Sex talks after parent sees their son get an erection during phsycial exam

Of all the stories that I have read of teen male exams, several have said that during the exam that they got a full erection and sometimes in front of parent. I was just wondering if in some cases that their parent (mom or dad) ever had a talked to them after about getting the erection and any other discussion about sex and what erections are for. I had this happen. I was 14 and mom was in the exam room. The female doctor took my underwear off while on the table. After retracting my foreskin a few times I was fully erect. The doctor just said, "don't weiry about whats happening down hear, it's a normal reaction. After examining my genitals she had me stand up (in front of mom) for the herria exam and I was pointing at the ceiling so erect. Mom didn't say anything about it. But later that evening at home my dad came to my room and talked to me about it. He started off by saying "mom told me about what happened at the doctors office, and you should know that guys need to get erections for sex and that at my age I should not be embarrassed about it happening during my exams because guys simply can not control them all the time so just let it happen because the doctor has seen them before and he can check things that are easier to check when erect. Like foreskin tightness and bends in the erection angle.

I've posted elsewhere that I unfortunately experienced very early puberty. After being discovered at school age 7 in the showers after swimming with a large rigid erection, I was referred to my gp. At that point I realised that I was somehow different to all the other boys whose genitals were much smaller (didn't realise it was actually me that was abnormally large!).

At that first appointment, I had a full head-to-toe exam, and was rigidly erect by the time the doctor finished the abdomen exam and removed my underwear. As the doctor examined my genitals and retracted my foreskin several times, I was oozing liquid making a sticky mess 😕. All that was said to me was not to worry, its normal and I'm growing up early; and was the size of a mid-teenager. Mum was in the exam room sat a few feet away and had a full view of everything going on. I was feeling a mixture of embarrassment at being seen like that (I realised it obviously wasn't normal) and confusion over what was happening to me. While I might have had the genital development of a teenage, I certainly didn't have the same cognitive development.

I never got any further explanation of what was happening to my body, or any introductory sex education from the doctor or mum. Unfortunately dad wasn't in our lives, so I didn't get any information from him. Even when I ejaculated at the doctor about a year later, I still didn't get any more information, despite being clearly frightened over what had happened. I certainly wish I had been given more information, or explanation, over what was happening to my body. It would have made the rest of childhood much easier, when I was the centre of unwanted attention due to being so different from other boys my age.

I had my first (but certainly not my last) erection during a physical exam when I was 13. My mother also was in the exam room with me. I had heard older guys at school talk about getting erections during their physicals so I was not shocked when it happened. My mother seemed to take it in stride and never said anything about it. Later, my father was to see me getting an erection during a physical exam that he sat in on. I was older and by that point already had "the talk".

I unfortunately experienced very early puberty. .

@MCurious , at what age did you start growing pubic hair?

At erection age, my kids were always either turned away from me or I was asked to leave the room.

When I got enemas from my mom, I would often erect while being filled. I'm sure my mom saw them but never said anything. I didn't know why, but I would awaken in the middle of the night that way with slimey underwear not knowing what happened. One day, I ejaculated all over the bed while getting an enema. It was a very strong one & I made quite a mess. My mom was red-faced when it happened and pulled the tube out. While I was on the toilet she came in to clean the enema bag and I asked her. She told me I should go talk yo my dad, whereupon I got the birds and the bees talk, explaining about sex and intercourse, and how babies were made.

My weekly enemas stopped after that but I occasionally still got them when I couldn't go.

@MCurious , at what age did you start growing pubic hair?

@Kulemh I'm not completely sure when I started growing hair. I think it was not long after I was diagnosed with early puberty; so probably by age 7 1/2. I believe the gp suspected I'd been undergoing puberty for some time by the time I was taken to see him; given my advanced development. I'd certainly been having erections for quite a while 🙄.

@MCurious

For all we are fascinated on here about these things, your story is rather sad to say the least. But I am not sure as a parent I would have been any better at handling that situation.

My stepmother sat in on exams after my father remarried and she also brought me to my stepsisters female pediatrician and I didn’t become erect until 12 or 13? At that point my step sister and I were getting separate exams but the doctor would always completely remove my underwear. This time I immediately started to get an erection. The doctor proceeded with the exam stating it’s a normal part of puberty but no one talked to me about sex then. At around 14 my dad had an uncomfortable conversation but I already knew what sex was fortunately.

@MCurious did you ever ask for an explantation from your mum?

My talks with my parents about puberty, growing up, and sex were related to and/or coordinated around taking me for my physical exams. The first time was around 5th grade, age 11, and the doctor - in front of my parents - had mentioned that I was getting close to the start of all the big physical changes of going from boy to young man, etc. and that led to a conversation about it with my parents. Then at a later one when I had very obviously started puberty, there was another post-exam discussion. Parents did see me erect a few times at the doctor (difficult to prevent that at that age) but I don't think it was the erection per se that led to the talks.

I had a sex talk with parents quite late when I was in the process of puberty. I had a close friend with whom we played stripper games and we also took photos of each other and both together completely naked. We had been enjoying those games for several months before my friend’s mum found his photos under his mattress. What a carelessness on his side. Of course there were photos of me and him and on many photos we were erect. She came to our house and had a conversation with my parents. It was a huge embarrassment for me. My dad then called me and demanded that I brought all photos which I had. After a while I had to do that. He looked at the photos and teared them into pieces. Then we had a long conversation about puberty and development etc. the next day he gave me a book on this topic designed for boys and girls.

@Secret_sub I didn't directly ask mum about what was happening to me, but did express curiosity / concern over why i was so different from my same aged friends. I think she also found this embarrassing & I suspect was unsure how to explain it to me in a way that I could properly understand at age 7.

I managed to get some information from a couple of friends who had teenage brothers. One just retold me what he'd been told, while the other friend's brother actually tried to explain some of it to me.