Refusing gyno exam - ladies

Question for ladies- Do you had any situation when you need gyno exam and didnt want to? What's excuses or aspect your doctor was used to perform exam?

Interesting question. I'd like to hear about this, too.

I imagine it happens sometimes when women aren't expecting a physical to be that comprehensive, like perhaps a required pre-employment exam, sports physical, or school or college entrance physical. Don't know if those types of physicals typically entail a gynecological check/pelvic exam. Maybe it's at the discretion of the attending physician and the girl was not expecting anything (fingers, speculum) to be inserted into her vagina and declines.

Perhaps a lady with, for example, stomach pain goes to the doctor and is surprised to learn he wants to do a complete pelvic exam to diagnose the issue and it's not her regular doctor, so she feels uncomfortable having to spread her legs and allow him access to her vagina and rectum.

I have had situations where I’ve needed an exam I didn’t necessarily want and in a way couldn’t refuse. I was having a miscarriage and they wanted to do an internal ultrasound (couldn’t see everything they needed to otherwise) and a digital vaginal exam to see if my cervix was open. I consented but it was really hard to get through because I was in so much pain. I had complications and had to be seen again and that included another trans vaginal ultrasound, another digital vaginal exam, a speculum exam and later on I needed a vacuum aspiration procedure done… I kept having panic attacks during and asking the doctors to pause which they would.. during the vacuum aspiration I had asked a few times to pause and even stop but they couldn’t so a nurse was holding my legs open by the end. Not fun.

@reddish, for one, I find it inappropriate when someone posts an inquiry asking others to share their personal experiences without sharing their own.

To make things worse, the first response received was from a man "imagining" scenarios.

Not that I think anyone should be replying to this query, I will leave a curt reply just to say I answered the question.

For the question you pose. Yes, I have refused exams. Beyond that, it's personal.

@newyorkbabe23 It was brave of you to share. You may want to consider removing your very personal contribution.

Just click on the box with the lines at the top right of your post to bring up the options menu.

@Bad_Princess I mean around psychological aspects of med care and few reasons eg. higer risks of pregnancy by chronic health issues and c-sections overdue, plummet demography and on general med care crisis with over working specialists

Well @reddish have you ever refused a gynecological exam? Yes, no? Answer your own question. Nice that you clarified your research target group. To be honest I think the original wide spectrum "Have you ever refused a gyno exam ?" was far more honest in its expression of interest. I get it if you like hearing horror or spicy exam experiences. It is a kink site where people into medical things come. Just answer your own question. Share all the juicy details.

I will share one of mine if you share one of yours.

There are going to be people with less than a clinical interest reading the replies. Wink, I know they would like to know.

@Bad_Princess. Yes, i did. However from time i can say that was mistake (was also around appendix remove but as regular not emergency) and if i know what's will be going I'd be allow surg to do it. From second part of your post-I didnt take it funny/spicy. Lost too many friends and own have few serious health issues.

OK @Reddish. Thanks for making that clear. No spicy details or going from your reply, no over personal descriptions of what went on. Keep it clinical.

I have had two experiences were I encountered problems with gynecology procedures that I care to write about here.

The first was a Gynocologist being inappropriate during an exam. That ended up in court. I do not know what he's doing now. It is not practising Gynecology. At least not professionally.

The Second was a botched hysterectomy that led me to almost bleeding out. An artery was accidentally cut, and some digging was required to patch it together. The surgery should have been done through the vagina, not my abdomin this was done to pick fibroids out from other places and do the hysterectomy at the same time as a time saving thing. I had a line of perforations across me, like a tear-off line from the probes. Everything had to come out because of the fibroids. It should have been done through my Vagina, and the fibroid picking a separate procedure. I survived and ended up with a three-inch sock puppet vagina as planned and numerous, not planned holes. It was a freaking mess! The surgeon was given a pat on the back for not killing me. I had complications. Yea legal talk. No joy for me on that one.

@Bad_Princess this response feels a little aggressive. Sometimes people ask questions because they’re curious…they may not feel comfortable sharing their own story and that’s ok too. I’ve certainly asked questions without sharing my story around it. I just don’t understand the aggression here?

I understand the reflexive response. The OP asked for women to share something deeply personal while not sharing anything of that nature themselves. Since this is a kink site, it's reasonable to presume (unless and until you know differently) that the person asking is aroused by the responses.

My response is yes, I have refused a gynecological exam. Why? Nobody's business but my own.

@Interestedmed What @PinotNoir said. Thank you for the back up. You said it just right.

Any time I post a topic I put my own experience in it and ask a question around that. This accomplishes two things. One, it shows I am willing to share, not peering through a keyhole. Second, it gives others an idea of where I am coming from and what the topic is about and how their own experience may relate.

Being up front and clear makes for a better OP post.

If you are too shy to share or just curious, say so; Otherwise, it just looks well, not so good on you. Even I can understand that.

After reading a few posts, who knows you may become more comfortable and share your own experience. Much better than hiding around the corner, peeking at others? Join the party.

Awhile back I had a new male PCP that gave off a VERY creepy vibe. He pressured and pressured for me to have a gyn exam at our intial appt. I refused as it was my 1st time seeing him and I wasn't expecting a full exam plus and vibe he gave off didn't feel safe. Yes, I was past due but the way he was pressuring and the way he came off didn't feel safe to have the exam from him. I did set up an appt with a gyn doctor to have the overdue exam. That PCP doctor didn't stay in that practice long so think something was off not only for me.

I my personal experience, when you detect a creepy vibe about someone, you're virtually always right.

I once had an eye doctor explaining how soft contact lenses conformed to the shape of the eye, which can change, by putting his hand on my bare knee (short skirts back then) and having me straighten and rebend it while his hand stayed where he'd put it. I allowed it but I did not go back to him. Nowadays, if a doctor touched me in that way, I'd complain to the state licensing board.