The first one a woman saw

For anyone who's circumcision status doesn't match the norm of the country they live in (for example, I'm an uncircumcised American), have you ever thought about how many women are out there where your penis is the first of its type that they saw?

Off the top of my head, I can think of a ton, that's how rare not being circumcised is/was where I grew up. My older sister, my female best friend from ages 5-7 who I would take baths and “play doctor” with, the girls that saw it at summer camp when I was in middle school, girls that accidentally saw it when I was changing, all of my high school and college girlfriends, a few close friends that asked to see it when they heard I had one, most of my adult girlfriends and hook-ups, and several others.

And those are just the ones I know for sure! The teenage babysitters that watched me when I was a kid and gave me baths, was I their first? Probably. My sister made jokes a few times about showing her friends my baby pictures, did she ever? Or did girlfriends show more current naked pictures to their friends, like I know they tend to do? And during several college parties where clothes came off during games like truth or dare and some streaking occurred, I'm sure several girls got their first glimpse of a foreskin there.

Am I alone in thinking about this? I don't know the exact number but I'm sure it's quite high.

Topic title left me hanging. I imagine it is quite common in the US for many women not to have seen an uncircumcised penis. I have seen very few uncircumcised penises at the gym locker rooms etc.

Uncut in the USA. For four women, three of them sexual partners, I had the first intact penis they encountered. The fourth woman was a friend of mine who was curious about seeing what it looked like (only in pictures, not in person) as her two previous partners were both circumcised. There have not been other occasions where I may have been seen nude by women I know.

Feesii were you reluctant to show her your penis in person or was she reluctant for you to show it? I personally would be only too happy to show someone my penis if they were curious rather than just a photo which I think would still leave them curious to see one ‘in the flesh’.

Sadly, I never have seen uncut in US. Husband is trying to restore currently, so thats as close as I’m going to get.

Feesii were you reluctant to show her your penis in person or was she reluctant for you to show it? I personally would be only too happy to show someone my penis if they were curious rather than just a photo which I think would still leave them curious to see one ‘in the flesh’.

We are friends, but not good enough friends for anything to happen in person. So, pictures it was, and I showed her everything she would have seen had she been in the same room as me.

Thanks Feesii. I must be a bit different from you I've agreed a few times to show myself to others without sex being involved just satisfy their curiosity.

I came of age "intact" in a community where most boys were circumcised shortly after birth and the sexual revolution of the Sixties and early Seventies had not completely taken root, but there were enough of us that I didn't feel like an "ousider". Later, I lived in a fraternity house with "open" showers, that rented to anyone, male or female, in the summer months, and the attitudes toward nudity were a bit more casual.

But though a few more women saw me naked, none ever commented about my "equipment". In high school, my class had a Chinese exchange student who decided to "make the cut" while he lived among us, and a couple of Filipinas I met some years later also expressed their approval of circumcision, especially for the Western-born sons they raised.

But I was never much inclined toward "playing the field", so I didn't suprise too many women with a new plaything not previously encountered.

I find this a most interesting thread…

In the mid 1980's I dated a girl some 7 years younger than myself. We dated regularly and “heavy petting” over a number of weeks of that summmer got more and more intimate in the front / back of my car until eventually the lady concerned took her first look at my penis and gave me a blow job. (wonderful) I think it was the next weekend at the pub where we regularly visited her best buddy, referred to me cheekily as Rubin in reference to my cut status. They had clearly discussed and probably had a bit of a girly giggle. I'm sure it would have been the first time she had seen a penis other than in a textbook and she clearly knew the difference. The girlfriend concerned was scheduled to join the army that autumn and made no apologies that she wanted to lose her virginity with me, she was rampant and of course I had no problem with her advances …it was a great time …. Interestingly, but not relevant to this thread she had the largest clitoris I have ever seen to this day and is the only girl I have vaginally fisted … great youthful memories …

I find this a most interest thread…

In the mid 1980's I dated a girl some 7 years younger than myself. We dated regularly and “heavy petting” over a number of weeks of that summmer got more and more intimate in the front / back of my car until eventually the lady concerned took her first look at my penis and gave me a blow job. (wonderful) I think it was the next weekend at the pub where we regularly visited her best buddy Rachel, referred to me cheekily as Rubin in reference to my cut status.

How was it that you happened to be circumcised?

So, since I am uncut, it's been my experience that it has always been a pleasant surprise for the girls and women I've been intimate with. I am very fastidious about being very clean when it comes to my foreskin so it was never a bad experience for any partner. Interestingly most seemed at first surprised, then curious and finally playful. Some were fascinated by being able to pull it over the glans and then off and fully back again, this drove me up a wall. Some liked to pull it over and then stretch it open looking at my head inside, a few commented that it looked like a cervix inisde the foreskin. And then there were the ones that liked to pull it over and back and forth and masturbated me by simply doing that. There were a few who asked, “were you injured?" until they discovered that I was all there. Another few had many questions. Almost all had never seen an uncut penis.

Thanks Feesii. I must be a bit different from you I've agreed a few times to show myself to others without sex being involved just satisfy their curiosity.

Don't get me wrong, I would have preferred to have done a show-and-tell in person. Who knows where it might have gone if I did? But she didn't want to do that, it would have been too sexual for her as she saw me as just a friend.

The first 5 women I slept with in Australia had never seen an uncircumcised penis before. Two didn't really notice straight away, the other three weren't super enthusiastic.

Then I needed an emergency circumcision in my early twenties and nobody ever commented ever again.

@snoman I guess that “weren't super enthusiastic” is euphemism for “were (mildly) negative”. Do you have any idea why so? Was it just “hey I'm used to one way and this is different", or some stronger arguments?

The reactions from my sexual partners - the first timers I'll mark with a † dagger - were:

• thought circumcision was highly unethical and was rather pleased that I wasn't cut. Definitely had more than a good idea on how to please a guy with foreskin!
• † virgin, didn't know/care for the difference between the two.
• her only penis preference was that it be clean, although she did think mine looked nice. She had no complaints at all and liked toying with it, and handled it quite gently in my time with her.
• having only dealt with only one uncut penis briefly before (handjob only, I think?), or through condoms, thought mine was a little weird at first, but was not totally unfamiliar with the whole package. It ended up being a non-issue and she enjoyed what she could do with the extra goodies down there.
• † really just thought it was “different” and not in a bad way, for sure. She said she could feel the foreskin do its thing inside her and enjoyed exploiting the higher sensitivity I had compared to her ex. Said it was sexy watching the head slowly reveal itself as the foreskin retracted.
• † she was intensely curious about being with an uncut guy, having left her son intact after doing her research. Claims I had her favorite penis out of several sexual partners, all circumcised, if only due to the foreskin. She recently ended things with another guy, who happened to be uncut (short foreskin) but extremely girthy; the sexual and personality chemistry wouldn't work between the two of them.

As for the friend I only showed pictures of. † She thinks her younger brother is uncut, and therefore mine was the first adult one presented to her. She said it looked funny and weird, but said it's not a turn off, and would just need to get used to it if any future partners of her were uncut.

@Pecan_nutjob - one was very strongly negative and outright said she didn't like the way it looked but then said she supposed she wasn't really looking at it when it was doing it's job. We didn't last long but this partner was always very physically willing despite not being all that excited by the appearance of my former penis.

One of the others actually hadn't noticed the first few times we'd slept together, but then saw my foreskin when we were in the shower together one morning and she told me she didn't realise I wasn't circumcised. I didn't think this was all that big a deal but from that point on there was no more oral sex from her when previously it was always on the menu. Her face when she saw me that morning in the shower was similar to the face I used to make when my parents made me eat brussels sprouts when I was a kid.

The third one worked out pretty quickly that I wasn't circumcised and wanted to know if I'd been too sick as a baby to have been done then. It was quite inconceivable to her that someone would elect to leave their son uncircumcised and she was always very pedantic that I was scrupulously clean (I always was anyway) before we had sex, and even then, she often suggested I wear my foreskin retracted. I've often thought of her in the years since and wondered how she'd react if she knew I had to be circumcised only a little while after we were together.

This is a fascinating thread, thank you for sharing your experiences. I didn't see one in the flesh until I was forty. It was my first (male) lover after my divorce. I HOPE I kept the surprise off my face, I wasn't expecting it. I live in the US and came of age in the 70/80's so most of the men in my generation are cut. Interestingly enough, this man was 10 years younger than I. I'll be honest and say I didn't love it, but he was clean and it was far from a deal breaker. What was more difficult to deal with was he was huge. Like ‘what the fuck do I do with this thing’ huge. Later I came across another on a more average sized penis and was fine with it. On the whole I prefer cut but that's likely more familiarity than anything else. My sons are cut (though I almost didn't with my youngest) but my grandsons aren't.

@Nurse_Phillips Did it feel uncomfortable that it was huge?

@Nurse_Phillips Did it feel uncomfortable that it was huge?

Yes. I didn’t like blowing him because it was too much and the only way sex was good was if I got on top and could control the penetration. He wasn’t all that skilled either.

Sadly, I never have seen uncut in US. Husband is trying to restore currently, so thats as close as I’m going to get.

@Umbrella How is that going for him? I restored my foreskin, and it helped me a lot. Have you noticed any difference yet?

Circumcision is not popular in my country. The cause of circumcision is usually phimosis. For my two womens, my circumcised penis was the first one they saw. I often go to saunas and naturist centers where people are naked. I rarely see circumcised men. I think for many women my penis is the first circumcised penis they see. Of course, these are just my guesses, as I rarely talk about this topic.

I think this is an interesting topic as well. I am English and I would not have seen a circumcised penis yet if I had not seen a few on nude beaches in other countries. So I am the opposite to a lot of American ladies I think, because I expected most penises to be uncircumcised, I was used to seeing my husband's uncircumcised penis and most other ones I saw on the foreign beaches had foreskins too even if they had different sizes and shapes. But I thought those circumcised penises I saw looked too aggressive and a bit startling really if I turned around and saw one but American women would be used to seeing them. The first circumcised one I saw was about average size I think and it just surprised me when I saw it. I hope I did not offend that man or make him think I thought there was something wrong with it.

But I thought those circumcised penises I saw looked too aggressive and a bit startling really if I turned around and saw one

Maybe because a penis with a denuded glans is, in most places in the world, a sign that the owner is 'physiologically' getting ready for sex. Which is indeed, not what one expects on a beach ...

But I thought those circumcised penises I saw looked too aggressive and a bit startling really if I turned around and saw one but American women would be used to seeing them. The first circumcised one I saw was about average size I think and it just surprised me when I saw it. I hope I did not offend that man or make him think I thought there was something wrong with it.

I think everyone has the right to be surprised. However, I would never have thought that a circumcised penis would look aggressive. I have never seen surprise or fear in women who saw my circumcised penis in the sauna.

Maybe because a penis with a denuded glans is, in most places in the world, a sign that the owner is 'physiologically' getting ready for sex. Which is indeed, not what one expects on a beach ...

Yes that is why I was surprised, I was not expecting to see it. I got a bit more used to seeing circumcised penises after I had seen a few more and I would not be surprised now but it was new to me then. I was used to just seeing my husband's glans and that was usually just when we had sex or I washed his penis in the shower or bath.

I thought those circumcised penises I saw looked too aggressive and a bit startling really if I turned around and saw one but American women would be used to seeing them. The first circumcised one I saw was about average size I think and it just surprised me when I saw it.

This is one of the aspects of the practice of circumcision for social/cultural reasons which I find intriguing. The majority of men in the world only have their glans exposed during sexual encounters, but circumcised men are accustomed to having theirs exposed constantly and to having them seen by strangers. I have also thought that circumcised penises appear to be sexually ready.

I spent a lot of time in Central Europe in the late '80s and early '90s. I had a couple of experiences where my lack of a foreskin stood out.

One was in a sauna in Czechoslovakia where I had spent the summer on an exchange program. I was invited to a spa along with another foreigner, a very pretty Finnish woman. At one point we ended up heading toward the sauna. I was pretty naive and didn't understand that the sauna would be co-ed and the tradition was to not wear clothes until we were in the group changing room. I stood in awe as the Finnish woman stripped of her clothing right in front of me. Knowing I was stuck in the position, I began the process of trying to avoid getting an erection, a great fear of mine. It didn't occur to me until I entered the sauna (filled with Czechs of all ages and genders) that I'd be the only circumcised man in the room. I felt like a freak. It was probably my imagination but I felt like everyone was checking me out. At least I didn't get an erection.

The other was when I hooked up with a Czech girl who was involved with the program I was participating in. We ended up in her bed and naked. At one point her head dipped below the covers to give me a blowjob. Moments later her head shot out with a look of i don't know what. Terror? Disgust? Confusion? We ended up having sex and taking a bath together but she never again considered taking my penis in her mouth.

However, I would never have thought that a circumcised penis would look aggressive. I have never seen surprise or fear in women who saw my circumcised penis in the sauna.

@Reman it was just because I had never seen one before. I did not feel fear, I do not think I was afraid of it, I was just surprised and a bit startled. Uncircumcised penises just look a bit calmer but bigger circumcised penises do look a bit aggressive to me. The second one I saw was bigger, I was surprised by that one too. It was like a big one-eyed snake staring at me and I got caught staring back at it. That was a bit embarrassing then haha.

my lack of a foreskin stood out.

The other was when I hooked up with a Czech girl who was involved with the program I was participating in. We ended up in her bed and naked. At one point her head dipped below the covers to give me a blowjob. Moments later her head shot out with a look of i don't know what. Terror? Disgust? Confusion? We ended up having sex and taking a bath together but she never again considered taking my penis in her mouth.

How many times have we read about the reluctance to give oral sex to an uncircumcised man because, well it just can't be clean and all ...

So, the shoe is on the other foot for a change.

@amethyst I second @agracier. Normally the glans is visible only when washing or being ready for sex, and this association of visible glans with readiness for sex may make a circumcised penis look more aggressive indeed.