Role-playing | Embarrassment vs. Humiliation…

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First post

I’d like too start a thread on the embarrassment vs. humiliation subject. I’ve always noticed a lot of references to patients being ‘humiliated’ during physical exams but ‘humiliation’ isn’t really the same as embarrassment.

‘Humiliation’ is making someone feel degraded or worthless, such as telling the patient that they are not attractive or berating them in some way, while embarrassment is simply the feeling of extreme self-consciousness, of being naked and feeling awkward because of it and because of the situation. Embarrassment can be very erotic in this setting; it can cause one to blush, to have a lump in ones throat, to be tongue-tied, to not express oneself fluently and etc. This only heightens the doctor/patient experience to me. In my fantasies about playing doctor I always like to pretend that my female patients are embarrassed, not humiliated, by being naked for me to explore and this does seem to be a large part of my being turned on by it. On the other hand, I would never consider, either in fantasy or in play, humiliating the patient - I see a definite difference there.

To me, having a female patient who is naked and embarrassed by being naked and by what I am doing to her (over which she has no control) is the ultimate in eroticism. Embarrassment not humiliation - that’s where it’s at!

albi

They are quite different, although many enjoy both. I prefer embarassment as it always leaves for space for imagination.

luvvinit

to have a thorogh exam in group with others (which would love to do!) would for me be humiliating

You've obviously never had the joy of an armed forces physical exam. 😄

cuerden

You are lucky to have that experience.I am still trying to find that situation.

Searching4 O

Help!

I am researching this exact area of fetish. A new friend of mine is turned on by humiliation. I really want to make our moments enjoyable by complying, but I have absolutely no background in bedroom humiliation. There was enough trust and attraction for my friend to be candid and I want to return that same level of respect. Does anyone have any experience or advice on how to go about this delicate situation?

Dave3

For me being sub and liking to be disciplined I like both I believe they go hand in hand with discipline depending on what and why your being disciplined

barecode

Very interesting topic, for me the embarrassment and humiliating feelings are very very important during a play exam. I know that they are different as many of you said in the previous posts, for me the embarrassing feeling is more soft and usually is what I feel at the beginning of the exam, when the Doctor requires to be naked etc. But then when the Doctor exam my genitals and the rectum in several positions, very thoroughly and make comments as well I feel humiliated and this is a huge turn on for me. But I'm a submissive guy that like strict and severe Doctors, so I understand that there are other points of view and different patients, at the end of the day we are all different and unique.

medfetperson

When I was in my early 20's I had Bengali GF, she and I were both into medfet and loved to examine each other. We also talked about how our medfetishes came out and our feelings about it. I described the delicious mixture of embarrassment at stripping down to my briefs to my humiliation at being nude for an exam and having to expose my genitalia to some strange while my also naked brother and mother watched. She said she had a similar exam except that she was gowned. She described her feelings with a Bengali word called ‘lajja’ (for any native Bengali speakers I might butcher this and I apologize in advance) which means shame and modesty ,sort of a combination of the two concepts. I thought that described my experiences well, I felt ashamed at being in just my briefs (or completely naked in one case) in front of some strange nurse,my mother ,brother and the doctor. The shame came from a complete loss of modesty, we had no screens or private changing rooms it was ‘strip down to your underpants’. This idea of ‘lajja’ seems to describe my medfet to a tee.

Rigel

Embarrassment should trump humiliation in medfet play. Just my opinion.

anng

Embarrassment should trump humiliation in medfet play. Just my opinion.

@Rigel GOOD OPINION. Personally speaking , embarassment is virtually a given for me in any kink play. There is often that tell-tale blush seen on me. I am ok with some embarassment. What I am NOT OK with is humiliation either in real life or in kink life. I value myself as a person and a human being. Expect that my interactions with you will be avoided in the future if you choose to humiliate me or deliberately put me down. I may be submissive but I value who I am and putting me down or berating me in any way is an instant turn off - Good Riddance to you!

danbob6

While I agree with an earlier comment about domination and humiliation going hand in hand, I take a slightly different position that I definitely want this to happen in front of others, particularly folks I work with. I know it's a familiar story, but as the boss in my unit, I'm usually the one that issues 'commands' to my staff. The idea of having that power stripped away from me, particularly in a sexual environment, is a real turn-on for me. I think I'm most attracted by the fact that my staff (mainly women, as it turns out) would get to learn how much I really crave being the one who has to respond to the needs and desires of someone else.

sport

I think this is a hard subject to define.When in my 50's started having wetting problems my wife and I discussed it she was insistent no wet sheets so back in diapers.I just divide the two terms both hit me also have autism.There is no funny business.

Enema lovin

You've obviously never had the joy of an armed forces physical exam. Oh yes I have .. I actually had to take a class on how to properly brush my teeth. Oh boy