Has anybody deliberately misbehaved to solicit getting spanked?

Wondering if any of you have purposely misbehaved to warrant getting a spanking?

Occasionally I did, but not too often in case my parents got suspicious.

There were several times due to being overseen by a aunt of mine my father's sister when I approximately 10-11 y.o. would become mischievous and in her eyes need a bit of discipline which had been approved by my father himself a devout disciplinarian of me that I was dealt either a bare handed, hairbrush or ping pong paddle spanking by her either laying down on bed facedown , bent over couch back or ends or if my offense was major across her seated lap with either my pants or summer shorts at my ankles along with my tighty whities which were briskly thrust downward increasing my fear and humiliation. Her administration of the spanking was always vigorous and forceful and meant to hurt to give you a thorough reminder of the wrongful offense you had committed. Along with the punishing swats were loud and demeaning chastisements at you for added measure. Once the ordeal was completed I was told to stand or rise before her myself now fully exposed to her adding extra trauma especially if I was exhibiting any genital arousal upon which came a bit of demeaning glare and smile mine the opposite of being tears and blush. Next came the order to pull em' up and reckon you may not sit well for awhile which standardly was at least another day. I paid dearly for my need of kink pleasure and fulfilling attention by her. In a earlier posting I recounted being panty disciplined by her for sneaking into her intimate apparel drawer. I also had verbal threats at times when exhibiting childish behavior that I was going to be cloth diapered unless I ceased my behavior at that moment herself having a recent newborn boy. Recall it all vividly thru the years. Fretter.

Oh YES! It goes against my nature to be naughty, but I push myself to try it at times just for the consequences.

I have thought about it.

Especially when Dom says things like “ I miss punishing you but you have been behaving”

Part of me wants to give him the “ pleasure” of having to punish me. However I am not brave ( or stupid) enough to do so.

I am sure he would see through me anyway.

Also I do not think a sub should top from the bottom.

Nah, I think I'll just try and be good!

I was a 14 year old teenager when my mother remarried. She was paying attention to her new husband and I was feeling a bit neglected. I needed to do something to get her attention. So I decided to give her just enough attitude to get her angry. She told me to go to my room and get undressed and stand in the corner. She came in and sat on my bed and called me over to her. She asked me why my change in attitude. I told her the truth, it was the only way that I could get her attention. She said that she was sorry and that she would try ot to timake sure I got the attention that I needed and would remind my step dad to do the same thing. I went ac ross her lap and she proceeded to spank my naughty bare bottom with her hair brush till onit was red and I was crying. Then she said stay on your bed and I will send your step dad up so he can give yoiu some attention too.

She said that she was sorry and that she would try ot to timake sure I got the attention that I needed and would remind my step dad to do the same thing. I went ac ross her lap and she proceeded to spank my naughty bare bottom with her hair brush till onit was red and I was crying. Then she said stay on your bed and I will send your step dad up so he can give yoiu some attention too.

Was that really the kind of attention someone would want if they were feeling neglected? To get spanked?

That just seems like adding injury to insult.

I have thought about it.

Especially when Dom says things like “ I miss punishing you but you have been behaving”

Part of me wants to give him the “ pleasure” of having to punish me. However I am not brave ( or stupid) enough to do so.

I am sure he would see through me anyway.

Also I do not think a sub should top from the bottom.

Nah, I think I'll just try and be good!

@Secret_sub I don't think giving your dom a reason to punish you is “topping from the bottom”. Although I'm not an expert in BDSM nor do I seriously engage in it - I think misbehaving is part of the BDSM “role play” and that role play is an essential part of BDSM. (IMHO). To me, topping from the bottom is when a sub is giving direction to or making decisions for the dominant in a way that goes against the predetermined power dynamic. For example, if you misbehave and end up getting a spanking, controlling the spanking is up to the dom, and if the sub tries to dictate what and how - then that would be trying to assume both roles. I'm sure there are folks here who may disagree or have better input. Just my thoughts that creating a situation to get punished isn't topping, but controlling the punishment would be (of course there is always a safe word).

And, like you say, if he would see through you - the punishment may be not to spank - e.g. not let you get your way!

It's foreplay for us. Often I just get “Stop it Princess I'm busy”. Then I offer to help and we work on whatever it is together or I just go away and amuse myself or play with someone else.

@Rigel you may well be right in your description but in my mind, seeking punishment deliberately would fall under “ topping from the bottom” whether that punishment is spanking, or any other form of punishment. 😉

@Secret_sub Like I said, I'm not an expert on BDSM relationships nor am I in an dom/sub relationship - just my thoughts and tidbits I picked up on the internet (yeah…I know…be careful what you read!!!) . I may be blowing smoke!! I'd hope others, like you, would comment on this. What would be the psychology behind this? (if any). Maybe my response is more geared towards someone with a spanking fetish vs a Dom?Sub relationship.

I was responding to the adult relationships aspect - not kids misbehaving to get a spanking/attention. As a kid, I misbehaved all the time - but not with the purpose of getting spanked - moreso to see if I could get away with it!!

I would have to say I was guilty of this a couple times. Or I wanted my dad to spank me harder so I would talk back during a spanking. I wanted it to last longer.

I'm embarrassed to admit, as a horny teenager I asked my grandpa for a spanking a couple times. His spankings were brutal. And I know he would spank me harder if I had an erection, and every time I did.

Yes. I remember visiting my aunt and deliberately winding up my cousin so he would get angry and shout at me. It worked. My aunt made us both strip naked in the kitchen and she spanked both of us, infront of my mum and my 2 female cousins.

When we got home my mum knew I had done it on purpose, so I got another spanking from her for good measure.

My friends little sister was a tattle tale and often got us in trouble. Our attempts at turning the table never seemed to work until we discovered that goading her into hitting us got all three of us spanked. After that we would do that every few weeks. It cost us a sore red backside but we had the pleasure of seeing her get the same. She still tattled but at least she got spanked like us.

Not exactly, but sometimes I was told that I shouldn't think I was too old for a spanking and I had a morbid curiosity about whether it was true or not.

Deliberately misbehaving to get a spanking sounds like something a brat would do. I have no experience with brats, but I know they exist, and I hear sometimes they like to get a bit mouthy to test where their partner is going to draw the line of tolerance. Some might even say brats like to “poke the bear.”

Once I started liking it I often did things to get my step mother angry so she would spank me. I got especially excited if she used the strap. When she would order me to go and get the implement I always chose the strap. I'd be wet before I even got my panties down. Some of the most intense orgasms I had in high school were after she had given me a strapping.

I was rarely ordered to fetch an implement, although I do remember my dad telling me to fetch a slipper occasionally. I fetched the same one he normally used.

When I was 18 I did once just to see if they’d actually do it - they did. Once was enough for me. Lol.