Did anyone ever receive a spanking for not obeying

I'm an Oppositional defiant Disorder and I took the swats over doing what that school said every damn time.

I've never heard of that, but I guess everything has to be categorized nowadays and all character traits turned into describable ‘disorders’ or ‘addictions’ of one kind or another.

I know that in my time as a school-kid, I avoided trouble by all means possible since you could never really win against ‘the Man’ (or the Nun). But I still mostly did what I wanted anyway by going about it under the radar. I learned that being defiant or contrary never worked, but that being polite and docile meant I could more or less do what I wanted when no one was looking. That meant being sneaky and unnoticeable. My last year in Jesuit high school, the rector got royally disgusted with me because I usually ended up circumventing unofficial 'rules' about expected docile behavior, doing what i wanted like giving a private Halloween party which was unheard of in 1969 Belgium. With girls no less … ha ha.

@agracier I learned that being defiant or contrary never worked, but that being polite and docile meant I could more or less do what I wanted when no one was looking.

You were smart, I just never learned that; and now attribute it to ODD. So, I'd be defiant and argumentative; even though I knew I was not going to win… ha, another example was when I'd be asked it the enema was flowing into me, and I'd defiantly say “NO!” only to have the bag raised up higher and than I'd really get it….

Does getting spanked on Zity for breaking a rule count??

I only had to say, no, at home and i would get a good red bottom, pants down, and over the knee it was a while before i said “no” again.

Regarding my previous post below where I mentioned figuring out I've had ODD all my life; in fact thinking back I had since I was able to get myself out of the crib much to my parents surprise, and would defiantly do so - I wonder if I had been properly given formal spankings while growing up, if my attitude could have been correct.. I was only spanked few times, and those were the quick, out of anger kind without a lecture.

I wonder if I had been properly given formal spankings while growing up, if my attitude could have been correct..

Or perhaps your attitude would have become yet even more defiant.

Inflicting pain may be a method for momentarily making a person/animal desist with a certain instance of behavior. But in the long run it will build resentment upon resentment and more than likely a desire to get even. And not necessarily getting even with the person responsible for inflicting the physical pain in the first place.

Woe betide the poor surrogates who suffer because of another's desire for payback or revenge.

Lol, I guess everything can be considered not obeying. Sassing my mom and stepfather, not doing my chores, not getting good grades, breaking curfew. My ass was always getting red for something or the other.

@agracier Or perhaps your attitude would have become yet even more defiant.

Yep - but guess I'll never know. Perhaps because I'm a horny old fool who now finds reading about spankings exciting, such as in post https://en.zity.biz/member/124603 that got me thinking about having a dominant, yet caring mother. I can only remember one such mother/son combination when I was young. How we all knew was thanks to one our teachers mentioning that the boy's good grades and attitude where thanks to his strict mother and her spankings (how embarrassing is that to have your teacher tell the class). This boy's mother was like @Amelia_Grace mentions: Lol, I guess everything can be considered not obeying. - as I found out!

I have never been beaten for disobedience in the sense of obeying my parent's command immediately. Natomaist was punished for breaking the rule. It was a disobedience to the values that were instilled in me. For example, I was punished for not telling the truth. I saw that if I plead guilty, I would either avoid punishment or it would be milder. However, if I was caught in a serious lie, I would face a corporal punishment.

Give spankings all the time for girls not obeying me

I would most spanking, I got were for disobedience and also for attitude. My dad would say if you cross the line being assured you punished for the crime. Kind of corny, but he was consistent and did most of the spanking of myself and brothers but my mom was not afraid to spank either. It was always bare bottom and two or three whacks. Both parents made sure were new we were spanked.

Rather regularly. As a child anyway, as an adult it was for things like being a smart-ass or just because.

I can only hope I will!

Growing up Dad always punished me with spanking. He would always hit me heading to the bedroom and then pants would come down and then underwear. His hand could always turn my butt red but if I resisted the belt would come off and he would give me 3 really good whacks. I think my having my pants down was so humiliating.

When I was 17 I said a swear word and my dad ran up the stairs after me screaming for me to take my pants off. II said I was too old. He said I lived under his roof.

He grabbed my shirt and threw me to the bed. I accidentally kicked him with my shoe and he pulled them off reaching for my pants. He pulled them down then pulled my underwear down. As I was resisting I wound up on my back, he gripped my legs and left me naked from the waist down.

He said the more I resisted the worse it was going to be. He swatted me as I was now in diaper position. It must have been 20 whacks with his belt.

I was crying for him to stop. When he did he told me to get up. My butt was burning. I had to take off my shirt and socks. As I stood there naked with my hands around my penis, totally embarrassed, he told me to get in the corner and stand there and not to move until he said so.

I stood there shaking, facing the wall. He left me there for about 2 hours before he came back. He came back and said if I ever hear you use a swear word in this house again you won't sit for a week. I knew he meant it.

When I asked if I could get dressed now his hand wacked me on the bottom and told me to get in my pajamas and get ready for bed. It was only 8PM. It was the most memorable spanking I ever had, and can still feel it when thinking about it.

When I was 17 I said a swear word and my dad ran up the stairs after me screaming for me to take my pants off … etc etc etc

Good grief, what a reaction to one lousy swear word. A bit over the top, no?

Good grief, what a reaction to one lousy swear word. A bit over the top, no?

Different times, different standards for his expected behavior than for yours. Not that odd from my past and how some parents might react.

The only spankings I got as a kid growing up were a few light taps with my Mom's slipper when I was very little. Other then that, my parents never hit me and I have never hit my children growing up. Things worked out fine

Different times, different standards for his expected behavior than for yours. Not that odd from my past and how some parents might react.

My times were 1950s and 1960s USA.

Given the age profile for backster, I see the incident would have come after my own time in the US, when things were becoming less strict. Or so goes the popular belief in any case.

Besides, punishments for swearing, sure, typical enough in some households. But flying into an uncontrollable violent rage and belting and thrashing someone as described sounds like someone with serious anger management problems. No matter what the times or standards were.

I got spankings left, right and centre when I was a kid.

As a little boy most of my spankings were for disobeying my mother more than disobeying my father. When I was in my teens I was spanked for cutting school, taking the car without permission, telling lies of where I went, and breaking my curfew time. Both Mom and Dad spanked me as little boy, but when I got bigger my dad was the parent who spanked.

Good grief, what a reaction to one lousy swear word. A bit over the top, no?

Different strokes for different folks. By the time I was 17 I was doing a lot of sports and running a crew after school as well. My parents left me alone and dealt with the younger kids. My dad left me alone after about 12 with the corporal punishment and a look from him was usually enough. He was a massive guy and had he been so inclined there wouldn't have been too much I could have done about it but thankfully he was not so inclined. Mom would get the yardstick out when someone disobeyed her but we all thought it was pretty much a joke. She just wanted to get your attention, not really cause any pain.

In our household we were given the option of being grounded or dads strap vigorously applied across your bare bottom. Being grounded consisted of doing extra chores around the house, or confined to your bedroom. In the 50’s and 60’ we didn’t have the electronics that kids have today, so you spent your time reading, doing homework and sleeping. Groundings could be as few as 3 days or as much as a month long, depending on the seriousness of the crime you committed. Spankings consisted of anywhere from 3 to 30 hard swats of dads 18 X 2 inch leather strap While laying in the center of your bed on pillows to raise your butt up. You were made to hug a pillow in order to keep your hands from attempting to rub, if you did get out of position, that stroke did not count. Multiple crimes such as missing curfew and telling a lie, we’re considered 2 separate punishments.

Yes. Would seem to me that if you're spanked for breaking a rule (which I was on many occasions) then you are in effect being spanked for being disobedient.

Of course! It's likely the number one reason. Kids grow up with rules. Break one and you risk a spanking. Repeated or willful rule breaking got you a more serious spanking. Pretty simple concept for kids to understand.

Spanking is a good “medicine” for a child having a fit. Good cure for ADD

Yes, quite a few times.

Yes, many times growing you. You were do what you were told or spanked and that was made clear when you were first told.

I don't recall spankings but mom told me that at some point she lost her tamper when I was a kid.

I never received a spanking as a child. Other forms of punishment was used such as being grounded, confined to room or the worst, not allowed to go to my baseball game! Maybe I should try and receive a spanking from someone and see how I like it! Or Not! LOL

Yes. I was spanked many times for not obeying or listening.