Parents deliberately display you to others during spanking

“Both times where cause” = “Both time were 'cause”

We were never purposely put on display but there were many times when my grandparents or aunt and uncles were at the house when someone was spanked. All of our spankings were given upstairs, but if someone was at the house you could easily hear the spanking being given. The most embarrassing part was walking back down to face everyone after. This was pretty much required because if we had guests it was expected you socialize with them - incredibly embarrassing being around people who just heard you be spanked

Only to siblings or very select, close family friends.

What on earth does “Both times where cause” mean?

It seems quite simple. ‘Cause’ is often used as a shortened version of ‘because’ … it's not an unusual usage … sometimes even written with an abominable apostrophe 'cause part of the letters are left out.

So it is: Both times were BEcause I got caught playing doctor with my cousins.

No we were never deliberately displayed to others. If someone happened to be present when a spanking was about to be administered they simply got to witness it. It was as simple as that!

@DrC Only a couple of times did I have an audience when I was getting spanked. Both times were cause I got caught playing doctor with my cousins. They were the audience.

Were your cousins punished/spanked as well? If not, I'll have to declare loud and clear: double standards …

And if they were punished like you, I hope you were their audience as well. Otherwise once again, I'd have to declare: double standards …ha ha

It seems quite simple. ‘Cause’ is often used as a shortened version of ‘because’ … it's not an unusual usage …

So it is: Both times were BEcause I got caught playing doctor with my cousins.

Thanks for explaining my usage of English slang…sorry if i “cause” the proper English users some discomfort😝🤪

Were your cousins punished/spanked as well? If not, I'll have to declare loud and clear: double standards …

And if they were punished like you, I hope you were their audience as well. Otherwise once again, I'd have to declare: double standards …ha ha

We both were spanked, but I got the worst part since I was the oldest one of us, but only by a couple of years. always felt she got off the hook pretty easy with only a hand full of swats while I got 10 or more.

OH yes both spankings and enemas, I was on display often in front of friends that would visit. Mom would just invite them into the bathroom while she would give.

OH yes both spankings and enemas, I was on display often in front of friends that would visit. Mom would just invite them into the bathroom while she would give.

That must have been so humiliating and embarassing for you! An extra punishment on top of the spanking and /or enema itself!

@vintage1998

As an adult do prefer an audience while taking an enema? Or if you haven’t had an audience, do you ever think about it?

Mother invited the neighbor lady to witness my spanking after I had broken her window playing baseball which we were not allowed to do in her yard. She said she wanted to show her i was “properly disciplined” Bare bottom OTK, so humiliating

Mother invited the neighbor lady to witness my spanking after I had broken her window playing baseball which we were not allowed to do in her yard. She said…

A humiliation for you, Mothers Boy! But a real treat for your neighbor!

A couple of things…. my spanking fetish is the result of growing up in the early 1950's and seeing/hearing spanking given to others. Some of those were deliberately done by adults who knew full-well that others, including me, could see/hear the spanking taking place. At the time this both scared and fascinated me.

I only got spanked in public in front of others one time when I was about four. A friend and I had decided to take a long walk to a shopping center which could have been very dangerous and we were not supposed to leave the yard we were playing in. We were reported missing and the police found us and brought us home. Both our moms were waiting at the curb along with half the neighborhood. We were both spanked hard right there by our moms. My mom was crying tears of relief that we were safe and that's why it happened. Other than that time, she would spank me in private and only when I really did something bad which wasn't often. More humiliation than pain. That's the way it was in the 60's. I had posted the whole story here on zity a few years ago.

A guy I worked with when I was 22 had a beautiful 14 year old daughter of the variety you would give your left nut to have. One day when I was visiting him, she was taking a shower when his wife said something to him that caused him to quickly drag her out of there and into the living room where we were sitting. He put her over his knee, dripping wet and naked and proceeded to turn her ass a real pretty shade of pink. Then for added punishment he made her stand beside him facing me for several minutes. He never told me what she did.

Couldn't one make a pretty good argument for sexual abuse of a minor on his part? Deliberately exposing her to a non family member. If he had shown you naked photos of her at that age, it would already have been very problematic. Doing it live in person even more so.

My instinctive reaction reading this is that he really must have relished being given an even half-assed excuse to punish her naked in front of you. And the wife would probably have known what his reaction would be if she expressly whispered something into the father's ear while you were there. Otherwise why not wait until you were gone?

Sounds like they were into some sort of game scenario, setting you up to be a voyeur for their third-party exhibitionism.

I guess the public display was part of the punishment. I think we/I grew up at a time when everything was about ‘tough love’ and getting good behvour through fear or public humiliation. I even had a boss who said that his philosophy was to rule through fear - 'best way to get the most out of people'.

We grew up with spanking as a regular thing. Variety of instruments from hair brushes, to belts to the hand. And it was done in public, pants down, where others could see. If my parents were really furious, there would be verbal insults to go along with the spanking.

When i was very young, we had an incident at home where a block of cooking chocolate went missing. For some reason, she thought one of us younger kids had taken it, and then was lying about it. We were all lined up, our pants came down, and we kept being spanked until one of us admitted to taking it. no one did, so we continued to be spanked.

And then, for some odd reason, my parents put on Johann Strauss, the blue danube waltz and continued to spank us. I can't remember who finally admitted taking it, just to stop the pain, but it did leave scars on us, literally and figuratively.

It was so humiliating, and it also became the topic of family humor with my parents throughout the years. What's up with that! Something i have never understood to this day. I love the classics, but can't stand that piece.

A couple of things…. my spanking fetish is the result of growing up in the early 1950's and seeing/hearing spanking given to others. Some of those were deliberately done by adults who knew full-well that others, including me, could see/hear the spanking taking place. At the time this both scared and fascinated me.

Hello @reddevil ,

It does not surprise me that your spanking fetish resulted from seeing and hearing spankings when growing up! I would imagine that exposure to such things is likely, in many cases, to leave its mark! And that ‘mark’ will frequently be a sexual and erotic one! I have heard it said that witnessing a spanking was, for those who did so, an ‘anatomy lesson’ as much as anything else! Since many of these spankings involved varying degrees of exposure and nudity! My own experience of such things is extremely limited! I vaguely recall witnessing my Father spanking my little Sister when she was very young; and during her hiding(s), which was very short anyway, seeing her bare buttocks (obviously) and also catching a brief glimpse of her ‘private parts’! This only ever happened once or twice; and on one occasion, when she was spanked, it was over her knickers, anyway! It was not these events that gave me my spanking fetish; for my interest in and fascination with it predated my my sisters spankings - which were ‘short and sharp’, anyway - by many years! In fact I have been fascinated by spanking for as long as I can remember!

Hello @mcneil ,

Apart from two or three occasions when I witnessed my Sister being spanked - as described in a previous post on this thread - and a spanking I saw a boy get from the headmaster at one of the junior schools I went to - it was over his knee on a fully clothed bottom - I have hardly ever seen or heard any spankings of any real note! And even those that outlined above were very minor ones!

However, public displays of brutality I did witness during my childhood! And this ties in with the point you made above about “getting good behavior through fear and public humiliation”; and “the philosophy of ruling through fear”.

I had behavioral problems when I was growing up so went to a special school for ‘maladjusted children’ - that was the terminology they used in those days, I believe! The early to mid 1980s! The Headmaster had been in the Royal Marines and ran the school in a fairly strict fashion! Though not particularly excessive by the standards of the times! The staff could be quite kind at times but discipline could be quite brutal!

In some cases kids being pulled around by the hair and battered by some of the staff! There was some spanking but I seldom witnessed any of it! Kids who talked or messed about after lights out got the whole dormitory into trouble; which could result in all the boys in that dormitory getting a good hiding or having to go out for a midnight run! I was lucky in that this never happened to any of the dormitories i was sleeping in! I saw boys being dragged around by the hair and the headmaster beat one boy with a rubber torch once after the said boy had called another lad a ‘fucking cunt’! I heard the headmaster batter a boy outside his office because this lad had been sent there for spitting at some of the other chalders in the playground! Incidents like these did occur from time to time!

However, I avoided the worst of it and the deputy head who was probably the most sadistic man in the school was always very kind to me! He always maintained that I could not help the way I was and was comparatively gentle when dealing with me! I ran away from the school several times but was never punished after I was caught and brought back! I was always treated kindly on these occasions! The school could be strict but was also flexible with some aspects of its discipline! A strange mixture really! I was hit a few times by some of the staff there but it was no worse then when my own Father used to wallop me sometimes! Like once when I did not understand some arithmetic and the maths teacher lost his temper and clouted me!

My own Father did the same on one occasion! I can personally have no complaints about how I was treated at the school!

The point is, the above, in a different and not specifically spanking wise way, illustrates the casual, nonchalant and at times systematic manner in which the use of public and sometimes semi-public punishment and humiliation was used to encourage and attain good behavior and at the same time deter misbehavior!

I think what is striking about this thread, though hardly surprising, is that the vast majority of contributors (members) are at the very least 50 years or older! Two incontestable facts emerge from this I believe! Firstly, how different attitudes to discipline, punishment and the general treatment of children was in the past! This does not necessarily mean, of course, that forty to fifty, sixty or even seventy years ago, all children experienced the kind of harsh discipline and abuse that was certainly not uncommon in those days; but it does demonstrate how different the overall prevailing philosophy was with regard to children and how they can and in many cases should be treated! Secondly, and this point is intimately, indeed inextricably tied up with the first one; just what power and authority adults had over kids in the past! Whilst, in contrast, kids were often powerless! Whether we are talking just about spanking and coporal punishment in general; or about the treatment and control of children in a much broader sense; things were allowed to happen that today would be officially prohibited, unofficially not widely socially acceptable and even unthinkable! And even if such things do occur in a minority of cases today - one never fully knows what ‘goes on behind closed doors’ - such actions and practices will not be carried out in the open, casual and widely accepted way that once would have been! As the saying goes; 'the past (often) was a foreign country!

@mcneil

And then, for some odd reason, my parents put on Johann Strauss, the blue danube waltz and continued to spank us. I can't remember who finally admitted taking it, just to stop the pain, but it did leave scars on us, literally and figuratively.

It was so humiliating, and it also became the topic of family humor with my parents throughout the years.

That punishment was considered to be humorous? I would think that something as weird as that would never ever be mentioned again.

Hello mcneil,…I had behavioural problems when I was growing up so went to a special school for ‘maladjusted children’ - that was the terminology they used in those days, I believe! The early to mid 1980s!

hi @Vintage1968

thanks for your reply. Rather interesting. I also ended up spending most of my adolescents and teen years in ‘training school’ and group home (age 11-17 mid to late 70s, early 80s); by the time i was 10 and 11, I was extremely messed up, with more anger, shame issues than i like to think about (not all because of home situation - I was adopted, and there was a strong possibility that my previous home was not good).

What's interesting is that I found more freedom and less physical and verbal abuse, and very little if any public humiliation in these ‘institutions'. I hate to say it, but I actually felt safer. Its true that there were ‘guards’ and other workers that were mean, but overall, my experience ‘inside’ was better than how I felt ‘outside’ growing up.

Whether the strictness and methods of punishment and controlling behaviors' in an ultra conservative home made other ‘institutions’ seem like a picnic, or whether those institutions, had better methods in place, I don't know. but its weird.

And to your observation regarding the incredible amount of ‘authority’ and ‘power’ held by adults in that time is so true.

Thank you for sharing.

I guess the public display was part of the punishment. I think we/I grew up at a time when everything was about ‘tough love’ and getting good behvour through fear or public humiliation. I even had a boss who said that his philosophy was to…

Forcing an insincere contrived confession!!! That's the epitome of bad parenting……

I've never been spanked in front of witnesses. Children in my childhood were often corporally punished. However, this was rarely done in front of witnesses. The exception was situations in families with several children. There, children often saw their siblings spanked. Many of my friends (boys) had younger sisters. The difference was usually 2-3 years. When they were in the junior years of the school, they complained that the sister saw them getting spanked. In contrast, parents often told other adults, especially relatives, how they spanked their children. I really didn't like it when my mother talked about my punishments.

hi Vintage 1968.

thanks for your reply. Rather interesting. I also ended up spending most of my adolescents and teen years in ‘training school’ and group home (age 11-17 mid to late 70s, early 80s); by the time i was 10 and 11, i was extremely messed up, with more anger, shame issues than i like to think about (not all because of home situation - i was adopted, and there was a strong possibility that my previous home was not good).

What's interesting is that I found more freedom and less physical and verbal abuse, and very little if any public humiliation in these ‘institutions'. I hate to say it, but i actually felt safer. Its true that there were ‘guards’ and other workers that were mean, but overall, my experience ‘inside’ was better than how i felt ‘outside’ growing up.

Whether the strictness and methods of punishment and controlling behaviors' in an ultra conservative home made other ‘institutions’ seem like a picnic, or whether those institutions, had better methods in place, i don't know. but its weird.

And to your observation regarding the incredible amount of ‘authority’ and ‘power’ held by adults in that time is so true.

Thank you for sharing.

Hello mcneil,

It is interesting, that you to, spent your adolescent and teen years in an institutional setting, also! I remember that, in spite of the strict discipline, physical punishment, public humiliation, all of which, at times was abusive - certainly by the standatds of today; and even, to a large extent, by the standards of those days - for some, if not, most of the boys, the school was by far the lesser evil in comparison with their own home and family lives! I remember my own parents telling me, that on the day they had a meeting with the headmaster about having me admitted to the school, he apologised to them, because he was on the phone trying to sort out some alternative accommodation for a boy whose home life was so awful that he was desparate not to have to go home for the school holiday! I was extremely lucky; and probably quite atypical, in that I came from a very good and loving family! I think that was, one of the reasons, why the deputy head, probably the most sadistic teacher in the school, went comparatively easy on me and never subjected me to any physical punishment, public humiliation or physical and verbal abuse, whatsoever! He reasoned, not unreasonably, that beacause I came from a good and loving family, with intelligent, articulate, friendly and cooperative parents - he actually once told me that “your parents are nice people, Simon” - I must have a genuine problem and ‘not be able to help the way I am’! There were times, even when I misbehaved, that I was not disciplined or punished! The teachers were sometimes even softer with me than my own Father was. The school, in this respect, was a curious and peculiar place. Over thirty years later I was diagnosed, by a psychiatrist, with Asperger's Syndrome; but that is only half the story; I have a social phobia, am a recluse, am unable to work or socialise and live at home with my Mum! When she dies, assuming she does so before me, I will live my Sister, her two children, (my nieces; who I absolutely adore) and her partner! My time at the school, as I have already pointed out, was not at all horrendous; and any discipline and punishment I received was not in any way worse than anything I was subjected to at home! And as I have already outlined in my blog entries and profile introduction; discipline wise, both with regard to spanking and discipline more generally, I got off very lightly compared to most! I seem to have lived something of a charmed life! But for a lot, if not most of the other kids at the school that was certainly not the case! Something you can obviously empathise with regarding you own experiences! For you and many others, institutions such as these, were actually heavens and refuges, enabling you (them) to escape from something far, even infinitely, worse!

Mother invited the neighbor lady to witness my spanking after I had broken her window playing baseball which we were not allowed to do in her yard. She said she wanted to show her i was “properly disciplined” Bare bottom OTK, so humiliating

What age were you when this happened?