Straight men: male or female doctor preference

I would prefer a female.

I have had both male and female practitioners over the years and I have had both good ones and not so good ones in both sexes. My principal criteria are first, competence, and second, compatibility. I would prefer that the practitioner meet both criteria but competence in his or her field is an absolute.

I have had both male and female practitioners over the years and I have had both good ones and not so good ones in both sexes. My principal criteria are first, competence, and second, compatibility. I would prefer that the practitioner meet both criteria but competence in his or her field is an absolute.

Agree with both competence and compatibility whether a M or F, but IMO there's overlap between the two. We've seen a few doctors who's were extremely competent but had no - or poor - communication skills, arrogant attitudes, or didn't appear to listen to the patients concerns. Most of these were male. I include good rapport and “bedside manner” as a competency factor.

My urologist is a fine doctor, highly competent, but unfortunately lacking in bedside/office ‘manner’ and friendliness. Therefore, I schedule all my office appointments with his highly competent, friendly, and outgoing female PA.

My urologist is a fine doctor, highly competent, but unfortunately lacking in bedside/office ‘manner’ and friendliness. Therefore, I schedule all my office appointments with his highly competent, friendly, and outgoing female PA.

That's what I did until my issues got too weird and she had to put me back with the MD.

I had a female PCP for about a year and a half. She was, and still is, a popular and respected doctor in our community. However, that she decided to upbraid me in the exam room over a difference of opinion between one of the admin weenies and me, was enough to convince me that our relationship was kaput. This doctor is an employee of one of the largest medical groups here.

Regretfully, the episode might have been gender related because the admin weenie was an extremely rude female who acted as though I worked for her.

In spite of my feelings about that episode, I really don't care if my doctor is male or female as long as they look out for my health rather than their fellow employees' strict adherence to non-health related rules.

Maybe her last patient was the guy in the bed next to me. A few doses of him would set anyone off.

I don't like being touched by men. On the other hand, I feel embarrassed in front of a woman. But still, I prefer female doctors, they are neater and more gentle, and shame even additionally excites.

I prefer female doctors. I've always had male doctors growing up, but when my doctor retired I found my current female doctor and I feel more comfortable with her, especially when she asks those embarrassing questions we all know and dread.

Assuming that both genders are equally competent, my preference is to have a female doctor. When it comes to being examined intimately, it just feels more natural for me to have a female looking at and touching my dick and balls. Given a choice, I'd much rather have a female doctor giving me a prostate exam with her finger up my ass. I've had a female dermatologist and I preferred her closely examining my penis that had a small bump on it. I wouldn't say I'm homophobic, but I'm just more at ease with showing my privates to a female doctor and bending over for a finger up the butt. I've been to a male urologist, and I've been very comfortable discussing matters about my penis or prostate, mostly because I feel that they are less uptight if I happen to slip and use everyday vernacular (i.e. balls).

I prefer a female practitioner. At the practice I go to there is a female doctor, PA and nurse practitioner.

Don't mind either. As long as they are competent I am happy.

Female smaller hands

When I first met my ARNP at the VA she had me bent over the table and remarked “oh you have a nice little one”. After my first thought went away and I realized she was talking about my prostate, I replied “I was just thinking the same about your finger”. The first doctor who checked that was a male with a finger that felt about the size of a banana.

It’s possible you won’t know the sex of the doctor as more gender fluid people get into medicine.

I wish I could have been “gender fluid” when I was in high school,😈

It’s possible you won’t know the sex of the doctor as more gender fluid people get into medicine.

I've not considered this. But if this would become the case, then gender fluid medical personnel will have more experience of how both genders feel and/or are affected by things or medical procedures and situations.

This would by definition be a positive development. Isn't an expansion of experience and a greater possibility of empathy something to be applauded?

I have had both male and female doctors. At this point in my life I think I prefer a female doctor. For me, they seem to be better communicators. I seem to relate to them better. Exams are always a bit embarrassing to me whether it is a male or female doctor. A female doctor was always way more embarrassing when I was teen. And as a teen, I usually did not have a choice. Back then, I got whatever random doctor was doing sports physicals at school or whatever doctor my parents took me to.

I still wouldn't want a male examining me even if he DID feel like a female that day.

I've had both and it doesn't matter to me.

I’ve always prefered female doctors but that is because I’m uncomfortable with men due to an assault as a child.

My sub has both female and male doctors with no preference for either. Just that the doctor is knowledgeable and competent to deal with his medical issues.

Either sex can have terrible at bed side manner and ignore the patient. Those are the doctors, and medical professionals, that he does not care for and keep away from.

Re: gender fluidity, it should not be a part of the formula of the doctor patient interaction. What a doctor does in their own private time should be kept separate from their interaction with their patient.

Re: gender fluidity, it should not be a part of the formula of the doctor patient interaction. What a doctor does in their own private time should be kept separate from their interaction with their patient.

Obviously that should be the case for any doctor, hetero or homo or incel or whatever. Private life is separate.

But having experienced being more or less both genders, this should give a gender fluid person a better idea and notion of how both genders experience things. It should help with empathy. Which is never a bad trait to have as a doctor or care-giver.

How often does one gender not complain that the other gender has absolutely no idea what it is to be like them?

Female doctor for sure for me !

But having experienced being more or less both genders, this should give a gender fluid person a better idea and notion of how both genders experience things. It should help with empathy. Which is never a bad trait to have as a doctor or care-giver.

How often does one gender not complain that the other gender has absolutely no idea what it is to be like them?

@agracier – You pose an interesting perspective I never considered. I think it's possible a transgender doc may have more appreciation and empathy for M/F feelings, – but I don't think it's a given. As society and sexual identities evolve, the question about a Male or Female doctor becomes multi-dimensional. I suspect there would be a certain segment of patients that would not be comfortable with a transgender doctor.

If I had a choice between a biological M/F vs a transgender doc, I would choose the biological M/F. Transgender patients may be more comfortable seeing a transgender doc (MTF of FTM) and I think those doctors would be more effective understanding those patients.

Prefer female.

As society and sexual identities evolve, the question about a Male or Female doctor becomes multi-dimensional. I suspect there would be a certain segment of patients that would not be comfortable with a transgender doctor.

I know what you mean. But try to think of a comparable evolution that happened several decades previously when it was unthinkable that a black doctor would treat a white person, or in European terms, that a Belgian or French person would accept a Moroccan or Algerian doctor/medical care giver or a German accept a doctor with Turkish roots/ancestry.

Things evolve over time and we later wonder what all the fuss was about.

My last dermatology check-up I was seen by a female Belgian and Moroccan specialist, the last one in hijab and white medical jacket. Big deal. The last one did a good job removing a small growth. It's like many say about preference of male vs female: as long as they are competent it doesn't matter.

How often does one gender not complain that the other gender has absolutely no idea what it is to be like them?

Even the same gender does not always understand the INS and outs of what is going on. As shown by some experiences in this topic.

Even the same gender does not always understand the INS and outs of what is going on. As shown by some experiences in this topic.

That is of course correct. But on the other hand, every little factor that can potentially increase empathy and shared experience between genders and same gender, should not be dismissed out of hand. It may be a small advantage, but every bit is helpful, even if only in few cases or situations.

Fully okay with either a male or female practitioner. Most of my doctors have been male, but used to see a female doctor back in junior high

From a medical standpoint, I do not have a preference. There my preference would be based on medical knowledge and communication skills. Obviously they have some skill set, but I'd rather not talk to a wall.

From a medfet stance, I prefer a man. Being straight, a male takes away the potential sexual attraction but also adds a potentially taboo element. I enjoy being on display and exposed / examined, and another man handling and discussing my parts adds even more to the exposure, as it's normally a woman doing such things to me.