Safety: Procedures (and general ideas) that SHOULDN'T be tried!

Hello all. I do not know if anyone shares the same sentiment as me, but I am a little tired of seeing some of our crazier posts about bedroom shenanigans, only to get some chastising from members who know better.

While I think both parties are entitled to their posts (and I agree with the parties that know better), maybe we can cut down a bit and make one thread about procedures and ideas that are above and beyond the standard playdoc's repertoire?

Feel free to shoot me if it sounds stupid, but someone wanting to know if what they're doing is safe could look at the thread, and if it wasn't there, either post a question about it or assume it was safe (maybe a companion list of extreme, but safe things to try too?)

Just throwing out my 2 cents, don't spend it all in one place!

Hey, I don't think this is a stupid idea, in fact I think that it is a really good one. Unfortunately I myself don't have much experience, but a general rule that I've picked up over the years, is that if you have to ask, don't act. So pretty much, if you're even the slightest bit hesitant, slow down, do some research, and re-evalute your idea. Just my views, and like I said, I'm inexperienced.

If you don't know what you're doing, then don't do it. I have a master's degree in nursing, so I do know what I'm doing. I also subscribe to the safe sane and consensual philosophy espoused in the BDSM community of which I am a respected member. I always talk to my "patient" to gauge how much experience he or she has in the area of medical play they're interested in. If a procedure cannot be done safely, then I will not do it at all, and I always use sterile procedure. I use hospital grade sterile prepackaged kits for enemas, catheterization, play piercings and any other invasive procedure.

CougarDomme is absolutely correct. There is no such thing as "too sterile". Don't try something you don't understand. Do your research, ask questions from those of us who are familiar with these procedures and above all have a safe word or phrase agreed upon ahead of time that when spoken stops all activity immediately. I've worked in an ER for most of my adult life and I have seen on occasion the results of "experimenting". Here is one place where common sense goes a long way.

I was very much into catheter play. Very erotic but and area where safety proceedures must be followed.

I, like flyfisher, don't have a ton of experience with safety, so I mostly stick to the sanity principle. I also have the benefit of trying most things on myself first to ensure I have the proper technique down before trying on my patient.

Would those that are knowledgeable about certain subjects post, maybe we'll make a few sticky posts about the most common things? For example, 1 post with all the safety information for catheters, maybe a link or two to an instructional site, and as people make comments below that, we can edit the original post and add more information. It takes a bit of time to maintain, but if we all chip in a bit, it could be a nice repository of information for newer playdocs to reference when starting their "examinations"!

Were your gloves ! besides they are sexy ; )

The Library contains an Information section with a folder called Medical Fetish with discussions of catheters, sounds, dilating the urethra, electrostimulation. If you are thinking about safe procedures to follow in doing a breast and pelvic exam, gloves is a good place to start. If you are doing a rectal and vaginal exam it would be important not to contaminate the vagina with fecal matter. Follow a procedure that avoids cross contamination. But then you already know that. Maybe we could just discuss some questions that point out hazards do exist when poking around in that region.

There is also the aspect of physical safety when you initiate contact with a total stranger. Keep that in mind when you meet agree to meet in some place public and always let your buddies and family know where you will be the first few times.

I have to tell my nurse that I am very vagal, and to avoid things that stimulate the vagus nerve. I get a really low heart rate when that happens.

I think this is a good idea. Like some have said if it's not safe/ you aren't familiar you shouldnt do it. You can be safe and still have fun doing it!!! 😁

General BSA (body substance isolation) guidelines should be followed! Sterile supplies and superior knowledge are both musts. Having worked in the ED I cannot tell you how many unfortunate incidents I saw regarding failed attemps at fantasy play (both medical fetish and other BDSM, object insertions etc).

As they used to say on Hill Street Blues, "Lets be safe out there." Nothing should be done that would hurt someone, and you shouldn't do anything that you do not have the expertise in doing. Sterility of instruments and gloves are a must. And exam is supposed to be fun and exciting, and injury or serious infection is not.

The benefit of having a medical fetish is that cleanliness can go hand in hand with the presentation.

Hey everyone, I just wanted to swing by and say that safety is a must. Do your research before you go charging into something, Its okay to have fun, just make sure to think about what you are doing and how to go about it in a safe manner. Thanks.

Riley

I just wanted to say something, please remember your mental well being as well as the physical.

It might be a fantasy you can't get out of your mind and you so want it done to you, but fantasy is not reality.

Safe, sane and consensual is the buzz phrase, but do make sure you consent to something you can live with later.

Being a newbie to medfet, I appreciate this topic being brought up. I have seen some BDSM "medical fetish" vids that really had me squirming at the thought of almost certain infection, mutilation, etc. But I guess that is an entirely different game.

I agrre with kimberly. play doctor should be a joy and not a pain. nevertheless i repsct the idea of whom are involved in deep exams

Playing doctor should be a joy of all participant, not yourselves. Unsafe procedures may bring pain and bad memories to others.

I enjoy some play that is beyond the realm of what most would consider safe, sane and consensual. Everything I do, though is consensual. Before we do something new, Dear Wife and I study and determine the level of risk involved. There is always risk in everything, including vanilla sex. If the patient in a scene has informed his/herself and is comfortable with the risk involved, then it is fine to go ahead. There are some things I would dearly love to do, but I know the level of risk is too great, so I pass them up.

Speed

Lizzy

I think you are making a very important point. A guilty conscience is hard to live with.

First of all the respect of your patient. she is a lady, a female human being and she deverves the maximun respect. i used to explain to my female patients that first of all play doctor is a play. i'm happy to fulfill my patients' needs and make their dreams true. if a patient ask me for an unsafe procedure i gently refuse because some procedures are up to a real doctor.

that's my idea

Here's a very important point that I am surprised hasn't been stated outright yet:

NEVER, EVER let anyone tie you up unless you have first gotten to know him/her REALLY WELL. I would suggest even paying for a background check of that person beforehand. It's well worth the cost to be sure you are not going to end up at the mercy of a psycho. Even then, be sure to make it clear to any person who might be tying you up that there is someone else who knows where you will be that day, and knows the name of whom you are going to be with.

Think common sense plays a big part in whatever you get up to

Also i think this is a site that if you dont know and cant find what it is you're looking for, ask.

Maybe i am wrong but the site is helpful and informative!!

To CougarDomme - quick question. What are the risks for true US medical professionals to be on this site ? The last thing needed is to do anything illegal or unethical.

On the previous page, there is a woman who is afraid of being restrained, and suggests extreme caution.

I tie women up all the time. Tight bondage, where you will be unable to escape. Arms and legs, so that you are helpless.

But, let me show you something about compassion and concern. Before I tie her, I am in “fantasy mode” and pretending to be really forceful with her. As she is being tied up, I am still telling her fantasies, about how she will be getting a huge enema and a spanking. But, once she is helpless, I stop for a moment, and show concern for her. I move to her face, and caress her gently, and stroke her hair.

“OK, listen, I am NOT going to hurt you at all. This is just a fantasy. So, if you feel scared or anything, just tell me, and I’ll cut you loose in 30 seconds or less. All you have to do is tell me how you’re feeling, and I will be watching you as well, to see that you are enjoying everything. Remember, YOU are in control here, not me. If you panic and want out, don’t scream, just tell me, and I’ll cut your arms loose in seconds.”

All the time, as I’m telling her this, I’m looking into her eyes, and stroking her face and hair. Needless to say, she is NOT hurt. Her ass gets paddled pink and stingy. And, she gets a large enema. Plus, whatever else she wants. But, she is in control of all of that.

“Ugggg, I’m really full! I don’t think that I can take anymore!” she says.

The enema stops instantly, when she says that.

I had a little girl recently, that started crying, because she was really afraid. She was excited and into the fantasy, right up until the moment that she found herself completely helpless. Then, the reality of her situation set in. She started sobbing softly, and begged me not to hurt her.

Needless to say, I cut her loose in seconds. I sat there holding her, brushing away her tears, until she felt better again.

I am a dominant male, but I force no one. I have compassion and concern for the girls that I restrain. I would NEVER betray their trust, or insist that she take something anyway because “you know you like it”.

I think a lot of mystic about doctors is torn down when you actually become a patient as i have found out to my cost on occasions. i had a doctor who filled my bladder to 5 times its normal capacity because the nurse had gone to get a piece of equipment,and he didnt know what he was doing. it was only when the nurse came back and asked him how much fluid he had put up my bladder that she said .you must be in agony, i said no, cant feel a thing. that was the day they found out i had the bladder of a camel as my consultant "coined it " i could hold 2.5 ltrs. it took me 6 months of self catheterising to get my bladder down to a managable size. so much for the experienced doctors lol

Were your sterile gloves for catheter insertions.

When inserting long tubes be sure and use lots of lube and take in slow. I know from first hand experience that you can perferate your colon and not know it. I went through a nasty surgery to repair mine. Not fun at all. Be Carefull !!!

Re sterility and bladder catheterisations. Tho' ideal, sterile gloves are not strictly necessary. In the old days, before latex gloves were invented, men with prostatism used to keep their catheters in their hat-bands. Scarcely a sterile instrument then, but put to use three or more times a day, with clean fingers, usually without serious mishap. Soap and water kills most germs, and clean freshly washed fingers and well scrubbed nails will do for all but immunocompromised patients. Remember - soap kills germs. And drying out kills most bacteria, ( tho' probably not viruses) .

So keep your catheters clean and dry.