Palpating for the Prostate--what do you look for?

My wife tried to find my prostate but she said she couldn't find it, can anyone tell me what she is looking for and exactly what it feels like

Tell her she is feeling for a walnut sized lump of tissue inside the anterior (front) wall of the rectum, about two and a half to three inches in. It might be better for her if you started with her feeling in your perineal area (externally located between your scrotum and anus). From this point she can landmark the prostate, and then insert her lubricated finger to locate the corresponding area internally. It should manifest itself to her as a soft but firm mound of tissue felt through the floor of the rectum. If she can't locate it immediately, tell her to keep going. Believe me, you'll know when she finds the spot! I hope you will keep encouraging her that "It feels great," so she doesn't become discouraged, or begin to think she is hurting you. It is worth the experimentation, and it will help both of you become closer and understand more about human sexual functioning. Good luck, and keep asking good questions. That's what the forum is all about!

Hypodoc

She may have the same problem I have - my finger just is not long enough to really give the prostate a good 'massage'. I have small, petite hands. I can only just touch the 'back' portion of my husband's prostate.

We are looking now for probes to help with this - perhaps something electro as well.

Thanks for the advice,when found will post and let you know

I had this problem with my only experience. I quickly gave up but am open to trying it again. I just havn't found the right situation when to bring it up for her to try again for me. At the time she was wearing thick black latex gloves which I found uncomfortable.

We have just found a new 'toy' that should be perfect for the purpose of prostate massage. My fingers simply are not long enough. We've had an aneros for years and he just loves it. But this is really quite a beautiful 'instrument', actually. It's medical-gradestainless, by a company called njoy (www.njoytoys.com) and is called a 'fun wand'. It just arrived yesterday so we plan to play with it, I hope, tonight.

I have got prostate exam 3 years ago . and ithink it need more lubricated jel

If it's done properly someone told me that semen will start coming out without having an orgasm. Is this true? Is this safe?

It is true, and it is safe.

While your wife may not be able to feel this you should be able to direct her

???There is a lot of misinformation about the discharge during a prostate massage. Actually, what is discharged is prostatic fluid (pre-cum). It is NOT semen. Just for your information.

How far inside is it (approximately)? I have had trouble finding it.

I can reach mine easily with my middle finger, which is 3.5 inches long. I can't reach the anterior side of it, but can get about 2/3 of the way across it. My guess is that it starts about 2.75 inches inside the anus.

Other people's anatomy may differ.

I recently saw I clip on a porn tube site where a woman gave her man a prostate massage. He was squealing and lots of so-called precum dripped from his penis. I have to admit that the scene got me pretty aroused. 😃

Sarah -

If that porn flick of a prostate massage turned you on, I can assure you that the male enjoyed it too. You should give it a try sometime.

Joe

Hit up xtube.com for a couple of nice flix

Keep trying. It's there. You will love it when she finds it.

It is NOT true. Prostatic fluid comes out not semen.

Semen is stored in the seminal vesticle.

You can look at any anatomy chart,it will help to feel for the lump as mentioned.

Just recently I have shared my medical fetish with my wife. She now regularly plays the part. My favorite is when she sets between my legs and gives me a long and detailed prostate exam while slowly jerking me off. Nothing competes with her fingers finding the right place!!

If I asked my wife to do that she would simply walk a way and tell me to forget it, that she wasn't going to do that for me or any other male. She won't even give me a HJ much less a BJ. We've been married 40 yrs. and from the very begining she has not enjoyed any type of sex even when she had the big "O". And she had it many many times. But she only like the missionary position and would never touch me. Today she hardly gives me a kiss and we never touch in bed. That's a no no, with her. :'(

Beltoro, that's sad and I truly feel for you. We were married at 21. I was my wife's first and I had but a handful so we were both rookies, but horny as all get out for each other. My wife has always been able to have an orgasm almost at will. We did vanilla and oral before we were married and progressed to anal, role playing, voyeurism, mild BDSM, nudism and swinging as the years went on. We both really enjoyed the nudist resorts and swinging and made friendships that have lasted through the years even though we are no longer swingers. After close to 44 years, 2 sons who we are proud of and 5 (soon to be 6) grand kids, we are still as much as in love as when we married. We both feel the swinging years "rounded us out" sexually and we don't have to wonder what could have been or wish we had tried this or that because we did. Treatment for prostate cancer in '06 ended my ability to get hard but I still can have and enjoy an orgasm and we have all sorts of ways to pleasure each other. A day does not go by that we don't kiss and say, "I love you".

After 40 years, no hand jobs, oral, even kissing or other signs of affection. I feel bad for any body in that situation.

Beltoro, I am with curious44 and saying that I feel sad for your situation. I have been married for 42 years and although our marriage hasn't been as venturesome as curious44 and his wife, we have still had a very good sex life.One thing we always do like them is never pass each other that we don't cop a little feel or peck on the cheek just to let the other now that we still are thinking of them.

It is not true that semen is expressed in a prostate massage.

Prostatic fluid is expressed. Semen is stored in the seminal vesticle.

I'm getting into fisting, and my g/f was giving a fantastic b/j one time, and she put 2 fingers in and messaged my prostate, but for some reason, I thought she was working her hand in, because all I could feel was the sensations of the prostate. Easily one of the best orgasms I've ever had

For those of you with short fingers try this.

http://www.amazon.com/Deluxe-Chrome-Prostate-Massager-Milking/dp/B00132R0J8

Go slow though. It is a formidable device.

http://www.amazon.com/Deluxe-Chrome-Prostate-Massager-Milking/dp/B00132R0J8

They sell deluxe chrome anal probes on Amazon? Wow! I guess they really do sell everything. : 😃

Re # 22: Curious - what a wonderful love story😃

Brie

Brie1,

Thank You for your kind words. That post tells it like it really is. I'm a lucky man, I married a good one.

My girl friend is a student nurse and loves to practice on me. She usually gives me a complete physical which often includes my prostate. Ladies when you practice this, be very gentle and do not be rough. It will make it better for the guy if you are gentle. The prostate itself is not all that difficult to find. You will know exactly when you find it.