Of course there are many reasons. Let's start with mom. Most moms of our era were in a hurry. Many just lubed the nozzle and inserted. Every notice
in videos how the receiver flinched when that happened? Also, most could not handle older pre-teen and teens showing arousal. So it was usually a hurry up job. Then most of us has to hurry up to get to the toilet hoping there would be no accident on the way.
How about all the care givers along the way who pushed a finger or a cold instrument up our butt straight in. Yes, Ouch sometimes. Then, there was a quick exit. I believe the professionals are under so much time pressure that just want this to be over.
My learning and wonderful experiences included:
1) A comfortable position. Sims Position is my favorite for giving and receiving.
2) A very warm wash cloth applied direct to the anus. It is really a fine relaxation of the anal sphincter. Men, try it on yourself. I bet you penis will love it also. Moms and caregivers did not want to see that part.
3) Warm up the lube ahead of time.
4) Apply lube slow. Circle the anal sphincter slow. if you probe don't go past the first knuckle.
https://www.eporner.com/video-7hH2lxTGwwN/private-patient-enema-2/?trx=1227735290aee694b81473a256bea12420712
Check this out also. See took about 45 seconds t massage the anus area.
5) if using a colon tube, there is little reason to not insert more than 5" to begin with. Release flow antake your time inserting more. It's not a contest to see who can take the most tube or the most solution.
6) when you pull the tube/nozzle out, be prepared to apply several folded over kleenix directly on the anus. Either escort the receiver to the toile while firmly pressing on the kleenix or have the receiver hold it in place. It takes away the anxiety of getting to the toilet.
7) Last, either by showing or doing it for the individual, massage the left side of their belly area to move things around a bit
😎 don't react to an erection or vaginal moistness. Tell the receiver, it is very natural... it makes us real people.
Hope you have some wonderful giving in the days to come.