me inserting the device and then checking to see that it was in perfect position.

Going with my wife to the gyno was always a turn-on. The best part was when he showed me her cervix. I would have loved to watch a diaphram insertion; but alas, she had her tubes tied and there was no need.

I had a diaphragm fitting in 2000, and it was just about the worst diaphragm fitting ever. My gyn at the time (actually coincidentially that was the second time and last time I ever saw him) put a couple fingers in to get an idea of what size I should wear. He then put a diaphragm in and decided that was about right and told me to try some sizes up and down and let him know what I decided and he left the room. So not only was I left to determine if I should use a coil spring or arching spring which is really something a competent fitter should be deciding, I also was left to decide what size was right. That was my first time trying to use a diaphragm. Not only did I struggle with getting them in and out as I attempted to try others, I had no idea what it was supposed to feel like if it was a good fit and if I even had it placed properly. When he came back I asked him if he wanted to check it after I put it in and he said no. I ended up getting the one that he had initally fit me with because I was clueless as to if that was the best fit or not, but at that point it seemed like as good a choice as any other.

My wife had her diaphram fitted for her by her ob after our first child. She said it was the most intimate exam she had ever had but after childbirth she didn't really care. She as well had insertion and removal a few times and then had to fit it herself while he supervised. All the while totally nude.

We had great sex that night.!

The completely nude bit is surprising and a real turn on. I can imagine breasts dangling while bending forward to check than everything is in place!

OH my brings back memories, I too was fitted after full physical, it was right after our son was born, still breastfeeding. Not only was the Dr. there but he had an assistant to help or just be there. I had never put my fingers in myself other then a few times to retrieve a tampon that my BF [husband] had pushed in to far when parking. I did get rather excited but was extremely humiliated to put it in and take it out in front of them. I'm sure the Dr. realized my anxiety and wanted to be sure I knew how to do it not just say I understood to get it over with. OMG to admit this--when I started to get a little turned on my nipples started to leak and the assistant had to keep handing me tissues. Maybe there is another place to tell humiliating things. LOL

After using a diaphragm for a few weeks of a few months, has anyone had issues with placement, etc. and needed to go back to their gynecologist for advice on placement or an adjustment to a different size? Since it seems that a lot of work goes in on the front end to ensure the fit, I would have to think that sometimes they do not get it right and an adjustment must be made. I would love to hear of any experiences along these lines.

I had a partner many years ago who was strictly a diaphragm woman.… and it was a no-brainer. When we thought we might have sex... she put it in, very casually, and that was it. The only bad thing, from her perspective, was the need to continue wearing it for many many hours... often to work the next day. Could not risk taking it out too soon.

Doc Geoff

I had a diaphragm fitted very recently. Started with a full physical exam at the university health centre (I was given a paper sheet, no gown and told to take off everything except my socks). The doctor (a male in his 30s) did all of the regular routine parts of the physical. Examined my breasts very thoroughly which I thought was odd as I am only 24. He then proceeded to ask my to lay down and put my feet in the stirrups (which caused be to spread my legs further than they have ever been spread before because I am so short). He told me he was going to start the pelvic exam with a visual and adjusted a bright lamp so it was shining directly on my vagina. He touched my thigh and then proceeded to spread my labia even though I could tell that my vagina was very open. He touched every part of my genitalia and even skimmed through the small patch of pubic hair on my mons area. He inserted one gloved finger and dragged the tip of it along the top wall of my vagina and then squeezed each side of my opening near the bottom. He then told me he was going to insert his finger all the way for a quick feel of my cervix. After this, he lubricated a clear plastic speculum and told me to try and relax as he inserted it into my vagina (I’m extremely small down there so this was rather uncomfortable). He quickly took some swabs, removed the speculum and shut off the lamp. He told me it was time for my internal exam and that he would first be inserting a gloved lubricated finger into my vagina while pressing on my abdomen. He slid his rather large finger into me and pushed the paper sheet up far so only my breasts were covered. He then felt around for just over a minute and told me that I have a tilted uterus and would require a rectovaginal exam so he could better appreciate it. He then removed his hand from my vagina and took off his glove only to be replaced by another. He then lubricated his first two fingers and told me to take a deep breath. He asked me to relax my muscles and first inserted his middle finger into my rectum which was soon followed by his first finger into my vagina. He allowed me to relax and then inserted both fingers as far as possible. I had never felt so full in my life. He felt around and pushed on my abdomen for about two minutes and then removed his vaginal finger so he could perform a rectal exam with his middle finger. He felt up as high as he could into my rectum noting that he could feel my cervix. He then rotated his middle finger to the right and left to feel every surface. He slowly removed this finger. He then removed his glove and put on another and told me he would now be fitting me for my diaphragm. At this point I didn’t even care what he was doing anymore. He inserted his first two fingers into my vagina and moved them around as much as he could for about a minute. He then removed them and grabbed a diaphragm and inserted it, but it ended up being too large. He slid his fingers back in and removed it. He then tried a smaller size which worked much better. He felt all around the diaphragm to ensure it was in there properly and then removed his fingers. He then told me he wanted to watch me remove it and reinsert it by my self. I sat up and reached down and pulled it out with one finger. I then tried to reinsert it lying down but ended up having to stand up (lost the sheet at this point so I was completely naked in front of this man) and insert it from an upright position. He then asked me to lay back down so he could verify that it was in the correct position. He reinserted his fingers and gave me a thorough check. After removing his fingers, he gave me a wipe as I was covered in lubricant and told me I could get dressed. Needless to say, when I went home that day I went straight to my room to masturbate because I was so turned on by the entire exam.

@Zabby44: Very interesting to read about this very detailed exam, and rectovaginal had been nessesary for this?! It seems that you did had fun....Hmmm...Masturbation after exam? Nice idea!