Do LGBT folks use enemas more than others?

When thinking about the rise of enemas this day and age I'm wondering. Do LGBT folks use them more than others?

I think so, LGBTQ people are more likely to practice anal then their cis-het counterparts, and people who practice anal are more likely to do enemas.

I think so, LGBTQ people are more likely to practice anal then their cis-het counterparts, and people who practice anal are more likely to do enemas.

Anal sex between heterosexual couples is quite common. I don't think LGBTQ people hold a majority in enjoying anal sex more than heterosexual couples nor in the use of enemas.

Remember seeing somewhere that oral is actually most common activity among LGBTQ couples. If they do use more enemas it is likely because of another thing I have read about LGBTQ people - because there is much less of a socially prescribed script for “how sex goes” they are more likely to experiment and find things they enjoy rather than sticking with the expected. Trying to get my partner to move beyond the expected here and it can be very hard.

I think LGBT label is such an artificial thing. It bundles so many different groups together without any deeper thought. And more importantly, all those so keen on 'identities' should finally realise that the differences between individuals within a group are much bigger than the differences between groups.

Having above vented, speaking from my own experience, I think I do much more enemas than average male. Mostly because I am into receiving anal.

Anal sex between heterosexual couples is quite common. I don't think LGBTQ people hold a majority in that area!

This is true, its not exactly a rare practice outside the community,I just suspect it might be a higher ratio to those who try it in the community then those outside of it.

That is of course per capita, you wouldn't know it from raw numbers.

Remember seeing somewhere that oral is actually most common activity among LGBTQ couples. If they do use more enemas it is likely because of another thing I have read about LGBTQ people - because there is much less of a socially prescribed script for “how sex goes” they are more likely to experiment and find things they enjoy rather than sticking with the expected. Trying to get my partner to move beyond the expected here and it can be very hard.

I would totally believe this going by what I see on grindr.

On all sex and medical fetish sites I've seen, there are. Definitely more straight folks into enemas.

Nice topic - I'd say yes especially for the males. I've been part of the gay community in RI for many years. My partner [Barb] and I have a special relationship with a gay male couple we get together with about once a month for an enema party and anal sex. They both seem to really enjoy having anal sex with us. Regarding a comment in this thread, and in speaking with them, about 90% of the sex between them is oral. When they do engage in anal, enemas are often used. In my own experiences with other females enemas are kind of a ‘fringe’ kink. The exception being females into anal fisting or anal dildo play - for those ladies enemas are part of the experience.

There are probably more hetero people who like and use enemas, because there are more hetero people than not. As a gay man myself I would wager that a higher proportion of gay men use enemas than other populations. Hotels that cater to gay men often show off a hand attachment in their showers, something that I don't think I've ever seen featured in other hotel listings.

Sorry, but speaking specifically about gay men, they absolutely have anal sex more - larger percentage of them engage in the activity than the general population and they do so more frequently. First, and this is admittedly anecdotal, based on discussions with my gay friends and colleagues as well as media portrayals, I believe gay men are in general less inhibited sexually than the average heterosexual couple - Karen ain't gonna try anal.

Second, they simply do not have PIV, the most common sexual activity by far for heterosexual couples, as an option, because a certain percentage of people who engage in anal sex will want to clean themselves out first. It follows that gay men specifically must take enemas more frequently than gen pop. That does not mean a higher percentage who take them are likely to sexualize them, but that was not the question.

Gay men would because there are only so many ways they can actually have sex.

Klisomphelia is much more common among men than women.

While not all female klismos are lesbians, I'm certainly not, it seems that klismophelia in women is disproportionately common among lesbians.

In Trans people any GRS surgery will require the bowel to be empty before the surgery can begin.

Is the question that LGBTQ use enemas for “sexual pleasure” vs prep for anal sex or other anal play? There’s overlap between the two. As far as enemas as prep for anal sex, some do, some don’t – I would guess this is the same as some hetero couples (my wife for example didn't). Anal sex amongst gay/bi-sexual men isn't the most prevalent sexual activity. From Wiki: “An online survey of 18,000 men who have sex with men (assume this is gay and bi-sexual) in Europe "showed that oral sex was most commonly practiced, followed by mutual masturbation, with anal intercourse in third place."[4] A 2011 survey by The Journal of Sexual Medicine found similar results for U.S. gay and bisexual men. Kissing a partner on the mouth (74.5%), oral sex (72.7%), and partnered masturbation (68.4%) were the three most common behaviors, with 63.2% of the sample self-reporting five to nine different sexual behaviors during their last encounter.[21]”

I didn't find any data that supports more men are klismos than women - maybe we are, maybe we aren't! These “studies” may or may not be good representations of M2M sexual activity - but they are data points. While the Wiki data is only about men, my (totally uneducated guess) is that enemas across LGBTQ and hetero communities are most likely comparable.

Gay men would because there are only so many ways they can actually have sex.

Maybe I'm missing something, but it seems like there would be only one fewer option. I'd hardly consider that as significant a limiting factor as the cultural expectation among heteros that “sex is penis in vagina.”

Maybe I'm missing something, but it seems like there would be only one fewer option. I'd hardly consider that as significant a limiting factor as the cultural expectation among heteros that “sex is penis in vagina.”

@moliere some only consider “penis in vagina” the only way to define sex. When there is no penis (lesbians) or vagina (gays) they are not having sex.

That isn't my definition, as the above definition sure eliminates a lot of sexual pleasure that can be had between people. I'd rather let couples and lovers define what they see as sexual intercourse in their relationship. Then no one gets left out of the pleasure experience.

@moliere the cultural expectation among heteros that “sex is penis in vagina.”

Ha ha ha … sounds like some are creating huge gigantic loopholes so they can indulge in naughty activities and still pretend not to be having sex. I am amazed at the justifications some come up with.

I was brought up (in school) with the notion that even thinking or wanting to have sex, was as ‘bad’/sinful as actually doing it.

some only consider “penis in vagina” the only way to define sex. When there is no penis (lesbians) or vagina (gays) they are not having sex.

Well, if gays and lesbians are therefore not really having sex, why do some people get all worked up and hysterical, even to the point of committing violence against them?

I am not sure about the prevalence of enema use accross the broader LGBTQ community. As a gay man, I can tell you that use of anal douching is very common among gay men who have anal sex.

There have been perhaps a half dozen studies in the US and Europe over the last ten years or so that investigated douching practices among MSM (men who have sex with men). In the US, about 60% of MSMs use an anal douche at least some of the time before having anal sex.

My gut feel based on years of experience is that the anal douching happening among gay men is not for erotic purposes but, rather, to simply clean up the rectum before play. Among my own friends most will acknowledge doing this. Online sex shops that cater to gay men are full of bulbs and shower hoses for use in anal douching and Youtube has dozens of instructional videos for newbie bottoms.

That isn't my definition, as the above definition sure eliminates a lot of sexual pleasure that can be had between people. I'd rather let couples and lovers define what they see as sexual intercourse in their relationship. Then no one gets left out of the pleasure experience.

While I'm sure some do use it that way, my thinking was the (equally damaging) “if we're having sex then it must go this way…" thinking.

@eboyhou Appreciate the perspectives. From what I gather most newbies opt for Fleets as prep.

I had not thought about but its highly likely to be more common amoungst couples engaging in regular anal sex be it a straight or gay couple.

@Chase, you are right about most newbies opting for Fleets. They are readily available in all pharmacies and most grocery chain stores. I actually tried a Fleet a few times when I was a newbie. For me, the saline laxative was way too aggressive to allow comfortable sex afterwards. I guess I learned the hard way. However, there are some guys who use them and find them acceptable.

So why put a label on it ?